The wedding night is the culmination of the wedding celebration, its most touching moment. Newlyweds dream of a magical night, no matter whether they are young or old. In the first and main place is love for each other and true passion. This night is special and symbolic - for the first time you will spend it as legal spouses, so let it be beautiful and unforgettable. To do this, you should take care in advance about arranging the ritual of the first wedding night. So what will you need for this?
Where is the best place to spend your wedding night?
Two options for spending the wedding night are often considered - in the romantic setting of your own bedroom or in a hotel. If the newlyweds go on their honeymoon immediately after the end of the banquet, the issue is resolved, but requires proper planning. It is worth calculating the trip or flight so that you have some strength left, and the hotel that welcomes the newlyweds, as a rule, prepares the premises to the highest standard: champagne, flowers, fruits are waiting for guests in the room. It is often decorated with candles.
The second option, no less common, is to rent a room in a hotel located in your city or nearby in nature. Many hotels have special rooms designed for wedding nights. This option is also good because you won’t have to rack your brains about how to decorate the room and when to do it: the establishment’s employees will try to ensure that everything is ready for your arrival.
If the newlyweds have their own separate housing, they can go there after the wedding banquet. There, no one will stop them from enjoying each other already in the status of husband and wife. In this case, it is important to prepare the apartment in advance, decorate it, put a bottle of champagne in the refrigerator and stock up on light snacks suitable for the occasion. You can involve your best friend or a couple of witnesses in such a pleasant job.
The first sex of the ancient peoples
As soon as the first people appeared, sex appeared in their lives. Initially, it was just a way to prolong one’s family. Gradually, people began to understand the meaning, value and pleasure derived from sexual intimacy.
In order to prolong sexual intercourse, Greek men applied crushed red pepper and honey to the genitals. It was believed that this remedy could prolong a man’s love affair for a long time.
Male prostitution was common in Athens. Basically, the poorest strata of the population went to this work. They did not have sufficient civil rights, but nevertheless existed quite normally in society. Surprisingly, most of the clients of male prostitutes were the same men.
Almost all high society in Jordan was polygamous. It was considered quite normal for one man to keep several wives at once. At the same time, the number of beautiful ladies depended on the income and wealth of the groom himself. If he was able, he could support up to 1000 brides.
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What do you need to take care of in advance?
The bride and groom must think in advance where they want to embrace each other and spend their wedding night. It’s better to start looking for possible options a month before the wedding, so that you have time to prepare everything down to the smallest detail:
- If your financial capabilities do not allow you to rent a room, and you don’t have your own home yet, decide where you can accommodate visiting relatives so that the wedding night is not overshadowed by interference.
- If you have your own apartment, do a thorough cleaning in advance, purchase the necessary attributes that will create a romantic atmosphere on the special night.
- At the hotel, you can order decorations for your rented room to suit your taste. The scope of decoration depends on imagination and financial capabilities.
- The bride’s beautiful underwear, hidden for the time being under the dress, will be the main pleasant surprise on the first wedding night for the future husband, so it’s worth choosing it ahead of time.
Rose petals
If a man decides to give his beloved an unforgettable surprise on their wedding night, it must contain rose petals. You need to remember a small rule: there should be a lot of petals, otherwise it will look like a randomly falling bouquet, and the desired effect cannot be achieved in this way. More often they use bright red, soft pink or cream petals, which look amazingly beautiful on white bedding.
It will be beautiful if the petals are laid on the floor in the form of a path leading to the marriage bed. On the bed itself, you can lay out a heart shape from flower buds. But even just petals, casually scattered, will wonderfully complement the picture of a romantic night. The girl will remember for many years the association of the smell of a rose with an amazing wedding night.
Aroma candles
Scented candles are a must on a wedding night. By turning off the overhead lighting and placing them on the floor where the rose petals already lie, you will plunge into the world of a fairy tale. Additional candles on the table or bedside table with their flickering will tune even tired newly-made spouses to the desired wave. When choosing attributes, you must remember that they should not have a pronounced smell, even if it initially seems pleasant. Burning a large number of candles at once will intensify the aroma, which can cause a headache.
Light snacks and champagne
A wedding day is difficult emotionally and physically. Left alone, the newlyweds should try to relax completely. Sparkling champagne will help them with this. The main thing is not to overdo it and drink just a little, because you need to relax, not get drunk, and besides, the morning should be good. A good addition to champagne would be shrimp, cheese, and a variety of fruits. All products should be fresh and light. Champagne can be replaced with weak wine if desired. The sexiest addition to the wedding night is traditionally considered to be strawberries covered in chocolate or cream.
Bath foam and massage oil
Even if both of you are already inexorably drawn to quickly do something more intimate, take your time, because you have the whole night ahead of you. It will be a special highlight if you take a bath together filled with aromatic foam. Create a romantic atmosphere in this room too. Turn off the lights, light candles, add some flower petals to the water. Believe me, you will have an unforgettable experience!
Bring massage oil with you. Choose it carefully; it should have a light, pleasant scent, such as sandalwood or ylang-ylang oil. Light touches on each other's skin will add spice to this unforgettable evening and will help you relax even more and tune in to the desired wave. An erotic massage on the first wedding night will be remembered for many years for both lovers.
Little gifts for each other
For your wedding, you will receive many different gifts from friends and relatives. But a gift from a loved one will also be welcome and pleasant. Give each other such pleasure. Let it be a small gift from a loving heart that will show the depth of your feelings. Expensive gadgets or household appliances are inappropriate here, but iconic jewelry or jewelry is suitable.
Sex on the wedding night: ancient customs and modern traditions in different countries of the world
The finale of any wedding celebration is the wedding night. Nowadays, the first night of newlyweds has become a convention that has no value. It is now considered the norm for newlyweds to have sex long before the wedding. But once upon a time the first wedding night was accompanied by a whole ritual, different for each nation. KHOCHU.ua invites you to look into the pages of history and remember the customs of the first wedding night.
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HOW THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT WENT IN EUROPE
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In the Middle Ages in European countries there was a tradition according to which the bride had to spend the night not with her husband, but with the feudal lord. Historians give different arguments regarding the emergence of such a custom. Some argued that deflowering was a dangerous procedure, subject only to the deities, and the feudal lord took full responsibility for what was happening and protected the spouses from the wrath of the gods.
Others complained about satisfying their sexual needs and the desire to be above everyone else, because the feudal lord could easily refuse ugly brides, but with beautiful girls this rule was always followed. True, at the end of the 16th century, such a custom was abandoned in Switzerland, and in Germany it was replaced by ransom.
SEX ON THE WEDDING NIGHT IN AFRICA
In some African tribes, it was customary to knock out a girl’s two front teeth on her wedding night. This symbolized marriage - something like a wedding ring. Married women were not ashamed of their toothless smile and showed it to everyone, while unmarried women covered their mouths.
In Samoa, the first wedding night had to take place in the circle of sleeping relatives of the bride. Only newlyweds should make love silently so that no one wakes up. Otherwise, the man would face a serious beating from his relatives. That is why many Samoan men lubricate their bodies with oil before their wedding night: this makes it easier to break out and the beatings are not so painful.
Sex on the wedding night in North Africa involved the bride taking turns copulating with the wedding guests. Each guest had to give the bride a special gift.
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There were tribes in which it was customary to deflower girls at a very young age - before the onset of menstruation. This had to be done by a complete stranger. Most often it was a traveler passing through the village. If a girl remained a virgin during the onset of her period, it was considered a real disgrace; she might never get married.
In the Bakhtu tribe , which is located in Central Africa, instead of sex on the first wedding night, the newlyweds had to fight until dawn, and then go to their parents' houses and sleep. It’s a strange custom, of course, but every nation has its own cockroaches in their heads. The next night, the newlyweds fought again. And this continued until they took out all their hatred on each other for years to come. Sometimes such battles ended in death.
Some African peoples had a tradition of performing the act of defloration using special tools. This mini-operation was performed by the oldest women.
Sometimes this procedure was replaced by a natural one, but it was not the husband who had to deflower the girl, but the father or elder brother of the groom, as well as a priest or elder.
In the Arunto tribe, the friends of the future husband were supposed to deflower a girl. The man chose two or three friends, they kidnapped the bride and each of them had sex with her. When a girl loses her virginity, anyone could come to her house until the wedding and have sex with her in order to test the new woman.
HOW DOES THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT HAPPEN WITH MUSLIMS?
The first wedding night among Muslims has remained virtually unchanged since ancient times. Most Muslims still have the custom of showing the groom's relatives the sheet on which the newlyweds had sex. Blood stains testified to the bride’s innocence; if they were not there, the girl was considered vicious, it was a shame for the whole family. Currently, this rule is observed only in some regions.
Before the first wedding night, Muslims must observe a number of customs:
- The first wedding night among Muslims takes place only after the bride has transported all the necessary things to her husband's house. They start collecting a dowry for a girl from a young age; she should have at least 40 blankets and pillows. Bedding must be decorated and sewn by hand (some accessories are not prohibited from being purchased)
- Before starting intimacy, a man should put his hand on his wife’s head, praise her, say a few kind words and end his speech with the phrase “In the name of Allah.” Then, the newlyweds read two ritual prayers, after which the man reads another prayer, in which he asks Allah to bless them for their life together and, in case of divorce, to help them maintain friendly relations.
- A man must present his wife with a lot of sweets and delicious drinks. Honey and milk were considered obligatory products on the table. The husband should be soft and gentle when communicating with his wife, win her over, and talk. Indecent intimate relations are prohibited by the Koran. A woman should not push away a man, because this could lead to dire consequences. Also, the newly-made wife should not be indifferent and cold.
- In the morning, after the first wedding night, the spouses perform a ritual of ablution and begin to eat. Often they set the table and invite relatives.
HOW THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IS SPENT FOR CHECHENS
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For Chechens, their first wedding night takes place on the third day of the wedding. To perform the ritual, the man put on a special suit, which had previously been presented to him by the bride’s relatives. At this time, the woman should be ready in the bedroom, where her married friends bring her.
Before intimacy, a man must open the Koran and pray to Allah, then close the book with thick canvas and begin to deflower his wife. If the spouses did not know each other before the wedding, sexual intercourse is not a requirement on the wedding night; they must first become acquainted.
There should be no one, not even animals, in the room where the newlyweds sleep.
THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT OF MUSLIMS IN DAGESTAN
Dagestanis celebrate their first wedding night in a special way: they turn it into a martial arts ritual. A man will be worthy of a woman only if he wins. The bride has been prepared for a fight since childhood, and on the first wedding night they shaved her head, lubricated exposed skin with fat, put on clothes with many knots, and tied the overalls with a cord, which was supposed to preserve virginity.
No one was allowed to enter the room where the battle took place; one could only eavesdrop and spy. According to ancient customs, the guy was obliged to defeat the girl and the fight continued until victory.
If the battle went on for too long, the bride was persuaded to surrender, they deliberately did not allow her to drink or eat, but they did everything for the groom.
The faster a man unties all the knots in his overalls, the faster he can take possession of his wife. The battle took place without weapons, and inflicting bodily harm was not forbidden.
HOW IS THE FIRST WEDDING NIGHT OF GYPSIES?
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The Gypsies, of course, are not the cleanest nation, but they have observed their traditions from time immemorial. The first wedding night among the gypsies is called the “Bringing out of Honor” and is considered the most important rite of passage at the wedding. The bride must remain virgin until the wedding, otherwise she will disgrace her family. The newlyweds, along with three respected ladies from both families, go to a separate room where the bride's virginity is checked.
The newlyweds have sex without witnesses, but the groom is obliged to take out a veil with traces of virgin blood.
According to another version, three ladies deflower a girl using a sheet wrapped around her finger so that the newlyweds cannot falsify the bride's virginity. There is another version of the first wedding night among gypsies - the bride and groom must have their first sexual intercourse on the banquet table in the presence of guests. When the girl's innocence is proven, the ladies put the sheet with the marks on a tray, shower it with red ribbons and take it out to the guests. Red ribbons are distributed to the groom's relatives for a fee. After the ceremony, the bride is dressed in a red dress, her hair is braided and the veil is removed.
FIRST WEDDING NIGHT IN Rus'
During the times of Ancient Rus', premarital relations were not forbidden - it was a widespread phenomenon. Some young people managed to live with each other and get married, and sometimes had children. In some settlements, a “trial marriage” was common, in our opinion it was a civil marriage. The young people lived together, shared a household, gave birth to their first child, and only then could they get married if they didn’t change their minds.
Some traditions of Rus' were similar to barbarian ones. At the wedding, each man could touch and grope the bride as it should have happened during the wedding night. The bride could even be stripped down to her undershirt at the wedding to show off all the juice. When the wedding came to an end, the newlyweds retired to a separate room, and the guests eavesdropped and peeked under the door so that the newlyweds were busy with each other and not with sleep.
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The sex had to continue until the morning, which was facilitated by the guests - they shouted ditties with sexual overtones and in every possible way spurred the young people on. In the morning, the bride and groom provided evidence of deprivation of virginity. If the groom did not succeed, he could repeat the attempt two more times; if even then he failed in his duty, the groom was replaced by a more experienced man. In some villages, it was customary to spend the first wedding night with the groom's older brothers, who came to the aid of the inexperienced groom in case of emergency.
As we see, the wedding night in many countries involved deflowering a girl, if the girl was vicious before the wedding, her family was disgraced, and the careless bride could be returned to her parents. True, now any gynecologist will say that during the first sexual intercourse there may not be any blood, just like there may be no pain, since everyone’s hymen is different.
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Photo - ideas for decorating a bedroom for a wedding night
The first wedding night in the modern sense is more of a ritual. Some newlyweds, tired, go to bed as soon as they reach the bed, while others spend half the night sorting gifts. However, the decoration of the room where the first wedding night will be spent should be at the highest level, regardless of the circumstances. You should come up with options yourself or seek help from professionals - an agency that deals with wedding planning and holding.
