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Practical moments of the ceremony of showering the newlyweds
Please note that the heavy elements of the shedding ceremony must be thrown at the feet of the young. But petals, of course, can and should be thrown from above. It's so beautiful and romantic!
Also, mothers of newlyweds should prepare a beautiful wedding basket especially for this ceremony. You can make it yourself, order it from professionals, or festively decorate an ordinary basket.
Blessing of the Young
In the old days, there were no weddings without parental blessing. This simple ritual was very important, as it carried the wisdom of older generations and showed children’s respect for them. If the parents did not agree to a wedding in church, then the young couple, disobeying the ban, bore the heavy cross of renouncing their family all their lives. Their family relationships did not work out and they were often unhappy.
Blessing literally means “praise to the future.” Therefore, such a ritual is an encouragement for the choice of a bride or groom and a prerequisite for the happiness of a young family.
Before the registry office , parents will bless their children separately . The young family receives a second blessing after the wedding and before the wedding banquet. Traditionally, the icon of Christ the Savior or the icon of the Kazan Mother of God is used. She is also held on a special towel.
After parental parting words, the young people kiss the icon. But it would be more correct to first make the sign of the cross before doing this. Later the icon participating in the meeting of the bride and groom is handed over to the young family .
If the family is a believer and carefully observes family traditions, then it is best to talk with your spiritual mentor, who will tell you which icon to choose and how to properly bless the young.
What to tell the groom's parents
Parents, meeting a young couple, should bless them for many years of family life and wish them happiness and prosperity. The speech may consist of congratulations and parting words . Usually, the floor is given to the parents of the bride and groom in turn.
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The blessing of parents can be in prose or in poetry . And the main words should be: “blessings,” “congratulations,” “advice and love . It is advisable to think over your speech in advance so that in a moment of great excitement you do not miss all the most important things.
The speech of the groom's parents should be a parting word on the path that the newlyweds will take together from now on . Wish the newlyweds a pure relationship, happiness, and understanding of each other . Give them your love and blessing, so that the bride and groom feel the support of their closest people at such an important moment.
During the ceremony of welcoming the newlyweds, the groom's parents can say the following words:
- Our dear children! Congratulations on your new family. Please accept our blessing for a long and happy life together. Bring that bright feeling that connected you throughout your life. Love and respect each other. Don't quarrel over trifles and be happy!
- God has united you! We, parents, bless this marriage for many years of joy. Now walk along the road of life together, without separating your hands. Take care of each other, appreciate, trust, care. Let the winds of adversity and storms of failure not swirl in your family home. Divide both grief and happiness in half. Give us grandchildren as soon as possible. Advice and love to you!
- Blessings for your marriage and happy life! Live your life in such a way that you are grateful for every day you have together. May your home always be light and clean! Let only joyful children's laughter be heard in it and tears never flow! And so that after many years you can also stand side by side, hand in hand, and bless your grown children for marriage. Happiness to you, our children!
For more information on how to congratulate newlyweds , read this article.
After the rituals have been completed, the toastmaster or wedding director invites everyone to go into the hall and take a seat at the festive table. The newlyweds go first.
There is a tradition according to which a lock with a shackle is placed on the floor in front of them. The groom with the bride in his arms must step over it. After which the lock is closed and the key is thrown out the window.
All! The single life is over, there is no turning back. The castle itself is given to the eldest person in the family with orders to take care of it and to guide the newlyweds on the right path.
Parental blessing (video)
Symbolism of the ritual
The symbolic sound of the ritual depends on its components. With what young mothers shower, this is the life they predict. So, dear mothers, don’t be lazy, stock up on all the necessary elements of the showering ceremony.
- Cereals: millet, rice, buckwheat symbolize many healthy and happy children in the family.
- A variety of sweets and dragees portend a sweet family life for future spouses.
- Coins and small money are used for material well-being, prosperity, and wealth of newlyweds.
- Confetti, flowers, flower petals. They not only decorate the wedding celebration itself, but can also give the bride and groom beautiful love and fill their future lives with touching tenderness.
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There are a lot of wedding rituals. Many of them seem ridiculous and unnecessary. For example, why sprinkle cereal on the bride and groom? Then these grains get stuck in the hair, cling to wedding dresses, etc. But our ancestors came up with this tradition for a reason. And besides, even such a wedding trifle requires responsible preparation. Why, how and what is the best way to sprinkle the newlyweds? Recommends Harmonessa.org. Why sprinkle? Among the Slavs, the ritual of “sprinkling” has existed for many centuries. For this, purified wheat grains were used. In ancient times, grains of millet and rice were sprinkled so that there would be many children in the family, like grains in an ear. Now wheat symbolizes prosperity and prosperity. Also, wealth is promised by being sprinkled with small coins. To make married life sweet, they throw candies. Nuts guarantee a strong marriage. And they sprinkle glitter, confetti and flower petals, wishing for bright and romantic moments. How to sprinkle? When preparing for a wedding, the question often arises: “When and where to sprinkle?” According to customs, it is correct to sprinkle the newlyweds after the painting in the registry office or the wedding in the church. But now newlyweds are more often sprinkled at the entrance, after paying the bride price. This process is inconvenient, since the bride and groom should be the first to leave the door, followed by mothers in aprons (!) with grain, petals, coins, etc. Parents are forced to run around their children and sprinkle them at their feet, as if “covering them with path". Be sure to give instructions to those who will sprinkle. After all, you don’t want grains in your hair to look like dandruff in your wedding photos, and bruises from coins left on the body of the newlyweds? Remember: you should pour it strictly under your feet. If you plan to carry out this ceremony after the painting/wedding, then you need to agree in advance with the registry office/church employees about whether you can “litter” on the steps of the building. Some institutions provide for such actions. But, in order to avoid conflicts, it is better to move a couple of meters away from the doors, and while the young people and witnesses have not yet come out, you can line up the guests and give them “props”. In the photo and video, a well-prepared sprinkling ritual looks simply magnificent. Some people also sprinkle it before entering a cafe or restaurant. If there are a lot of “props” left, then the ritual can be repeated several times. What to sprinkle with? To make everything look beautiful, wicker baskets are purchased in advance.
They can be tied with multi-colored satin ribbons or decorated with artificial flowers. Both parents and all the guests can sprinkle, but the bride will be touched if little children sprinkle from these cute baskets of the newlyweds. Now very popular, but not hackneyed, is sprinkling with rose petals. These flowers are perfect for this ceremony. You can agree with the flower shop sellers to provide you with such and such a quantity of defective roses by such and such a date. You will pay mere pennies for them. But ask not for withered flowers, but for broken ones. One rose produces many petals. And since there is absolutely no time on the wedding day, you can freeze the petals even a few weeks in advance. Once defrosted, they will definitely look fresh. For sprinkling, you can prepare special tulle bags in advance. They are easy to do. For example, a coin, a nut and an artificial flower are placed on a cut-out square of transparent fabric. We lift the edges of the tulle and tie them with a ribbon. Fabric and ribbons can be of various colors. And the contents of each bag do not have to be repeated. Have a fun and bright celebration! Ksenia Koryavaya Photo: Alexander Gorbatsevich https://harmonessa.org/2010/08/svadebnye-obsypaniya/
How to store live petals?
If possible, fresh rose petals should be purchased no earlier than 2 days before the wedding. In this case, they will not fade or darken; you just need to put them on the bottom shelf of the refrigerator. If the petals need to be stored for a longer time, you will need a resealable cardboard box and semolina or regular salt.
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You need to pour semolina into the box in a fairly thick layer, approximately 6 centimeters, carefully place the rosebuds and cover them with the same layer of semolina. You can use salt in the same way, it will not affect the final result. Flowers can be stored in this condition for several weeks. Excess semolina or salt is carefully swept away with a soft brush.
Rose petals will help create a gentle, romantic atmosphere at a wedding, so their use is widespread. Non-standard solutions for using petals will make the wedding ceremony bright and unforgettable.
Using rose petals at a wedding
Rose petals can be used for more than just showering the newlyweds.
There are several other options that will benefit your wedding design.
- The decor of the wedding table will become more refined and luxurious if you use flower petals to decorate the dishes. A cake decorated with them looks especially impressive.
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Petals scattered on the surface of the table are the simplest element of wedding decoration.
- You can decorate the car in which the newlyweds go to the registry office with artificial silk petals.
To make this decor more advantageous, you need to attach light petals to a dark-colored car, while for a white car you should choose dark ones. Additional decorative elements will be multi-colored ribbons, balloons, and tulle.
- Using flower petals, you can get great photos for your wedding album. They go well with fruits, musical instruments and other items.
- With the help of flower petals and rose buds you can decorate the bed in which the newlyweds will spend their first night. Burning candles and poems about love heard in the recording will fit perfectly into such an atmosphere.
- The first dance of the newlyweds looks very touching, during which “rain” of pink petals falls on them.
How to shower the newlyweds beautifully
The tradition of showering young people with flower petals appeared in the West and gradually moved to Russia. This is an incredibly beautiful and exquisite sight.
Usually this mission is entrusted to the newlyweds’ relatives or close friends, but the showering looks especially touching when performed by children. It is better for girls to wear identical dresses and choose bags for petals to match their outfits. You can also place the petals in baskets that match the overall style of the wedding.
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By the way, you can easily make them yourself; there are plenty of tips and master classes online.
