Choosing a wedding suit for the groom is no less important than buying a bride's dress. Choosing a model, color, suitable shirt, shoes, accessories on your own is not an easy task for many men.
The most popular options for men's wedding dresses are:
- A classic three-piece or two-piece suit is a universal solution that will be appropriate for any ceremony.
- Tailcoat. Suitable for a romantic celebration in retro style.
- A tuxedo is an elegant look for a modern dandy for an evening event.
- A frock coat is a model for an aristocratic ceremony.
- Set in casual style. This outfit is appropriate for a wedding with a relaxed atmosphere, suggesting a free style of clothing.
Often, when buying a suit and preparing for an important event, newlyweds, trying to follow tradition, encounter prejudices.
Wedding signs
There are many superstitions associated with weddings. Thus, the couple must spend the night before the wedding apart, the wedding ring must not be dropped, and a joint photo can only be taken after the ceremony.
A lot of signs apply to the outfits of the newlyweds - however, this mainly concerns the bride’s dress. But with the groom’s clothes, not everything is so simple: it is believed that the chosen one should also not see her future spouse in a wedding suit on the eve of the event.
Accessories were not left without attention either. For example, the groom is not allowed to remove his boutonniere during the entire event.
Of course, there are overly superstitious couples who prefer to follow signs, but most young people are guided by their own convictions and boldly go to choose the groom’s suit together.
Can the bride and groom choose a wedding dress together?
In our modern and developed society, there are still a large number of different signs and superstitions. One of the main wedding superstitions is that the groom should not see the bride’s wedding dress before the wedding day. Why can’t a girl and her future husband go to a bridal salon together and pick out a wedding outfit? Let's try to figure out this issue together with lets-speak.ru.
How did this wedding sign come about?
They claim that the sign existed in Ancient Rus' and migrated to our time from Old Russian traditions. However, the period where and when this sign appeared remains unknown. But one thing has remained unchanged - the belief of most girls in this outdated sign.
So is it possible for the bride and groom to choose a dress together? Let's consider several arguments "For" and "Cons".
So, the arguments against:
Married life will be unhappy, or not work out at all.
In this regard, a folk sign clearly defines: under no circumstances should the future spouse see, much less choose and buy a wedding dress for the bride. And it gives an idea of what could happen: expect trouble, the marriage will not last long, the wedding may be upset. After such definitions, any bride will want to play it safe and not take the groom with her to the wedding salon.
A sign cannot exist in vain.
Most grandmothers are sure that since the sign has survived to this day, it’s not just like that. It has been tested by time, and by more than one generation of people, which means it has been confirmed. Smart people won't talk in vain. After all, it cannot be that due to someone’s stupidity this sign was followed for so many years.
Relationship with the past.
Many believe that by observing signs and traditions, especially when it comes to wedding ceremonies, they thereby pay tribute to their ancestors, and they, in turn, strengthen the marriage union.
The thought is material.
According to this theory, the idea is firmly rooted in your subconscious that if the groom sees the wedding dress before the day of the celebration, expect trouble. If you really believe in this sign, you will see in everything only confirmation of this thought, even without reason.
The effect of surprise.
Probably the most compelling argument for buying a wedding dress without the groom is the effect you can have on him with your luxurious look. After all, he has never seen you in such a chic image. This kind of surprise on your part will be remembered by the groom for the rest of his life.
We hope we have more or less dealt with the arguments “Against”.
Now, regarding the arguments “For”:
Signs are a relic of the past.
In our constantly changing world, it is simply indecent to continue to believe in omens and superstitions. First of all, this concerns whether the bride can buy a wedding dress with the groom? Modern progress has stepped forward, and with it sciences such as philosophy and psychology, which were able to explain why people still hold superstitious views.
A wedding dress is a dream for two.
We are accustomed to the understanding that only the bride imagines her wedding dress in her dreams, forgetting about her other half - the groom. Of course, a man will be happy to see his beloved girl next to him at the altar in any outfit. But he, just like the girl, imagines the image of the future bride. Why not take it with you then? Give him the opportunity to participate, express his ideas and views on the wedding dresses he is trying on. The groom's advice and opinion on choosing a dress can be very constructive and helpful. Choosing a dress with your groom can be quite an exciting adventure.
In a relationship, the choice of dress is not the most important thing.
Any psychologist can explain that it doesn’t matter whether the groom saw the dress or not, the main thing is the feeling that has arisen between two people, mutual understanding and patience with each other. Let's be realistic, a marriage cannot break up because of signs. A marriage can be destroyed by: betrayal, assault, misunderstanding. And there is no need to blame someone or something, for example, a wedding dress. If you can’t find a common language with each other, the dress has nothing to do with it.
Religion denies superstition.
The Church denies any signs and superstitions, believing that they came to us from pagan culture. Therefore, first you need to determine what you believe in, pagan superstitions or church foundations.
In any case, the choice is always yours. We will be pleased if these arguments helped to understand and dispel doubts. Happy marriage!
What is Love Story filming really (and why is it needed) Many photographers and videographers have a Love Story filming service. But for different performers these can be completely different services! So what's the difference?
The fact is that everyone puts something of their own into the concept of shooting a “love story” and, having asked one photographer how much a love story costs and what is included in it, it is quite possible that another photographer has a completely different perception of a love story, and it will be a completely different service , and maybe even given to you as a gift.
Everyone knows that a love story is some kind of romantic couple shoot, where you are together, which is filmed before the wedding. There are actually a lot of types of it. I'll tell you about the main ones. The simplest option is what is, as it were, replaced by the word “love story” - pre-wedding photography. This is essentially a rehearsal for your wedding shoot to get you, as a couple, used to the photographer and videographer who will be filming you.
This is a small photo shoot in ordinary clothes. It can be filmed anywhere: in a park, on the street, etc. In general, wherever there is beautiful light. Roughly speaking, it is done so that you can see how the photographer works, understand what you will have to do during this shoot, that it is different from a passport photo, so that the groom sees that it is not scary, and the bride understands that she, It turns out that it can turn out beautifully in photographs, and that the photographer can capture it beautifully.
That is, this is just a training photo shoot. But the photographs, if they are taken in advance, you can safely use when decorating your wedding: print them for invitations, magnets or posters, give them to guests, in general, anything. This is what is called pre-wedding photography, that is, a small rehearsal, quite short in time.
By the way, this year I’m giving it as a bonus, but many photographers sell it for extra money. Not the point, the main thing is that you understand what it is. There is a Western tradition of pre-wedding photo sessions - this is, roughly speaking, pre-wedding photography in wedding suits, with hair and makeup - the way you will look at the wedding.
In the West, this often happens before the wedding, but since we have a tradition that the groom should not see the bride's dress directly until the day of the event. That’s why we often take it off afterwards, because in the traditions of European weddings, there’s not much time at a wedding to conduct this large-scale photo shoot. That's why they do it in advance. When it's just a wedding, some Russian photographers offer such a service as After Wedding Photos. What it is? (continued in video)
The benefits of choosing a wedding suit together
- A look from the outside will help you better choose a model based on your figure and evaluate the fit.
- Joint shopping is mandatory if the couple has their own vision of outfits - for example, a suit and dress should be in the same color scheme. Of course, the future husband can independently find a model of the ideal cut, but there is always a risk of not getting the right tone. Often, newlyweds want to stand out and choose brighter shades than the theme colors of the holiday. For example, against a background of lavender or peach, wine, pale blue, and coral outfits look impressive.
- It is worth going shopping with the bride when you need to maintain one style. At the same time, couples are not limited in their choice - from pompous classics, retro to casual, grunge and even steampunk. The groom's suit for the wedding and the bride's dress, decorated in a common style, will emphasize the unity of the couple and add zest to the ceremony.
- Choosing a set together will help you understand in time how feasible your ideas and ideas about the celebration are, and change the concept of the event at the planning stage.
Brides dream of a perfect wedding, so they try to control everything. Make your chosen one happy - let her help you choose a model.
How did the sign appear?
The sign, which states that the groom should not see the bride’s dress before the wedding, appeared in Ancient Rus' and was allegedly tested in specific cases. But we won’t be able to find out these “true” stories, because no one remembers them for a long time. However, according to the sign, if the groom saw the bride in a wedding dress, the marriage will be short-lived, weak, and there is even a possibility of a break in the relationship even before the ceremony. It sounds so intimidating that even non-superstitious girls do not dare to take such a step and diligently make sure that their future husband under no circumstances sees the wedding dress. Although the church strongly rejects such signs and beliefs. Psychologists share the same opinion, who believe that only our own fears and complexes become the culprits of all problems.
Let's try to sensibly assess this situation and understand whether it is worth hiding the dress from the groom or whether he should still take it calmly.
Color, style, material...
How to choose a groom's suit? Actually, the classic color is black. But now any color schemes are acceptable, the main thing is that they do not look ridiculous. Classic colors: black, gray of any shade, white (this is a bold option, but looks very luxurious for a wedding on the beach), coffee with milk color. Unusual, bright options will appeal more to young people: red or blue of any shade. Such costumes look very beautiful if the bride has accessories of the same color.
There are quite a few styles, they must be selected depending on the figure of the groom, the style of the wedding, and the bride’s dress. Classic suit - single-breasted, double-breasted, three-piece or two-piece. The classics include tuxedos and tailcoats (both are designed for a very luxurious wedding in a classic style), as well as French jackets (but you need to select the latter very carefully, given that they do not suit everyone). However, classic is not the only choice. For themed weddings, themed suits are sewn, and the groom in jeans and a plaid shirt is also quite acceptable if the celebration is planned in the style of the Wild West.
The material should be selected depending on the season and theme of the wedding. Naturally, suits for summer celebrations are made from lighter fabrics; in winter, thick ones are acceptable. The material should not look cheap; tightening and other defects are unacceptable.
When should you burn your wedding dress?
The modern and very shocking custom among newlyweds “trash the dress” - kill the dress - implies extreme destruction of the wedding dress, including burning it. However, it is very dangerous, so you should not do it.
Does the outfit take up a lot of space? – Sell or give it away
It is worth burning it only in case of divorce. But because On the website www.svadebka.ws we talk about marriage and everything connected with it, then note the idea of burning a wedding dress - it is pointless and dangerous.
