More and more couples are abandoning the registry office, choosing an outdoor ceremony that they will make the way they want. Along with organization and decor, the task arises of coming up with what the newlyweds will say to each other, what words they will utter at the time of starting a family. These words are usually the hardest to find because they need to sound sincere and reflect your feelings. We decided to help by telling you how to write a wedding vow for the bride and groom, as well as sharing a good selection of examples.
How to write a wedding vow
Today you can easily order a beautiful text that describes your sincere feelings for your soulmate on the Internet. But a wedding vow is personal and intimate, so it’s better if you write it yourself. Let it be a simple speech, devoid of complex epithets, the main thing is that these are sincere and touching words.
Where to get ideas for writing your wedding vows:
- The story of your acquaintance - remember the first impression of the meeting, what attracted you to your significant other, what emotions you experienced.
- The most touching moments and memorable dates are an excellent occasion to remind your soulmate of the brightest moments shared together.
- The best character traits of the other half - wedding vows sound more sensual and touching if they contain beautiful words about what attracts and inspires in the other half.
- Your goals and dreams - if you are not afraid of envious glances, then you can add information about plans for the near future to your solemn speech: a honeymoon, buying a house, having children, etc.
Tips for writing vows for the bride
Many girls in love are so impressionable that they are ready to fill up a whole notebook in confessions to their beloved. Of course, the newlyweds’ oath should not consist of just a few sentences, but a long speech is also tiring to listen to, both for the guests and for the other half. If you have a lot of ideas, write them all down and gradually choose the best and most tender words.
If you are planning a wedding speech at the registry office, the text should not contain too many jokes and gags. This kind of speech is best left for the banquet. Start writing your vow a few months before the upcoming celebration, gradually you will be able to make adjustments to it and by the time of the wedding you will bring it to perfection.
How to Write the Perfect Wedding Vow to the Groom
Not all men are emotional and romantic, so the speech may turn out a little dry and boring. To make a beautiful oath in the registry office, the text should be diluted with pleasant words: dear, one and only, unique, sweet, charming, divine, etc. Avoid comparisons with relatives, friends, famous personalities (for example, beautiful like Marilyn Monroe). The chosen one should have no doubt that she is the only and the best for you.
Official words of the registrar
Contrary to ideas, the solemn speech in different registry offices is compiled individually, so when compared, a significant difference is revealed. The words that the registrar pronounces within the walls of a government institution and at an off-site ceremony are also different.
Classic text
In most cases, among couples who decide to legalize their union, it is customary to get married in the registry office building. This choice is justified and convenient, since such registration has many advantages:
- Equipped room. There will be no additional expenses for the wedding ceremony.
- The presence of the registrar is not paid. Only an authorized employee has the right to sign, for whose travel outside the registry office you will have to pay.
- Organization of leisure time for guests. If a couple decides to get married outside a government institution, the number of guests who arrive at the wrong time increases. Organizers will have to plan the leisure time of those who arrived earlier and persuade guests to wait for those who are late.
The registry office employee at the classical ceremony will speak the memorized text. Usually the touching moments are well thought out and the reactions are predictable.
Example speech:
Good afternoon, dear guests! Today is a crucial moment for the newlyweds, because each of them has decided to take responsibility for their chosen one. Therefore, I want everyone to confirm this intention with consent. I ask the bride to answer (answers). I ask the groom to answer (answers). Since marriage registration is recorded in an official document, I ask the newlyweds to put their signatures on it to confirm the decision. Now each of you has become part of the whole. And to remember this moment, you can kiss each other. Now your ship called family is setting off on a long voyage. All those invited hope that it will be long. So let each of them personally congratulate the couple on their new status.
Speech for exit registration
The opportunity to invite an employee to a wedding at a certain time has appeared recently. This service allows couples to officially register their relationship without traveling to an inconvenient location, but you will have to pay for it. With detailed preparation, such innovations are convenient, and you can insert an oath or an appeal to your parents into your speech.
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The speech of the registry office employee in this case represents a joint project with the newlyweds. Example:
On this wonderful day, guests gathered here to attend an important event - marriage registration. Since this is an official event, I ask each of the spouses to express their consent out loud. Does the bride agree to this step? Does the groom agree? Now I ask you to say vows of fidelity to each other (the couple says the prepared text). To finish the official part, I ask everyone to sign your first general document (sign). Now I want to hand it over to the head of the family, because it was he who just became a support, a shoulder for support in difficult times.
I ask the bride to show her beloved that for him she has become a faithful and loving wife, firmly taking him by the hand. Now your lives, running in parallel, have united for a long time into one line that will last for many years. Let them be carefree and happy. And to remember this moment, let each of the invitees say warm words and parting words that will help you hear each other.
Classic vows
The words in the registry office during a wedding should be laconic, simple, but at the same time sincere and warm. If you want to give a beautiful speech at the moment of marriage, choose small, classic vows.
Classic wedding vow of the bride
I swear, my dear, to be with you in joy and in sorrow, in wealth and in poverty. I will love you and remain faithful until the end of our days. You are the dearest person to me. Thank you for having me!
Romantic marriage vow of the groom
My dear and only one, meeting you is one of the most wonderful events in my life. Thanks to you, I felt what true love is. My feelings are getting stronger every day. I am ready to throw the whole world at your feet. You are my one and only, unique and most desired. I swear eternal fidelity and love.
The bride's oath to the groom is touching
Beloved - you are the dearest and most important person to me, my support, my life, my happiness. I don’t know how I lived before, without knowing you, your warmth, your love. Despite any hardships in life, I will always be there. My love will never fade away, I want to live my whole life with you and meet old age together.
Marriage vow for your beloved wife
My beloved wife, today I solemnly swear that I will be your reliable protection, support, and faithful friend. I want to walk hand in hand with you all my life and be by your side no matter what.
About the possibility of replacing words
The words of the registrar spoken in the registry office are not improvisation. All intonations, expressions and looks are planned and rehearsed thanks to hundreds of couples. For this reason, changing the sequence of blocks or crossing out phrases will lead to hitches and confusion. As an exception, you can clarify in advance the changes to which the employee must agree, because such a concession complicates the procedure.
Regardless of adjustments, speech should consist of the following blocks:
- obtaining consent to marriage from partners;
- an oath of mutual fidelity and support by future spouses;
- exchange of rings;
- a kiss that seals the newlyweds' words;
- obtaining signatures of the newlyweds.
All points can be crossed out, except the first and last. Depending on this, the speech of the registry office employee is adjusted.
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Religious wedding vows
For religious newlyweds, religious wedding vows of the bride and groom are suitable. They can be pronounced both in the registry office and during the wedding ceremony in the temple.
Religious oath of the groom
I have no doubt that the meeting with you was predestined for me by the Lord himself. The fact that you are next to me now is the highest goodness. I swear to love and protect you, my dear wife, from all the hardships of life.
Religious vow of the bride
Dear husband, I am grateful to the Lord for helping me meet you. I am ready to go through any difficulties, illnesses and joys with you. I swear to be a faithful, understanding and caring wife. I will always pray for you, my husband, to support and keep the warmth of our family hearth.
Comic vows
Comic promises of the bride and groom are most appropriate during a wedding banquet.
Cool groom's vow
Dear and only wife, I am ready to carry you in my arms for the rest of my life! I am always ready to be the first to make peace in case of quarrels, to give flowers on holidays and not only, to help with all household chores and even sometimes to cook dinner.
Comic wedding vow of the bride
My beloved husband, I promise to bring you coffee in bed every day, meet you in the evenings with a delicious dinner, sew up your socks and not change channels when watching football.
Oath of the bride and groom at a wedding: funny dialogues
A comic oath can be framed in the form of an interesting dialogue in which the newlyweds will take turns making promises to each other.
Dialogue example:
Groom: I solemnly swear that from now on and forever you are my most important woman in the world, so I don’t even dare look at other ladies.
Bride: I solemnly swear that I will be a caring wife and learn to iron shirts.
Groom: I promise to give every penny of my salary to the family budget.
Bride: I will cook you the most delicious dishes so that you don’t have to go to your mother to eat.
Groom: From the moment I got married, I forget about fishing, hunting and the bathhouse.
The newlyweds' oath is a joke - an excellent opportunity to defuse the situation during the wedding fun.
Impromptu style oath
If the thought of making a beautiful speech at a wedding came to you on the eve of the celebration, when there was absolutely no time left for preparation, do it impromptu. An oath of the bride and groom at a wedding, consisting of the words that first come to mind, can also be original! Those present may not even realize that you are giving a speech without prior preparation.
The newlyweds' oath, the text of which was not thought out in advance, may be something like this:
- “In front of everyone gathered, I want to swear to you that I will love you and our future children, and do everything possible for our happiness and well-being.”
- “I swear that my fire of love will not go out even after many years. You are my dearest person, to whom I am ready to devote my whole life.”
It’s not difficult to find beautiful words with which to address your soulmate. The main thing is that all confessions come from the heart and are truly sincere.
3.Tell about the secret in the oath
Most likely, many of the guests do not know how you met or how you first confessed your love to each other. This is a great theme for a wedding vow. You can pay attention to all the signs of fate or events that foreshadowed the meeting, or share your dreams and general plans for the future.
Think about what made you fall in love, at what point did you realize that you wanted to spend the rest of your life together? If you find it difficult to start writing, use our list of questions:
- • Why did you decide to get married?
- • What do you want to achieve together?
- • When did you first think you loved this person?
- • What qualities do you admire in a partner?
- • What makes your relationship special?
- • What has changed in your life since you met each other?
- • What do you miss when you're apart?
- • What did you think when you saw it for the first time?
- • How did you feel when he proposed to you?
- • How do you see your future?
