Traditions and customs of a modern Bashkir wedding

How the Tatars performed nikah: features of national marriage, post-wedding rituals and breaking traditions

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Kazan ethnographer and our columnist Dina Gatina-Shafikova continues to acquaint Realnoe Vremya readers with the features of a Tatar wedding. In today’s column, written for our online newspaper, she talks about the nikah ritual itself, post-wedding customs and the modern revival of the religious and cultural elements of national marriage.

Nikah without newlyweds

The wedding act itself is nikah thuy.

, according to K. Nasyri, took place “necessarily in the house of the girl’s parents. The ritual reading of the nikah also takes place here. On the same day, a feast is organized in the groom's house. As a gift and ransom, the bride is sent a good chest, a large expensive mirror, the best varieties of damask or velvet, pieces of chintz for several dresses, a shawl, an expensive kalfak, ichigi, shoes, various fruits and rings, knives, small mirrors, lipstick, whitewash - everything this counts towards gifts. Here money is sent in the chest - the ransom due. Then they send several loaves of the best kind, half a pound of honey and half a pound of butter. More or less, depending on the size of the Majlis.”

The wedding began with a religious marriage ceremony - nikah.

According to the “Collection of circulars and other governing orders for the district of the Orenburg Mohammedan Spiritual Assembly of 1841-1901,” “the ritual side of marriage between Mohammedans, according to Sharia, consists of performing “Gakid” with the words “izyab-kabula,” i.e., the bride getting married , personally or through an attorney, I must say: I (naming my first name and patronymic) gave myself as a wife to such and such (also giving my middle name), and the groom, also personally or through an attorney, repeat the words of the bride, replacing the expression “gave myself to wife” with the words “ took him as his wife." Gakyd must certainly take place in front of witnesses. At least two eligible men, or one man and two women of the Mohammedan faith, and the parties to the contract must clearly hear each other's words, and the witnesses must hear the words of the parties to the contract, all this must happen at the same time, in the same place "

According to the “Collection of circulars and other governing orders for the district of the Orenburg Mohammedan Spiritual Assembly 1841-1901”, “the ritual side of marriage between Mohammedans, according to Sharia, consists of performing “Gakid” with the words “izyab-kabula”. Photo turklib.com

Due to the fact that usually the newlyweds were not present at this ceremony, the father was responsible for the groom, and her representatives, the

(they specially went to the place where the bride was, and, after listening to her positive answer, handed it over to the mullah).

After the ceremony, the mullah wrote down the conditions for marriage in the marriage registration book - mәһәr

(kalyn, products or their value transferred to the bride’s side before marriage). A certain amount of money was described in detail, which in the event of a divorce on the initiative of the husband, he had to pay his wife.

After the ceremony, a feast began, which had its own specifics. Women were kept separate from men. Usually, women treated themselves after the men had left, or it could take place simultaneously, but in different halves of the house.

Customs and traditional wedding celebrations by the Tatar people

According to tradition, among the Tatars all festivities take place in the month of November; it is at this time that all work in the field ends.

The first stage from which a Tatar wedding begins is matchmaking. The parents of the future spouse meet with the mother and father of the bride, discuss all the details necessary for the marriage, including the wedding date, the amount of kalym (ransom) for the beloved. The parents of the future wife try to give consent to a worthy groom who asks to give up their daughter. Following matchmaking, there are the following stages, such as engagement and conspiracy.

A distinctive feature of a traditional Russian wedding is that the bride's parents pick up the groom from home and take him to his future wife in order to spend their wedding night. When celebrating a wedding among the Tatars, in compliance with all traditions and rituals, in order to get into the house of his beloved, the groom must pay a bride price. Nowadays this step is often skipped. It should be noted that basically all the costs of wedding events fall on the shoulders of the girl’s parents, since traditionally it was established that the bride should have a rich dowry.

Karachay wedding customs and traditions

Nikah is one of the rituals that the bride and groom undergo. It has some similarities with weddings among Orthodox peoples. Young people who want to get married stand in front of the mullah, he initially reads a prayer, and then gives them instructions. This ritual is the first step in a Tatar wedding, after which the newlyweds can already remain alone. At the end of the ceremony, the newly invited couple went to the wedding house. It was in it that the consecration of the bed took place. Those invited to a Tatar wedding touched the feather bed and placed a few coins in a saucer prepared in advance for the ceremony. The guests left the house and only the bride, an elderly relative, remained in it, who was teaching the girl how to traditionally receive her husband.

Groom for a week

The wedding events themselves, with shared meals, could take up to three days. The newcomers, after refreshments at the bride's house, were picked up by relatives. Sometimes, one by one, all the guests could be invited to their place.

The wedding in the groom's house could take place much later, after the main event in the bride's house, and this period depended on how long the young woman would remain in her parents' house.

All subsequent events took place after the wedding.

After completing nikah thuy

When all the guests had left, the bride's house began to prepare for the groom's arrival.
Particular attention was paid to preparing beds for the young. They tried to choose a married woman who was successful in her marriage. The bed was enclosed with a large curtain - charshau
, or, if possible, completely curtained with a canopy -
chybyldyk
. They laid down two feather beds, which were removed one at a time at the end of the night. After the bed was prepared, either a child or a happy married couple with children was placed in it.

Interior of the front half of the house. Photo archive.gov.tatarstan.ru

The groom, accompanied by a friend or friends, was brought in the evening by relatives (young boys or men) of the bride. They were allowed into the house only after paying a ransom. The guests were treated, the table was set for tea for the newlyweds and they were left alone. They were looked after by a specially chosen woman, who also received gifts for this work.

In the morning, a bathhouse was heated for the newlyweds. After this, the young husband put on new clothes sewn by his wife, and in return he gave her some valuable gift (jewelry, scarves, etc.).

The newlyweds spent the first days only in their room and did not show themselves to anyone. The husband could spend the night for a predetermined number of days, and then leave without showing himself to any of his wife’s relatives. Most often, the parents themselves either came into the young couple’s room in the morning, or invited them to a joint tea party, where they presented their son-in-law with gifts.

On his first visit, my husband could stay up to a week or a little more. Then he went back and subsequently arrived on Thursdays, and on Friday morning he left again. Such stays varied in time (a wife could move to her husband’s house, already being a mother herself), and everything depended on various reasons (financial, family, and others). On this occasion, A. Speransky wrote: “They live like this for a year, two or even three. Then the wife comes to her husband for good, sometimes already having two children.”

Tatar wedding

Preparing for a Tatar wedding

They prepare for a Tatar wedding thoroughly and long before the official date of the celebration. Before the wedding takes place, matchmakers and the boy’s parents come to the girl’s house and agree on the wedding of their children, always with the blessing of the mullah. The bride and groom do not take part in the negotiations. Matchmaking takes place in three stages:

• bride's viewing;
• story about the groom;
• negotiations between the parties.

The groom is represented by a matchmaker (Yauchi) and one of the older relatives. If the first two parts of the matchmaking were successful, then at the third stage of negotiations the father and mother of the newlywed become involved. In the final part of the matchmaking, the parties discuss monetary and other important aspects of the life of a young family: where the newlyweds will live, who buys what for home improvement, what the husband’s contribution to the new family will be, the amount of bride price for the bride and many other issues.

According to Tatar custom, the bride price can be paid in installments before the celebration or paid in full on the wedding day. Gold jewelry, winter and summer clothes, bed linen, dishes, and money are most often offered as bridewealth. Negotiators do not discuss what the bride's dowry will be during matchmaking. If the parties have agreed, the couple is informed about the successful outcome of the matchmaking and the engagement date is determined. Afterwards, the script of the celebration is discussed, which consists of Tatar wedding rituals.

Nikah is a wedding ceremony of Muslim marriage. It is held in a mosque or in the home of the newlywed. The sacrament of the ritual includes: prayers, reading the Koran, spiritual instructions to the young. Sacred vows are made either by the newlyweds or by those who represent them. After Nikah is completed, the marriage is registered at the registry office. The bride and groom submit an application on the day of their engagement. These events are enough for the girl to be considered a matchmaker and receive the status of “yarekshen kyz” .

Tatar wedding (Tui) is a celebration that lasts several days. It begins in the bride's house, and then smoothly moves into the groom's home. Nowadays, Tatars usually celebrate their wedding in a restaurant for several days.

If the young people know each other well, and the parents agree to the marriage of their children, then the matchmaking and engagement are carried out on the same day. At the parents' house, the girls are setting the table. The closest relatives on both sides negotiate the terms of the children's marriage and give each other gifts.

After the engagement, preparations for the wedding begin, which takes on average 3 to 5 weeks. The groom pays the bride price in installments, buys gifts for the bride, her parents and close relatives. The bride finishes preparing the trousseau she began saving as a teenager. The parents of the newlyweds and immediate family organize the wedding party.

Decoration of the celebration venue

Tatar weddings are celebrated for several days. The venue for the celebration is decorated according to the taste, desires and religious preferences of the newlyweds, as well as their parents. Ordinary wedding decorations (garlands, balloons, flower arrangements), as well as national decor that is very fashionable today: elegant tablecloths, dishes with Tatar patterns, pillows with ornaments, are popular. If the newlyweds are religious, then the wedding venue is usually decorated with decorated elements with spiritual instructions from the Koran.

Musical accompaniment

Music for a Tatar wedding is usually chosen by young people, taking into account the tastes of their relatives. Compositions by contemporary authors in Russian and Tatar are extremely popular. You can just as often hear fiery and sad folk songs at Tatar weddings. Mendelssohn's march is played not only during registration; almost no Tatar wedding can take place without it.

Traditional Tatar outfits of newlyweds

Traditional Tatar wedding clothes of newlyweds are strikingly different from the European outfits that are familiar to our eyes. The bride is a symbol of modesty and purity, so the bride’s festive clothes should completely cover the body, arms, décolleté and neck. To understand what the wedding dress of a Tatar bride looks like, look at the photo below. A dress to the toes or trousers with a tunic are combined with a headdress that completely covers the hair. A girl can leave only her hands and face exposed; everything else should be hidden from prying eyes by clothing. Thick fabric is used for Tatar wedding dresses.

Here the groom's clothing is not treated so scrupulously and has much fewer requirements than the bride's attire. The future spouse at the wedding celebration can wear a regular classic suit of any color, a white shirt and tie. Clothing for a Tatar groom is practically no different from the outfit of any European newlywed. He is distinguished only by his headdress - a skullcap.

Scenario for a Tatar wedding

Before the wedding, you need to think through the event scenario in detail. It should include Tatar wedding customs and traditions. In order for the celebration to be fun, original and memorable for the guests for a long time, it is necessary to discuss in advance with the toastmaster all the nuances and subtleties of the celebration. For convenience, we suggest using a typical scenario with prepared remarks. It takes into account many wedding rituals, ceremonies, traditions and their features.

Matchmaking

The matchmakers come to the house of the bride's parents, where they are greeted and hospitably seated in the meeting room. Following the ancient Tatar custom, at the first stage all conversations are conducted in a veiled manner so that evil spirits do not introduce confusion into this process and do not disrupt it. Participating in the conspiracy are: the matchmaker, the groom's uncle and the bride's parents.

Young father:

– Hello, dear guests! What did you come with?

Groom's matchmaker:

- Hello! Thank you for the warm welcome in your home! We have a good deal for you! We heard that you have a treasure - an uncut stone, beautiful and pure. Is it true?

Young father:

– What people don’t say. Why do you need to know this?

Groom's matchmaker:

“We want to look at a treasure of unprecedented beauty.” If people told the truth and we like it, then we will offer you a good frame. And it will increase the value of the treasure many times over and save it for a long time from troubles and misfortunes.

Young father:

“People have already come to our house with such a proposal more than once.” What makes you think that your frame will be the best of all?

The groom's matchmaker and uncle begin to praise the groom in great detail. They talk about all his positive qualities: caring, loving, hard-working, religious, without bad habits. When the story is over, the bride comes out to the matchmakers so they can look at her. After this, the wedding bride price is discussed. The size of the initial ransom for the Tatar bride is learned in advance from the father and mother of the groom.

Groom's matchmaker:

– People don’t lie! The treasure is truly fabulously beautiful and worthy of the best frame. We want to offer you a good price for it.

Young father:

- We don't sell it! The treasure is very dear to us, we protect, preserve and value it. What price are you willing to offer if we decide to take such a step?

After this remark, a long and active bargaining for the girl begins. The matchmaker and the groom’s uncle are trying to reduce the price, and the bride’s father and mother, on the contrary, are trying to increase the cost of the bride price for their daughter. After the preliminary agreement is over, the matchmakers agree on the date of the next meeting and leave the bride’s house. At the third stage of matchmaking, the parents of both the groom and the bride are present. They discuss in great detail financial issues that relate to the life of a young family together and the organization of a wedding celebration.

Bride ransom

According to Tatar tradition, on the wedding day, the parents of the future wife take the groom from his house and take him to a special room with the young bride, which is called “kiyau eye”. In ancient times, such temporary premises were built next to the house of the bride's parents. Today, for this purpose, they rent an apartment or a hotel room. Kiyau eye is also intended for the first wedding night.

Wedding procession in Tatar

The ceremonial procession arrives at the groom's house - kiyau eye. The bride's friends and relatives do not allow the newlywed to enter until he has paid off the entire bride price or paid an additional amount. The wedding toastmaster or a relative of the bride is responsible for this event. When everything is settled, the Tatar wedding celebration begins: the groom and his relatives are given a worthy welcome.

The presenter says:

– Good afternoon, dear guests! Please tell me what you came with?

The groom introduces himself and says that he has come to pick up the bride.

The wedding host takes out a sheet of paper, which is a symbol of the marriage contract, and begins to compare the data:

- Everything is correct. I have it written here: (name of the groom) agreed to pay the amount that was set in advance in the amount of 50,000 rubles for (name of the bride). Have you prepared the bride price?

The groom and witnesses begin to pay the bride price. Checking the list, the host accompanies his actions with praise of the groom's gifts and jokes. The parents of the newlywed give the main amount of money and large gifts of kalym even before the wedding celebration, and during the ceremony they pay symbolic gifts, taking into account ancient traditions. The newlywed, for example, brings with him jewelry or barrels of oil and honey.

After the bride price is paid, the host holds funny wedding competitions. You can get original ideas from the article “Bride ransom competitions.” When all the obstacles on the way to the bride have been passed, the newlywed takes his future wife from the Kiyau Eye. Afterwards, the newlyweds and guests go to the Nikah ceremony.

Nikah

The Nikah wedding ceremony is held in the house of the girl’s parents or in the mosque. This solemn ceremony, which lasts about an hour, is attended by the mullah, the newlyweds and close relatives of the heroes of the occasion. The ceremony is performed in silence behind closed doors. The mullah sits at the head of the table, and the newlyweds sit on the male half of the table or opposite it. When the prayer begins, the newlyweds stand and listen to the holy words in silence. Then the bride and groom take their marriage vows.

At the end of the wedding ceremony, the mullah declares the newlyweds husband and wife before Allah and instructs them in their family life with prayers from the Koran. Then relatives give gifts to the mullah and congratulate the newlyweds on creating a new family. After the end of the Tatar Nikah ceremony, the newlyweds and their guests go to the registry office.

Tui

The official part of the Tatar wedding ends at the registry office. Now comes the most fun stage of the celebration, which consists of:

• a festive feast in the newlywed's house;
• wife moving to her husband;
• feast in the groom's house.

Traditionally, the bride's parents set a table at their home to welcome the newlyweds after registration. The newlyweds sit at the head of the festive table, the wife should be to the right of the husband. The parents of the newlywed are placed next to the young wife, and the wife’s parents are located next to the young husband. On the right are the husband's relatives, on the left are the wife's relatives. The Tatar wedding celebration begins with traditional treats, competitions, national dances and songs, and entertainment.

After the celebration at the bride's house, the newlyweds go to kiyau eye, where they spend their first night together. On the second day, a bathhouse is heated for the newlyweds, and they are treated to pancakes and pancakes. The newlyweds are congratulated by relatives, neighbors, friends and acquaintances on both sides. After several days of festivities, one of the most important rituals of a Tatar wedding takes place - the wife moves to her husband’s house. And the feast itself continues for several more days.

Wife moving into husband's house

The wife's moving to her husband's house is an integral part of the Tatar wedding. It has a strong influence on the future relationship between the parents-in-law and the daughter-in-law. Even at modern Tatar weddings this ancient custom is observed when meeting future relatives. The ritual helps the young wife to show the best qualities of a caring wife and a good housewife. For fathers-in-law, this ritual is a wonderful opportunity to demonstrate their attitude towards their daughter-in-law as a daughter, and to wish the newlyweds a happy family life.

The bride is brought to his home by the young husband, accompanied by relatives. On the threshold of the new house, the girl is met by the groom's parents. This is how the ritual itself begins. Male guests place a pillow or skin at the feet of the bride - this is a sign of respect for the girl, a warm and hospitable greeting. The mother-in-law and the elder sister of the groom treat the young woman with honey and bread so that the relationship between them is kind and cordial. Relatives suggest that the young wife smear her hands with flour so that the new family will always have money. It is also customary for newlyweds to give pets as gifts.

When a young wife crosses the threshold of a new home for the first time, she must perform one of the ancient wedding rituals - the consecration of the home. The girl hangs wall decorations, new curtains, towels, and lays runners on the floor. This simple and sweet ritual helps the newlywed to feel like a mistress in her husband’s house and show her dowry to her husband’s relatives. The mother-in-law accompanies the daughter-in-law when she goes to fetch water for the first time. The girl seems to be passing her first exam, demonstrating neatness and thriftiness: the less water she spills, the more they will respect her. The ritual of the wife moving to her husband's house ends in a fun and festive manner. Intermarried families give each other gifts and arrange a wedding celebration in their new home.

Feast and national Tatar treats

A traditional Tatar wedding involves a luxurious feast with a huge number of different national treats. At the beginning of the festivities, guests are offered hot and cold snacks. Then they serve soup made from noodles and lamb meat (shurpa) and other national wedding dishes. There are always fruit juices, compotes and water on the tables. Alcoholic drinks are strictly prohibited at Nikah celebrations.

For a Tatar wedding celebration, two geese are prepared - a symbol of a new young family. Traditionally, only the eldest man, who is appointed by the parents of the young husband, has the right to butcher geese. The main goal of this ritual is not to damage the bird's bones when the carcass is cut into pieces. At the time when the dish with geese is brought out to the guests, it is customary to give gifts and money to the newlyweds.

Particular importance is attached to the serving and cutting of some other Tatar dishes.

Gulbadia is a closed wedding pie filled with meat, rice, cottage cheese and raisins. It is prepared to order just before the wedding.

Chak-chak is a national traditional Tatar sweet. It consists of honey and fried dough. Chak-chak is prepared by the bride's relatives.

Wedding gulbadia can be cut by both men and women. The person in charge is appointed by the father and mother of the newlywed. Before the ceremony itself, the pie is covered with a scarf. According to custom, guests put money on it for the treat. You need to cut the gulbadia into four parts and very carefully. The main thing is not to damage the core of the wedding treat, keeping all its layers in their original form. One part of gulbadia is taken by the husband's parents to treat relatives who did not come to the wedding celebration. Guests are treated to the remaining portions.

Chak-chak or bride's treat is served at every Tatar wedding. This usually happens at the end of the celebration along with tea and other sweets. The one who will cut the wedding chak-chak is chosen by the wife's parents. Traditionally, this person is the elder brother's wife or the bride's aunt (kyz jingi). Before cutting the dish, bargaining takes place between relatives and wedding guests. Chak-chak, like gulbadia, is cut into four parts - one is taken by the parents of the young husband, the rest is treated to the guests present at the wedding.

Video: traditions and customs at a Tatar wedding

The Tatar wedding, which took place according to all traditional rules, is a big and luxurious holiday. It is with him that the happy and joyful life of a new young family begins. Religious sacred vows give a special solemnity, which seals the indestructible marriage union for many years of a new married couple. The newlyweds give them in front of the mullah and close relatives. Warm, sincere wishes from family and friends remain in the memory of the young spouses and wedding guests for many years.

Even in the case of a modest holiday, a simplified ceremony, or the abandonment of a certain number of Tatar wedding rituals, you must not forget that the main meaning of Nikah is to strengthen the love of the newlyweds . When creating a family union, always remember the mutual respect and trust of the spouses in each other - these are the elements that form a solid foundation for every family. Watch a very beautiful and sentimental ceremony of a modern Tatar wedding in our video:

To my husband... forever

For the most part, the young woman’s move to her husband’s house was timed to coincide with Dzhien. Moreover, the ritual component differed in different areas. Somewhere the farewell took place in the house of the young wife’s parents, but it could also be held in the house where she was to live. Moreover, the dowry transported by the bride to her new home was significant. On this occasion, Kayum Nasyri Fr.

Among the things there is always a samovar, two kumgans, a copper basin, two large trays, two dozen plates, and the same number of silver spoons. Photo archive.gov.tatarstan.ru

The newlyweds were met not only by their closest relatives, but also by their neighbors. For this purpose, the young woman prepared small gifts that she presented to those present.

The ritual component of the meeting of the newly-made wife also included the dressing up of the house where she was to live. Usually it was held on the day the newlywed arrived at the husband’s house. Curtains were taken down everywhere and new ones were hung from the bride's dowry. There was also a ritual of introducing a young woman to a spring, or showing the way along the water, when the next day after her arrival she was led to the spring from which she was to fetch water.

The feasts on the occasion of the bride's arrival were similar to the wedding ones previously organized by the bride's party. However, unlike previous celebrations, the bride’s parents were not present here (everything was arranged separately for them), and the main participants were the newlyweds themselves, who were present at the events on this occasion. At the end of the ceremony, in a close family circle, the newlyweds went to visit her parents, and the bride’s parents were invited to the groom’s house. These events seemed to mark the end of the wedding ritual cycle.

How does matchmaking and engagement work?

After the decision to choose a bride was made by the father, he went to the future father-in-law and negotiated with him about the upcoming wedding.

If the girl’s father gave his consent, then the next stage included negotiations on the bride price. The main role in Bashkir matchmaking belongs to the father of the groom, since it is he who chooses the bride for his son. The role of the mother in this matter is secondary.

The father, taking with him his closest relatives, set off to woo the young girl. Of course, the other party already knew that special guests were coming to them and carefully prepared for their arrival.

The matchmakers' reception is very solemn, with a variety of treats placed on the tables.

The atmosphere of matchmaking has a festive mood, both parties communicate, while inclining the conversation to jokes in order to make the process friendlier.

By the end of the feast, those present smoothly shift the topic of conversation directly to the main event, thanks to which the guests arrived.

The main thing that is negotiated is the bride price (ransom) and the wedding process itself, in which senior relatives and close friends of the bride’s family will take part. As a sign of the decision to marry their children, parents drank honey from the same cup. After such a tradition, the bride's parents could no longer consider anyone else as a groom for their daughter.

If for some reason the contract had to be broken, the girl's father had to pay money to the failed matchmakers or pay with livestock.

Exceptions to the rules

Of course, the events described above show the classic type of matchmaking, when both parents and young people agree. However, as previously described by Akhmarov, there were two more types (violent and without parental approval), within which this wedding ritual was not fully observed.

The twentieth century made its own adjustments to the rituals of the Tatar people. Much was unified, something was lost, and a new festive culture emerged as a whole. This is the time when marriages began to be registered in the registry office, sometimes without performing a traditional religious ceremony (nikah), and parental consent and arranged marriages lose their validity. Newlyweds began to choose their spouses themselves, without taking into account the opinions of the older generation.

The phrases “Tatar wedding” and “halal wedding” are becoming more and more common in our everyday life. Photo by Maxim Platonov

Nowadays, as many researchers note, there has been a revival of interest in traditional forms of culture, including wedding rituals. Thus, many newlyweds consider it obligatory to conduct a religious ceremony called Nikah to start a family. The phrases “Tatar wedding” and “halal wedding” are becoming more and more common in our everyday life. However, it should be noted that today a new wedding ritual has formed, with a combination of pan-Islamic, European, and often slightly traditional Tatar forms of the Tatar wedding ceremony.

Dina Gatina-Shafikova

Reference

Dina Gatina-Shafikova is a research fellow at the Department of Ethnological Research at the Institute of History. Sh. Marjani AN RT.

• In 2010 she graduated from the Faculty of History, Department of Archeology at the Kazan (Volga Region) Federal University.
• In 2014, she completed her postgraduate studies at the Institute of History. Sh. Marjani AN RT.
• From 2010 to 2013, employee of the National Museum of the Republic of Tatarstan.
• Research interests: visual anthropology, Tatar costume, history of the Volga-Ural Tatars.
• Author of a number of popular science and research publications. Columnist of Realnoe Vremya.

Wedding preparations

The preparatory process for a Bashkir wedding necessarily includes a bride price or, as it is traditionally called, bride price. This ritual has not lost its relevance to this day. It should be noted right away that all expenses associated with the wedding fall on the groom’s family.

The monetary costs of the bride price are quite serious, for this reason the groom’s parents begin to save funds for the wedding long before the celebration itself. The buyout has always been focused on the financial well-being of both parties. Payment was made not only in finance, but also in livestock, clothing and other valuables. Everything donated went to the bride.

The father was given two horses as a gift, one of which had to be slaughtered and served at the wedding table. The bride's mother also did not stand aside; she was given a fox fur coat. These gifts had to be given without fail, regardless of the financial condition of the groom's family.

The girl was always given fabric to sew a wedding dress and money to purchase jewelry.

The bride had to have a dowry on her wedding day. It included things and objects that are used in everyday life. Moreover, everything was planned in advance. The girl prepared her dowry on her own.

Everything necessary for the yurt was sewn and woven, from which the relatives of the future husband took the newlywed on the wedding day. Of course, over time, the bride's dowry became more extensive. It includes gold jewelry, expensive fabrics, household appliances, textiles, and clothing. Before the wedding, after the matchmaking, the parents of the young bride visit the house of the future groom.

At the same time, the girl’s mother brought with her a chest that contained a shirt, a scarf, scraps of fabric and thread. One of the women present had to open this chest and for this receive a scarf as a gift. The cloth was sold to men for a small fee. The threads were given free of charge to elderly women. The shirt became a valuable gift for the groom's father.

In turn, the young guy’s family gave the matchmakers some cattle. With that, everyone went home.