The wedding night is not a reason to worry
Try to relax before an exciting event. When left alone with your husband, drink some wine or champagne and eat a light snack. Alcohol will help you relax, but don't overuse it, otherwise it will have the opposite effect. Chocolate and seafood are natural aphrodisiacs that increase arousal. Buy an assortment of chocolates, order sushi or a seafood salad - aphrodisiacs will also help you relax and unwind. To create a romantic atmosphere, light scented candles, play quiet music, or take a bath together. Ask your husband not to rush, let him wait until you are ready. If you are very worried, discuss this with your future husband before the wedding. Tell him about your fears, ask questions. A loving husband will calm you down and tell you what you need to do.
It is better to spend your wedding night in a romantic setting, such as a hotel room, where you can be served champagne and snacks.
First wedding night: how to behave
The wedding night is the most desired event in the life of every girl. She prepares for it for a very long time, even longer than for the wedding itself.
Everything should go perfectly: relaxing atmosphere, creativity, love for your partner. Value must be given to everything, nothing should be missed: color, smell, taste of wine and grapes. All this creates a romantic mood. The first wedding night should bring bliss and tenderness to the newly-made spouses. Probably, most newlyweds did not spend this important and responsible event as romantic as they would like. Some spent half the night sorting out wedding bouquets and gifts, while others simply had no energy left for anything else. However, everyone dreams about it. From this moment on, the foundations for the further continuation of the relationship are laid. It marks the beginning of future family life. How to make it unforgettable?
Continuation of the wedding banquet
The girl should remember that she should have enough strength left after the wedding banquet so that she can pay attention to her beloved. To do this, it is better to make sure that the organization of the entire celebration does not fall on the lady’s fragile shoulders, but to share this fate with someone. Relatives, brothers and sisters will be happy to help. It’s better to leave the most interesting part to yourself - the choice of a wedding dress, shoes and accessories. The day before your wedding is the best time to relax. Of course, excitement will naturally appear. But you still need to try to relax. Otherwise, you are guaranteed to look tired and sleep-deprived. Then the first wedding night may not take place at all, since there simply is not enough strength.
Meeting point
It is best to discuss in advance where the first wedding night will take place. Of course, it will be very romantic if everything goes like in the movies: a bath with champagne and rose petals, scented candles. In this case, the imagination begins to rage in earnest. And if it so happens that this event takes place in the parents’ apartment, then care should be taken to ensure that none of them spend the night at home. Newlyweds should be alone.
Interior decoration
You also need to pay enough attention to decorating the place where the first wedding night will take place. The girl herself probably won’t have time for this. Therefore, it is best to entrust this important task to someone else. Relatives or friends will gladly agree to shoulder this burden. Therefore, you should not worry about this. The atmosphere should be romantic and harmonious, so that when you return after a difficult and emotional day, there is no fatigue on your face. No matter how beautiful the setting, you should not forget about champagne and flowers. Subdued light, candlelight - what could be better. Also, the girl should pay attention to her underwear; it should be selected with special care. Stockings must be included. It is best to invest in a peignoir, since a casual robe is not such suitable clothing for this moment.
Bed sheets
Another important factor is the choice of bed linen. It’s worth talking about this with your beloved man, let him also take part in this. You need to ask about his tastes and preferences, that is, do everything so that he knows how to behave and in what order to do what. It is also recommended to clarify how he imagines his wedding night, and whether he has any desires.
Wedding night scenario
The most common is to bathe in a huge bathtub or jacuzzi, which is filled with rose petals.
A light romantic dinner will also be a wonderful event for further intimacy. You can also rent a hall with an orchestra and spend some time there, dancing to slow music. A relaxing erotic massage will allow the girl to smoothly move on to the most important thing. (Visited 30 times, 1 visits today)
Tell your husband comfortable positions
There are several positions in which defloration occurs most painlessly. The most popular position is the classic missionary. Here you can relax and let your husband take the initiative. Control his actions, and defloration will be quite easy. For greater relaxation, place a pillow under your buttocks and pull your bent legs towards your chest. Another good position suitable for a virgin is the man from behind. Lie on your stomach on the bed with your feet on the floor. Let your husband rest his hands on the bed and enter you while standing. In this position, the hymen becomes stretched and breaks easily. It’s better not to experiment during sex; cowgirl positions, sitting and standing are not for you yet. If pain and bleeding occur during sex, it is better to stop contact. Blood is released in most cases, but sometimes there may not be any. If there is heavy bleeding, you should abstain from sexual intercourse for several days.
If bleeding persists for more than 3 days, you should consult a doctor.
How to determine whether a wife was a virgin on her wedding night?
Hello Zomir.
It's the 21st century, and it's a little strange that nowadays there are still people who are completely unfamiliar with human anatomy.
Firstly, it is worth saying right away that completely different people cannot be compared with each other, since each person has completely different organisms, and the reactions of their organisms to certain things are not the same. For example, it has long been known that not every woman experiences pain or bleeding during her first sexual intercourse. It is believed that almost a third of all women do not experience any pain at all during sexual intercourse, and about 10% of women do not experience the appearance of blood during defloration. This is because a woman's hymen can have different shapes, different numbers of holes, different thicknesses and different stretchability. In addition, in some girls the opening in the hymen is initially large, so that it can easily allow the penis into the vagina, and in some cases the hymen may be completely absent from birth.
In forensic terminology, there is such a term as “molestation,” that is, when a girl loses her virginity through sexual intercourse with a man. In some cases, a girl physiologically remains a virgin even after many sexual acts with a man.
There are cases when a woman loses her virginity by accident, for example, when visiting a gynecologist, while playing sports, during injuries, falls, blows, and such cases cannot be called molestation, since despite the fact that physiologically the girl is no longer a virgin, sexual She had no acts with a man.
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Unfortunately, proving virginity is a rather complicated procedure, since an examination is necessary, and such an examination in most cases is carried out by decision of the preliminary investigation authorities or the court. You, of course, can consult a gynecologist, but, firstly, no one is obliged to show you the data on your wife’s examination, since there is a concept of medical confidentiality, and secondly, the gynecologist will not be able to tell you anything. In addition, at the doctor’s appointment, the doctor collects a preliminary medical history from the patient’s words, and when asked how long your wife has been sexually active, she will be able to answer that since marriage.
Since a lot of time has passed since you got married, the fact that the girl lost her virginity can only be indicated by scars at the site of breaks formed on the hymen. Unfortunately, no one will tell you at what time this happened, that is, before marriage, or after marriage. In some cases, even a doctor cannot determine whether there is a tear in the hymen, or whether these are completely natural depressions, since in some cases the scars on the hymen are very thin and do not differ in any way from the color of the surrounding mucous membrane.
If your wife went to the gynecologist within a week after the first sexual intercourse with you, the doctor could notice swelling of the hymen, traces of hemorrhages at the sites of ruptures, and then only if the integrity of the hymen was broken.
If it remains intact, then such manifestations may be absent. More on the topic: www.eurolab.ua
Ritual of preparation for the wedding night
Not only the newlyweds, but also their closest relatives prepared for their wedding night. The event took place in the groom's house, because it was there that the bride moved immediately after the wedding. In another way, the first closeness was called the basement, since it was located in the coolest place of the house. It was believed that it was in the cool that newlyweds had a better chance of getting closer and snuggling with each other.
The bed for the first night was necessarily made by the groom's mother or sister. This had to be done with items from the bride's dowry. At the same time, the bride was not allowed into the room until the first intimacy took place.
Unchangeable attributes were also placed on the bed. They were symbols of nobility, material well-being, health and family happiness. They were placed in the corners of the room so that they would not be conspicuous to the young married couple.
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Is virgin blood different from menstrual blood?
“My family is very wealthy, I grew up without needing anything. But we're talking about something else. When I was 17 years old, one guy asked me to date him and become his girlfriend. I didn't like him and I refused him. After which he raped me. I don’t know, maybe my refusal hurt him so much and he decided to go for it, or he only wanted to date me because he knew that my parents had money. After the rape, he could not marry me, even stealing me, as they usually do. And we stopped communicating. A year after that, I met my current boyfriend, and now we are planning to get married. I did not hide from him that I had been raped. He told me not to worry about anything. But I’m still scared, because after the first wedding night they will check the sheet, they say that virgin blood is different from menstrual blood. This is true?" — wrote one of the readers.
Bottom line
In Rus', perhaps, there were some of the most democratic rules for the first wedding night. It was believed that spouses should not have sex in different positions after marriage. Their only position could be missionary, where they lie facing each other. All other positions were considered unspiritual, and anal sex was especially punished by the church.
Therefore, subsequently the sexual life of the newlyweds was quite monotonous and typical, so as not to anger God and the church canons. Despite this, the Russians had their first night, and it required obligatory physical intimacy with confirmation of the bride’s chastity. Only the husband could have sexual intercourse. All other people were not allowed to see the young girl.
Muslims' first wedding night
On the first night, the husband is expected to take his wife's virginity. The husband does everything to please his wife. He is trying to liberate her, excite her. The girl also needs to express her feelings for her husband, to show that she wants intimacy with him.
Of course, it may also happen that intimacy does not happen on the first night after the celebration. This can be corrected later. Fortunately, the tradition of suffering a cold with the blood of a virgin has already become obsolete. Most often, such a ritual is even considered forbidden.
In Rus', the right to deflower a girl traditionally belonged to her future husband. According to church canons, a married marriage is sacred and any attempt on someone else’s marriage bed is a great sin. Later, feudal lords often neglected this law and used the right of the first wedding night, but the church did not welcome this.
Time spending
The wedding ceremony in Rus' was a complex sacrament that combined Christian and pagan traditions. The timing of the wedding was always carefully chosen. In many peoples of the world, the first intercourse of newlyweds could occur on the third or fourth day, or even later (some Muslim countries, India, etc.).
For Russians, the first wedding night took place during the wedding celebration, so it was very important to schedule the wedding on the date permitted by the church. According to Orthodox laws, it is impossible to have sexual relations during Lent and on church holidays, therefore weddings were not scheduled for this time.
Ritual of preparation for the wedding night
For a long time, the Russian people called their wedding night a basement. This is due to the fact that the newlyweds’ bed was always arranged in a cool place: in the basement of the hut (pictured), closet, barn or bathhouse.
This always happened on the territory of the groom, since the girl after the wedding went to live with him. A high bed on a strong wooden base was prepared for the newlyweds. It was covered with bedding from the girl's dowry. The preparation of the bed for the bride and groom was carried out by female matchmakers. The groom's mother or sister could also prepare the bed.
Many ritual objects were placed on the bed, which were supposed to protect the newlyweds from damage and provide them with a comfortable existence in the future. Such amulets included small sheaves of rye, bags of flour, mattresses, and feather beds. The bed was covered on top with a snow-white embroidered blanket. Several logs, a frying pan, a poker, and a juniper branch were placed under the bed. These items were supposed to protect the couple from all evil spirits. The logs symbolized future offspring, so more of them had to be placed.
Seeing off the newlyweds
The newlyweds were escorted to the “bedchamber” prepared in this way by a whole crowd of guests: boyfriends, matchmakers, relatives and, in general, anyone who wanted to take part in the noisy and fun action. The farewell was accompanied by songs, obscene jokes and advice. The friend hit the box with a whip, driving out evil spirits. Then he had to pay a ransom to the bedwomen.
Alone
After all these rituals, the newlyweds were finally left alone. The door was locked, and a cage guard was left near it. He also had to protect the newlyweds from evil spells and various evil spirits. But guests often stayed at the door and simply spied on the young people.
Left alone, the bride and groom first treated themselves to bread and chicken. This food was supposed to give the couple fertility. After eating, the girl was obliged to take off the guy’s boots. Thus, she demonstrated humility before her future husband and showed her readiness to obey him in everything. Also, the girl had to ask her husband for permission to lie with him. Then sexual intercourse had to take place. A friend came to inquire about this several times. As soon as the girl lost her virginity, the marriage was considered physically confirmed, which was loudly announced to all guests. The newlyweds could be taken out to the feast again and delighted with songs of the most obscene content, or the guests themselves came to the basement of the newlyweds and stayed there with them until dawn.
Innocence as the main attribute
The most important moment in this whole ritual was the demonstration of the bride's shirt with blood stains. If the bride retained her virginity before the wedding, she was considered honest. Otherwise, she brought shame not only on herself, but also on her parents. A collar was hung around the neck of the matchmaker and the parents of the dishonest newlywed. They brought my father a glass of wine with a holey bottom. The girl could even be returned to her father's house.
The loss of virginity on the first wedding night was symbolically celebrated by hanging towels embroidered with red threads and beating pots. After this, the girl became “young”, and the guy became “young”. After the wedding night, the young woman was dressed in the clothes of a married woman and given an appropriate headdress. The entire ritual had to be strictly observed, otherwise the new family would be threatened with infertility and poverty.
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