Blessings from parents at a wedding
A parental blessing is, in essence, their permission for their children to marry, along with sincere wishes for all sorts of family benefits.
Even now, young people planning to get married try to get a blessing so that there will always be happiness and love in their new family. This ritual can be carried out according to all the rules; for this, all its participants must be baptized. After all, this happens with the help of the icons of the Mother of God of Kazan and St. Nicholas the Pleasant or the Savior. But now the ceremony can be significantly simplified, the main thing here is the sincere words of the parents, their wishes for peace, joy, kindness and happiness .
Prayer for the blessing of children by mother to Jesus Christ
The blessing of a son or daughter is an immeasurable helper for a child, because a mother’s prayer is the most powerful in the world . The importance of a mother can hardly be overestimated; it is not for nothing that she is connected with her child with invisible threads until the end of her days. Psychics claim that each of us is influenced by our mother at the level of subtle matters. Energetically, a child is an extension of the mother. That is why she can change his fate . And his future life depends on the direction in which she wants to direct this very destiny.
The result of the prayer will not be slow to manifest itself, because the Lord will definitely hear every word coming from the mouth of a mother with concern for her child.
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, prayers for the sake of Thy Most Pure Mother, hear me, Thy sinful and unworthy servant. Lord, in the mercy of Your power my children (names), have mercy and save them for Your name’s sake. Lord, forgive them all the sins, voluntary and involuntary, that they committed before You. Lord, guide them on the true path of Your commandments and enlighten them and enlighten them with Your light of Christ, for the salvation of the soul and the healing of the body. Lord, bless them in the house, around the house, at school, in the field, at work and on the road, and in every place of Your possession. Lord, protect them under the shelter of Your Saints from a flying bullet, arrow, knife, sword, poison, fire, flood, from a deadly plague (atomic rays) and from vain death. Lord, protect them from visible and invisible enemies, from all troubles, evils and misfortunes. Lord, heal them from all diseases, cleanse them from all filth (wine, tobacco, drugs) and ease their mental suffering and sorrow. Lord, grant them the grace of Your Holy Spirit for many years of life, health and chastity. Lord, increase and strengthen their mental abilities and physical strength. Lord, give them Your blessing for a godly family life and godly childbearing. Lord, grant also to me, Thy unworthy and sinful servant, a parental blessing on my child at this time of morning, day, evening and night for the sake of Thy name, for Thy Kingdom is eternal, omnipotent and omnipotent. Amen.
Orthodox prayer of a mother for her son in the army to Jesus Christ - read .
Parting words to the bride before the wedding ceremony
Traditionally, this happens before the wedding itself in the parental home. Before going to the Wedding Palace, the father and mother of the bride address their two children - their daughter and her groom - with parting words and wishes.
What to tell your daughter
Before the groom arrives, mom and dad can bless their daughter separately.
General “words of encouragement”
So you have grown up, daughter, and are about to fly away from the family nest. May your choice be correct, and may your family be friendly and strong. Respect your future husband, because now he is your support and protector, love him with all your heart. Daughter, we wish you a happy life in goodness and prosperity, healthy children who will delight both you and your husband, and your dad and me.
Words from the mother of the bride
Daughter, I am happy that you have found your path in life. She will now be associated with (name of the groom). While raising you, I tried to give you as much as possible - knowledge, feelings, teach you everything that a real woman should be able to do. Therefore, I am sure that this guy is a worthy person. Be happy in this marriage. May bright love always accompany you two, and may there never be discord in your family. Be, daughter, the happiest and most beloved woman in the whole world!
Wishes from father to daughter
Daughter! You are my only child and you know how much your mother and I love you. We are very worried about you now, and we will always be worried. It’s hard for me to give you to someone else’s house, but I believe in you and your choice. Therefore, I will try to accept your future husband as my own son. Be a faithful and kind wife to him. May there always be peace and mutual understanding in your new family. And the worries of creating this kind atmosphere of warmth and tranquility fall on your fragile shoulders. Be strong and patient, know that love can overcome all life's adversities. May your new family be happy!
Blessing of the bride and groom
- Our dear children! We bless you for creating your family. May she be prosperous and happy. Take care of the tenderness that you have. Live for each other in the name of goodness and your love. Be happy together!
- Dear (names of the young people), our dear children! We want to say our final words of encouragement before you become husband and wife. We wish you to create a strong family, for the joy of everyone - happiness for you and joy for the people! Let harmony and love always accompany you on the path of life, and in times of adversity, become support and support for each other. Be always happy!
- Children! (Names of newlyweds)! Today a new path begins for you - a common one. May it lead you to a world full of love and tenderness, family happiness and all-consuming goodness! Let the light of loving eyes help you overcome all difficulties, and let the warmth of hearts beating together and merging into one warm you in any bad weather. Love each other, appreciate the feelings you have now. Then the new family will be so happy that it’s just a sight for sore eyes. Blessings!
- Advice and love to you, children! Today you are starting your family. You, daughter, on this day also give us a son. His happiness is now as important to us as yours, because it will be common to both of you. Divide your love between two, thereby increasing it and elevating it. Let each of you appreciate the other, help in everything, understand and accept him. We wish to preserve the blessed fire that lit your hearts. It will help on the difficult path of family life, making it brighter and easier. Happiness and prosperity, joy and peace to your family!
Why do you need parental blessing?
To decide to get married, it would be good for young people to receive the blessing of their parents. Why? This is discussed in the book by Archpriest Andrei Lorgus and psychologist Olga Krasnikova, “Man and Woman: From I to We. How to build family happiness?
Man and woman: from I to we. How to build family happiness
Archpriest Andrey Lorgus
RUR 317
This happens even today - in different countries, in different religions and different traditions. The blessing of parents is a universal act in which parental families perform three, in the full sense, sacred actions of the family-tribal system:
- give consent to the marriage of their children;
- connect their family systems into kinship (at first formally, and later, with the birth of grandchildren, actually), unite them;
- through the wish of happiness, through agreement and joy, they symbolically convey strength, energy to their children from the whole family and pray for a new path for the children.
Of course, many parents are not aware of their sacred mission and do not comply with it. It's a pity. It is observed in full by those who preserve traditions and cherish legends. For some, this is a long-awaited act, happiness and trepidation.
Nowadays, this tradition is rarely remembered; it happens spontaneously, unconventionally and somehow. Nevertheless, the meaning of this act remains. Even when young people simply inform their parents about their decision, they, by their consent, even if only forced, perform the blessing after the fact, without ritual or prayer. But in terms of significance, this is a blessing. And it is really necessary, because the unification (still formal) of two family systems is a cosmic and historical event: two families could not be related, but from now on they will be!
Of course, parental families are not a blood relationship, but rather a property, as they said before. And yet, from now on, even if their children divorce in the future, these two systems will not remain strangers to each other. Therefore, blessing is an act of agreement and connection!
Psychologists Olga Krasnikova and Archpriest Andrei Lorgus
In addition, blessing is the transfer of family power of kinship, the blessing of the clan, the grace of ancestors. In this act, in agreement, wishing for good, happiness, longevity and love, parents convey the power of their love to children who want to get married, convey to them the will and strength to continue the life of the family, bless the offspring, pass on the grace of the family from generations of ancestors, thereby joining young to the creators of the race. In this light, blessing becomes an intergenerational event, a key act of connecting generations. Therefore, it can be considered historical.
Finally, blessing is a religious act. A tribal tradition may contain various elements of a marriage blessing: blessing with icons, prayer, gifts, words, songs, feasts, etc. But the important thing here is that in this blessing the young people confirm their commitment to tradition and, therefore, loyalty (love and fidelity) to the family and clan, and their parents give them the order to preserve and continue these traditions.
Religious blessing is the act of praying for God's blessing. From now on, the family views the bride and groom as walking before God.
Of course, we painted the perfect picture. Things don't happen like that in life. Most often, young people get married without a blessing or in spite of it. And this has visible consequences.
Here, for example, is one story: a girl came to the metropolis to study, make a career, find a worthy husband, and live comfortably. Several years of overexertion, radical processing of everything that was acquired in her native village - and now she is married to a native metropolitan resident. Her husband, the only son in the family, a gentle but faithful man, could not convince his parents to agree to marry a newcomer. They did not accept their daughter-in-law, did not agree to recognize her as such, did not attend the wedding, did not help the young people improve their lives. And the girl’s parents didn’t even know who their daughter was going to marry; she informed them when the celebration had already taken place.
The first year of marriage passed in struggles to pay for the apartment (after all, no one supported them). Then the firstborn appeared. By the end of the first year, life began to seem like hell: the woman was exhausted, irritated, scared, and saw no way out. The child grew restless; there was no one to leave him even for an hour. Not a single grandmother, not a single grandfather, not an aunt, not a sister.
It seemed to the couple that they were alone in the human desert of the metropolis. Asking their families for help meant admitting that they were not good enough parents, that they had failed, that they had failed. The young family lamented: “We are alone. Nobody wants to help us. We are not recognized. They don’t consider us family!” - and it was true.
The extended family was torn apart. At an appointment with a psychologist, the woman cried about her bitter lot, but was not able to immediately admit the destructiveness of her decisions. It took a lot of time to heal the split and find understanding from the parents, get their support and help.
This story is an example of how the actions and decisions of future spouses can destroy the unity of a family. But marriage is an act of unity, strengthening and expanding the family. When getting married, it is useful to attract the love and well-wishes of all family branches and clans, then it will be possible to rely on their support both in the present and in the future.
Including families in preparation for marriage is the key to the future of the spouses. If relatives were neglected, they were not invited to the preparations and, especially, to the wedding itself, this could result in big problems for the young family in the future. It is difficult to ask for help from those you have neglected.
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Parting words to the groom before the ransom from his father and mother
The parents of the groom, as well as the bride, say words of blessing and parting words several times . The very first time this happens is when young people announce their intention to start a family - on the day of their engagement. And right before the wedding - even before the son leaves the house to go after his future wife.
Religious
Just as faith is strong and indestructible, and mead is sweet, in the same way let the family of (the son’s name) with (the name of his bride) be indestructible by any adversity, strong in faith in each other, sweet in their love. Let them be inseparable, starting right from this day and this minute - only together, so that not a moment apart from each other! Amen.
How does the blessing ceremony take place?
Before parents or godparents decide to give the newlyweds an icon as a gift, it is worth consulting with the bride and groom: how will they react to this gift?
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Accepting an icon should be a conscious act for young people. It is important for the one who gives it to think about what parting words to present the holy gift with, so that the icon becomes a real amulet for the future family.
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If newlyweds are believers, it is important for them to receive an icon as a gift as a reminder of the spiritual component of their union. The ritual of blessing with an icon depends on the decision of the young:
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The blessing of a son before the wedding is carried out similarly to the ceremony with a daughter, only for this purpose the icon “Savior Temperance” is used.
Parting words from the bride's father and mother at the celebration itself
If all the previous speeches of the parents made before the wedding were relatively short, then after the marriage the parents can allow a few more words and wishes .
From father
- Dear daughter, dear son! We lived with (name of the bride's mother), my wife, for many happy years. There was harmony and harmony in our family. We raised a wonderful daughter who always tried to help us and pleased us with our successes. And now you, daughter, have become an adult and found a man who has become your husband. You will have a new family, a separate one. But know that your mom and I will always support you if you need help. At the same time, I am sure that (name of the groom), your husband, will be able to cope with any problems. He is a strong and worthy person. We are happy that now we also have a wonderful son. Children, be happy with each other, give love and joy, and give your mother and me grandchildren. May you live happily ever after!
- Dear (names of the newlyweds), children! Today you begin building a beautiful structure - your family. My wife and I, having lived in harmony (the time that the bride's parents have been married) for years, know that it is not always easy. Therefore, it is a little sad that you, daughter, no longer fully belong to our family, that you need to go your own way. Whatever it is, I am sure that your husband will be able to support and understand you in everything. He's a good guy, we're glad we can call him our son. Build your life like a beautiful, bright and warm home, in which there is a place of love, joy and children, which is full of peace and tranquility. Having invested your soul in building your family, you will definitely be rewarded with happiness and prosperity. Joy and all the best to you!
From mother
My beloved daughter and (name of the groom), my new son! Don’t look that I’m crying - it’s out of joy for you, my dear children. Your family was born today. Let this day be just the first of an endless number of happy days warmed by your love. Live together, enjoy every minute, try never to leave each other for more than a few hours. Face all adversities together, then they will turn into nothing. And happiness divided by two will increase tenfold. And most importantly, love and honor each other!
What icons are needed for a blessing before a wedding?
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For a long time, specific icons were chosen to bless children who decided to get married. This is the image of the Savior and the Mother of God (as a rule, Kazan is taken). At the end of the wedding, they remain in the family of the young, in order to then pass on to their children. Therefore, you need to buy high-quality icons, with a wide frame, under glass. Prices for such images start at 2 thousand rubles. - quite a feasible amount, considering the total costs of the celebration. For the wedding you will need something else:
- Special candles (long and curly).
- Rings (regular gold ones are fine).
- Towels (two for icons, one for a loaf, one for a ritual).
It is also required to first register the marriage; both young people must have crosses and be baptized in the Orthodox Church.
Icon of the Virgin Mary
The Kazan image is one of the most famous; it is believed that it was he who defended Russia during the Polish invasion. This is a shoulder-length image of the Mother of God and the Child. Before the image, they pray for childbearing, protection of the home, and contact in case of any difficulties. The Kazan Mother of God is considered miraculous.
Savior Almighty
The Savior, depicted half-length, holds the Gospel and blesses the believers with his right hand. Jesus Christ is the merciful intercessor of all believers. A quotation from the Bible is usually written on an open book. You can read any prayers before it. The image of the Savior is usually used to bless the groom, and the Mother of God - to the bride.
Today folding ones are sold, the so-called wedding couple - these are two icons together that can be folded.
Parting words to the son and “new” daughter from the groom’s father and mother
From mother
Dear children! Today means a lot to all of us. I thought I was losing my son, but in fact I had found a wonderful daughter. Now my family has grown, this is also happiness. I bless you, live in harmony and appreciate each other. Let ringing laughter always be heard in your home, and let the smiles of two loving people give light. I wish you healthy children, to the delight of grandparents, to help mom and dad. Cherish the love!
From father
My dear son and (name of the bride), his wife. Thank you! Today has made me much richer - now I have a daughter. Son, look at this girl who has become your wife. She's beautiful. You must be worthy of her, be a protector and support. Love each other, children, keep your feelings for life. Then your life will be bright and clear, full of bright moments and quiet joy. You and your mother have our blessing, and the main thing is that you have each other.
How to bless your son or daughter before the wedding?
For Christians, parental blessing is endowed with special and very powerful power. The words that parents say to their children before marriage have an impact on their family life. Without parental blessing, our ancestors were not allowed to get married in church.
Now many couples decide not to get married, but only to register the marriage at the registry office, but parting words from their parents are no less important for them. In this publication we will look at how to bless a son or daughter before a wedding and which icon should be used to do this.
Meeting of young people from the registry office: how the ceremony is carried out and what to say
Today we have an article on the topic: “How to meet the groom’s parents from the registry office and what to say?” Children grow up quickly. It seems like just yesterday that the son was learning to take his first steps, and today he declares that he has met the girl of his dreams and is going to marry her. And parents are faced with many questions about organizing a wedding celebration, an important part of which is the ritual of welcoming and blessing the newlyweds after the registry office.
A beautiful tradition filled with deep meaning of meeting newlyweds after the registry office has survived to this day. Over time, it partially changed, many symbolic components disappeared, but the significance of meeting and blessing one’s children remained in their new status - husband and wife.
A special ritual in which parents bid farewell to a new family for a happy life is organically woven into the wedding ceremony. It goes differently in every family. Some people pay more attention to the ritual of sharing bread, while others combine it with blessing the newlyweds with an icon of revered saints.
Features of the blessing of the newlyweds
The ritual of blessing children on the day of marriage is quite ancient and has undergone many changes over the course of its existence. Before the advent of registry offices, lovers only got married in the temple. Before the wedding, the groom bought the bride, and the couple asked for parental blessing. From the wedding, the newly-made spouses came to the groom's house, where they were to live.
They were met by the parents of the newlyweds with a wedding loaf. They blessed the couple for a happy family life and led them to the set wedding table. The father had to lead the newly-made spouses around the table three times and seat them in a place of honor. Then guests were invited to the table, and the wedding celebration began.
Seeing off the bride from home to the registry office
They begin to gather the bride at night. Before going to bed, the mother can comb her hair and braid it as a symbol of purity and purity. The wedding outfit should also be prepared in the evening, so that in the morning mother, grandmother, sisters and friends can take part in getting ready without wasting time looking for things and accessories.
The ritual of blessing the bride itself is practically no different from seeing off the groom, except that the icon should be with the image of the Most Holy Theotokos. The father and mother also walk their daughter in a circle around the table three times and say parting words.
Seeing off the bride from home to the registry office
Blessing for son
Traditions have some differences in different regions. We present one of the options for blessing the groom. Only the newlywed, his relatives and godparents are in the room. Bread is placed on a table covered with a tablecloth, salt, holy water and a lit candle are placed nearby.
Mom is holding an icon of the Savior. After the blessing, dad takes his son by the hand and leads him around the table clockwise, and mom brings up the rear, holding a burning candle in one hand and an icon in the other. The action is carried out three times.
In prose
There is an ancient prayer that parents said before their son left the house, going to the bride price. Here is its text:
Just as faith is strong, indestructible and strong, and mead is sweet, in the same way let the family of (the name of the son) with (the name of the bride) be indestructible by any adversity and their faith in each other be strong and their love sweet. Let them be inseparable, starting right from this day and this minute - only together, so that not a moment apart in their thoughts! Amen. I bless you for starting a family!
The groom’s mother can read the prayer while holding the icon, or say wishes in her own words.
The father gives his son parting words for a long and happy marriage: Beloved son! I bless you for starting a family. May the Lord protect her from all misfortunes and evil. Love your wife and be faithful to her. Become a strong shoulder for her and future children, protecting and supporting them from everyday problems and difficulties. Help her in all matters. May there always be peace, harmony, love, prosperity and prosperity in your family!
Blessing the daughter before the wedding
It is believed that parting words from a mother to her daughter before marriage have a special protective power. This ritual is an integral part of our culture. Despite this, it remains one of the most touching and exciting wedding traditions. A blessing from a mother to her daughter means that she fully accepts her choice, and on the wedding day she wishes only happiness to the newlyweds. But we should not forget that the words are addressed not only to the bride, but also to the groom, because on this day they become one.
According to custom, on the wedding day the groom must come for the bride, undergo a series of tests and pay a ransom for her. Only after this is he allowed to see his betrothed, and it is here that the moment of blessing comes. If several days of celebration are planned, then this ritual is carried out only on the first day, because the features of the second wedding day imply more relaxedness, fun and entertainment.
In our culture there are two ways of doing this blessing:
- Traditional, Orthodox. In this case, the canonical rules for its conduct must be observed. All participants in the ceremony must either be baptized or cross themselves before it begins, otherwise it is prohibited to begin. Mandatory attributes are an icon for blessing the newlyweds and a towel, with the help of which everything happens.
In the first case, the ritual is carried out only with the participation of the newlyweds, parents and godparents in a separate room. The mother of the bride should hold the icon with a towel facing the newlyweds. At the same time, she should not worry about what to say at the moment when she begins to bless the newlyweds with the icon. There are no special formulations to pronounce; it all depends on the sincerity of the parents and their eloquence. But it will be obligatory for the mother to cross her daughter three times, then her future son-in-law, then both, recognizing them as a couple. The father in this case can do the same. After this, the young people should cross themselves and kiss the icon.
The second blessing, according to Orthodox tradition, takes place after the registry office in the banquet hall. They are met by the groom's parents with icons and a loaf of bread and keep their word. In accordance with the wedding ceremony, the mother-in-law pronounces a blessing on her daughter-in-law as if she were her own daughter. After such a speech, the young people kiss the icons and take bread and salt.
