The first dance of the newlyweds at a wedding: tips and how to learn

Inviting newlyweds to their first family dance

Continuing to publish materials under the heading “Toastmaster School”, I would like to dwell on a more detailed consideration of the fifteenth and sixteenth points of the program of the first wedding table.
In a wedding scenario, they can be called: a screensaver legend accompanied by cries of “Bitter!” - “How did the word “family” appear?” and an invitation to the first family dance of the newlyweds - “Sit too long, dear guests...”. /To view all photos, click on the center of the image/

Screensaver legend accompanied by cries of “Bitter!” about the family sounds like this:

“How did the word “family” appear? Once upon a time the earth had not heard of him... But before the wedding Adam said to Eve: “Now I will ask you seven questions.” - Who will give birth to children for me, my goddess? And Eva quietly answered: “I...”. - Who will raise them, my queen? And Eve humbly answered: “I...”. -Who will prepare the food, oh my joy? And Eve still answered: “I...”. - Who will sew a dress, wash my clothes, caress me, decorate my home? Answer the questions, my friend! “I... I...” Eva said quietly, “I... I...” She said the famous seven “I’s.” This is how a family appeared on earth. At the wedding today I drink my glass to you, young people! For your family. "Bitterly!""

When you, dear readers, write a wedding script for yourself to work on, the theme of the invitation to the first family dance of the newlyweds must also be given due attention. Since such an invitation serves not only as the end of the program of the first wedding table, but also as a bright beginning of the first dance and entertainment program of the entire wedding.

According to a long-standing tradition, the newlyweds are invited to the first family dance by the toastmaster about an hour after the start of the feast - it is not advisable to sit for a long time over cold appetizers. And, until the guests have gone elsewhere (that is, an hour to fifteen hours after the start of the feast), you can safely take the newlyweds and guests to the first dance and entertainment program, which begins with this dance.

The toastmaster can invite the newlyweds to the first family dance with these words:

“Have a long time, dear guests! We want to give the right to open dances to the young people now. Let the groom invite the bride to a beautiful wedding waltz! Always in agreement, only together. Let him teach you how to live! But we believe that He will become memorable for you for many years. This most wonderful dance of yours is the very first family waltz. »

*Although whether it is a waltz or not, it does not matter. The main thing is the first family dance.

The fathers of the newlyweds, having tied their hands with towels, take the newlyweds to the first family dance in the center of the hall and untie their hands. The guests quietly stand in a circle, in which only the bride and groom will dance. And with the first musical sounds, this beautiful and unique dance in their life begins.

Just as before their wedding, as bride and groom, they danced at discos and in groups, and after their wedding, if they are very lucky, they will have the opportunity to dance together. But the first family dance is unique in that it is unique in this way.

I would like to give young people, their friends, and their parents some advice on this matter:

during the first family dance, it is advisable for young people to take into account some requests from the operator and photographer about how best to move in a circle;
when the bride and groom are dancing, it is advisable for them to look at each other more often or in one direction;
learn the waltz for the first family dance and dance it in such a way that it takes your breath away, it’s worth it;
do not turn this unique, wonderful and inimitable first family dance into marking time in one place, squeezing into each other;
you need to make a beautiful mini-performance on a given musical theme, then the videos and photographs will be watched, and the bride and groom will really enjoy such a dance, and then from viewing the photos and videos;
in my opinion, this dance should only be danced by the bride and groom, and it is better for the guests, at the choice of the whole company, to continue sitting at the table, just stand in a circle, or move quietly in a circle, holding hands.

Newlyweds' first dance: what you need to know

For those who don't know how to dance, that first appearance in front of family and friends often feels excruciatingly awkward. Some people wake up in a cold sweat from these thoughts, some are ready to turn everything into a joke, and some even abandon the tradition altogether. Today we'll talk to experts about how to do without all this and prepare for the newlyweds' first dance.

We turned for comments to Diana Radzhabova, the head of the fitness center (and in the past, a professional ballerina), and Anna Pukhova, a sports hustle dancer of class C, Main, with ten years of experience in choreographing pair dances.

Anna: “It’s worth starting with the fact that the wedding dance must initially be treated correctly. A wedding dance is not a performance at a concert, it is not a way to entertain guests, it is not a circus or a “custom” show that requires complex acrobatics or “tricky” movements that need to be taught for months. A wedding dance is the first dance of the newlyweds as husband and wife; it is 1.5-2 very special minutes of awe, care, tenderness and love, which happen only once in a lifetime. Everything in the wedding dance, starting from the first second, should be natural, as if the newlyweds were currently on a desert island, where there is only “He”, “She” and romantic music (by the way, I always recommend music choose a tender one, “about love”, so that the young people themselves will get goosebumps from each other).

That is, the dance should be simple, but at the same time incredibly touching - REAL, and not feigned, as often happens when the choreographer puts movements above feelings. And it doesn’t matter whether you can dance or not - it’s important that there are real feelings, chemistry. The director will do the rest.

You need to start wedding dance rehearsals as close as possible to the wedding, as if little by little plunging into this festive day. That is, as soon as you started dance rehearsals, your Wedding began. After all, you must admit that when you dance and imagine your beloved in a magical white dress, and your beloved in a festive tailcoat - all this is no longer just dancing.

Ideally, you need to prepare for a wedding dance about two to three months in advance. Of these, a month should be allocated for choosing a choreographer, music and all agreements on the staging process (time, date, place). After all, the rehearsal schedule needs to be built so that it does not interfere with the bachelorette party, bachelor party, makeup and hair rehearsal, dress fitting, and, of course, work on weekdays. The rehearsals themselves should begin about a month and a half before the wedding day, meeting with the choreographer once every 10 days. This kind of mathematics allows people to open up, calmly put everything in their heads and, what is important, not burn out.”

Diana: “A lot depends on the initial data, if a couple has been dancing before, then it’s enough just to learn the choreography and put the movements correctly, this takes on average from 5 to 10 lessons.

If we take people who are learning choreography for the first time and want to really remember all the elements, then it will be necessary to start preparing in advance, about 2-3 months in advance.”

Anna: “Practice shows that 4 one-hour lessons with a choreographer are the ideal solution. But here it is important to take into account that between meetings the young people need to rehearse the dance at home several times in order to get the movements in their heads, “what is what”, and dance freely. No matter how many couples I came across, everyone danced with pleasure even outside of rehearsals. In my opinion, this is a great reason to immerse yourself in the atmosphere of a wedding evening for a few minutes, forget about everything, and just dance with your loved one. And we must not forget that pre-wedding preparation is also a special thing, you need to enjoy such worries.”

Diana: “Usually after the first lesson it becomes immediately clear how much time you need to spend on the preparation itself. It also happens that in a couple, one partner learns everything quite quickly, while the other takes longer. It would be great if all the newlyweds came to the choreographers in advance and voiced their thoughts and ideas about the wedding dance. After this, it is much easier for everyone to decide on the time and not rush, do not hastily rehearse a week before the event.

Anna: “Just the two of us. As I said earlier, wedding dance is, first of all, feelings, and then movements. How will a person feel without a significant other at rehearsal? Under any movement in dance there is a special meaning, as if “its own subtext”. There is tenderness in the hands, sincerity and faith in each other in the eyes - such things simply cannot be rehearsed separately from each other.”

Diana: “Yes, it happens that couples come separately. It depends on the production of the act itself. Now it has become very popular for the bride to prepare a dance for the groom and perform with him at her wedding. For many brides, it is also important to give their now husband a beautiful wedding dance on their wedding night.

Sometimes, when one partner takes longer to do something, the choreography is learned separately.”

Anna: “Of course, girls often write with questions about the production. But already during the rehearsals themselves, everything, from organizational aspects to interaction in the dance, is only in the hands of the groom :).”

Diana: “Yes, most often the initiator is the bride or parents, who want all grandparents and immediate relatives to be imbued with the atmosphere of the wedding.”

Anna: “At the first rehearsal, everyone is shy - this is normal for any person. The main thing here is just to get to know the choreographer better, to understand that you are on the same wavelength. Then learn not to be shy about each other, about yourself. And for this you need to rehearse outside the hall - this will give you self-confidence, will be beneficial from the point of view of dance, will make it clear what exactly is inconvenient and embarrassing (these moments are quickly corrected at the next rehearsal). And already at the second or third rehearsal, the choreographer teaches the young people not just to depict movements, but also to understand what meaning the body conveys, how to feel in dance, what needs to be done to look real and not leave the comfort zone for this.”

Diana: “The newlyweds are tense because this is the first time for some, and most often the grooms are embarrassed and angry, especially when something doesn’t work out for them. Therefore, a relaxed atmosphere and jokes always come to the rescue.

Anna: “Of course, dance should be the desire of two, no forced forms. If there is even the slightest doubt, I usually recommend just coming to the first rehearsal and trying it out to get a feel for the wedding dance. In one hundred percent of cases, the young people’s opinion coincides, and a week later we meet again to continue.”

Diana: “It happened that grooms left training because something didn’t work out for them. In any case, you need to understand that everyone will remember the first wedding dance for the rest of their lives, so men meet their loved ones halfway and go to classes. As practice shows, after the wedding, many newlyweds call and thank you for the dance itself.

Anna: “On average, prices in Moscow today range from 1,000 to 3,000 rubles per hour. But remember, the price tag cannot always determine the result. Here it is more important to catch the same wavelength with the choreographer, one look at the character and style of the dance.”

Diana: “The cost of a wedding dance depends on the level of the choreographer and how complex the production itself will be.”

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First dance of the bride and groom!

This stage happens in 99% of the weddings we conduct.
Probably, brides intuitively feel that this is a very beautiful moment that will remain for life not only on video, but also in the soul of the groom, and cannot imagine a wedding without the FIRST DANCE of the BRIDE and GROOM. If you don’t bother too much, then preparing for the first dance consists of choosing beautiful, suitable music, songs, melodies and a couple of test dances with the groom. The toastmaster should also participate in choosing the melody, or at least try to dissuade them from songs that are completely unsuitable for the wedding. Sometimes newlyweds have a song that they met under or something else... Sometimes they take a song that is popular in their friendly social circle. It happens when the bride and groom completely trust the host of the celebration in choosing the music for the first dance.

Today we are not talking about music for staged dances. This is a separate question. It’s wonderful when both the bride and groom want to prepare a cool number, find a choreographer and prepare a dance composition with him. (the toastmaster should offer both this option and contacts of specialists).

Without testing, analyzing and discarding the most banal melodies such as music from “Titanic” by Celine Dion, today I am simply giving you a selection of music that we used at weddings in 2014. This is not our personal choice, this is what was selected by the newlyweds. Download; https://yadi.sk/d/WMzm7elDeUXGn

I can’t ignore such a point in a wedding as the lead-up to the FIRST DANCE. Firstly, this dance traditionally occurs when guests first leave the table.

The most simple thing: If you are tired of sitting, Your legs begin to ask to dance - Don’t be shy, come out, Show us a dance class. But first, a dance for them - Our dear YOUNG ONE!

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Now we often hold a dance for the newlyweds after the guests have entered the dance floor. This is sometimes better, since the guests have already smoked, gone to the toilet, danced, etc. That is, there is no longer any tension for the guests to stand in a circle and look at the bride and groom dancing in the middle.

If the newlyweds’ dance is staged, then we take into account the factors we need: where the guests should be during the dance, how the young couple will dance, when the music will turn on, what kind of light is needed - we think about everything in advance. In conclusion, I will give you a few summaries to the wedding stage: THE FIRST DANCE OF THE NEWLYWEDS:

Wedding waltz song, lyrics

The favorite dance at a wedding is the waltz. You can complement the holiday number with a similar song. This will add solemnity, originality, and make the first dance a real show.

There are several versions of the song “Wedding Waltz”: you can choose the version by Mikhail Mikhailov, Timur Temirov, Evgeny Martynov, etc. It is Martynov’s song that has been recognizable since Soviet times. The lyrics of this hit are presented below:

Newlyweds' dance: How to dance first at a wedding? Adviсe

The first dance of the newlyweds is a very touching moment that remains forever in the memory of the newlyweds and their guests. A fragile bride in a snow-white dress, a courageous groom tenderly hugging his chosen one. There are probably no people who would not be touched by this scene. It's always a pleasure to watch a young couple's first dance.

Therefore, the couple takes a very responsible approach to preparing this part of the celebration. Many people believe that if the dance turns out beautiful, it means that family life will be harmonious, since the partners feel and understand each other without words.

Choosing a wedding dance

Many people associate the beautiful first dance of young people with the waltz . This is a truly traditional choice, and it is absolutely a win-win. You can perform a classic slow waltz or a Viennese waltz.

Any of these options are ideal for a wedding. In the photographs and videos of the newlyweds’ first dance, everything will look perfect.

However, some lovers do not have time before the wedding to attend dance classes. Still, the waltz, despite its simplicity, requires some preparation and training.

Others, on the contrary, want something unusual and original, and the waltz seems too old-fashioned to them.

In this case, the first wedding dance of the newlyweds can be an ordinary slow one, consisting of only a few steps.

If you don’t want to invent anything at all, then just hug and spin around, looking into each other’s eyes. This also always looks tender and touching.

And for some, dancing may come with a surprise. For example, newlyweds can perform a passionate tango or fiery Latin.

Wedding song for the groom, lyrics

If the bride has vocal abilities or simply wants to surprise her loved one, her musical number is included in the wedding program. What should be the wedding song for the groom? The main thing is to be sincere, about real feelings and hopes.

There are three versions of this song:

come up with the text and music yourself (suitable for creative people with developed musical talent and free time);
a song is an alteration, when your own text is written, but it is set to a well-known melody;
performance of a familiar wedding song.

If the latter option is chosen, then the ideal wedding song for the groom will be “My Love” by singer Ani Lorak. Lyrics of this hit:

Also, when performing a song for the groom at a wedding, it is important to adhere to the following tips:

You can insert a rap into a song - a part written by yourself. This will make the track original, unusual, individual. In addition, this will be a plus if you lose your breath during a performance and need to change the tempo.
Ditties can also be an addition. If you agree with the guests in advance, the performance can become a collective one. Usually, ditties are sung with humor about things that are important for a young family.
A plus will be the recording of the “minus” track (music without voice). You can also record a phonogram in the studio, so that if the performer is very nervous, it will become a safety net.
You can include a few words of gratitude to the groom’s parents in the song. This will make the performance even more sincere and touching.
A backup dancer is a wonderful “special effect” during a song performance. You can ask your bridesmaids for such a dance.

Music for the first dance of young people

After the choice of direction is completed, you need to figure out the composition to which the first dance of the newlyweds will be performed.

Whether the music is Russian or foreign is not so important; the main indicator that the melody is suitable remains the emotions of the bride and groom.

If the newlyweds have any pleasant memories or positive associations associated with the chosen song, then this particular composition should be the main one on their wedding day.

Do not forget about the general style of the celebration. At a 60s themed party, James Blunt's "You are beautiful" might seem like an odd choice, but at a classic romantic wedding, it might be the best choice.

The key to a beautiful dance

Even if you and your partner are frequent visitors to nightclubs and various discos and simply cannot live without dancing and music, it is better to rehearse the first dance before the wedding. During the celebration, the newlyweds are always overcome with excitement, so in order for everything to go smoothly, it is better to be confident in your movements.

When preparing for your first dance, it is best to take at least a couple of lessons from a professional teacher. He will correct mistakes immediately and you will develop your dancing skills in the right direction.
If you think that by going to a dance class for two you can calm down, since you remember that the man is leading and the partner’s left hand should be on the partner’s right shoulder, it is better not to give up training or dance daily at home. Then you will not only be able to dance your first dance to the envy of everyone, but you will also perform your crowning number together more than once on subsequent wedding anniversaries.
Girls should rehearse their wedding dance in the shoes they will wear for the actual celebration. This is an opportunity to get used to the shoes, and if you can’t get used to them, then replace them.