What words to bless your daughter before the wedding: parting words before the wedding (mother’s words)

General information

In many religions there is a wedding blessing, but it appeared in Orthodoxy. The bride and groom asked their parents for permission to become a family. Sometimes they did not receive it and married secretly. But this was considered a sin and was highly condemned. Even a priest could refuse a wedding if the couple did not have a blessing from their parents.

Of course, in the modern world, young people make such decisions themselves, but many still listen to their parents’ words and receive the blessings of the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents.

Important tips for preparing a blessing from the mother of the bride:

The entire main speech will be addressed to the daughter, but the groom must also be mentioned, because they are becoming a couple.
You need to say not only congratulations, but also words of encouragement.
It is better to try to avoid overly sentimental words, because tears will lead to running makeup, which is unacceptable for the bride.
If you feel unsure, try rehearsing in front of a mirror. You can do the same thing with a joint congratulation with the bride’s father.
While saying the words of blessing, they can be shared with the groom's mother if everyone is on good terms. The same applies to the ritual of removing the veil at the end of the evening.
Parents are given the floor at least twice, this is the meeting of the newlyweds with a loaf of bread and the banquet itself. In addition to the loaf of bread, many people meet the newlyweds with an icon before the registry office or in a restaurant they give a blessing with an icon after the registry office.
Avoid blessing verses. They can easily be forgotten and confused, let all the blessing be in prose. Poems are best saved for toast. Be calm and confident. No papers, just words from yourself. Even if you forget something, you can improvise, because these are words to your beloved daughter.
Excitement will always be present, but try not to show it. Avoid awkward situations and words, especially those that put the bride in an awkward position in front of the guests.

On a note. Words of blessing from the bride's mother are very important and the most personal words can be said when left alone with your daughter.

Blessing Examples

Dear daughter, today you are leaving your parents’ home and starting a new life. Building a family is a difficult and responsible job. We have invested in you all those important qualities that will make you a good wife. And I am sure that everything will work out for you. You will be a great wife and a wonderful mother. Solve all life's obstacles with wisdom, support your husband, treat him with understanding. You become one, and I am very happy for you! God will help you!

My daughter! Today your childhood dream has come true. You wanted to be a fairytale princess in a beautiful dress. I wanted a prince to come to you on a white horse. I wanted a lot of guests and gifts. Today is the day when all this comes true. But just remember, my dear, that real life is not a fairy tale. You will get everything you want if you continue to work at it. I wish you to be a charming, light, cheerful, but at the same time wise woman. Love your husband and take care of him. I hope he can extend the fairy tale of your life for a very long time.

Our dear daughter. Today the moment has come when dad and I are letting you into adulthood. Remember that building good family relationships is not easy, it requires a lot of patience. Your husband will be the head of the family, and you should be a faithful and kind helper. You are now becoming a family and all problems must be solved together. Happiness and love to you!

My favorite girl! Know that a woman develops in four main roles: mother, daughter, bride and wife. You have already performed two roles perfectly. The remaining two are the most important. I wish you to become a wonderful wife and an excellent mother. Let there always be understanding, order and respect in your family. Support each other at every stage. Be kind and tolerant. I bless you!

My girl! It seems like not so long ago you tried on my shoes and dresses and dreamed of how you would wear them as an adult. It was very funny watching you try to paint your lips for the first time, and now you are already teaching me all the rules of makeup. Time is fleeting. I am happy to see how your eyes shine when you look at your chosen one. On this amazing day, I wish you wisdom and understanding. And to you, son, patience and strength. Keep your love and happiness for many years to come. Congratulations!

Dear daughter. People say, “many search, but only a few find.” You found each other and found your happiness. Store it for as long as possible. I really want the smile to never leave your faces, so that your eyes shine with love and tenderness. Don't be afraid of problems, everything passes. After the rain the sun always comes out. If your loved one's shoulder is nearby, then you can overcome any difficulties. Be a support and support for each other. We are always here for you. I bless you!

Mother's blessing for daughter's wedding

Your daughter has met someone with whom she has decided to join her destiny, and is now getting married. The moment has come when you need to give your parting words to the young couple, say words that the bride and groom will remember for the rest of their lives.

Parting words to your daughter before the wedding

This page of our website presents texts that you can use for the parental blessing of the bride before the wedding, which can be heard in both poetry and prose.

*** Daughter, today you are a bride. You are as bright as the morning dawn. Now your place in the sun has been found, And there is no happier you in the world.

Live and listen to your heart, Be a housewife, mother, wife. Be the best wife in the world, Be loved, affectionate, dear.

I ask you, be happy, And let children's laughter ring in the house. For your couple – joyful, beautiful – Life promises both happiness and success.

*** Signing at the registry office is not a problem; It's easy to love when there's romance. Which veil to take - no, it’s not a dilemma, If you’re in love and you look wide. It’s more difficult when there are quarrels in the house and everyday issues are weighed down. In love, sometimes there are traffic jams, But let it only be for the good! Beloved daughter, you are the bride! From your mother to your great-grandmother is your path. But remain gentle, interesting, beautiful, and sweet to your husband. Beloved son-in-law, we wish you strength, perseverance, and courage always. May God preserve love and a beautiful marriage, no quarrels! And to happiness, to the world - yes!

Blessing of the bride's mother before the registry office

Blessing a daughter for a wedding is a solemn ceremony that in Rus' was carried out even during matchmaking. Nowadays, the blessing is given before the newlyweds go to the registry office.

According to tradition, the bride and groom kneel in front of the girl's parents, standing on a towel. The bride's mother must cross the couple three times with the icon, then the bride and groom kiss the icon in turn and make the sign of the cross. It is advisable that there are no other people in the room at this time.

To do this, they usually take an icon of the Mother of God or Jesus Christ. It is not customary to touch the image with bare hands, so prepare a towel for this. If you are planning a wedding, then this image should be taken with you to church. The icon will subsequently be kept in the young family.

What to say when blessing your daughter before the wedding?

The mother of the bride does not just say warm words - she turns to God to give happiness to the young. This blessing will be a parting word for the newlyweds, protection from evil words and a prayer for their well-being.

*** Today I put a veil on you, You couldn’t find a more beautiful bride. Accept my blessing, daughter, May the angels protect you on your journey.

As a mother, I wish you a happy female life forever, so that you and your husband live in peace and harmony and carry love through the years.

*** Here is my blessing to the bride and groom for their marriage. Live in harmony, love and peace. Be happy about your and other people's successes, understand and accept your soul mate for who she is. I wish you to love each other and be generous with kindness. Be one and accept all God's gifts with an open heart and gratitude.

*** Beloved daughter! You met your soul mate, and together you made the right decision - to unite two destinies into one. Happy wedding day to you! Happy birthday to the new family! May heaven bless this marriage and grant it its protection. Be happy and don't forget your loved ones. My father and I are always there and ready to support you in any situation!

The parting words to your daughter on her wedding day, of course, should be different from the usual congratulations. You can talk about how you raised your daughter, give some examples from your life, and give instructions to the young people.

And yet, the instruction given to the daughter before the wedding should not take much time. There is no need to say many words, because many more will be said on this day. It is important to say what is truly meaningful and important.

*** My dear daughter! Remember: “There are many who seek in life, but only a few who find!” Today you have found your happiness. It is important now to preserve it. You and (name of the groom) are the happiest in the world. You are the chosen ones who have found each other. So let the family hearth that you lit today always burn with that bright, unquenchable flame. May your home be a full cup of love, understanding, prosperity, and devotion. To do this, you, daughter, must be a faithful friend of your husband, and you, (name of the groom), must be the breadwinner and protector for your family. And may everything work out for you.

*** Daughter, the time has come for you to build an independent life. The years have flown by, you have grown up and are getting married. So let your family be strong, your home rich and generous, and your life prosperous. Be happy, daughter, support your husband, take care of your family hearth. And you, son, become the real head of the family so that your children are proud of their parents. Happiness, prosperity and warmth to you! Take care of your love!

How to say goodbye to your daughter on her wedding day?

This speech has a special meaning for her and your future son-in-law, and you need to prepare properly for such a speech. So don't leave it until the last minute. To avoid feeling confused and embarrassed, think in advance about what you will say when giving your blessing to your daughter on her wedding day.

*** Dear daughter, our dear children! We bless you for creating your family. May she be prosperous and happy. Let harmony and love always accompany you on the path of life, and in times of adversity we wish you to become support and support for each other. Advice and love to you!

*** Today is the most wonderful day, because it is your family’s birthday. And we, parents, rejoice at your happiness and are proud that you have made the necessary and important decision. Remember this moment, children, because now there is no “I”, but there is “we”. You, daughter, will be the keeper of the family hearth. And you, son, need to become a support for your wife, love her and take care of her. I wish you happiness, good luck and prosperity!

*** Dear newlyweds! Soon you will become one family. Cherish your love throughout your life. She will help you overcome all the difficulties and obstacles that will come your way. Appreciate and support each other! Advice and love to you!

The role of the bride's parents at the wedding is especially significant and honorable. And, of course, the presence of close people at this celebration, their participation and support, is important for the newlyweds. And a mother’s blessing for the wedding will serve as a guarantee of good relations in your daughter’s young family in the future.

Proper preparation for the ceremony

If you don’t know how to bless your daughter for marriage, but you sincerely want to do it, start with preparations. You will need:

special words (think about them in advance, write them down and learn them);
a towel with which you will pick up the icon (rushnik);
the icon itself (read below about which one to take).

Take the blessing speech with special responsibility. It shouldn't be long. Wish your daughter and her chosen one family well-being, peace of mind and mutual understanding. Let there also be words about the need to support, understand each other, give in, and seek a compromise. Ideally, you should make several options so that you can then choose the most successful and sincere one.

The complete ritual of fatherly greeting of the newlyweds

It is believed that a young couple needs to be blessed in any case - even if the parents of the bride or groom are against this marriage. Even the church says: by setting an example of virtue, you will best “program” a new family for future happiness.

The blessing is carried out by the bride's parents when the groom and his relatives arrive at their house to take his betrothed to the registry office. Before this, while the girl is putting on a veil, the male part of her relatives carries out the ransom procedure (which falls heavily on the witness), and the bridesmaids organize a comic quiz right on the staircase, demanding to prove the power of the future husband’s love.
The future mother-in-law and father-in-law take the icons in their hands (turning their faces towards the young) and turn to the young couple, wishing them happiness and warning them against mistakes in their future life together.
They bless their daughter first, and then their new “son,” allowing them to kiss the image in turn.
The bride and groom listen to instructions, and at the end they bow deeply to their elders.
After visiting the registry office or church (wedding), the young couple is blessed by the groom's parents. In this case, it is he who is addressed first, and he is the first to kiss the image.

By the way! If you have hired a wedding planner, they may offer their own version of the ritual. Let's say, lately it has been customary to hold a blessing in a restaurant, after arriving from the registry office. It is conducted not by two, but by four parents - both from the bride’s side and from the groom’s side.

In the “restaurant” case, after the ritual, the icons are placed at the festive table, in a place of honor. After the holiday they are transported to the newlyweds' house.

What exactly should I say?

If the Lord has gifted you with eloquence, you can share your own family experience, wish the young family all the best, and warn against mistakes - both in prose and in poetry. But the experience of many families suggests: it is better not to choose pompous or banal phrases, but to say something from the heart .

Or you can say more briefly, “Advice and love,” because tears are probably choking your throat and not everyone can speak a long, coherent speech at such a touching moment.

By the way: good words of parental blessing are heard in this video from a real wedding, posted in the public domain. You can take them as an example of writing your own speech:

How did this happen among our ancestors?

Today, young people do all the “preparatory work” themselves (dating, getting engaged, preparing for the wedding). But among our ancestors, all of the above was organized by mothers and fathers - and brought the newlyweds together (with the help of a matchmaker), and collected money for the wedding...

The couple did not receive the blessing at the wedding, but earlier - while meeting the groom's parents, and less often - also the bride. Or she didn’t receive it if the parents were against the choice of their son or daughter - in this case, the wedding might not take place at all.

After the blessing, the couple was considered "decided."

The ritual was family and performed in private. At the same time, the parents held the icon facing the young people.

If a blessing was not held, there was no public wedding ceremony. Some couples even refused to get married, believing that a family created without the consent of their elders was doomed to poverty, childlessness and numerous misfortunes.

By the way: a young family often came to the groom’s territory to live. That’s why it was impossible without good relations with the older inhabitants of the home!

What else does the mother of the bride need to know?

The future mother-in-law can inquire from the priest about how to bless her daughter before the wedding. You will still go to church for the icon. What will he recommend? Approach the face of the Mother of God, light a candle, pray, ask for happiness for your daughter. The main thing is to sincerely believe that the mother is blessing her little girl, who has grown up so imperceptibly, for a good deed. At home, on your wedding day, take the purchased icon (only with a towel, never with your bare hands!), bless your daughter for a long marriage.

We talked about what kind of speech to give above. There are no special words, everything should be prompted by your heart.

Father shouldn't be silent either

The future father-in-law should also know how to bless his daughter before the wedding, because without his words, the mother’s parting words do not have the necessary power. However, it is the mother of the bride who speaks first. And she holds the icon. Men, as a rule, are taciturn, but the father must still tell his daughter that he blesses her for this marriage, that he wishes her a happy family path.

When the parents say their parting words, they need to kiss their daughter, then her chosen one. By this they make it clear that they accept him into the family as their own son.

Words of blessing for a daughter from her mother before the wedding: we say the most important things

Every mother, raising a growing daughter, thinks with anxiety about her upcoming adult life. Imagining the moment of leaving home, a mother’s heart wishes her “child” only a rosy and happy family life.

And so, when the exciting moment becomes very close, the mother is faced with the task of uttering the kindest words - words of parting words into a new life .

Blessing her daughter before the wedding, a woman utters not just good words, she turns to God to protect her child.

Therefore, it is very important to think through every word. No need to hurry. No need to say much. It is important to say what is truly significant and has the highest meaning.

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The mother’s words have great miraculous power, so they are often pronounced without witnesses under images.

So, we offer you several options, and you choose the most suitable one and put your soul into it.

A few more words about the ritual

As you already understand, the entire blessing process takes place directly on the wedding day, before going to the registry office, but after the groom has paid the ransom.

This is all done in the bride’s home, because there, beyond the threshold, a new life will begin.
After their parents’ speeches, the young people kneel on a towel (that is, at this moment you will need another such accessory).
The mother must cross the couple three times with the icon, then the bride and groom kiss the icon in turn and cross themselves.
It is advisable that during this process there is silence in the room, and only the persons mentioned are present.

What is a blessing

In the practice of the Orthodox Church, the blessing of priests is of serious importance. It conveys to man the Divine grace with which the clergyman is endowed by virtue of his rank.

The Orthodox family is a small church in which parents have a great influence on their children. Therefore, it is very important for them that the marriage of their offspring goes well.

Many mothers pray about the personal life of their daughter or son, so it is important for them to read the appropriate prayer.

The meaning of this concept:

thanks to God for children meeting their soul mates and getting married;
prayer for a happy married life for a son or daughter.

Not only parents who often attend church, but also those who rarely go there can bless their children for a wedding. From their side it will look like good wishes to the young people.

How to bless your daughter for marriage using a special ritual?

According to the described ritual, the father and mother of the groom bless and give farewell to their son at home. And the parents of the future mistress perform a similar ritual for their daughter in privacy within their own walls. The icons with which children were blessed are taken with them if they plan to visit church after the marriage to attend the sacrament of wedding. It should be noted that in this case it is possible to perform the ceremony with the icon of the “Kazan Mother of God” for a girl, and with the icon of “Jesus Christ” for a young man. Upon return, both sets of parents of the new wife and husband take the young couple and go away from prying eyes to a secluded room to perform the ceremony of blessing the new married couple. The entire ritual is carried out in the same way as described above here.

How and to whom to pray

Not only parents, but also the bride and groom should pray before the wedding. In the Orthodox Church there are several types of prayer for a wedding blessing. Classification is carried out according to the subject of circulation:

Jesus Christ;
The Most Holy Theotokos (there are several icons of the Mother of God that young people and their parents can turn to - Kazan, Feodorovskaya, Unfading Flower, Vladimir, Iverskaya, Quick to Hear);
Simon the Zealot , one of the 12 apostles, at whose wedding in Cana in Galilee the Lord showed his first miracle, turning water into wine;
Princes Peter and Fevronia of Murom , who are the patrons of Christian marriage;
Saints Joachim and Anna - the parents of the Mother of God, who lived for many years in marriage before the Mother of God was born to them;
Nicholas the Wonderworker - this saint helps in many life situations;
Matrona of Moscow - the blessed old woman is considered the patroness of families.

Wishes for the bride

It is important for the bride to receive her mother’s blessing for a happy marriage; the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God is often used for this. This is explained by the fact that the Kazan Icon protected the Russian people from enemy attacks. Before the Kazan Icon they pray:

girls about happy marriage;
women about the birth of a child;
about the well-being of children and families.

The bride herself can pray in front of the Kazan Icon on her wedding day, or the prayer can come from her mother. At church weddings, it is customary for brides to hold this image of the Virgin Mary in their hands.

To bless the daughter, the following prayer is read before the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God:

Zealous Intercessor, Mother of the Lord Most High! Pray for all of Thy Son, Christ our God, and cause all to be saved, seeking refuge in Thy sovereign protection. Intercede for all of us, O Lady, Queen and Lady, who in adversity and sorrow and illness, burdened with many sins, stand and pray to You with a tender soul and a contrite heart before Your Most Pure Image with tears, and the irrevocable hope of those who have in You for deliverance from all evils . Grant usefulness to all and save everything, O Virgin Mother of God: for Thou art the Divine protection of Thy servant.

Order of blessing

On the day of marriage, it is necessary to bless your children. This often happens in the bride’s house with the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God after the groom comes there to bathe her.

The newlyweds can receive the blessing of the groom's parents with the icon of the Savior after registration or the wedding, when everyone is going to celebrate the celebration at the table.

There are no strict regulations, but there are certain rules:

icons cannot be held with bare hands - they must be supported in towels - special towels;
the icon of the Savior Almighty is always held by the father, and the icon of the Mother of God by the mother;
The father says the words of prayer or wishes first, then the mother;
The icons are kissed first by the groom, then by the bride;
you must cross yourself 3 times in front of the icons;
in addition to icons, the blessing can take place with a loaf of salt;
the mother of the bride must cross herself 3 times with icons of the newlyweds;
the parent's prayer or speech should begin and end with the sign of the cross.

Blessing a son or daughter for family life is extremely important for parents, even if they are not very versed in church rituals and prayers, it is necessary to say parting words.

In the future, they will become the anchor that the young people will hold on to despite all the difficulties in family life.

Words of blessing for the newlyweds from the mother of the bride

It can be carried out after the ransom in the parental home or before a banquet, when the newlyweds are presented with a loaf of salt.

Example 1

. Dear children! I bless you for creating a family, may happiness and prosperity accompany you. Take care and appreciate each other. Daughter, protect and take care of the family hearth. Son, be a support and support for your wife, do not let the light of happiness in her eyes and love in her heart fade away! Let your feelings illuminate your path, let your home be a full cup, and let all troubles seem like just pebbles on the path of life. Be happy and go hand in hand towards your happiness!

Example 2

. Dear newlyweds! Today you are embarking on a new, unexplored path of family life. Daughter, our family has become even bigger, because you chose such a wonderful man! Your happiness is very important to your dad and me, and we would like to wish you to live in love and harmony, to support each other. The warmth and light of love in the heart will help you overcome all adversity. Strengthen your feelings, understand and appreciate your soul mate. Peace and happiness to your family! I bless you, children! Long life, prosperity and prosperity to you!

Prayer before the wedding

Almost every person has very special moments when you can say for sure that you simply take your breath away. And here it is worth noting that it is a wedding celebration. After all, a wedding for young people is an incredible event, and here it is necessary to remember that this is a holy beginning, and, therefore, there is no way to do without prayer for God’s blessing before the wedding.

The following prayer before the wedding should be read both before the ceremony and, very preferably, three days before the event itself.

Prayer before the wedding

O All-Great God! I know that my meaning exists

Doing Your will and following Your commandments!

Therefore, I ask you, control my soul and will yourself,

Words of blessing from mother to daughter before wedding: text

Dear daughter! I am so glad to see your sparkling eyes, full of love and happiness, your sincere smile and inexhaustible energy - this is the greatest happiness for a mother! Today is a new, happy stage in your life, and I really want this happiness to last for many years. Listen to my parting words - take care of your husband, be loving and gentle, fill your life together with ease and joy, be a supporter for your spouse in difficult moments, be wise and understanding. May your future spouse make you the happiest woman in the world, may you know what it is like to be a beloved wife, dear mother, happy grandmother. Preserve your love, your sincere and pure relationship, increase your happiness, because so many joyful and bright days await you together! I bless you, my dear!

Blessing prayer before the wedding

The blessing of the parents, both the bride and the groom, definitely escorts the children to a happy family life. And this ritual is ancient, which is also highly revered in modern times. The following blessing prayer before the wedding can be said by both the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom:

You, children, (name of the groom) and (name of the bride),

listen to the good word - a parental blessing for a strong family.

Live, don’t shame your parents, have children, add more grandchildren, strengthen your family by force!

Live well, okay, and accordingly, so that your years do not pass in vain.

Live for the joy of people and for the consolation of parents. I bless you!

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Well, to summarize, we note that after the wedding, the icons remain in the family of the newlyweds. They become a family heirloom, which is designed to protect and protect this family from adversity, disease and sadness. Believers place images in the corner or above the bed. Those who are not so devout keep the icons in a certain place without displaying them. According to tradition, these icons are inherited by children at their wedding.

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Orthodox prayer before the wedding

Lord our God, in Thy saving sight, who was vouchsafed in Cana of Galilee to show an honest marriage by Thy coming, Thy servants (names) Himself, who now deigned to unite with each other, preserve them in peace and unanimity: show their honest marriage, keep their undefiled bed, keep their undefiled Bless the cohabitation and make me worthy to achieve greatness in old age, doing Your commandments with a pure heart. For You are our God, the God of mercy and salvation, and we send up glory to You, with Your beginningless Father, Your All-Holy and Good and Life-giving Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.

A powerful prayer to read before the wedding

Orthodox prayer should permeate the entire life of a believer, not to mention important, significant events. Orthodox prayer before a wedding is an old Russian custom. For most people, their wedding day is one of the most important days in their lives, and all newlyweds, without exception, want this day to mark the beginning of a long and happy married life.

On the wedding day, the Orthodox bride and groom must come to the church, where they pray at the Divine Liturgy with the rest of the parishioners, confess and partake of the Holy Mysteries of Christ. Church prayer before a wedding is very important; it prepares the newlyweds for the great sacrament of marriage.

You need to pray before the wedding not only in the temple, but also at home. It’s good to read prayers and akathists the night before the icons of Christ, the Mother of God and the saints. In addition to the undoubted spiritual benefits, these prayers will calm you down on the eve of such an exciting day.

Blessing for son

Traditions have some differences in different regions. We present one of the options for blessing the groom. Only the newlywed, his relatives and godparents are in the room. Bread is placed on a table covered with a tablecloth, salt, holy water and a lit candle are placed nearby.

Mom is holding an icon of the Savior. After the blessing, dad takes his son by the hand and leads him around the table clockwise, and mom brings up the rear, holding a burning candle in one hand and an icon in the other. The action is carried out three times.

In prose

There is an ancient prayer that parents said before their son left the house, going to the bride price. Here is its text:

Just as faith is strong, indestructible and strong, and mead is sweet, in the same way let the family of (the name of the son) with (the name of the bride) be indestructible by any adversity and their faith in each other be strong and their love sweet. Let them be inseparable, starting right from this day and this minute - only together, so that not a moment apart in their thoughts! Amen. I bless you for starting a family!

The groom’s mother can read the prayer while holding the icon, or say wishes in her own words.

The father gives his son parting words for a long and happy marriage: Beloved son! I bless you for starting a family. May the Lord protect her from all misfortunes and evil. Love your wife and be faithful to her. Become a strong shoulder for her and future children, protecting and supporting them from everyday problems and difficulties. Help her in all matters. May there always be peace, harmony, love, prosperity and prosperity in your family!

In verse

Parents can bless their son with the following lines: On the day of celebration and step towards a new life, we would like to convey our parting words to you: Remember that a word can hurt, But a word can also heal. Sometimes a simple white chamomile can lift your spirits. And there is no need to drag yesterday's grievances. A sad trail. You learn to forgive! In a family, all important decisions must be made together. Just know that sometimes it won’t be easy for you. Take care and pity each other, and most importantly, love and always appreciate. We wish you prosperity and health. Let children's laughter sound in the house. In the whirlpool of life, do not forget us. We are always ready to help you. My father and I bless you! Let love light the way, and let your marriage be happy!

The mother will read the poem, and then cross her son with the icon and let him kiss his face.

Which saints do they pray to before a wedding?

According to Russian tradition, on the eve of the wedding, brides pray in front of the icons of the Mother of God of Kazan, Vladimir, Feodorovskaya, Tenderness, Tikhvinskaya, Unfading Flower, Kozelshchanskaya. The grooms stand in front of the icons of Christ the Pantocrator. Before the wedding, you can also pray for well-being in marriage to Saints Nicholas the Pleasant, Paraskeva Pyatnitsa, Peter and Fevronia of Murom, Ksenia of Petersburg, Matrona of Moscow, Adrian and Natalya.

These saints are also prayed to throughout their married life, so that husband and wife live in peace, so that there is no discord between them.

Do not forget to pray to your saints and guardian angels before the wedding, asking them for help in arranging married life, in overcoming temptations and sorrows, which, unfortunately, often arise on a common path. In Orthodox prayer before marriage, you can ask for childbirth, a common hearth, and an increase in love for each other.

Do not hesitate to tell God and the saints about your needs and open your heart to them, because only in this way will they be able to hear you and help you.

What icons do parents usually keep?

The mother (mother-in-law, mother-in-law), standing in front of the bride, holds in her hands an icon of the Virgin Mary - most often Our Lady of Kazan . The Blessed Virgin is the patroness of the family, the giver of children.
The father (father-in-law, father-in-law), standing in front of the young man, blesses him with the image of Christ , less often - with the icon of St. Nicholas the Pleasant .

Nowadays, icons are most often purchased specifically for this rite. However, if the family has old images that are passed down from generation to generation, it is better to use them - this way the young will receive a blessing not only from mom and dad, but also from the whole family.

Important! According to the tradition of most regions, both images should be covered with embroidered towels. You need to touch the icons only through them. The bride herself can embroider towels before the wedding - although it won’t be scary if they are purchased.

What to do with icons after the wedding?

They are given to young people - the icons become the main images of the Red Corner of a young family.

Over time, it is with these icons that today’s young people can bless their children for marriage. So if you're shopping, choose something worthy - perhaps you're choosing your children's future heirloom.

Parental prayer before the wedding

Of course, their parents should not ignore the prayer support of the young. Maternal and paternal prayer before the wedding are just as important as the prayers of the young, because experienced parents better understand that married life is a joint feat of patience and love, and they know exactly what to ask God for their children.

On the wedding day, in the morning, it is good for parents and their children to read the morning prayer rule, asking God for blessings for the day.

Orthodox text of prayer before the wedding

Read the text of the Orthodox prayer for love and happiness in the family

“Don’t be afraid, little flock! “I am with you and no one else is with you.”

Most Blessed Lady, take my family under Your protection. Instill in the hearts of my husband and our children peace, love and non-questioning of all that is good; Do not allow anyone from my family to experience separation and difficult parting, to premature and sudden death without repentance.

And save our house and all of us living in it from fiery ignition, thieves' attacks, every evil of the situation, various types of insurance and devilish obsession.

Yes, we too, collectively and separately, openly and secretly, will glorify Your Holy Name always, now and ever, and forever and ever. Amen.

Little tips

You should purchase several towels for the image and loaf. Each icon is held with a separate towel. Each loaf, and there may be several of them, should have its own holiday towel.
Before kissing the icon, the mother or father baptizes the young people with it three times, while making the sign from top to bottom, note, from left to right, so that the young people receive the Orthodox sign of the cross, from right to left.
The entire church wedding ceremony must be previously discussed with the clergyman, so that everyone present at the wedding and holding the icon knows what and how to do.

Attention! In the old days, without parental permission and blessing, a priest did not have the right to perform a wedding ceremony. Disobedient children who entered into an unmarried marriage without parental blessing were deprived of inheritance and acceptance in society.

A prayer request before the Creator with holy images has great power, because in this case a piece of the family happiness of the parents is inherited by the children, by blessing whom the father and mother ask for the intercession of the Almighty God.

The meaning of parental blessing

The fifth commandment of God says that children are obliged to respect their parents, and they do this not for the sake of their father and mother, but for the sake of their future life and future children. Parental blessing with the help of icons is an open door to happiness, peace and tranquility in the future family.

Read about other commandments:

Commandment "Thou shalt not steal"
Commandment “Do not make yourself an idol”
Commandment “Do not remember the Lord in vanity”

Parents present images of the Mother of God and the Lord Pantocrator to the newlyweds during the blessing

The newlyweds, fulfilling the command of God, in submission and humility come to their father and mother for a blessing, first each on their own, and then together, as future husband and wife. The blessing ceremony is repeated several times. The first time parents bless their son or daughter, then the young couple receives the blessing of their parents at matchmaking, before the wedding and when they first enter the home of a new family.