How it all works: An employee of The Village registry office talked to a man who only hears “yes” at work and found out who writes speeches at wedding ceremonies and why you shouldn’t take children to the registry office.

A wedding is the most exciting and trembling day in the fate and life of any couple who has decided to seal their tandem with legal marriage. Long before the onset of this important day, the young couple begins preparations for this event.

Of course, every bride wants her wedding ceremony to take place without any unexpected problems or difficulties. But, no matter how well thought out and pre-planned everything is, the wedding day is still filled with excitement. Starting from the registry office and ending with festive festivities.

It is from the registry office that the formation of a new unit of society begins. It is especially worth noting the employee’s speech at the wedding. They approach the writing of this text extremely scrupulously, and the newlyweds always like it, so the bride and groom can simply enjoy the speech.

Text of the registry office employee's speech at the wedding

In various registry offices in Russia, registrars make different speeches to the newlyweds. It is worth noting that the words that the worker speaks to the young touch the most remote corners of the soul and heart.

Therefore, sometimes there is a desire to listen to this fiery speech again in order to again experience those emotions that overwhelmed you in the registration hall in front of numerous guests. Here is an example of one speech from the registrars.

Dear bride and groom! In the fate of any person there are memorable days that leave the deepest impression. And it is today that will remain in your memory for the rest of your life. This day is the day of creating your family hearth.

Starting a family is a voluntary action. Therefore, in order to legitimize your relationship, I must ask you whether your willingness to start a family is genuine, frank and free.

Next, the registrar asks the young people a question. They, in turn, give positive answers, and the registrar continues the speech. By accepting your consent in the presence of your parents, friends and close guests, I register your union. I ask you to come to the table and seal your tandem with signatures.

After signing the papers, the registry office employee continues his speech. Dear newlyweds, in accordance with Russian legislation, your union is now legal. I now majestically pronounce you husband and wife. You can congratulate each other with a kiss. As a sign of great and pure love and loyalty, I ask you to exchange rings.

Dear spouses, at this moment I am presenting you with your first common, family document. The marriage certificate should be presented to the spouse, since he is the head of the newly-made family. Please accept my congratulations.

Honorable spouses, you will remember this special day forever. Today you started a family. Now you are husband and wife, the founders of a new unit of society and the continuers of your dynasty.

In married life, take care of each other, give warmth and kindness to each other. Always remember those who raised you - your parents.

I want to wish you happiness, prosperity and good luck. And now guests can congratulate the young couple.

“Ships of Love”: who writes texts for presenters in registry offices

The worst nightmare for the bride and groom is a registry office employee who talks at length about “ships of love” and “shores of hope,” taking up precious time on the wedding day. It turns out that today in Moscow registry offices there are practically no registrars with tall hairstyles and stern voices. The RIAMO columnist spoke with the hosts of wedding ceremonies in the capital's registry offices and found out who marries Muscovites, what annoys them most in couples, and why you can't joke at registration.

Anton Darochkin, Griboyedovsky registry office (Wedding Palace No. 1): Stereotype about a “non-male” profession. I am an engineer by education, and was involved in amateur performances at the institute.

A friend called me into the profession in 2008. At first I worked at the Babushkinsky registry office, where I held ceremonies only on Fridays and Saturdays, and then I was transferred to Wedding Palace No. 1, and now I have a wedding every day. Recently, there have been more male registries, as couples liked having a man sign for them - this is unusual.

There are already three of them in the Babushkinsky registry office, in Griboedovsky there are two, along with me. The stereotype that this is not a man’s profession arose in Soviet times, when weddings were officiated only by women with buns on their heads and wearing medals, like those of the “Ural Dumplings.”

I myself didn’t find these aunties in the registry offices; they probably remained somewhere in the USSR. “Mourning” texts ©, Anastasia Osipova We write the texts for all ceremonies ourselves.

I have four versions, but most often I have to read the shortened one, since about 40 couples get married in the Wedding Palace every day.

Words from the couple at the wedding ceremony

Traditionally, in registry offices, future spouses only answer the registrar’s question. No speech is made. But during the first dance or kiss at the wedding ceremony, you can personally say some nice words to your partner.

It is inappropriate to prepare a speech for a festive wedding ceremony, unless, of course, you have approved your wedding script in advance with the registry office staff.

In this case, you will be given the floor, and you can say whatever you see fit.

You can express gratitude to your parents, guests present, and say words of love to your spouse.

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How does staged field marriage registration work?

A characteristic difference of this ceremony is the absence of official painting - it is carried out before or after this. Registration takes place in a place decorated with flower arrangements, balloons and other decorative elements.

If guests are invited, chairs draped with beautiful fabric are placed around the area. Very often they are placed on two sides, between which a path is laid out for the bride and groom to exit to the so-called altar. A registration table with an arch is installed on a makeshift stage.

The host arrives first, then the musicians and other participants in the ceremony. Next, when everything is ready for it, guests are invited.

Examples of text from the registrar for a destination wedding

Wedding registration, which is not carried out within the walls of the registry office, is an original and unique process. The registrar's text at a destination wedding is always drawn up in a specific, special order for a specific couple. Therefore, their main features and recommendations are taken into account.

Example one

A family union is an irresistible desire to go through the entire journey of life hand in hand with your loved one. This is a synthesis of the souls of two people who cannot imagine life without each other.

This is the case when two halves become one in order to give each other love, care and warmth every day. Show concern for each other with great care. To be able to share grief and sadness in half.

Cherish every moment together. Dear young people, you are gaining what many long for. This is Love. Only love can unite souls, hearts and thoughts, uniting it all in a family path.

Example two

Dear couples who love each other, this day is long-awaited and incredibly exciting.
Now what you have been working towards for a long time will happen, namely the birth of a new, strong, real family. Often it is impossible to express your feelings with just the words I love you. Phrases come to the aid of actions and views that help more accurately show the meaning and depth of sensuality of this phrase. You have been lucky in life, you have found happiness and learned the meaning of love. You have the honor of achieving the greatest art of the family journey - living for your loved one.

Remember the main thing, you met in order to help each other become better and happier in our world.

How to properly organize a theatrical registration

To do everything right, first of all you should find a place for an outdoor wedding ceremony. It could be:

• Hotel;
• restaurant;
• forest;
• a park;
• garden;
• old manor;
• sea ​​coast;
• deck of a yacht or ship;
• private cottage.

Next, you need to find an event host, often called a registrar.

It is necessary to develop a detailed plan for the ceremony, select musical accompaniment for the entrance of the bride, groom, and friends of the couple.

Don’t forget about the newlyweds’ vows, which should take 5–6 minutes. 3 minutes will be enough to bless the parents.

Venue decoration is an important part of organizing an away theatrical registration. To do this you will need the following attributes:

• chairs for seating invited friends and relatives;
• table for painting;
• paths;
• just in case, tents;
• technical equipment for presenter and musicians;
• arch;
• flower arrangements.

If you don’t want to ruin one of the most important days of your life, then it is better to conduct several rehearsals with all participants of the event before registering in public. And they need to start at least 3 days before the ceremony date. They will allow you to determine the required distance from the stage to the guest accommodation area, the size of the aisles for them and the bride and groom, and find suitable positions for the videographer and photographer.

You can find a lot of useful information about organizing field registration in another article on our website. You will learn about how theatrical off-site registration differs from the official one, what is needed for off-site registration, how to choose the right host and much other interesting information.

Rehearsals are also a guarantee that the participants in the ceremony will not be confused on the day of its holding.

This video shows an example of a beautiful on-site registration in nature. You can watch the preparations for the holiday, the gathering of guests and the speech of the host of the ceremony. Pay special attention to the excellent musical accompaniment:

This is what the ideal scenario for an away theatrical marriage registration looks like!

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Wedding, wedding... How exciting it is! When two people open their hearts to each other and decide to spend the rest of their lives together.

At the moment of the marriage ceremony, standing in front of the registry office employee, the newlyweds listen to wishes of love and happiness addressed to them, the text of which she reads out. Workers write such texts themselves, putting both their soul and skill into writing them.

After all, beautifully wishing another person happiness at such a significant moment is an art that takes years to learn.

The text for the wedding ceremony is a small composition through which a single image passes.

Image of Love. For clarity, we present to your attention one of the options (The bride and groom enter the registration hall to the sounds of Wagner’s “Wedding March”) Good afternoon, dear guests! Dear newlyweds! Today, (day, month, year), in the (XXX) department of the registry office of the city.

In Novosibirsk, _________________________ (full name of the bride) and __________________________ (full name of the groom) are getting married. Dear bride and groom!

Today we are excited with you and understand well what an important, festive and solemn day this is for all of you. Today is the most wonderful and unforgettable event in your life.

Creating a family is the beginning of a good union of two loving hearts. From this day on, you will go through life hand in hand, experiencing the joy of happy days and sorrows together. By creating a family, you voluntarily assumed a great duty to each other and to the future of your children.

Observing the solemn ceremony, in the presence of your family and friends, I am obliged to ask you: “Is your decision to marry mutual and voluntary? I ask you to answer, bride.

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About work

Actually, I came to work at the registry office as a manager, but one day everyone got sick and there was no one to stand on the podium - I had to learn the words.
Of course, you don’t need any special education to conduct the ceremony; before that, I actually worked as an accountant. I didn’t sleep normally for about a month: I woke up in the middle of the night, started reciting the ritual, and didn’t fall asleep until I could remember all the words. I was traveling in public transport and repeating the speech to myself - I was very afraid to forget. It was especially scary when there were a lot of people at the ceremony, but they still looked at you, and they also looked at you differently. And now the speech is so etched in my memory that I can tell it in the middle of the night. True, there is some kind of stupor - you suddenly forget what to say next, but no one knows what the order is anyway, you can add something on your own, come up with something. If my throat hurts, I go out with a cup of tea, what can I do?

Now the host of the ceremony is not necessarily a woman with a bouffant and a medal, as it used to be when people signed during the anthem of the Soviet Union. Nevertheless, you always have to do your hair and makeup, and be sure to wear heels—by evening, your legs and back hurt beyond belief. We have our own room where you can relax, but on weekends you won’t be able to sit much. You also get tired of constantly having to say the same thing.

A man can also lead a ceremony, there are just very few of them, only a few people in the whole country. By the way, when I was young, it was a man who painted me and my husband, it was very solemn.

About feelings

When you go to the registry office, you become like a zombie. We even discussed this with our employees: no one remembers their wedding, how everything happens in hypnosis. Therefore, couples need to say everything; they do not understand what is happening and do not know what to do. And I myself don’t remember how my wedding went, so that’s normal.

It happens that the groom cries - this is the most touching thing. Brides, of course, cry more often, especially when you start saying something about your mother or a towel. Parents cry, fathers in 99 percent of cases tell grooms that they are giving them the most precious thing they have. In principle, before registering, the girl assistants can give them some advice - they themselves, apparently, are too worried to come up with something more original.

When you paint 20–30 pairs a day, it’s, of course, already a burden to smile at everyone. But it is necessary. Therefore, I always try to imagine that my children are in front of me. If a couple comes that I like, they even want to say these words, albeit for the thirtieth time that day, to choose the most beautiful poems, to wish everything from the heart. Sometimes I’m almost moved to tears myself.

And there are also unpleasant couples: you tell them, and the groom stands with a sour face and chews gum - then all the desire to tell them something immediately disappears. I think, okay, I’ll congratulate the bride, it’s not the girl’s fault that her groom is such a rude person. But sometimes it happens that the two of them are like that - they giggle, don’t listen, make faces at their photographers, then I don’t have any smile, I generally reduce the ritual to a minimum and automatically tell it.

We are all like psychologists here: we immediately see whether they love each other, what future awaits them.

About earnings

They pay very little, what incentive is there to try, only the work schedule suits you. There are several options for the ceremony, but for the most beautiful and, accordingly, the longest, they don’t pay extra, and on weekends, when there are a lot of couples, it’s not at all profitable to tell. And before, couples always left flowers or sweets, but now they have become greedy or poor, at least someone would thank them. Only champagne always remains. Over the entire last year, I was given only two bouquets of flowers. Well, where do they put all those flowers that guests bring them?

There is a tradition - to put money under the towel, and then they take it away. They can leave small change of 50 kopecks, but even 5 hryvnia bills are enough. It’s clear that if they put in 100–200 hryvnia, let them take it, although, on the other hand, they could have left it, they’re already throwing away so much money on the wedding.

They offer us money to enter the hall earlier, but we can’t do anything here, we receive documents one by one, and you can’t beat them at the last moment.

The registry office has a company that provides video and photo services. They film the ceremony in any case, and the couple already decides whether to buy the recording or not. To be honest, they make such a fool: first they ask for 700 hryvnia for a disc, then they discount it to 500-200 if they don’t want it, and then at the exit they ask to pick it up for at least 100.

About the newlyweds

This year, weddings have become more modest, it is clear that people do not have money, although couples from Donetsk and Lugansk are organizing luxurious holidays. Another trend is that people are starting to get married at a more mature age; many are under thirty. And wives are increasingly older than their husbands by a couple of years. We are always interested to see who lives where. It happens that brides are from Podol or Pechersk, and husbands are from some village near Kiev - this is more often the case when she is older.

Although young people also come, I remember a 14-year-old girl who was pregnant, she had a dress with red flowers and her mother constantly followed her. There are a lot of pregnant women, they often feel ill, we carry water for them and pump them out. It happens that a couple doesn’t come, we call them and ask why, and they answer that the bride is in the maternity hospital.

Of course, there are a lot of couples with foreigners: our boys are rarely taken, but young girls are often with some seventy-year-old Europeans. They, poor things, already at the wedding can barely force themselves to kiss their husband, I feel sorry for them. During the Euro there were several pairs with the Swedes, I don’t know how they managed to do it.

Various stars and politicians signed their names. Because of someone, the registry office is closed and no one is allowed in, security guards walk everywhere almost with dogs, they check everything, journalists are kicked out. By the way, politicians do not pay 260 hryvnia for registration.

And it happens that like ordinary people they come, although most often at lunch, so as not to intersect with other couples. The bosses are panicking, but we try the same for everyone.

About dates and outfits

The application must be submitted a maximum of three months, at least a month in advance. But if you get a certificate of pregnancy or, for example, your visa expires, you can always come up with something so that you can sign it almost on the same day.

On dates such as 11/11/11 or Valentine's Day, there is always a rush; couples line up at night at the registry office to submit an application. Now they are already signing up for 12/12/12. On April 1st they also get married, even on December 31st there are many couples - here they already have to prepare for the New Year, and they get married.

Our team is mostly female, but we constantly see wedding dresses, so it’s not even interesting to discuss. It’s interesting, though, when strange freaky outfits or four brides in a row come in the same dresses.

They often come to the painting in jeans; once the groom was in a tracksuit, although the bride was in a dress. A couple of tennis players in tennis suits were signing their names, T-shirts with funny inscriptions were coming, girls were wearing prom dresses or with red veils. There are goths, punks, bikers - there are newlyweds, and their guests can come dressed in black, in leather jackets, and painted to match. Once a couple of some Satanists were signing, it was even scary. They also come in folk costumes or stylized clothes with embroidery.

Mendelssohn's march is often rejected; one couple somehow persuaded them to play music from Star Wars.

Superstitions

Of course, they believe in all sorts of omens. This year is a leap year - there are already fewer weddings than last year. Although there are still a lot of couples in May - they say that May in Ukrainian is grass, so they won’t be toiling around.

When the rings fall, they get very nervous. They always try to be the first to jump on the towel - this is their favorite moment. Somehow they laid it lengthwise - the witnesses did not know how to do it correctly. There are those who, according to some calendars, calculate the ideal time for painting and demand that they be allowed into the hall at a certain moment, minute by minute.

Even though they say about the central registry office that it is the Bermuda Triangle (due to the triangular shape of the building - Ed.), many people still get married there. In fact, underneath it is not a cemetery, but the Lybid River, and from above it looks like rings, not a triangle. Couples who have already had a golden wedding or whose children are already getting married often come there, but they are still together and ask to look at the hall where they got married. I worked in several registry offices in the city, but this one is the most solemn, it has a lot of space. Maybe he won’t be there soon, there’s active construction going on nearby: the registry office will either be demolished, or it won’t be visible behind the high-rise buildings.

About curiosities

As far as I remember, no one has yet answered no at the ceremony, other than something like “no my heart won’t let me say, so I say yes!” In general, they found such a rhyme somewhere and think that it is original, we have already heard it several times.

Although there was one groom who ran away. He was a Turk, before the registry office he sorted things out with his fiancée, she refused to convert to Islam, so he hit her, got into a fight with her brother and ran away - he left on a minibus. And they had ordered a limousine, so the unfortunate bride gave it to another couple to take a photo with.

It happens that drunk people come, just to the point, the groom and his witnesses have just come from the bachelor party. And brides come across drunk. The witness somehow didn’t make it to the toilet and literally embarrassed himself on the steps. The groom once shouted to turn up the music louder. Sometimes I have a hard time holding back my laughter, I can barely utter my words before I look at my drunken groom. Then I ask the operator to cut it out of the video - it’s inconvenient. Usually, if there are a lot of guests, then the guests are already drunk. We call a large number of people “electric trains” - most often a crowd of relatives comes from somewhere other than Kyiv, you can immediately see from them. It’s just that one day one of the guests told us, “Hang on, it’s like an electric train has hit us,” and it stayed that way.

No one has fainted yet, but many had to be medicated with valerian. One bride somehow became very ill; we waited for her under the toilet for more than half an hour, all because her corset had been retightened.

Of course, couples are always late, forget their passports and rings, then go somewhere to Troyeshchina to get them. There was a couple where the groom was the boss of the bride's father. So when the couple bowed to their parents, the father said to the groom: “I told you, you will bow to me.”