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Ah, this wedding . One of the most special and important days in a person’s life. If you are an adult, then you know that almost no wedding takes place without unexpected events. Most brides know this. We have prepared a few more tips that you should learn about before the wedding.

Be positive

Seems trivial? However, I must assure you that this is the best advice you can give a bride. There is no such thing as perfect wedding preparation. There are only attempts to do everything perfectly. And yes, during preparation you will face a lot of troubles. And the longer and more carefully you prepare, the more of these troubles there will be. Mom doesn't like the dress, the groom doesn't like the color pink for the wedding, the best friend refuses to come - all this is quite unsettling. You will have to be disappointed more than once: in one of your relatives and friends, in your ideas and choices. And at the wedding itself, unpleasant surprises may await you. So, know: this is normal and happens to EVERYONE. Therefore, the main thing is to maintain a positive attitude both during preparation for the wedding and on the day of the celebration. Tell yourself that everything will definitely be fine - and just look for a solution to the difficulties that have arisen. Then troubles will not be able to anger or upset you, ruining the holiday. Remember: this is the best day of your life, and it is beautiful no matter what!

Wedding life hacks: 10 tips for brides

Preparing for a wedding, like the wedding itself, is a series of interesting and exciting moments. And it seems that only experienced newlyweds can do everything perfectly. Where can you get experience if it appears only after the wedding ceremony?

We asked former brides what life hacks they found for themselves. 10 tips you won't find anywhere else! They will help you look stunning at the holiday! 1. Use matting wipes

Never touch your makeup with wet or regular wipes, or try to touch it up with your hands. Use matting wipes for this, which leave the tone intact. They will also become faithful helpers if it's hot outside! 2. Before the ceremony, apply cream to your hands

Hand cream is a must not only for the bride, but also for the groom. Many girls complain that during the ceremony they were unable to immediately put the wedding ring on their loved one’s finger. If you first apply cream to your hands, this will be much easier.

3. Store your dress in a trunk

This will protect the outfit from dust, moisture and mechanical damage. In addition, you should not store the dress in a cramped closet, as unsightly creases may form that will be difficult to fix. It is best to leave the outfit at the salon. It should be picked up on the eve of the holiday along with the cover. 4. Use shoe spray to avoid staining your dress.

If you are afraid of getting the hem or train of your outfit dirty while walking, spray it with water-repellent shoe spray. It will protect the fabric from dust and dirt!

5. Apply baby cream to your feet

To avoid losing your shoes, apply baby or any other nourishing cream to your feet before going out. If you wear stockings, take care in advance of special silicone inserts in your shoes. 6. Light wrinkles can be removed with water.

If, while you were changing clothes, slight creases appeared on your skirt, they can be easily removed. Lightly spray with water from a spray bottle. Under the weight, the fabric will quickly smooth out on its own.

7. Take an SOS kit with you

There are some things you shouldn't leave home without on your wedding day. You can put them in your purse or give them to one of your girlfriends. In addition to rings and passports, don’t forget:

mascara lip gloss (lipstick) a bottle of water wet and mattifying wipes a band-aid a mirror a thread and a needle 8. Start breaking in your shoes in 1-2 weeks

If the shoes of your dreams are still too tight, there is a very effective way to increase them by 0.5-1 sizes. We take plastic bags and insert them into the shoes. Carefully pour water inside the bag. Place in the freezer overnight. In the morning we take it out and set it to warm up slightly. Don't pull the ice bag, don't tear it off! We wait until the shoes warm up a little. After that, we put on the shoes, which are now on time!

9. Raw potatoes for puffy eyes

Before the wedding, it is not recommended to drink a lot of fluids, eat salty foods and, of course, cry. But if you still couldn’t resist a glass of champagne, grated potato compresses will save you. Hold for 15 minutes! 10. Cope with your nerves through breathing.

Even if everything at your wedding doesn't go as you planned, don't start to panic. Relax and enjoy this great day!

If you can’t cope with your anxiety, go to a quiet place and try to breathe properly. Modern psycho-physiologists have proven that the breathing process is directly related to the emotional state. They advise taking several deep breaths and sharp exhalations. This practice will help relieve excess stress!

Poll (closed) Have you developed your own tricks (lifehacks) while preparing for your wedding?

• Yes, I will be happy to share them in the comments!!! Voted - 2
• No, but I’m just starting to prepare) Voted - 2

Start with the main thing

Having received the long-awaited ring, 90% of brides imagine not so much an ideal wedding, but themselves in a snow-white dress. Guess what the same 90% of brides do first? Naturally, they go to the wedding salon)))) Sometimes without even choosing the date of the celebration itself. However, starting your wedding preparations by choosing a dress is a really bad idea. Firstly, both the image and the outfit should be in harmony with the atmosphere and location of your wedding. Agree, a dress embroidered with rhinestones is unlikely to fit into a “village” holiday. Secondly, most brides buy a wedding dress in the first or second salon they go to, and then... find the outfit of their dreams. Therefore, many brides are disappointed in the purchased dress long before the celebration. Give yourself time to choose, study different offers - and buy an outfit when you already know the date, place and style of the wedding.

Get ready with your groom

There is an opinion that a wedding is done for the bride, and not for the groom. As if he was just passing by. It’s good if he knows the place of the wedding))) Seriously, preparations are harder for grooms than for brides, but this does not mean that you need to protect your loved one from all the “hardships and hardships” and “clear the clouds with your hands.” A wedding is practically the beginning of family life. Therefore, now it is worth practicing sharing responsibilities and involving a man in important issues. Of course, if you are choosing between a pink and a peach ribbon for a bonbonniere, then there is a chance that the groom will run away before the wedding)))) But strategically important points must be discussed together: guest lists, concept, venue, choice of wedding professionals. And at the very beginning, discuss which aspects you deal with (floristry, decor, image), and which aspects the groom deals with (motorcade, food). If you are having difficulty preparing, do not hesitate to turn to your significant other. A man's view of the situation is rational and devoid of unnecessary emotions: it will allow you to see things from the other side and find the right solution (often unexpected for you).

Don't wear heels all day.

This advice will seem strange to many, but still, buy another pair of comfortable shoes (especially if you are not used to walking in heels for a long time). If you have a long floor-length dress, buy platform shoes . Believe me, no one will notice the substitution, but it will be incomparably easier for you. Besides – you don’t want to end your wedding day with swollen feet dipped in a bowl of cold water?

Be modern

Judging by the pictures that Yandex produces for the request “wedding”, the worst traditions in our country are immortal. Brides with patched curls on their heads and acrylic flowers on their nails, grooms in white shiny suits, “decor” with fabric curtains, vulgar competitions... One gets the impression that for most compatriots “wedding” time has stopped - as if all modern trends do not exist and have not already passed 20 years since the “dashing 90s”. But how many truly wonderful weddings are held today! And not only abroad, but also here, in Russia. And it’s not so much about fashion, but about the atmosphere, sincerity and beauty that characterize these celebrations. Such weddings are admired, photos reviewed, and remembered! We don't encourage you to follow trends blindly - choose what you like. Let it be the most classic wedding, but in a modern way. And, of course, we do not propose to abolish all traditions. Just use them wisely. It is important to know the deep meaning of a particular tradition, where it came from and what message it carries. And then decide whether it is suitable for your wedding in principle.

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Note to the bride.
Stylish wedding: ideas for every month. If you have planned such an important and important event as a wedding, then I suggest you think together about what it will be like. You have decided on the month, which means it’s time to choose your style, color and mood for the upcoming celebration. Start with what you like: classic black and white, soft pink or cream tones, or maybe bold contrasts? I bring to your attention an overview of wedding ideas “for every month”.

January

January is the very first month of the new year. After the New Year's bustle, let's turn to the classics and choose a wedding in black and white colors: a sophisticated and elegant white dress, a white bouquet for the bride, a classic suit for the groom, a banquet hall with white furniture - you can go this route, or add yellow shoes, lemon cakes to festive table or napkins with yellow polka dots, which will add a modern touch to an elegant event. But if you are ready to experiment, feel free to choose an exquisite dress from Jasmine Couture: made of organza and satin, with large flowers on the skirt.

February

February is the month of love and lovers. Not forgetting about Valentine's Day - February 14th, let's start preparing the wedding. Mini cupcakes and mini desserts in the shape of a heart, bright red roses, ribbons, and balloons are perfect for the holiday table. Take a closer look at the unusual satin, flowing dress from Sincerity Bridal, with a burgundy insert. Be inspired by bright ideas, experiment, create your own memorable wedding!

March

In March, I suggest adding a little romance. An icy blue, pale yellow or soft pink bridal bouquet in combination with a snow-white dress is an image filled with lightness and charm. Pay attention to the soft pink taffeta dresses from wedding fashion guru – designer Vera Wang. Add a string of pearls or silver shoes, and then no one will doubt your impeccable taste.

April

A “lavender” wedding on an April day will become the most unforgettable event in your life. This is one of those colors that looks great paired with other, even contrasting colors. Try decorating the banquet hall with a silver veil, add dark purple tablecloths to the tables with lavender napkins and snow-white flower arrangements... or do the opposite, placing bouquets of hyacinths on the tables - the true kings of spring. Should you prefer a light and delicate strapless beaded gown with a pop of color at the waist and a layered skirt from Jasmine Couture or a more understated satin gown from David's Bridal? It's up to you to decide.

May

Don’t believe anyone that a wedding in May is a bad omen! Having cast aside all doubts, I suggest choosing a soft green color scheme for this month: shades of sage, fresh mint, pistachio or soft olive. White roses in combination with light green orchids look very noble and make the bride’s image light and bright. White satin mermaid dress from the spring 2012 collection from Winnie Couture Dresses will make you irresistible!

June

June is considered the most wedding month. In summer, you can show yourself in all your glory against the backdrop of bright green trees in a park or square. Have an outdoor wedding, add rich colors to the details: fuchsia, orange, raspberry. Take a look at this modern asymmetrical ivory dress from Cymbeline for a light and feminine look.

July

July is not only the middle of summer, but also a fertile time for a wedding. Just imagine the photos in your future family album where you are a happy couple against the backdrop of green foliage, bright flowers, and a dark blue sky. I propose to decorate your wedding using the colors of luxury and style - emerald or malachite. Whatever shade you choose, add contrasting yellow, purple, red or even pink.

Choose a bridal bouquet inspired by summer - lush greenery, flowering fields and meadows. The bride's white dress in combination with such a bouquet will look even more festive and expressive. Take a closer look at the ivory lace dress with an asymmetrical bodice from Jim Hjelm. Long vintage lace dresses are the trend of the season. Which one to choose? On one shoulder, with two closed shoulders or with an open neckline - it’s up to you.

August

And here I suggest starting with choosing a color scheme. In August, a real favorite is delicate peach or bright orange. Complete it with accents of lime green, yellow and white, and your wedding cocktail recipe is ready! Feel free to organize your celebration outdoors: among the trees or in an open-air cafe. Add contrasts to the natural colors of nature: it could be white chairs, white pillows, draperies. Decorate the tables with bouquets of fresh flowers or fruits.

Unusual bridesmaid dresses are trending: delicate, flowing, Greek-style, ivory from Jasmine Bridal or an unusual satin dress with a train-veil from David's Bridal. Which one do you like best?

September

Autumn weddings have a special charm and appeal. Here you can safely combine rustic chic in the design of a wedding celebration and modern sophistication in the images of the bride and groom. The entire autumn palette is at your disposal: rich chocolate brown, gold, ocher, dark green. When decorating a venue for a wedding event, add plum or bright orange to the details.

Lush layering is in fashion. Be the hostess of a fabulous ball with a luxurious Lazaro organza gown with a sequined bodice, or consider a feminine hand-embroidered dress from Group USA & Camille La Vie.

October

Plum, fuchsia, yellow, dark green, white, black. October is the month of bold colors and combinations. Be inspired by modern ideas, experiment, surprise, and then the wedding will become an enchanting holiday not only for you, but also for your guests! Decorate your holiday tables with bouquets of bright large buds, order an unusual wedding cake.

Stop your eyes on luxurious dresses from Pronovias. Choose an option with a full skirt or a more discreet, classic one, and you are a real princess!

November

November is a mood of luxury, elegance and style. Turquoise, purple, white, blue, and aqua are in fashion. This color palette is perhaps the most wedding-friendly. A complex bridal bouquet, built on combinations of contrast and nuance, combined with a fairly simple classic dress, creates a very sophisticated and unique image.

For those who want to keep up with the times, I suggest a snow-white dress with a voluminous fluffy bolero from Alvina Valenta, specially created for fashionable brides. Also, you will not go unnoticed in a dress from Rivini. Please note that the pattern on the hem conveys the plasticity of the snow-covered plains.

December

The end of the year has come, and there is one more reason to choose a beautiful date for the wedding - December 12, 2012. For those who like December, I suggest turning to a festive pre-New Year theme when decorating your wedding. Red, green, blue, white, gold are favorites in the decoration of the hall. Add a few bright accents or create the feeling of a pre-New Year's ball. Choose a dress from Lazaro with a complex cut, an intricate hairstyle, “icy” jewelry, and translucent makeup.

Whatever the upcoming celebration, you just need a little inspiration to create your own unique wedding. I sincerely wish all brides and grooms happiness, love and goodness!

What wedding color or style suited your taste? Share your unusual ideas or give advice to future brides.

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On the day of the celebration, be only the bride

You are having a wedding, and your great-aunt from Kamchatka cannot find the address of the restaurant; the cake should have been delivered an hour ago; the restaurant manager asks when to serve hot... Believe me, on your wedding day there will be enough excitement (primarily joyful!) without this. So one of the main tips in our top is to leave all the decisions on this day to others! Better, of course, for professionals. Understand that a wedding coordinator is as necessary a specialist as a photographer. It’s like the final chord in a song: it’s invisible, but the impression of the entire wedding depends on the work of the coordinator. And also your peace of mind and good mood. Do you think it's worth a lot?

Wedding organization. Note to the bride. Part I

This text is a summation of impressions from the past wedding season and, for the most part, an attempt to understand what little things uncontrollable by a wedding agency can spoil the mood and bring disorganization and confusion to the wedding day.

So, firstly, secondly, tenthly….

Beauty saves... absolutely everything.

It is important for every Bride to be the most beautiful on her wedding day - this is an axiom, this is a fact and, in our opinion, absolutely fair. And how long it will take to implement the plan is a rare Bride’s concern! Therefore, sometimes Brides, in search of a stylist, spend not one or three rehearsals, and on the wedding day, sometimes the stylist arrives at 2 am or 6 am! These statements are not at all fantasies, as they are formed from our own experience and stories of stylists. So where are we going with this, you ask? And to the fact that a rare stylist, with the help of the Bride or traffic jams or other disasters, does not delay the ready time. Even despite previous rehearsal and discussions, as a rule, it is announced at one time, and readiness comes somewhat later. And this may shift the wedding schedule, which will shorten the photo shoot, which is a very important component!

Note to the bride:

Do not choose a stylist who already has an order that day, even if there is enough time between orders. The Master may be very late at the first Bride's, then get caught in a traffic jam and arrive to you late, which will lead to all sorts of problems. Why do you need hasty preparations and nerves? And yet, it is important that the rehearsal and preparations on the wedding day itself take place at the same address, the stylist will master the road and will not waste time searching for the right house, and you will not lose patience, explaining that “first go straight from the metro, then go near the store with pies the road perpendicular to the bus stop, and then through the forest to a large 16-story building.”

Traffic jams and route

The main problem in Moscow is spontaneous and traditional traffic jams. Not taking this moment into account when planning a route is, at the very least, arrogant and courageous. For some reason, brides are often against setting aside time in reserve, and quite often we hear: “We’ll skip here,” “It’s a no-brainer,” “Yes, on Saturday we got from Yasenevo to Mytishchi in 30 minutes, but here it’s much closer.” . And this despite the fact that there is almost always a collapse of transport in Moscow, and if you don’t play it safe, there are many unique chances: being late for the registry office, losing a photo shoot, making guests wait beyond all measure.

Note to the bride:

It is important not to overload your wedding day. Ideally, your route includes 4 points, two of which are the registry office and the place of the wedding dinner, and the rest are places for photography. By the way, it is better to take a walk with a photographer without guests and before the ceremony, however, we have already talked about this. You also need to very carefully choose where exactly you will be filming; the places should not be far from each other: going to the Botanical Garden and then to Red October is unreasonable either from a geographical or time point of view. Well, most importantly, allow enough time for each stop and try to stick to the schedule.

Signs, superstitions, traditions.

Seeing the Bride in a wedding dress is considered a bad omen. Why - even the Internet does not provide adequate answers. Most likely, it's about the effect of surprise and the first impression that the Bride wants to make on the Groom. Because there is no rational explanation. But a sign is a sign! In this case, it is important for the Bride to coordinate her image with the image of the Groom, so that it does not turn out that the Bride is in the new-look style, and the Groom is in the old school genre. And this can visually quite spoil the picture. It is also important for the Bride to imagine how easily and comfortably she will move in the dress, otherwise embarrassment may occur at an important moment of the celebration: the dance is rehearsed, the newlyweds are preparing for tears and applause, but no, ecstasy did not happen! Because the veil gets in the way, and the Groom is trampling on a long train.

Note to the bride:

To achieve stylistic unity in the images of the Bride and Groom, it is necessary to think them over in the same style and be sure to “link” them with semantic and color details. Leave the “secrets of the Madrid court” and discuss the compatibility of your outfits. After all, the dress itself will appear before the Groom at the appointed hour, and its virtual discussion will not harm anything! And of course, the final rehearsals with the choreographer MUST wear a veil (if you are planning one), shoes similar to wedding shoes and a petticoat or skirt of similar length.

The 3-year-old crisis or myself.

Sometimes future newlyweds, for some reason of their own, be it the desire to save money or enjoy the process, say: “We don’t need such and such options, we can handle it ourselves.” “Please,” we answer and humbly wait for the result. Typically, enthusiasm and intentions quickly fade due to the difficulty of overcoming, and we have to rush to fix the problem. Moreover, sometimes the deadlines are so tight that completing this or that work requires more money and effort than if it is completed on time. Believe me, on the eve of your wedding, you can find much more impressive activities than making place cards or printing a seating chart. It is also of little interest to collect the Bride’s bouquet or pack gifts for guests at 12 am the night before. Remember, this is what wedding agencies are for!!!

Note to the bride:

Realistically and soberly assess your strengths and capabilities. Quite often, for us, realizing what we need is a matter of minutes, but for the Bride and Groom it is first an impulse, and then a loss of interest and a very boring task. If you have chosen a wedding agency, delegate the organization of the wedding in full, while you yourself enjoy the pleasant chores and only make decisions.

...to be continued...

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Choose your wedding team carefully

One of the keys to a great wedding and your confidence is a team of competent professionals. There are already many articles on the blog about how to choose a wedding professional - for example, this one. In short, evaluate a specialist based on his portfolio, choose based on communication, and choose high quality over a low price. Don’t rush and don’t rush to the first thing you come across - such laziness will backfire on you. And most importantly: you must trust your team.

Listen to sound advice

If you are not planning to hire an organizer, then during preparation you will have a lot of questions. In a situation where there is an urgent need to find out something, most brides do something simple: they go to a forum where other brides are hanging out, shouting for help. Or he asks his mother/friend. What's bad about it? That questions should be asked to those who understand them. For example, the friend you decided to ask did not have a wedding, or it was not at all like the holiday of your dreams. And my mother is generally not aware of modern wedding trends and strives to give advice that was relevant 20-30 years ago. Do you think such advice will be useful?.. A frequent occurrence is when a bride comes to the forum with a purely professional question: what hairstyle should she choose, what place is suitable for a photo shoot. And he receives answers from the same brides, and completely different ones - this confuses even more and does not solve the problem. Therefore, an important rule for a smart bride is to ask wedding questions to professionals. Firstly, the pro has special knowledge that he was trained in. Secondly, brides have one wedding and two bridesmaids behind them, while a specialist has several times more. Don't know which shooting location to choose? Ask the photographer. Can't decide on a dress? Ask your stylist for tips. And so on.

Psychologist Olga Latyntseva: “The bride needs to understand that her man is always right”

Preparing for a wedding together becomes a real challenge for newlyweds. It tests the feelings of the young, their ability to negotiate, find a compromise, as well as their ability to distribute the family budget. In addition, in the pre-wedding period, young people have to communicate with their partner’s parents, often encountering misunderstandings and pressure from strangers. Psychologist Olga Latyntseva told Wedding of New Kaliningrad.Ru about how to get rid of negative emotions and prepare for the celebration with pleasure, as well as how to properly communicate with your future mother-in-law.

— Olga, it’s no secret that many brides experience stress during the pre-wedding period. Let's talk about how to behave correctly in some situations in which a girl may find herself when preparing for a celebration.

- With pleasure.

- Situation one. The bride wants to keep her maiden name, but the groom does not agree with this and refuses to compromise with his future wife. The bride suspects that the young man is influenced by the position of his family. For example, a future mother-in-law may tell her son: “She doesn’t want to change her last name, which means she doesn’t take marriage seriously and is sure that your family life will not last long.” What should a girl do in this situation?

— Firstly, about the groom’s mother. Most girls are mistaken when they think that the groom came to them as something different, because his mother “twisted” him. In 90 percent of cases this is not true. If for some reason the bride is hostile (or cold) towards her mother-in-law, then the mother-in-law will behave in exactly the same way towards the bride. When a girl stops considering the groom’s mother a “crazy bastard,” she will see that in fact her mother-in-law is a completely normal person.

Regarding the name change. If a girl wants her to have a truly strong and long-lasting marriage, she must give in to the groom. This is very important, because if the couple has not decided which of them will be the main one in the marriage, and, unfortunately, this happens very often, then this can become a stumbling block in their relationship. If family relationships are built firmly, for a long time and on respect for each other, then the head of the family should, naturally, be a man.

— But if the bride doesn’t want to change her last name? In addition to the fact that the girl is used to her and she likes her, changing her last name entails changing many documents - passport, international passport, driver's license and others. Do you still have to give in?

“In this case, if I were the bride, I would think about the question of why even such a small thing as changing her last name causes her discomfort. Why does she have resistance inside her to such ordinary things? In addition, all documents can be changed gradually, at a pace convenient for her. This experience may be useful to her, for example, when filling out papers for a baby or newly acquired property.

— Are you saying that changing a surname is a trifle that the bride should not pay attention to?

“I believe that if it is important for a man that the bride takes his last name, then there is no point in resisting it. Moreover, guided by such reasons as changing a passport and other documents, the replacement of which in our country takes about two months. What are two months compared to a whole happy life?

— So, when choosing between the opposite beliefs of the bride and groom, your advice is to always give in to the man?

- Yes. If a woman wants a man nearby who will make serious decisions in the family, if a woman wants him to provide for her children and take on the burden of most of the problems that the family faces, then we must admit that he is in charge already at the stage adoption of his surname. That is, the bride needs to understand that her man is always right and that he is in charge in any situation.

Of course, there are other models for building relationships. But in most cases, a woman wants her husband to be a strong and self-sufficient man who would protect and provide for her, so that she would feel like behind a stone wall. If the bride wants her groom to be exactly like this, to grow and develop next to her, and for him to have everything and for her to have everything, then it is necessary to understand that the man is the main one in the family.

If a girl takes a different position and dominates her man, then it will not be surprising if after a couple of years of marriage she is faced with the fact that her husband has changed. He seemed like a normal man, what suddenly happened to him? The more a woman takes on male functions, the more the man’s character and actions will shift toward the “feminine side.” To prevent such things, you must initially accept that her man is in charge and he is right.

- Second situation. Preparations for the wedding lie almost entirely on the shoulders of the bride. Probably because it is she who dreams of celebration. How to persuade the groom to help the bride? What words are best to choose to convince him of the correct choice of specialists, restaurant and other things related to the wedding?

— The bride can tell the groom something like this: “Darling, your opinion is very important to me. And your support. I love you very much. And our relationship with you is very important to me. I have always dreamed of a beautiful wedding. Please support me. What issues can we solve together? And what issues can you solve completely on your own? I understand perfectly well that you are busy - you work and you are a breadwinner. And I understand that most likely you don’t want to be completely involved in preparing for the wedding. Because a wedding is my dream. All girls dream of such a holiday since childhood. (Boys don’t dream about this from childhood). Please tell me what issues you can support me on and how?”

Usually a girl decides on her own that the wedding will be exactly what she has dreamed of all her life. She approaches the groom and says: “Listen, honey, I want the wedding to be like this and like this.” The bride transfers her expectations to the man, which correspond to her picture of the world. However, these expectations may not at all correspond to his picture of the world. But, as a rule, the groom’s opinion - whether he wants such a celebration or not - is not taken into account at all. And the groom is forced to give in to her and say: “Okay, if you want, let’s have a wedding. I understand perfectly well that this is important for girls.” But in fact, the groom is shocked by this event and is in a stressful situation. For him, preparing for the wedding, choosing a cake and stockings is unbearable torment. Because he was not born for this at all. He was born to protect and provide for her. And the bride wants the man to participate in the preparations for the wedding simply because he loves her. This is a monstrous delusion - to impose on a person something that he did not think about at all and in most cases did not suspect, and at the same time wonder why he resists and does not want to do all this. This is not his function, that's all.

- Situation three. The groom's parents impose their choice on the future daughter-in-law. As a rule, the mother-in-law does this because preparations for the wedding are interesting to her (as a woman). How to avoid conflict between the bride and future mother-in-law? I would like to emphasize that the wedding is organized with the newlyweds’ own money, and the parents do not make a significant financial contribution to the preparation of the holiday.

- Let's clarify - does the mother-in-law impose the choice of restaurant, dress, specialists, number of guests?

Regarding the number of guests. This issue must be discussed first with the groom, without the mother-in-law. If he strongly leans towards the mother, and the couple has the financial opportunity to invite everyone the mother-in-law wants to see, then I would give in in terms of the number of guests.

About the restaurant and the dress. The bride needs to talk to the groom’s mother and say: “Your advice is very important to me, I respect your opinion. But I have several of my own options. Let's look at them together." If the wishes of the bride coincide with the wishes of the mother-in-law, that’s great. But sometimes it doesn't work that way. In this case, the bride should remember that it is her wedding. And she has the right to tell her mother-in-law: “Dear Svetlana Pavlovna, I choose Andrey for life. This is the man of my dreams and I love him very much. And I want the only wedding in my life to be memorable. I've dreamed about this all my life. Please allow the holiday to be what Andrey and I dreamed of. I respect your opinion very much, I love your son very much. In some things, for example, on invited guests or when choosing a menu, you and I can make a decision together. Your help is very important to me and I probably wouldn’t even be able to cope without you. But I would like to choose this restaurant for our holiday.”

That is, in anything the bride can concede, let her concede. If a girl categorically does not accept what her mother-in-law offers, then, firstly, you need to understand why. Perhaps the groom's mother offers a good option, which the bride initially rejects because she doesn't like her mother-in-law.

If this is not the reason, and the bride’s plans do not coincide with the plans of the mother-in-law, you should remember that this is her wedding. And it is necessary to say this: “Anna Pavlovna, don’t get me wrong. I respect you very much, I am immensely grateful to you for raising such a magnificent son, I admire your talent for baking pancakes/raising a child/doing repairs/sewing pillows... (you need to praise the person first). But I would like you to understand me. This is my holiday. I've always dreamed about this. Please, if you can, understand me." There is no need to be harsh in conflict. This will lead to the fact that the mother-in-law will drag her son into the argument, and he will be even more stressed, finding himself between two fires. Think about it. Stand up for what you need, but in a polite manner.

— Olga, you partially told how to find a way out of another situation: parents insist that wedding traditions be observed at the ceremony. Young people prefer a modern and original celebration scenario. Is it necessary to seek a compromise with parents in this situation, or is it necessary to insist on your point of view?

“You can give in on small things, but by and large do what the bride wants.” Because this is her life, her holiday, her family. And she's living her life right now. Therefore, the bride and groom should calmly warn: “Dear parents, we have decided to have an unconventional wedding. We love each other. And we are unconventional. And we have the same non-standard friends.”

— Another pre-wedding situation: young people are forced to hide from their parents the budget they spend on preparing for the celebration. Because parents have their own ideas about how to spend money effectively. Is this the right thing to do? Or is it necessary to be honest and not hide anything?

“I suggest not lying in this situation.” Let's say that the future husband and wife themselves have determined the wedding budget and do not want to shock their parents (provided that they do not take money from their parents or take some small amount). I recommend telling parents the following: “Mom and Dad, we don’t want to deceive anyone, but we won’t disclose the budget amount. So that no questions, conflicts, any situations of control or states of shock arise. Dear parents, we love and care about you so much that we decided not to tell you how much it costs. We have enough money for everything. We will not borrow or take out loans (if this is true, then it is better to voice it). We understand that you are worried about this. We have determined our budget and are sticking to it.”

- This is an ideal situation for an ideal mother-in-law. But in life, a mother-in-law, as a woman, can, firstly, be curious, and secondly, due to the fact that she is a mother with great experience, she believes that she is wiser and knows what is best. She will insist on keeping wedding expenses under control. What to do?

— If the bride and groom do not want to tell their parents the amount of expenses for the wedding, they need to agree among themselves what to do if the mother-in-law insists on it. It is necessary to adopt a plan of action that will be comfortable for the newlyweds and stick to it, while supporting each other. That is, if the mother-in-law calls her daughter-in-law when she is alone, and in a harsh manner or playfully and jokingly wants to extract information about the wedding budget, the girl should calmly answer that she and the groom agreed not to disclose this information: “For me, the agreement with your son is this is sacred. All my life I will do as we agreed with him.” This is all the mother-in-law wants to hear from her daughter-in-law.

— In other words, in this case it is acceptable to conceal the wedding budget, but at the same time the newlyweds share responsibility for this secret?

- I think yes.

— Another typical situation. The newlyweds are tired of preparing for the wedding, they are nervous, and they often quarrel. How to avoid serious quarrels and insults (so as not to offend each other in the process of sorting things out)? And what ways exist for a speedy reconciliation, if this does happen?

- This is a very good question. These skills will be useful in any situation, not just when preparing for a wedding.

There are rules by which you can swear in the least traumatic way.

Firstly, in advance, before a quarrel, you need to find out what conditions must be observed so as not to injure each other in a stressful situation. We need to agree: “Listen, if we start arguing, I want to know what I should do better when you’re angry?” If the groom says that the bride should be silent for 15 minutes, and he moves away, she needs to be silent for these 15 minutes. And the bride should also be warned in advance that if she becomes very angry and ceases to control the situation, then the groom, for example, needs to leave the room in which she is located for a while or tell her: “Dear, beloved, my little one, I love you so much.” I love you, we’ll decide everything together now.”

If the quarrel has reached an uncontrollable phase, it is advisable that one of the two leave the room in which they are arguing for some time. To let yourself and your partner cool down. Having returned back, under no circumstances should you continue the quarrel and express new arguments to each other with redoubled force. Don't argue! Not in 15 minutes, not in an hour, not tomorrow.

There are things that you should not do during a quarrel:

Don't talk about divorce (unless you are going to get divorced). Such conversations destroy relationships. Your partner will begin to doubt whether you are stable towards him. And the state of instability and lack of understanding of how one is treated is the most dangerous state for a person.

Under no circumstances should you pass on to relatives. Do not touch relatives under any circumstances. This is not forgotten.

Do not get personal and do not allow personal insults. It is always necessary to say that it is not the person who is bad, but the situation in which the young people find themselves: “I don’t like the situation, I feel bad.” Take care and respect the person you love and with whom you feel good. If the bride does not destroy her partner's world, the groom will do the same.

It is useful to develop the habit of analyzing what is happening. The bride needs to understand the reasons for the quarrel. For example, we started arguing because I was tired, or he was tired, and we need to solve this problem now, and I want to sleep. And instead of quarreling, it’s better to say: “Honey, I’m so sleepy. I can’t decide anything at all right now.”

If the newlyweds have already had a fight, it is also important to analyze what happened and how it all started. In most cases, it turns out that it all started with a small thing - the bride was tired, or one of her relatives told her something wrong, or there was another unimportant reason.

— There are families in which one of the spouses leads to conflict in any situation. What should his partner do? How to avoid quarrels with such a person?

- First you need to find out whether one of the spouses is aware that this will continue throughout their lives. That the person next to you will not change. Isn’t, for example, a girl under illusions that if she gets pregnant and gives birth to a child, the man she loves will suddenly change and start talking to her differently. Being in illusions is very dangerous. The person will not change. Even if he loves her and her child, he will still create conflict situations. Because he’s used to doing it and doesn’t know how to do it any other way. Is she ready to live with this? Or she will constantly resist it. Is she ready to resist for the rest of her life? This is a big scary question that will have to be answered anyway - now or later.

If you are ready, and this does not destroy her psyche, you just need to understand - I have such a man, he likes to argue. When he starts a conflict, the girl needs to find the strength within herself not to add fuel to the fire. Tell yourself something like: “Oh, I know that my dear loves to make noise. Now he’ll make some noise and calm down.”

In any situation, it is very useful for spouses to remember each other’s positive qualities. No matter what happens. “Yes, my husband is mumbling now, he likes to drone in the morning. But he is very obliging, he is very adequate, he loves our child, he does everything so that we have everything. I feel safe, warm and comfortable with him, he suits me sexually. And despite the fact that he likes to grumble in the morning, he is very handsome. I just adore him. Yes, he's mumbling now, but I love him. I also have some shortcomings."

The strongest marriages are built on the principle “husband and wife are each other’s lawyers.” No matter what happens in life, a wife should always be on her husband's side. “I love you and will always support you, in any situation” - every person dreams of hearing this phrase, but only a few hear it. The most important thing a person wants to hear is that they are loved and will always be on their side.

— When preparing for a wedding, there are many other situations besides those we have considered that can cause a state of depression, anxiety and stress in newlyweds. How can young people avoid negative experiences?

— When a person is tired or scared and falls into a state of stress, it is very important to understand what he wants right now, what his “inner child” wants. It will be useful for the bride to think about what she loves and how she can please her “inner girl.” Perhaps the girl hasn’t thought about her for a long time, because because of the pre-wedding rush, the bride forgot about herself. Let's say she needs to go try on a dress or order a cake, but the bride is so tired that she wants to sleep. You need to put everything aside and sleep. To preserve your inner peace, you can put off everything you put off. And do what she really wants now - swim in the pool, lie in the bath, lie with her loved one on the sofa. And only then will the bride have the strength to calm down herself and support her partner.

The bride may feel depressed due to uncertainty and inner fear. The girl begins to think about some negative things, is in doubt, and cannot sleep. In this case, it is very useful to approach your partner and ask: “Do you love me? Even now, in this state? I am so tired. And suddenly it seemed to me that you somehow didn’t treat me like that.” After he answers: “Darling, don’t worry, I love you,” the girl will feel better. Because what she really wants to hear is these words of encouragement. To calm down, it can be useful to approach your loved one and say: “Hug me, I’m tired, I’m confused, I myself know that I started this mess. But preparations for the wedding have already begun, just support me, please.”

— Olga, what important things do young people need to know before starting their life together?

— The most important and necessary thing is to know how newlyweds can support each other. If the bride wants her man not to run to his mother every day for advice, so that he can enjoy being at home, and they have a strong family, then it is necessary to find out what support means to each other. It is important to tell the groom: “Darling, I know that now we are entering a difficult phase - preparing for the wedding. Nine months/six months of our life will not be easy. Please tell me how I can support you when you are tired or angry? I really want to help you in various situations that will happen in our lives.” The strongest relationships are built on such agreements.

It is important to know what rules you can use to swear and how to get out of conflict situations. Everyone quarrels, this is normal, there are no couples who do not fight.

And it would be good to know what love language your partner speaks. But this is a separate big topic. If a woman talks to a man in his love language, he will never leave her.

It is necessary to endlessly praise a man. I would like to point out that most women think that if they over-praise their man, he will become proud and leave. It's a delusion! It is impossible to over-praise a man, and he will not leave a woman who constantly praises him. He wants support and constant praise. Because a man, as a rule, was unloved and underpraised in his childhood. And he will be very pleased if the bride says: “You are very handsome in this T-shirt. I look at you - you are Apollo for me." If a bride wants her man to develop, so that he has everything and he says: “Honey, I have everything, and I want you to have everything,” it is necessary to praise him endlessly and take any of his actions for granted.

Be grateful. A grateful person is given ten times more than an ungrateful person. It is necessary to thank the man for everything, no matter what he does: “I thank you, you are the best and wonderful person, how lucky I am.” After such words, a man’s wings will grow, and he will do everything for his woman.

Text - Tamila SAVLUK, photo - Denis TUGOLUKOV, “New Kaliningrad.Ru” and Andrey KRASNIKOV

Fulfill your wishes and dreams

Where, if not at a wedding, can dreams come true? The main thing is that they should be YOURS. Try to abstract yourself from the desires and demands of your relatives. Most often they start from outdated templates. “Chief advisors” may be perplexed by a rustic design, a dress without a veil, or a European seating arrangement. Don’t give in to provocations - they simply did not have such experience. Believe me, after the wedding they will be the first to admire the result. Therefore, when preparing for the celebration, choose what is close to you two. Remember - a wedding is not done to prove something to others, but to be together and be happy. Your guests will definitely feel it and be happy to share your holiday!

Festive evening

Be sure to consider the duration of the banquet. The presenter will help you create timings, taking into account the entire entertainment program and dance breaks.

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What should you consider when organizing a banquet? Remember:

• by the time the festive dinner starts, most of the guests will be hungry, so let the snacks already be waiting for you on the tables;
• after an hour and a half you can serve hot;
• after 30-40 minutes (after the toasts of those closest to you), you can take a musical break;

• the first part of the banquet is reserved for toasts and congratulations, the second - for competitions, master classes and active fun;
• within 2-3 hours the main dishes are served, and an hour before the planned end of the banquet the cake is brought out;
• The festive evening should end with words of gratitude addressed to parents, friends and relatives.
• The optimal duration of the banquet is 6 hours.

That's probably all. Enjoy the wedding of your dreams! You can make a plan for your wedding day here. Choose your time and attach a map to make it easier for out-of-town guests to navigate. And remember that in your new status as a Wife, a lot of pleasant emotions and unforgettable impressions await you. So let everything go perfectly!

Remember the guests

As we found out in the previous paragraph, you need to do a wedding for yourself. However, do not forget about the guests. You shouldn’t indulge all their whims, but you definitely need to think about the comfort of the guests (moral and physical)! Don’t make guests wait endlessly for you, don’t drag them with you to a photo shoot, don’t invite everyone early in the morning. Remember the little things: plan seating so that guests have fun with their neighbors, organize a buffet before registration, take into account guests' food and drink preferences. And be sure to prepare a thank you speech at the end of the holiday - your guests will be pleased.

Don't abuse alcohol

An obvious point that is rarely mentioned. And it concerns not only you, but also the groom. Well, of course, you are not going to abuse it! However, given the “tradition” according to which alcohol flows like a river at a wedding from morning to night, it won’t be difficult to drink too much and get embarrassed. In addition, in the summer, after getting up early, no breakfast, worries and tears of happiness, the body’s reaction even to a couple of glasses of champagne may be different than on a normal day. Therefore, limit yourself to a minimum amount of alcohol before the banquet - both for yourself and for your guests. In the evening, drink only light drinks like sparkling wine and have a good snack.

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How to become the most beautiful bride? 20 top tips

Tips for the bride 1. If you dye your hair, change your hair color a week before the wedding. If you want to dye your hair a completely different shade, do it at least a month before the wedding - to get used to the new look, and also to correct any imperfections if any arise.

Tips for the bride 2. A week before the wedding, trim the ends of your hair and do not experiment with the haircut - especially with its shape and length. It will be almost impossible to fix your hair after a failed experiment!

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Tips for the bride 3. The shape of the eyebrows should be corrected no later than 3 days before the wedding - so that there is time to correct them, relieve irritation, etc. Remember that what is in fashion today is not string eyebrows, but wide natural eyebrows a la Brooke Shields and Cara Delevingne, as well as eyebrows that contrast in color with the hair.

Tips for the bride 4. Get a good night's sleep a few days before the wedding! Two days before the wedding, every morning and evening, make compresses on the area around the eyes with green tea and chamomile, and also wipe with ice cubes made from herbs and tea . Organize the celebration so that you wake up no earlier than 9 am. On this day you should look your best!

Tips for the bride 5. To ensure that the lipstick covers your lips evenly and lasts a long time, and your kisses are gentle, make a homemade lip scrub two days before the wedding. Mix granulated honey and olive oil, apply to lips and rub in with light massage movements for 5 minutes. Wash off with a cotton pad soaked in chamomile infusion.

Tips for the bride 6. A month before the wedding, go to the dentist to identify and treat all problem teeth, as well as have a professional cleaning. Your smile should shine, and no caries or sudden problems with fillings can darken your mood!

Tips for the bride 7. Under no circumstances do facial cleansing a couple of days, or even a week before the wedding. No amount of makeup, even the thickest, can hide redness and inflammation. If you haven’t had time to cleanse your face in advance, use oxygen peeling and your own facial scrub - it’s safer and more reliable.

Tips for the bride 8. Don't want a sudden pimple to ruin your wedding makeup? Then curb your appetites! A month before the wedding, go on a light low-carb diet - give up sweet, fatty, spicy and fried foods, because these foods often provoke such skin problems.

Tips for the bride 9. Do you want to get a little tan before the wedding? Start visiting the solarium a month before the wedding - break the entire course into 5 sessions, do not rush to get a tan in one session - this is fraught with burns and dry skin. We also advise you to avoid self-tanning - there is a risk that it will stain and leave marks on your wedding dress.

Tips for the bride 10. A few days before the wedding, get a manicure and pedicure using gel polish or the famous Shellac. This manicure lasts better and longer than usual - up to 3 weeks.

Tips for the bride 11. To prevent wedding shoes from chafing in the first hours of the celebration, purchase shoes a month before the wedding. Every day, wear it around the apartment for several hours, make sure that you feel comfortable and pleasant in it. Wedding shoes should be luxurious, but also comfortable! Keep this in mind while shopping.

Tips for the bride 12. On your wedding day, there should always be a bridesmaid next to you who will help with makeup, hairstyle, adjusting the outfit and carry out small tasks for the newlywed that she is physically unable to complete. Your friend's bag should contain spare hairpins, hairspray, thermal water, matting wipes and powder, thread and needle, adhesive tape, a mini first aid kit with all SOS products, as well as pins and household glue.

Tips for the bride 13. On your wedding day, you should take care of a spare pair of low-top shoes. If your shoes do get scuffed, you will have a worthy replacement - comfortable shoes in which you will dance the night away!

Tips for the bride 14. The day before the wedding, do not drink alcoholic beverages, because in the morning you should look rested and well-slept, without headaches, puffiness under the eyes or hangover.

Tips for the bride 15. Before the wedding, try not to use strong sedatives, as such drugs can cause drowsiness, mood swings and headaches. Calm down with herbal teas , aromatherapy and relaxing music.

Tips for the bride 16. Under no circumstances should you organize a bachelorette party the night before the wedding - you risk ruining the whole next day! It is best to organize a bachelor party a week before the wedding, so that you have time to recover and have time to do all the planned things.

Tips for the bride 17. Think in advance about your thank you speech for the wedding feast - for your parents, the groom's parents, relatives and guests. Your speech should be sincere, without unnecessary pathos and spoken with love.

Tips for the bride 18. Never cry! This will not only lead to smudged makeup, but also red eyes and ruined photos. Restrain your emotions, and in general, remember that this is a WEDDING - a holiday and the happiest day of your life!

Tips for the bride 19. Make sure that your makeup is long-lasting and you don’t have to touch it up every half hour. Choose a lipstick with a stable pigment, and also, to be safe, waterproof mascara! If you suddenly end up crying, or it starts to rain, or the heat is unbearable, your makeup should be able to withstand all this.

Tips for the bride 20. The day before the wedding, pack your purse. The bride's purse should contain: powder, nail polish, a comb, a mirror, wet wipes, hand sanitizer, a couple of pads or tampons, lipstick, a band-aid and spare hairpins.

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