Banality or creativity? Classic bride ransom and its scenario
If future newlyweds want to organize a wedding, observing established traditions, the classic bride price is the best option, although many consider it banal.
If the organizers approach the matter with soul, the event turns out to be fun and interesting. For example, a good way to diversify the traditional ritual is to act out the classic bride price in prose.
The main thing is not to extract more money from the groom, but to please everyone present with fun competitions and an exciting spectacle.
The role of traditions at a wedding
If now future newlyweds decide for themselves how their wedding will take place, then previously all marriages took place according to the same scenario, which was determined by existing traditions. In each culture, they were formed in their own way, depending on the experiences of previous generations and religious beliefs. Many Russian traditions are still observed by newlyweds.
At weddings in ancient times, all customs were performed in order to attract happiness and prosperity into the lives of newly-made spouses and protect them from bad influences. People tried to attract the favor of the gods to the family and ward off the evil entities that tried to do mischief on the wedding day.
Nowadays, traditions no longer play such an important role; these are just touching memorable stages that are usually observed at a classic wedding. Young people come up with their own customs, which are no longer dictated by religion, but by their own preferences and fashion. In any case, old and modern traditions form the framework of the wedding scenario, on which other stages are then layered.
What does the ritual symbolize?
The history of this ritual stretches back hundreds and even thousands of years. Since after the wedding the bride left her father’s house and could no longer help her parents with the housework, it was not customary to give the girl away in marriage just like that - the groom had to pay a ransom. Its amount was determined by the beauty, good manners and thriftiness of the potential wife.
The ransom was agreed upon in advance during matchmaking, and if both parties came to an agreement, an engagement was announced. In addition, on the wedding day, the groom had to prove that he was worthy of the hand and heart of his beloved, and for this he had to pass simple tests.
The most popular task, for example, began with the young man’s neighbors blocking his way to the bride’s house with a fallen tree. The groom was given a saw, and he had to saw through the obstacle in order to pass further.
Now the redemption is taking place on a less grandiose scale. Since the hero of the occasion must look perfect at the wedding, competitions are organized not for physical actions, but for ingenuity. In addition, financial compensation is no longer provided to the bride's parents. The groom pays a symbolic amount only for the fact that he cannot pass any competition.
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MATCHMAKING The modern rite of matchmaking has a nominal rather than a functional meaning. Nowadays, parents of newlyweds can find out that their children got married after marriage. But let’s be more optimistic and consider the ideal option when the future groom, before taking the bride to the registry office, woo her. The modern rite of matchmaking begins with a young man proposing his hand and heart to his chosen one. And if he receives a positive answer, the rules of good manners recommend asking the parents for the daughter’s hand in marriage. It is better if the girl prepares her parents for the upcoming event in order to create a favorable atmosphere. On the appointed day, the future groom comes to the house of the bride's parents and presents flowers to both the bride's mother and his beloved. To begin with, a young man can tell his parents about his feelings for their daughter, about the prospects for a future life together, and then he can proceed to the main thing - asking for his daughter’s hand in marriage. Having given their consent, the girl’s parents symbolically place their daughter’s hand in the hand of their future husband.
The next step is a visit of the future newlyweds to the groom's parents. Now the bride is faced with the task of making a favorable impression; we recommend presenting a bouquet of flowers to her future mother-in-law. After this, both families usually meet and discuss the details of holding and organizing the upcoming celebration and the further living together of the newlyweds. But matchmaking is the first stage of pre-wedding efforts, now you are about to get engaged...
ENGAGEMENT After you have secured the consent of your parents and submitted an application to the registry office, you can arrange a gala dinner at which your engagement and the expected wedding date will be announced. An engagement can be treated as an outdated formality or as a beautiful custom that precedes an important event in your life. An engagement is a declaration of the mutual consent of lovers to marry. Now lovers have the right to be called bride and groom. On the day of engagement, a number of important issues can be resolved. The composition of the guests is determined, the location, organization and timing of the wedding are agreed upon, as well as possible options for financial support for young parents at first. It is best to schedule an engagement reception after submitting an application to the registry office. Traditionally, relatives and friends are invited to the engagement party, to whom you want to inform about the upcoming event. You can also invite those who obviously will not be able to attend your wedding, but whom you consider necessary to honor with attention. You can celebrate your engagement both at home and outdoors, or order this festive dinner in a restaurant or cafe. The groom can present the bride with a ring on the engagement day. This ring, accepted by the bride, confirms the intentions of both to marry. If a young man presents a ring when proposing to a girl, she cannot take the ring and refuse to marry. Giving and accepting a ring indicates consent to marriage. Rings with diamonds or other stones are most often used for engagement, but there are no special rules here. An engagement ring is usually worn only until the wedding, and then kept, and, if the marriage is successful, passed on to children or grandchildren. Engagement is a period of testing reliability and ability to support each other. A kind of common cause appears - a wedding and preparation for life together. During this period, it becomes clear how much the bride and groom trust and understand each other, how much they are ready to accept the oddities and habits of their loved one. Having decided to start a family, you enter into a new status - with new rights and responsibilities. Many begin to be tormented by various kinds of doubts about the fidelity, sincerity and love of the other, the reality of a shared future. The time from engagement to wedding will allow you to once again carefully weigh everything, arrange rarities and make a choice in favor of family or freedom.
RITE OF BUYING The rite of ransom is the little that has been preserved from the traditional Russian wedding, and therefore special attention should be paid when preparing this rite. The main participants in the ransom are the witness, the bride's friends (in the role of sellers) and the groom with the witness, and with their friends (in the role of buyers), as well as relatives on the part of the bride and groom. This is one of the most spectacular and fun elements of a wedding, and therefore you should prepare for it in advance and carefully. But since this is a folk ritual, it can be modified and have several options. You can select the tasks yourself and create your own ransom scenario using the information provided. At the appointed time, the groom and his friends and family go to pick up the bride, who is usually at the house of her parents or her closest relatives. At the entrance to the house he is met by his girlfriends and relatives of the bride, who warn him that without a “ransom” the bride will not be seen. The role of the leader is taken by the witness. The ransom ritual is not necessarily a standard script with poems and sayings. Perhaps you will be too lazy to learn everything by heart, or the newlyweds will be against a large, detailed scenario, but at the same time they will still want to preserve some elements of the ceremony, or (pah-pah-pah) the groom is late and there is practically no time left to properly “seduce” him, but... You need to be prepared for anything, the main thing is not to get confused and show your imagination. Several competitions can always relieve the tension, but don’t get too carried away, otherwise the bride risks being left “in the girls”. You can come up with different tasks to obstruct the groom, here are some of them: • while climbing the flight of stairs to the bride’s apartment, the groom names the household chores that he undertakes to do (for each missed step there is a fine); • footprints cut out of paper are laid out on the flight of stairs, memorable dates are written on the back of each trace (the year in which the bride was born, the date of birth of the mother-in-law, the size of the bride’s shoes, the date of filing the application to the registry office, the date of acquaintance, the height of the bride, etc. ), for each incorrect answer there is a fine; • the groom is given several balloons with pieces of paper inside on which memorable dates are written (the bride’s graduation date from school or college, the bride’s house or apartment number, the father-in-law’s birthday, the bride’s age), for each incorrect answer there is a fine; • the groom is offered several pairs of shoes, he must guess the bride's shoe; • bridesmaids and relatives of the bride leave handprints on a piece of paper, and the groom must guess the hand of his beloved; • bridesmaids leave prints of their lips on paper; among this diversity, the groom must guess the lips of his bride, for each wrong answer there is a fine; • the groom is given an apple studded with matches, and he must, taking out a match, call the bride affectionate names (beloved, dear, sunshine, etc.), when the groom takes out a short match, the test ends; • the door to the bride's room is covered with ribbons, tearing off a ribbon the groom calls his betrothed with affectionate names (sweet, gentle, kind, etc.); • a picture is placed in front of the groom, which depicts: the sun, a cloud, a forest, a road, a river, grass, etc.; he must color it (with lemons, oranges, a bottle of vodka or wine, money, etc.); • the groom is offered to put the most precious thing he has for the bride into an empty basin (the groom must stand himself); • guess which of three glasses with an opaque liquid (strong tea, coffee, juice, kefir, etc.) contains the key to the bride’s apartment and take it out without touching it with your hands; for each wrong answer there is a fine; • the groom is given a daisy made of paper, with dates or numbers on the back of each petal (see above), for each wrong answer there is a fine; • the groom walks from the door to the bride in small steps, and for each step he says a kind word for his beloved (see above); • when the groom has passed all the tests, he must utter the most cherished words so that the door to the bride's room will finally open. But these words are not “Sim-Sim, open up,” but, of course, “I love you”! Poems for meeting the groom with friends: “Oh, you, gentlemen, guests, how long have you been traveling? Where? And what tailwind brought you here to us?” (Listen to the answer). Then the bride’s friends pick up the ransom ceremony: “Dear groom and groomsmen! Your girlfriends greet you, To find a bride, You have to go through a lot. Rising slowly, Sing us a song, so loudly, So that the bride, sitting at home, can hear a familiar voice. Yes, on each step, put three kopecks.” The groom, walking up the stairs, must sing very loudly a song familiar to the bride and at the same time place exactly three kopecks on each step. Further, the witness continues: “In order to enter the bride, you must go through the door. Drink all the water to the bottom. And you will open the door without difficulty.” At the same time, a large mug, jar or small bucket of water is served. If the groom fails to cope with the task, he pays a fine. Friends and a witness can help the groom. The first ransom for a completed task is received as a key to the front door. It should also be borne in mind that the groom must know in advance about the proposed ransom tasks, so as not to get into an awkward position. The witness lays out a large colored scarf in front of the groom and continues: “Now, groom, wait, Do you see the big scarf here?! How many circles are there - look, you gild them all.” The groom takes out candies, fruits or money and puts them on a scarf. THE RANSOM continues: “To get a bride, You must pay a ransom. We want to know from you, Who should we give it to? Come on, dear friends, praise the groom!” The best man and friends begin to praise the groom. “And now let him answer: Where, when did he meet (the name of the bride), And notice him among others? What was she wearing, what did you say to her?” They are waiting for the groom's answer. “Yes, your answer is very correct, But the second question is more difficult than the first. You know everything about the bride, but can you guess about the mother-in-law? Well, tell me without delay, When is your mother-in-law’s birthday?” If the groom cannot answer this question, then he pays a fine in the form of chocolate or money. Therefore, just in case, the witness should have as many banknotes or chocolate bars in his pocket as the number of questions they will ask him. A flower resembling a white daisy appears in the hand of the witness, on the petals of which are written questions for the groom, which he must read out loud and answer himself. Did not answer - fine. The witness gives a new task for the groom and his friends: “We see that you are a dashing people and also daring, and to prove this, are you not weak in dancing? Isn't the groom lame? Come on, stomp your foot! Don’t make people laugh, it’s better to dance “The Lady!” The groom dances "The Lady". “Well done, you are daring, strong, brave, mischievous. In honor of the bride, dance “Gypsy” to us from the bottom of your heart!” The groom and his friends perform “Gypsy Girl.” For the new test, the witness must prepare several bright colored ribbons, which are secured so as to block the bride’s entrance to the room. “Cutting this thread, Words must be spoken, This is not a simple word, Affectionate, golden. We all want to hear, What will you call the bride?” The groom loudly calls the bride by affectionate names. After this, the bride is given to the groom. Witness: “Take care of the bride, groom, from adversity and dashing storms. So that it blossoms, so that it bears fruit, Your happiness is in her - so love her! Well, we’re all here in a herd, Let’s pour some glasses together.”
BACHELOR PARTY From January 20, the beginning of the winter meat-eating season, until Maslenitsa, matchmakers are sent and weddings take place. There are countless customs and signs associated with this solemn event. All wedding ceremonies used to be accompanied by various kinds of precautions against a dashing eye, against a dashing person. Let us recall from history beliefs and signs that have disappeared, partly preserved, which can become part of customs in our time. According to the old Russian custom, the so-called bachelorette party and bachelor party were held on the evening before the wedding. If the first groom comes to woo a girl, the toes of his shoes must be washed with water. Then the girl washes herself with this water, washes her hands, saying: “A hundred suitors will follow your trail to me.” Or cover his tracks to the house with a broom using the same plot. The folk custom of washing in a bathhouse on the eve of a wedding expresses the purity of the marriage bed and cleanliness in general. There is an old belief that the bride needs to cry on her bachelorette party and before the wedding: “If you don’t cry at the table, you will cry behind the pillar” - that is, after the wedding you will shed tears in an unhappy marriage. At the bachelorette party, let the bride wash herself with the spoken beer: “How clean you are, gold and silver, Clean and decent, How you are, gold and silver, Everyone is dressed up, looking at you, Old and young, married and single, Old old women and young women, Beautiful girls and young fellows, So everyone would stare and stare at you, slave ... (name), You would seem to them like gold and silver, They would look and stare, They would not take their eyes off you.” When a bachelorette party takes place, the bride's brother or some boy in the groom's house packs his gifts and brings them to the bride. The same boy must put on the bride’s shoes for the crown. Before leaving for the wedding, the bride, who wants her sisters to get married faster, should lightly pull the tablecloth that covers the table. During the wedding, whoever steps on the foot first will rule. Whichever future spouse will live longer is the one whose candle remains longer during the wedding. During a wedding, crowns must be placed on the heads of those getting married, despite the fact that they are heavy. If the crown is not put on the head for relief, such a marriage is popularly considered invalid, illegal and a bad omen. Before the newlyweds go to the wedding, place a lock under the threshold, and when they cross the threshold, close the lock with the key, throw the key away, and keep the lock - the young people will live well. Place young spouses on a shaggy fur coat - their life will be rich and free. If possible, put the newlyweds to bed on the first night in a separate room, and it’s absolutely wonderful if you put them on a bed of 21 sheaves of rye - the income in the house will accompany them throughout their lives. To prevent an evil person from spoiling the wedding and causing damage, all guests should wear knitted belts with many knots. Remember, a pin from a young woman’s outfit is kept by a friend and promises happiness, and the girl a quick marriage. In order for the newlyweds to avoid evil slander, it is necessary to place cover grass on the threshold after the newlyweds have left for the wedding. And upon returning, the bride and groom must jump over the threshold. If they step on the threshold, on the grass, troubles will fall on their heads. When the young man goes to the bride’s house to live, then, entering the hut after the wedding, he utters the words, looking at the ceiling: “I am coming, a pawed and proud beast, a loud-mouthed, toothy ox: I am a wolf, and you are my sheep.” Upon entering her husband’s house after the wedding, the young woman says: “First, second, I’m coming third!” Everyone out, I have the house alone.” Returning to modern times, the following points can be noted. The bride spends the evening before the wedding with her friends, the groom with his friends. The main content of the evening is a rite of farewell to single life. If the bride and groom want to be together on the eve of the wedding, then you can invite the groom and his friends to the bachelorette party. However, it is not advisable for the groom to stay until the end of the bachelorette party. Future newlyweds can take advantage of this custom and invite a wider circle of their friends to the bachelorette party and bachelor party than to the wedding celebration.
Process
The advantage of such an event, which is not tied to any creative theme, is that organizing will not take much time. The bride's friends and relatives, who, as a rule, are involved in preparing the tests for the groom, do not need to select special costumes or decorate the place of celebration in any special way.
The ransom organizers remain in their usual outfits, which will not change throughout the wedding. A sign or poster with an inscription in the spirit of “The bride lives here” is hung on the front door of the hero of the occasion. The inside of the entrance is decorated with posters, paper garlands, lanterns and pom-poms, balloons, colorful ribbons, etc.
It is customary that the bride price should be prepared by the witness, but recently this role has been given to several girls at once. This is even better, because if the event is hosted by one friend, she will quickly get tired, but several presenters replacing each other will create a more interesting scenario. Most often, the ransom is carried out by 3 people.
Stage one - meeting the groom
The scenario of a classic bride price with phrases like “We have goods, you have a merchant” will be lackluster. Everyone has long been tired of such remarks. It’s better to make the dialogues more original – you can even speak in your own words.
For example, when the groom and his retinue arrive at his beloved's house, the host can greet the guests with a speech.
Presenter. Hello, (groom's name). Where are you in such a hurry? Why did you come?
The groom says that he has come for the bride.
Presenters. For the bride - that's good. Look how many of us there are - for every taste and color. Blondes, brunettes, brown-haired, tall and short, cheerful and serious, calm and fast. Each of us will go to the registry office right now.
The groom says that he has already chosen his bride and says her name.
Presenters. Ah, so you came for the most enviable bride. Well, the lip is not stupid. Do you know that the parents of your beloved strictly forbade giving her away just like that? You will have to go through tricky tasks, show your strength and ingenuity, and in some places pay off with money, quench our thirst with champagne or delight with sweets. Are you ready for such tests?
The young man replies that he is ready.
Interesting! To add a “zest” to the beginning of the wedding, you can come up with or take as a basis a ready-made script for a classic bride price in verse.
Stage two – competitions
The groom and all the guests stand under the bride's windows.
Presenter. First, show us how much you love your bride. Although she is far away now, she will definitely hear the words of true love. Shout three times how much you love (the name of the bride), and if she throws her handkerchief out of the window, then we will move on.
After the hero of the occasion throws off the handkerchief smelling of her perfume, the whole procession goes inside the entrance.
On the ground floor, the presenter shows the groom a large flower with separate paper petals, with a number written on each of them.
Young woman. If you really love our (bride’s name), then you should know everything about her. There are numbers written on the petals of the chamomile, you need to guess what they mean. For every mistake you make, you will pay a fine.
The numbers could be as follows:
- foot size;
- the last three digits of the phone number;
- clothing size;
- heel length on wedding shoes;
- how many children does the bride want, etc.
When the groom answers all the questions or pays them off, everyone goes up to the next floor. There are footprints glued to the steps and walls leading to the next landing.
Presenter. In married life, the wife must be sure that she can rely on you, that you will not deviate from the intended path. Now you need to follow exactly the footsteps, without stepping anywhere else, to the next floor.
The groom jumps onto the first step himself, and then must guess that his friends should carry him, touching him to the marks on the walls or distant steps.
On the next platform there is a dartboard, but the usual fields on it are replaced by the following phrases:
- the demon beguiled;
- tired of ironing shirts;
- I want to fall asleep in an already heated bed;
- ran out of clean socks;
- mom forced
- by calculation;
- kicked out of the house;
- tired of being escorted home;
- for love (in the very center).
Help for the groom from friends and guests
It is also important to decide in advance what the groom’s friends and relatives will say when ransoming the bride - after all, they can also participate in the ransom process.
A witness, for example, can become one with the groom, that is, speak some text for him or even offer his candidacy for complex competitions. Usually such a person is chosen from among married men, so he already knows how the ransom may turn out.
And what to say to the witness during the bride price is no less important, because he will literally guide his friend to marriage, saving him in those moments when the groom lacks words. The rest of the guests can help during the competitions, for example, suggesting affectionate words to call the bride, or bargaining with the organizers of the tests. Girlfriends and relatives on the part of the hero of the occasion are often carried away by the idea of ransom and voice a rather large fine for failure in the competition, but the entire groom’s retinue, in concert and indignation, can bring down the price.
Some scripts call for specific responses from the groom, for example in poetry. In this case, the organizers of the ransom give the hero of the occasion a text in advance - before the wedding day or before the start of the tests.
It is advisable for friends and relatives to abandon traditional statements in the spirit of “You have a product, we have a merchant,” unless the wedding is taking place in Russian folk style. This is like what a matchmaker should say at a bride price. At a modern celebration, ordinary words coming from the heart will sound better.
Interesting! Consider original ransom options - for example, in the style of pirates or in the format of a medical examination.
A humorous bride price scenario in verse
Bride ransom is a long-standing wedding tradition that has retained its relevance today in many countries around the world.
It consists of a whole complex of actions, games, and humorous competitions that can be carried out by both the bridesmaids and the host, created in order to accompany the process of the groom making a certain payment as a ransom for the bride to her parents or girlfriends.
During the ransom, the groom offers money or valuables until his beloved comes out to him.
This part of the wedding ceremony is taken more seriously in some Muslim countries, where the groom gives large sums or expensive property to the bride's family as a ransom. But, according to European tradition, the ransom looks like entertainment for the families of lovers and wedding guests.
Nowadays, each couple interprets the tradition of ransom in their own way, using modern scenarios, their own themes, style and circumstances for this part of the ritual.
Finding an extraordinary and fun scenario for a bride price is very easy today. Couples who do not want a banal wedding should not rush to abandon this interesting part of the ceremony, because they can come up with their own original way to conduct the ransom.
The wedding portal Wedding.ua found one of these methods for you. We suggest newlyweds use a humorous bride price scenario in verse:
Hello, Ladies - Gentlemen! Where are you from and where? And what do you want anyway? Come on, pass by! The groom will come to us now. We are really waiting for him here. He will pay us a lot of money. Together we will go to the registry office!
Oh! So are you the groom? Why is it so quiet then? Where is your zealous horse then? Where is the mustache and dashing look? Come on in now that you have arrived. After all, there’s no way to go back.
Friend of the bride: (In front of the entrance) Oh, you guests - gentlemen? How long did it take you to get here? Let's go - we've prepared the way. Why did you dress up like that? What's in that suitcase? And why is there money in your pockets?
Look how things turned out! You wanted to get married! Well, which of you two is called the groom?
Well, if you are a groom, then why are you quiet again? We have countless brides here. Look, it’s in any window. The one that is dearest to you all, call loudly quickly.
The groom calls the bride.
You screamed something weakly. Only scared the cats away! Gather your strength, my friend, Shout one more time.
The groom calls the bride.
Don’t tear your throat out in vain, shout to her about love.
The groom calls the bride.
All ages are submissive to love, And all nations, and if so, Shout: “I love you, (name of the bride)” In three different languages. And if you don’t bother to learn overseas letters, please give us a ringing ransom right away, as it’s supposed to be given!
*The groom is offered several cards indicating the language in which to shout out the confession.
Bridesmaid: (On the steps of the porch) I just don’t understand something, Tell me why, Should the bride wait for you And languish by the window? We won’t give her away like that. We’ll look at the groom. Isn't he lame or hunchbacked? And isn’t the tongue like a shovel? Is everything with him, and is everything in place? Is it suitable for the bride?
We don’t know the groom at all and we want to know everything about him. Let the friend-witness slowly list the groom’s merits to us. If a friend does not name 10 qualities in advance, there will be a complete turnaround from threshold to gate.
*There are 10 ribbons strung on the porch. For each quality mentioned, the bride's friend cuts one ribbon.
Bridesmaid: (In front of the entrance door) *There is a ribbon stretched in the doorway. Well great, come on in. But you can’t jump or crawl, and you don’t have scissors, so think about how to get through.
*There are several scissors on the tray. Spicy ones are the most expensive.
Matchmaking scenarios
Scenario No. 1 “In the old style”
If you decide to arrange matchmaking, then it is better to give the main role in the ceremony to the representatives of the groom - his friends or relatives.
If there is no matchmaker, then the main matchmaker is a close relative of the groom - father, uncle or godfather. But still, the presence of a professional matchmaker will provide the evening with the right pace, atmosphere and flavor. After all, matchmaking is, first of all, a fun and joyful event.
If the matchmakers decide to follow ancient traditions as much as possible, then the matchmaker’s speech should be filled with jokes and proverbs.
The task of the matchmakers and matchmaker is to amuse and entertain everyone gathered with jokes and interesting stories, while learning as much as possible about the bride, her economy, character and disposition.
An approximate scenario for “antique” matchmaking may look like this.
Greetings
The matchmakers enter the house and present a gift to the bride's parents. The matchmaker tells why such a delegation came, for what purpose. Traditionally, in the Russian matchmaking scenario, this speech begins with the words “You have a product, we have a merchant...”
Tests for the bride and groom
Matchmaker:
Girl, beauty! You have long hair, a wasp waist, velvet eyes, but how thrifty are you? Aren't you making a fuss when you get down to work? Now we will check this. Come on, take a broom and let us see if you make a good wife...
The bride is asked to sweep up the scattered coins on a dustpan. When the girl completes the proposed task, you can proceed to the consent ceremony. The groom must pass his tests in order to ransom the bride . To do this, you can invite him to guess riddles.
Examples of riddles:
- What in the world is more valuable than all diamonds? (Bride)
- Where will you always be rich? (In the house, next to my beloved)
- What's the sweetest thing? (Kisses to my beloved)
- What is the most powerful thing in the world? (Love)
- How will you be rich in 5 years? (Group of kids)
In the scenario of modern matchmaking, you can include quotes from well-known films, books, and cartoons.
Consent Ceremony
Matchmaker:
What a clever girl! Have you seen it, owners? Your girl is what you need! A real hostess, to be sure. My radiant one, answer me, do you agree to marry this kind fellow?
After the girl agrees with a nod or an affirmative answer, she is presented with a pie or cake, which she cuts into four pieces. The cuts are made in the shape of a cross.
Matchmaker:
If you agree, then cut the loaf into pieces according to the number of cardinal directions, and then treat all the guests. But who will you give a piece to first? Maybe for his fiance, or for his mother?
It is advisable to present the first piece to the parents , then treat the guests, and leave the last piece for the bride and groom. The groom's father says: “Son, this is now your bride. May your union be blessed."
Completion of the official part
Parents bless their children , read a prayer or say bright parting words.
Next, the groom puts a ring on the finger of his beloved girl and everyone sits down at the table to continue the evening. There should be honey and a good tincture on the table . One of the guests is presented with a symbolically important gift for the newlyweds - a fruit tree.
Before presenting such a gift, you need to ask the young people who they want: a son or a daughter. If it is a son, then the tree must be masculine, for example, a nut. For the speedy appearance of a girl, you need to give a cherry, apple or pear tree.
At this solemn moment, you can wish happiness to the lovers and congratulate them on the next stage on the path to the wedding and a long life together. Then the official part ends, and the feast and fun continue at the discretion of the matchmaker and relatives on both sides.
You can amuse your guests by holding a competition for young people “What will I do?” . Answer options are prepared in advance:
- I will wash the dishes;
- I will repair the refrigerator;
- I will spend an hour in front of the mirror every day;
- I will paint my nails;
- I will wash the floors;
- I will cook pizza;
- I will take care of my pet;
- I will monitor the operation of equipment in the house.
Answer options must be printed and placed on a separate piece of paper.
The task of the bride and groom is to take turns pulling out the leaves and reading out their missions, as well as promising each other that they will definitely be fulfilled.
It turns out especially funny when a man pulls out duties intended for the mistress of the house, and vice versa.
You can attract guests to the game.
Scenario No. 2 “Matchmaking of the bride in a classic style”
On the bride's side, close cheerful relatives, sisters, and friends should be invited.
On the part of the groom, it is imperative to choose a matchmaker and a matchmaker. These people can also be relatives or friends of the parents.
In the old days they said that a matchmaker and matchmaker should not be too young, and it is better if they are talkative and lively, especially the matchmaker.
So…
Characters (from the groom's side) : Groom, mother of the groom, father of the groom, brother of the groom, Matchmaker, Matchmaker.
Characters (from the bride's side) : Bride, Mother of the bride, Father of the bride, little girl (sister), grandmother and aunt.
Clothes : The groom should wear an embroidered shirt, and the bride a sundress with an appliqué. The matchmaker and the matchmaker should tie a ribbon over their shoulder onto their belt (you can tie it with a long towel like in the old days). Badges with the names “matchmaker” and “matchmaker” are now on sale.
Details from the groom : Flowers - to the mother of the bride, the bride, if she has a younger sister, a chocolate or a box of chocolates. For the father of the bride - a good bottle of alcoholic drink. Basket with treats: drinks, sweets, fruits. A ring for the bride.
Props from the bride's side : a wooden block, a nail and a hammer; a set table, a prepared presentation on the topic “Even if you go around half the world, you won’t find anything better than (name of the bride)!”, prepared equipment for viewing the presentation (or slide show). Gifts for matchmakers, parents of the groom. Planted money tree. Big pumpkin.
Decor
The room in front of the bride's apartment is being decorated. Posters: Traders and merchants here! For the very best! We are waiting for generous and cheerful people! On the door to the room where the “Bride Factory!” tests take place. On the door to the room where the feast is taking place, “We take bread and salt, we invite you to feast!”
Progress of matchmaking
Part 1
The groom's delegation, armed with flowers, treats, drinks and a good mood, knocks on the door.
The matchmaker has bread and salt in his hands. Mother of the bride : Who is knocking so loudly?
Matchmaker : The merchants have arrived. Open the doors. Show me the product! (mother of the bride opens).
Matchmaker with matchmaker : We are noble merchants, we have seen a lot, we have traveled to beautiful places, we are looking for a curiosity. We heard that your product is of high quality, unprecedented and a treat for all people. We want to see...
Mother : Yes, it takes time to show all the goods...
Matchmaker : We don’t need all the goods. We are looking for something outlandish. After all, our merchant is unusual: handsome, generous, rich and educated. He doesn’t need “anything goes.” Well, look for yourself! (The groom comes forward, hands flowers to the bride's mother, and a bottle to his father).
Mother : Really generous! (takes flowers and a bottle). But our product is unusual: we have a bride factory! We sell brides only to good hands. And in order to find a bride, we must check how hard-working, smart and cheerful your merchant is. And then we’ll find a bride to match him! Come on, ladies, let's test the young man!
The groom is invited to the testing room.
Test 1
Aunt : We need to bring our bride into the house. Do you have? Well, it doesn’t matter that it doesn’t! Let's see if you can build a house! Drive the nail into the threshold!
He brings a block, a large nail and a hammer. The groom hammers a nail.
Test 2
Aunt : The bride must be fed properly. What will you feed?
The groom must name the bride's favorite delicacies and give him the brought basket of fruits and treats.
Aunt : Indeed, the merchant is good!
Test 3
Aunt : Well, what words will you call her?
The groom says kind words.
Test 4
Aunt : I see that you are really looking for an unusual product. Came to the right address! Right! You will find a bride for yourself at our factory! Just describe which one you want!
Groom : Beautiful, gentle...
Aunt : Oh, yes, we have one! Come on, bring the bride!
A little girl comes into the room (you can dress up a little boy, the bride’s brother, for example, as a girl).
Girl : Hello, (name of the groom). Marry me. I will sing songs to you every day.
Aunt : Well, the bride suits you. Look how beautiful and how pretty! Tender, just like I wanted! Are you taking the goods?
Groom : The product is good, but it’s still green, let it ripen.
Matchmaker : Come on, show us the bride, so that she’s cheerful, she can not only sing songs, but she can cheer up and console...
A man in disguise is brought out (wig, fake breasts, apron, holding a saucepan).
Disguised man : Hello, (groom's name)! I've been around girls for a long time. I want to get married! Look at me carefully. Beautiful, tender... I will caress you, console you... I will feed you borscht, I will make dumplings... And look at my figure... All the men are “breaking their eyes.” Well, will you take me?
Groom : You’re too pretty... I’m afraid they’ll take you away from me. It's too unreliable...
Matchmaker : Of course she's an unreliable girl. Even though she knows how to cook, her eyes are too naughty... Bring us a smart, wise, and calm one!
Aunt : Well, if you want smart and calm. We have one too. Look!
Grandma comes in. Knitted socks in hands.
Grandmother : I don’t sleep all night, I work... Here, dear (groom’s name), I knitted some socks for you. Will you take me?
Groom : Nice bride, but not mine. Mine floats like a swan. When he looks into your eyes, the whole world will shine. And he will smile and bestow goodness.
Matchmaker : Find us everything in her: youth, beauty, intelligence, and kindness. And to be graceful and light. May she be affectionate and love our young man!
Aunt : We have one like this. We are saving it for a special merchant. Yes, apparently this is yours (name of the groom). She is dear to us. Unusual. See for yourself!
A slide show is shown.
Long before matchmaking, you need to photograph the bride from different angles and prepare a presentation on the topic that the bride is the best. For example: reads a book, writes a letter, washes dishes, bakes a pie, cooks borscht, washes clothes, irons, embroiders, draws, sings, waters flowers, washes floors, vacuums, plays with his little sister.
Everyone present is delighted.
Groom : This bride is dear to me. I want a wife like this!
Aunt : If you guess her name, I’ll show you!
The groom calls. The bride comes out. Everyone applauds. The groom gives flowers and puts an engagement ring on the bride's finger. Gives a kiss.
Mother of the bride : Well, matchmakers, come to the table!
The mother takes the loaf, carries it and places it in the center of the table. Everyone sits down at the table.
Part 2
Matchmaker : We are glad that we agreed with you on the product, Let's drink to our deal! The matchmaker pours drinks (drink, have a snack).
Matchmaker : Well, groom, change me for once! Show me how you can pour. And you, the bride, divided the loaf for everyone. The groom pours glasses for everyone. The bride is invited to cut the loaf or break it so that there is enough for everyone and fewer crumbs left.
You can also hold a small competition for the bride.
The matchmaker asks the bride questions:
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When you wash floors, where should you try harder: in the corners or in the center? (correct answer: you need to wash it thoroughly everywhere, including the corners and the middle of the floor).
*** When your husband comes home hungry, will you serve him a plate? (the answer is correct: I will serve the food on a plate).
*** How much rice will you put in the borscht: one spoon or one glass? (you need to answer: they don’t put rice in borscht at all!).
*** My husband will come home from work tired, what task will you give first? (He will come home from work tired. He needs to prepare a bath, set the table, feed him and put him to bed. Discuss all issues in the morning.)
Matchmaker : What kind of dowry does the bride have? Tell us in more detail!
Mother and father talk. You can raise the issue of living together - discuss in detail where the young people will live.
Matchmaker : Let's drink so that our couple can build a cozy nest for themselves!
Then there are toasts separately for the bride and groom.
The groom's parents talk about how small their son was, how he grew up, where he studied, what he achieved. What goals does he set, what does he like to do.
The bride's parents remember everything about their daughter, praising her. It is imperative to praise the bride. Tell me how I was little and how I was older. Where did you study, how did you develop and grow up to be such a beauty, what you love, what you live for, what good qualities your parents gave you...
After talking about the bride and groom, the matchmaker asks the groom what he will call the bride's parents.
After a toast to the bride, a similar question is asked to her. (If the couple has not decided and cannot name the new parents “mom and dad,” they are given this task until the next meeting).
There are also toasts to parents.
First, the groom's parents talk about themselves, and then the bride's. The matchmaker pays attention to the issue of “adopting new children” into the family. He asks: will they be called daughter and son, how will they love.
At the end of the feast, the bride's relatives take the floor.
Aunt : We give the daughter-in-law a pillow so that she loves her husband like a darling! Gives an original anti-stress pillow.
We give my husband a hammer so that he can earn an excellent income. So that they always knock and get a big salary! Our father-in-law needs to be wise and we want to give him a mallet. The father-in-law is the most important person in the family, so he needs to be able to judge everyone correctly, and this gift will help him with this. The gift is a wooden mallet.
We give wise aphorisms to our dear mother-in-law. Where you need to teach your daughter-in-law, you can use words. And you will find a boring word in this book! A gift book “Wise Sayings” is given.
Mother : It’s clear that our deal took place, we want to give good luck gifts to our matchmakers on this occasion. We give our dear matchmaker a barrel of honey (honey is given), so that you drink our honey and speak sweetly! Well, get yourself an expensive self-assembled tablecloth so that you will always smile sweetly, and there will be a lot of treats on the tablecloth!
Toasts are made to the matchmakers.
Matchmakers : Thank you all for your kind words. We are glad that our efforts were not in vain. We made a good couple. As they say: For a daring merchant, a bride can go anywhere! Tell me, father-in-law, is the bride dear to you for your son? So, kiss her on both cheeks! (The groom's father kisses the bride.) Tell me father-in-law, did you like our fiance? (Father-in-law answers). Then join hands with the young people and let them get married!
Aunt : Well, we want to give a money tree to the young people. Water it, never have a problem with money! Well, we’ll keep the pumpkin for ourselves and make a delicious porridge from it. Next time we’ll invite you to porridge and talk about our young people! (Everyone remembers the custom of their ancestors: if the matchmaking did not take place and the groom was not liked, they gave a pumpkin).
At this point, the bride's parents see off the guests.
Don't forget about "fun matchmaking". Improvise and play along. Be sure to take photos and videos for the history of the new family. And further! They say that our ancestors avoided the number thirteen. That’s why they don’t go to get married on the 13th. It is better to plan the celebration for the weekend. And there is plenty of time and the next day you can “rest.”
