A wedding is one of the most traditional events. Most of the moments there take place according to a pre-prepared scenario. At the same time, the customs observed by newlyweds date back to the times of Ancient Rus'. They have been slightly interpreted under the yoke of modern times, but in general they have remained unchanged.
There are parts of a wedding that are mandatory - official registration at the registry office. Everything else can be easily changed at your discretion. At the same time, modern celebrations are good because wedding organizers are loyal to the wishes of the newlyweds. It seems quite possible to replace almost all customs and rituals at the celebration, and a wedding without a bride price may be quite possible.
Greetings from the groom's retinue
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Hello, ladies and gentlemen!
Where are you from and where? And what do you want? Walk past, pass by. The groom is coming to us now We are really waiting for him here He will pay us a lot of money With him we will go to the registry office together *** Oh, so you are the groom Why so quiet then Where is your zealous horse Where is the mustache and brave look Come in, if arrived After all, there’s no way to go back ***
So why are you coming to us, forgive me, since you want to go further. Together, you will answer together. Who are you coming to us for? (behind the bride) ***
The groom gets out of the car and heads towards the entrance. But what he sees is that the door is closed, and on it is a huge bright poster with the inscription “Quarantine”. The groom does not give up and is determined to break through to his beloved. A bridesmaid/relative of the bride comes out of the entrance in a white medical gown and begins to scold the lover in approximately the following terms: “Where are you going, dear? If you don't know how to read, we're in quarantine. No one was ordered to be allowed in. I see your eyesight is very bad - you’re probably in love.” The groom actively agrees and does not give up trying to get to his beloved. In the end, the nurse agrees to let him through. When the groom is already aimed at the entrance, the same nurse shouts at him again with the phrase “Where without shoe covers?” They bring out shoe covers on a tray and force you to buy them (the price of shoe covers is set according to the width of the young man’s wallet) and put them on, only after which they let you into the entrance.
The championship will be held here between two football teams. The match is very important, so here it is, let luck await the team.
A serious prize is at stake. Our Yulia, as a wife, Maxim wants to receive. Let him carry out the tasks.
The rules here are good: Have fun! Be able to complete tasks without being timid in the face of difficulties Do not receive cards Successfully score goals
If you made a mistake by chance, you get a mustard plaster. But you didn’t cope with the task. A red card in addition. Two yellow cards, again red. The color the judge will show is cool. The color red is a point for the bride. The ball is in the goal, that’s a failure.
Banality or creativity? Classic bride ransom and its scenario
If future newlyweds want to organize a wedding, observing established traditions, the classic bride price is the best option, although many consider it banal.
If the organizers approach the matter with soul, the event turns out to be fun and interesting. For example, a good way to diversify the traditional ritual is to act out the classic bride price in prose.
The main thing is not to extract more money from the groom, but to please everyone present with fun competitions and an exciting spectacle.
How to behave as girlfriends
The bridesmaids' task is to turn the traditional bride price by the groom into a fun, well-organized event. It is better not to use poetry at this stage of the celebration; compose a speech in prose with appropriate funny jokes. To do this, follow certain rules:
- You should not force the groom and witness to perform not entirely pleasant tasks. For example, eat a peck of salt or drink water with lemon. Competitions must be neutral and realistically feasible. Otherwise, you risk ruining the groom’s mood at the beginning of the wedding.
- It should be remembered that the event is designed to last only 15–30 minutes at most.
- Try to calculate the time so that a certain period of time remains between the ransom and the trip to the registry office.
- The tasks are chosen so that when the groom performs them, the guests can see what is happening, and the photographer can take beautiful photos.
- When using pictures in competitions, their angle should be large.
- When using rhyming jokes and jokes, they must be read expressively and without hesitation.
- In the case where the number of guests at the wedding is impressive, you should not invite everyone to the ransom. There will be enough witnesses, girlfriends, friends, close relatives.
- It is necessary to prepare for the ceremony in advance. Place posters and other attributes.
- Distribute responsibilities correctly so that no one gets bored.
The role of traditions at a wedding
If now future newlyweds decide for themselves how their wedding will take place, then previously all marriages took place according to the same scenario, which was determined by existing traditions. In each culture, they were formed in their own way, depending on the experiences of previous generations and religious beliefs. Many Russian traditions are still observed by newlyweds.
At weddings in ancient times, all customs were performed in order to attract happiness and prosperity into the lives of newly-made spouses and protect them from bad influences. People tried to attract the favor of the gods to the family and ward off the evil entities that tried to do mischief on the wedding day.
Nowadays, traditions no longer play such an important role; these are just touching memorable stages that are usually observed at a classic wedding. Young people come up with their own customs, which are no longer dictated by religion, but by their own preferences and fashion. In any case, old and modern traditions form the framework of the wedding scenario, on which other stages are then layered.
Ransom in quest format (video)
The bride's friends prepared a very unusual test for the groom. Quest in the summer, this is an excellent alternative to ransoming at the entrance or house (wedding of Mukhamet and Leysan, Ufa):
Whether to follow ancient traditions or not is up to each couple to decide for themselves. If you like Russian customs, then you need to carefully prepare for the ransom. All participants in the action should know their roles and the approximate scenario, then the event will be fun and interesting.
Supporters of modern trends can turn to alternative options, because creating your own traditions is no less exciting.
What does the ritual symbolize?
The history of this ritual stretches back hundreds and even thousands of years. Since after the wedding the bride left her father’s house and could no longer help her parents with the housework, it was not customary to give the girl away in marriage just like that - the groom had to pay a ransom. Its amount was determined by the beauty, good manners and thriftiness of the potential wife.
The ransom was agreed upon in advance during matchmaking, and if both parties came to an agreement, an engagement was announced. In addition, on the wedding day, the groom had to prove that he was worthy of the hand and heart of his beloved, and for this he had to pass simple tests.
The most popular task, for example, began with the young man’s neighbors blocking his way to the bride’s house with a fallen tree. The groom was given a saw, and he had to saw through the obstacle in order to pass further.
The moment of the first meeting
It can be organized in a park, on an embankment (if available), near a fountain or in any other beautiful place in the village. Such a meeting should also be beautifully and interestingly arranged so that it is not only memorable, but also looks interesting in photos and videos. The bride can approach the waiting groom from behind and put her hand on his shoulder, or simply call out to him. The groom will turn around and their first meeting will take place. Such a meeting will be very sentimental and touching, with tears of happiness in the eyes.
Process
The advantage of such an event, which is not tied to any creative theme, is that organizing will not take much time. The bride's friends and relatives, who, as a rule, are involved in preparing the tests for the groom, do not need to select special costumes or decorate the place of celebration in any special way.
The ransom organizers remain in their usual outfits, which will not change throughout the wedding. A sign or poster with an inscription in the spirit of “The bride lives here” is hung on the front door of the hero of the occasion. The inside of the entrance is decorated with posters, paper garlands, lanterns and pom-poms, balloons, colorful ribbons, etc.
It is customary that the bride price should be prepared by the witness, but recently this role has been given to several girls at once. This is even better, because if the event is hosted by one friend, she will quickly get tired, but several presenters replacing each other will create a more interesting scenario. Most often, the ransom is carried out by 3 people.
Stage one - meeting the groom
The scenario of a classic bride price with phrases like “We have goods, you have a merchant” will be lackluster. Everyone has long been tired of such remarks. It’s better to make the dialogues more original – you can even speak in your own words.
For example, when the groom and his retinue arrive at his beloved's house, the host can greet the guests with a speech.
Presenter. Hello, (groom's name). Where are you in such a hurry? Why did you come?
The groom says that he has come for the bride.
Presenters. For the bride - that's good. Look how many of us there are - for every taste and color. Blondes, brunettes, brown-haired, tall and short, cheerful and serious, calm and fast. Each of us will go to the registry office right now.
The groom says that he has already chosen his bride and says her name.
Presenters. Ah, so you came for the most enviable bride. Well, the lip is not stupid. Do you know that the parents of your beloved strictly forbade giving her away just like that? You will have to go through tricky tasks, show your strength and ingenuity, and in some places pay off with money, quench our thirst with champagne or delight with sweets. Are you ready for such tests?
The young man replies that he is ready.
Interesting! To add a “zest” to the beginning of the wedding, you can come up with or take as a basis a ready-made script for a classic bride price in verse.
Stage two – competitions
The groom and all the guests stand under the bride's windows.
Presenter. First, show us how much you love your bride. Although she is far away now, she will definitely hear the words of true love. Shout three times how much you love (the name of the bride), and if she throws her handkerchief out of the window, then we will move on.
After the hero of the occasion throws off the handkerchief smelling of her perfume, the whole procession goes inside the entrance.
On the ground floor, the presenter shows the groom a large flower with separate paper petals, with a number written on each of them.
Young woman. If you really love our (bride’s name), then you should know everything about her. There are numbers written on the petals of the chamomile, you need to guess what they mean. For every mistake you make, you will pay a fine.
The numbers could be as follows:
- foot size;
- the last three digits of the phone number;
- clothing size;
- heel length on wedding shoes;
- how many children does the bride want, etc.
When the groom answers all the questions or pays them off, everyone goes up to the next floor. There are footprints glued to the steps and walls leading to the next landing.
Presenter. In married life, the wife must be sure that she can rely on you, that you will not deviate from the intended path. Now you need to follow exactly the footsteps, without stepping anywhere else, to the next floor.
The groom jumps onto the first step himself, and then must guess that his friends should carry him, touching him to the marks on the walls or distant steps.
On the next platform there is a dartboard, but the usual fields on it are replaced by the following phrases:
- the demon beguiled;
- tired of ironing shirts;
- I want to fall asleep in an already heated bed;
- ran out of clean socks;
- mom forced
- by calculation;
- kicked out of the house;
- tired of being escorted home;
- for love (in the very center).
Presenter. Now we will find out why you really decided to get married. Here's a dart, you only have one try. Throw it at the target and when it hits, we will know your true intentions. If something happens, you can buy a few more darts if you don’t hit the right target right away, otherwise we can tell the truth to the bride.
When the groom hits the bull's eye, everyone goes up one floor. On each step to the next landing there is a paper heart with a letter written on it.
Presenter. On the way to the next competition, you need to tell your beloved a compliment on the letter that lies on the step. You can even miss some hearts if you can pay off.
What icon do young people meet with?
The scenario of even the most modern wedding involves blessing the newlyweds in Christian customs. The tradition of welcoming newlyweds with an icon dates back to ancient times, when in Christian families parents gave icons to spouses to create a “red corner” in the house, where they could always pray and ask for God’s protection. To this day, the meeting of the bride and groom is not complete without church traditions. However, what icon do the parents of the bride and groom greet the young couple with? It has long been customary to bless a son with an icon of the Savior, while the mother and father of the bride bless their daughter with an icon of the Mother of God. In need and in joy, young people can always pray and ask for protection.
