How Azerbaijanis treat their wives
In Azerbaijan, the most progressive state with a predominant Muslim population, you can now find a variety of forms of marriage relationships.
These are traditional Azerbaijani families, with the indispensable guardianship of the mother-in-law, and progressive relationships, when young and mature couples lead an almost secular lifestyle and do not follow the unspoken rules of social behavior, and archaic types of relationships from the fundamental currents of Islam. Historically, Azerbaijani women had slightly more rights in the family and in society than in all the Islamic states around them. This became possible due to the too strong influence of other cultures and religions, as well as the isolation of the Azeri people between the Iranian Plateau and the spurs of the Greater Caucasus.
Unequal marriages
Azerbaijani unequal marriages are a whole culture. The difference between the age of the bride and groom can be 10, 15, or even 20 years, and in the vast majority of cases, the groom is getting married for the first time. By the way, such forms of marriage unions are limited to the capital of the republic and two or three large cities. The periphery and remote settlements consider such marriage unacceptable and reprehensible.
These unions in almost 100% of cases are marriages of convenience. A successful man of 35-40 years old, who has a separate home and a stable income, is already a reason to send cunning matchmakers to him, who begin to “process” the parents of such a man. The problem of successful marriage in Azerbaijan has always been acute, since for various reasons the demographic preponderance of the female part of the population remains unchanged.
In such marriages, the fate of the wife is unenviable. As a rule, in such cases the girl is the object of suppression by both her husband and his mother. It is believed that she has been given too high an honor to be the chosen one of a reasonable and wealthy spouse, so she must remember mercy all her life. There are exceptions here, of course, but they are extremely rare.
Young wives are practically deprived of an alternative social circle. Attempting to make acquaintances with a divorced or married woman, or with any company, is considered not only reprehensible - unheard of. The fate of a young wife from an unequal marriage is to communicate exclusively with her husband’s relatives and her own, and occasionally with work colleagues.
Traditional Azerbaijani marriages
There are already arranged marriages here, based on the selection and approval of spouses of children by the parents, and independent ones, at the behest of the hearts of the young. But even in this case, brides have a lot of problems with the correct presentation of themselves, their family, their merits and knowledge of everyday life. In Azerbaijani culture, marriages with an unkempt bride who does not know how to cook and is ill-mannered are practically excluded. And love is powerless here.
In both cases, wives in such unions have relatively unlimited freedom to communicate with their relatives and acquaintances (in mandatory notification form at the level of the husband or mother-in-law), to visit shops and recreational areas alone, to drive a car independently, and to a number of other pleasant feminine pleasures .
At the same time, the unspoken rule of Islam is strictly observed: under no circumstances does a woman in such a marriage have the right to be alone with another man, no matter what places and events this concerns - from meeting on the staircase to memorial events.
When young people of equal age and income get married, the living conditions and type of family life are determined, first of all, by the place of residence of the couple. If these are settlements outside the cities, villages and mountain villages, limitations and social control follow the wife at every step. In addition to the basic, Muslim requirements, special national requirements are often presented, limiting, for example, free and impolite conversations with the husband’s parents.
In this regard, the life of an Azerbaijani provincial woman is difficult and full of violence. She can easily be beaten by her husband’s sisters and mother, she can be kicked out of the house by the same husband’s relatives, for tactless or scandalous objections to the elders in her husband’s family. Dating a man on the side in this marriage is tantamount to suicide without hyperbole - up to 80% of cases of murder of wives by husbands in the provinces are associated with adultery.
Religious and ethnic marriages
Azerbaijani society consists of several groups of nationalities, some of which are the ethnic Azeri people (Azerbaijanis), some are Iranian-speaking (Talysh), the northern regions of the republic are inhabited by Jews of the Yehudim (Mountain) group, Lezgins, and Avars. Almost all of these peoples adhere to intra-community or intra-confessional conditionally free type of relations in society. What does this mean?
In places of compact and historical residence of groups of Talysh, Jews, Lezgins and Avars, as a rule, the overwhelming majority of the population is an ethnic group of non-Azerbaijani-speaking origin. The main language of communication, of course, remains the state language, but everyday conversations and education in schools are widely used in native languages.
Marriages in such ethnic groups are extremely rarely archaic and patriarchal, and women have a certain degree of freedom of movement and communication. This applies to both the internal, ethnic environment and the external environment. It’s just that it is extremely rare that wives from these nationalities allow themselves to behave immorally, and therefore deservedly enjoy the trust of their spouses and relatives.
In religious marriages (a relatively young phenomenon, by the way), the wives of Azerbaijanis have no more freedom than the wives of Arabians or Afghans. This is a family life tightly closed from the world; the spouse’s social circle in such a couple is limited only to the female part of the family. In such a marriage, the spouse is deprived of the right to participate in national weddings, with dancing and alcohol, she is prohibited from appearing on the street without a niqab, and she does not have the right to talk with men even from among the spouse’s relatives.
Marriage of a Russian woman and an Azerbaijani man - an objective view
You know, I agree that everything depends on the situation in relations between the Russian and the Azerbaijani. If you had sex before marriage, it’s not fatal, but if the woman was married before and got divorced for objective reasons (by the way, the Koran does not prohibit marrying a divorced woman, there’s no shame in that, unless of course the woman is respectable, but that’s how the circumstances turned out.) or a widow. — it is clear that a couple is no longer small children. But still, you don’t need to immediately jump into bed (you will remember this someday during a quarrel)... But a young girl, of course, should avoid bed before marriage. But this is also true among Russians - or not? In my opinion, integrity and moral qualities of a person have always been valued everywhere. Any man of any nation prefers to marry, so to speak, pure girls, but unfortunately this is becoming increasingly rare. In the age of high technology, a woman increasingly forgets to be a woman. To be, first of all, a mother, a loving wife and a hospitable and zealous housewife. After all, it’s wonderful when the husband is the main one in the family, the breadwinner, and a woman can completely devote herself to the home. Career...yes, now many women dream of this, becoming more aggressive, assertive, tough...and men sometimes increasingly shoulder the function of the main breadwinner onto the fragile female shoulders. This is especially true for Russian men - sad but true. There are such people among Azerbaijanis, but this is usually an exception. Yes, there are those who came to work in Russia and take advantage of Russian women.)) But we ourselves are to blame - we allow ourselves to be treated this way. If you want respect and sincere love, behave with dignity when you met and started dating: if you are relaxing in a club (restaurant or cafe), do not dance with your butt so that everyone can see how sexy you are. Don’t enter into men’s conversations, demanding - well, Zaauuur (Rafik, Ramil, Samir, Valeh and others like them..) well, stop chatting there, I don’t understand. (Azerbaijani men, if I discuss a woman in my own language, it will certainly not be you and not in front of you) these are their men's conversations. Don't smoke or get drunk. If you go to the store with him for a gift, don’t try to get as much and as expensive as possible - remember, whoever dines a woman dances her!!! This rule applies to any man. Be neat and hospitable at home. Pamper them with delicious food, don’t show your character or how bad your mood is - believe me, men are polygamous by nature, unlike women - and any man will quickly find someone who is always in a great mood. Also, don’t let them do too much - you didn’t find yourself in the trash heap! If you don’t agree with him, don’t yell, but justify your point of view, for example: I’m sorry, but I’m not ready to “get close to you” yet. Ask him to understand you - if he doesn’t understand, but insists on his own, then there is no love, but lust. And believe me, everything I wrote here applies not only to Azerbaijani men, but to anyone!!! A woman should behave with dignity towards everyone. To be beautiful for your loved one - and not for others. And if your beloved Azerbaijani introduces you to his family and offers you his hand and heart - THINK!!! After all, this is a different mentality. In marriage, you will most likely stay at home. He may allow you to work - but only a little - and where there are no other men, i.e. only in a female team and on a part-time basis - this is not uncertainty about his masculine qualities, but the culture of upbringing, the traditions in which he was brought up. At the same time, you will have to manage to maintain the family hearth. Food should not be heated, for example, but prepared with love for his arrival. Everything should be tasty and there should be a lot of sweets, good tea - after all, guests can come to you at any moment and you won’t be limited to a piece of store-bought cake and a tea bag. Azerbaijanis are really very hospitable. Although there are so many different delicious dishes in Azerbaijani cuisine that can be prepared very quickly and do not require much expense - so this is not a problem. You must be prepared for the fact that if his friends come to visit without their wives, then you are unlikely to sit at the table with him - unless he invites you. Although, again, is it interesting to listen to men's conversations? In this case, you should not turn into a swearing cuss. You must develop. He must be sure that you can always talk to him on any topic - economics, politics - you must be in the know. If you are Russian, you should know everything about Islam, honor Sharia. No one will force you to accept Islam if you didn’t do it in the first place, but you should know what holidays are and how they are celebrated. Which movement of Islam does your husband belong to - Sunni or Shiites, etc. In short, you must be interesting, well-groomed at any time, hospitable, loyal, caring, an excellent mother. There will be no dancing - only with him. It should be natural for you that your husband will make all the decisions, including whether you can go to your parents or not. Having married an Azerbaijani, you must clearly understand that you left your family and entered it by creating your own. Therefore, make sure that there is a good relationship between your parents and your husband (and his parents). It won’t work here - mom, he can be so nasty!!! And it’s his mother...No. For everyone and everything, your husband is gold, even if there are a whole bunch of shortcomings!! Your husband will then carry you in his arms! Believe me, Azerbaijanis - if not a moral monster - will never do bad in return for good, on the contrary, they will honor your parents. So, despite the frenzy of happiness of love, think, Russian women and girls - are you ready for this? PS if quarrels happen and you see that he acted wrongly and unfairly towards you, do not be afraid to tell him this and complain about him. You must know your not only responsibilities, but also your RIGHTS!!! Many Russian girls cannot stand up for themselves because they do not know their rights. And this is wrong! That is why it is necessary to know everything about Islam and know Shariah! Since there is an opinion that Muslim wives are downtrodden, have no rights, etc... in fact, it is in Islam that women and children are most protected by law and have quite a lot of rights! And those Russian wives who don’t know this, and I get it for my ignorance! For example, an Azerbaijani woman will never allow anyone to raise a hand against her - this is haram! Or that her husband doesn’t provide enough for her! She can always demand respect for her rights! And the Russian, without knowing anything, will swallow everything. Therefore, it often happens that they marry Russians to satisfy all their needs. But if a Russian woman, having started dating an Azerbaijani man, behaves not only with dignity but also knows her rights, then this marriage will be the happiest for both you and him!!! Good luck to you all and happiness!!!
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Azerbaijanis: general characteristics of men
Most of them are short - 170-175 centimeters. They have thick black eyebrows and large facial features, but despite this, they lack typical Caucasian facial features. First of all, they have a straight nose and fair skin.
They are always strictly and elegantly dressed and look, at least, stylish and respectable.
They are a calm and orderly people, compared to other Caucasian ethnic groups. Any conflict with them is resolved without shouting or fist fights. But their Caucasian character still manifests itself: during the celebration of national or religious holidays.
These people are long-livers; the average life expectancy of Azerbaijani men is 70-72 years. There is a village in the republic called Talysh, where many residents are over 110 years old.
Attitude towards marriage
It should be remembered that Azerbaijanis are Muslims. In past times, a man, according to Islamic traditions, could have several wives (maximum 4). However, polygamy is now prohibited by law in Azerbaijan. The attitude towards this phenomenon in the country is extremely negative.
Azerbaijanis treat both marriage and family very responsibly. They are strictly guided by the Koran, which states that marriage is part of religion, and the most faithful believers are those who respect and honor their wives.
It should be noted that the Koran does not prohibit marriages between a Muslim and a Russian, but it is considered best if the girl converts to Islam. Such unions are possible only if the consent of relatives is obtained.
What are Azerbaijani men like in marriage? In a family, both husband and wife have their own rights and responsibilities.
Firstly, the man provides financially for the family. Secondly, he is obliged to take care of his wife, her health and mental state, and pay attention to her. Men love a woman to obey them unquestioningly, even in matters such as choosing an outfit.
Previously, women stayed at home and raised children. But over time this tradition disappeared. Modern Azerbaijani women have the opportunity to work.
Russian Azerbaijani
This is a separate phenomenon. Many Azerbaijanis have long been Russified; they can be found everywhere, from Kaliningrad to Vladivostok. They can be conditionally divided by religion, into Muslims and everyone else.
If an Azerbaijani is not a Muslim, then his attitude towards a Russian woman will be normal. In the case of such people, everything is decided by moral qualities, not nationality.
It cannot be said that an Azerbaijani will treat a Russian girl well or badly. It all depends on the person. Each case is unique. We hope the article was useful to you. Don't forget to share the post with your friends!
Pragmatism
What is the character of Azerbaijani men? Most of them are pragmatists. In society, male losers do not evoke sympathy; on the contrary, they are condemned or even despised. That is why every man strives to achieve success and material well-being. They choose only those areas that can bring benefits. They have no such thing as “work for the soul.”
Men are prone to self-irony and irony, criticism and self-criticism. They have a great sense of humor, can be cunning, and love entertainment and fun. They love beautiful things, comfort and convenience, and also very tasty food.
The character of Azerbaijani men is peace-loving, but quick-tempered if their dignity and honor, interests and feelings of close relatives are offended.
Fictitious international marriage
A fictitious marriage is in the case of concluding a family union recognized by law, not for the purpose of creating a family, but for obtaining various types of benefits.
Many Russian women make money by entering into fictitious marriages. However, it is worth knowing that this decision has consequences, and not the most pleasant ones.
We recommend that you read in more detail the information about a fictitious marriage with a foreigner.
What benefits do Azerbaijanis seek from marriage?
Most Azerbaijanis strive for a fictitious marriage in order to acquire Russian citizenship. To become a citizen of the Russian Federation, you need reasons, and having a Russian wife after two years of marriage will be an excellent basis for obtaining all permits and a simplified procedure for citizenship. A similar goal can be pursued if a Russian citizen marries an Azerbaijani citizen.
When making a serious decision regarding entering into a fictitious marriage, one should not forget that all property acquired after marriage is considered jointly acquired and in the event of a divorce is divided in half. It will be difficult to prove the fictitiousness of the marriage later, since in Russia there is no strict procedure for such recognition.
Sociability
As a rule, Azerbaijani men are sociable, love to talk, spend a lot of time with relatives and friends, often receive guests and go on visits. Celebrating holidays, they organize lavish feasts.
Men treat women, elders, and superiors with respect.
Many men love poetry, they themselves know how to speak beautifully, making long and eloquent toasts, and often tell instructive or funny stories. The main role in communication is played by sincerity and empathy. They do not tolerate loneliness and lack of communication well.
"Don't fall flat on your face"
In a circle of friends, everyone is equal; they communicate sincerely and directly. But all the same, the man tries to behave with restraint, never demonstrates emotions, experiences and feelings. As a rule, they behave confidently and with dignity in society, even if things are going very badly for them. This is called "acting like a man."
It is not accepted in society to talk about your failures, complain, or show your weaknesses; they will simply laugh at you.
And public opinion plays a huge role in a man’s life. It is important for him how he looks in the eyes of others, what they say and think about him.
Among young people, this trend is somewhat weakening; young people more freely express their individuality in behavior, clothing, and lifestyle. But for an Azerbaijani of any age, the worst thing is to lose dignity, “to lose face.” For example, you will never see an Azerbaijani lying drunk on the street anywhere. When receiving guests, the owner will put the best on the table, even if it is the last.
The Republic's long stay within the USSR formed among some Azerbaijani men a tolerant attitude towards violations of the law and abuse of official position. They prefer to build relationships based on mutual agreement and family ties. This trait is inherent not only to Azerbaijanis, but also to many other peoples of the former USSR. But it should be noted that an Azerbaijani always keeps his word, since this is a “matter of honor” for him.
Where can you register a marriage?
Since the Republic of Azerbaijan is part of the CIS, a marriage between a Russian girl and a citizen of Azerbaijan can be concluded in any registry office at the place of registration. However, since registering a marriage with a foreign citizen in most cases requires the participation of the embassy of the country of which the groom is a citizen, it is more advisable to enter into such unions in the capital. This approach is due to the presence of various diplomatic missions of foreign states in Moscow.
When the groom is a citizen of a country that is not part of the CIS, there are some restrictions for him regarding the place of marriage registration; we recommend that you learn more about registering a marriage with a foreigner in Moscow.
Azerbaijani men: what they are like in love and relationships
What attracts women to Azerbaijani men?
They, like all men, love with their eyes. To please such a man, you need to be beautiful and well-groomed. Men love femininity very much. And the more elegant and bright a woman looks, the better. What are Azerbaijani men like in relationships? Men love to indulge women's whims. But you need to be capricious in a beautiful, flirtatious way.
They cannot tolerate waywardness and stubbornness. They are leaders by nature and do not like to be disobeyed. For a man, a woman is the keeper of the family hearth and the mother of his children. That is why they prefer that she sit at home and take care of family affairs: cook delicious meals, do laundry, maintain order, take care of the children, and so on.
In their understanding, the best self-realization of a woman is to be a mother and wife.
Does the law allow having two citizenships?
Many international couples think about taking a second citizenship after marriage. This is convenient, since under such circumstances migration issues will not arise. However, in the situation of a Russian wife and an Azerbaijani husband, some restrictions arise.
From the point of view of Russian legislation, dual citizenship is not prohibited, however, the corresponding agreement is valid only with Tajikistan (until May 18, 2015, an agreement was in force with Turkmenistan), therefore, citizens who are citizens of other states will be considered by the law exclusively as citizens of the Russian Federation. Thus, technically, a Russian bride can obtain Azerbaijani citizenship while maintaining Russian citizenship.
It is worth taking into account the latest amendments to migration legislation, under the terms of which the holder of additional citizenship is obliged to notify the migration service about this. Failure to comply with the law may result in administrative or criminal liability.
But with the groom the situation is a little different. The Republic of Azerbaijan does not recognize dual citizenship, therefore, if such a fact is revealed, a citizen with two passports will lose his Azerbaijani passport, as well as his citizenship.
Azerbaijani men, what are they like in relationships: reviews
On the Internet on thematic forums, many women share opinions on how to behave with Azerbaijani men, what kind of character they are. But the most charismatic opinion is that of TV presenter Musevi Gunel, an Azerbaijani by origin living in the USA. She published her review about Azerbaijani men in the online magazine EveryAzeri. What do they think they are?
- They look like a Mexican, an Englishman and an Arab combined.
- They are very kind, respectful and loving towards their mothers.
- Self-satisfied and confident.
- They always walk with their heads held high and show their confidence.
- Azerbaijani men love to rule and are great owners. You need to live by their rules and always obey, agree with all the conditions.
- They love beautiful poetry.
- They like beautiful things, fashionable clothes, branded perfumes - all this is very important to them. They are sometimes more interested in fashion than women.
- They are ready to make any sacrifice for the sake of their chosen ones.
- They are very caring and will do everything to make a woman feel happy.
Bride's farewell ceremony
This tradition has also not undergone any special changes and is full of national symbolism.
First of all, guests from the groom’s side come and take the bride, accompanying the procession with dancing and singing. The bride herself is waiting in the wings behind closed doors, the keys to which guests will be able to receive immediately after they present the gift to the newlywed’s family. After presenting the gift to her parents, the girl is also blessed by tying a red ribbon around her waist. Next, they cover her head with a veil and take her out into the yard, where an impressive fire should already be lit. The tradition involves circling the bride 3 times around the fire, which symbolizes the future comfort and warmth of the new family. They usually throw a stone after them as a symbol of the fortress of the future home and family. Next comes the turn of water, which is dripped at the girl’s feet. This symbolizes a happy marriage without tears and disappointments.
Next, a plate is placed at the bride’s new house, which she breaks with her foot. Then it is important that the girl is given a male child into her arms. Thus, it is believed that after the ritual the first-born male will be born. Which is very important for Azerbaijani families.
Then, according to tradition, a young ram must be killed in front of the girl. This ritual is designed to help maintain happiness and harmony in marriage, as well as quickly integrate the girl into a new family, avoiding quarrels and disagreements with her husband’s relatives. Another ritual for harmony is the mother-in-law stroking her daughter-in-law’s hair during the wedding. As a sign of abundance, rice and sweets are sprinkled on the bride's head. Afterwards, the young bride is taken to a special decorated room, where she receives congratulations and warm wishes, including from large offspring.
Next, the young couple is sprinkled with rice again for greater financial well-being. In Azerbaijan, a tradition has been preserved, which consists of ransoming the bride, which is asked from the newlyweds on the way to the new house by the bridesmaids and other guests, blocking their way.
Everything changes
Young Azerbaijanis are very different from the men of the middle generation. National identity and pride are striking. They are more aware of themselves as citizens of a separate independent state.
Young people practically do not drink alcohol. Feasts are accompanied by drinking tea with oriental sweets.
Young people follow the latest films, visit the theater, go to concerts, play dominoes or backgammon.
Modern young people are less romantic and dreamy. They are more pragmatic and hardworking. They like to devote their free time from work to sports, self-education, and self-development.
Young people have become more individual. The accelerated pace of life has led to the weakening of social ties and limited communication with relatives and friends. Even middle-aged men have been visiting less lately and spending time with friends.
Traditions and customs after the wedding celebration
There are many rituals and traditions after a wedding in Azerbaijan. For example, relatives on both sides have the right to look at the sheet after the first wedding night in order to make sure of the purity and innocence of the betrothed. After performing the ritual, the hosts should treat the guests to pilaf. After the wedding, the duties of the mother-in-law include presenting various treats to the newlyweds for 3 days.
After the wedding, the bride is not allowed to see her father-in-law for two weeks, after which the mother-in-law sets the festive table, and the father-in-law calls the bride and gives her a personal gift. This ritual symbolizes the acceptance of the daughter-in-law into the new family by the older generation of the husband.
After a certain number of months, the young mother has the right to visit her daughter’s new family with her relatives. The first meeting with parents is unique in its own way. After 40 days from the date of the celebration, the newlyweds have the opportunity to personally visit the bride’s family. The parents of the newly-made bride must set the table, and she herself can, if she wishes, stay for a few days in the old house.
After the completion of the rituals, the time restriction is lifted and the girl can visit her family whenever she wants. Often, relatives of both parties invite the newlyweds to visit to exchange experiences and gifts. Modern traditions provide for the possibility of photographs with the bride and groom, and also allow the newlyweds to sit at the table with the invited guests.
An Azerbaijani wedding is a unique event, the presence of which will help you understand the ancient traditions and rituals of this unique culture.
