The main requirements for a mother's image - what does etiquette say?
Mothers can wear any outfit that suits them, but it should not be the same color or style as the dress of the bride or her bridesmaids . The only thing that can be used is a piece of clothing, shoes or an accessory to match. In addition, the toilet should not be provocative, vulgar or brighter than the bride’s.
Are there any differences in the clothes of the mothers of the bride and groom? There are no strict requirements; both must look attractive and elegant. Still, stylists advise thinking through the image in advance so that they look harmonious in photographs or in close proximity .
Important! According to wedding etiquette, mothers should not wear dresses of the same color and style. The bride's mother prepares the outfit first and informs the future matchmaker about it so that she can choose the appropriate look.
And one more question: what to wear to a wedding? According to popular belief, you should not wear a suit - it promises divorce for young people . What and how to sew a dress for your daughter or son’s wedding - more on that below.
Mom's help in organizing the event
The role of the mother of the bride at a wedding is considered very important and responsible. Mom must monitor the important moments of the celebration: greet guests, seat them at the table, make sure everyone is comfortable. She also presents the wedding loaf to the newlyweds, supervises the organization of the banquet, dances with her son-in-law, and sees off the guests at the end of the event.
Moms and dads can give a song to the newlyweds - this is a very heartwarming spectacle! You can watch parents sing the song for their children in the video below:
Often, as a sign of gratitude and love, the bride and groom sing a song to their dads and moms:
If the wedding program is led by a toastmaster, there will certainly be a toast to the parents, especially in honor of the mother of the newlywed girl, because it is the mother who needs to be thanked for the most valuable gift to the groom - for the best bride!
Colors you can and cannot use
Traditionally, inappropriate for mothers:
- Black. Has a mournful overtone. But some detail of the dress may well be black.
- White. This is the traditional color of a wedding dress. Such an outfit (especially if the mother-in-law is wearing it) can be seen as a challenge to the bride and will distract attention from her.
- Red. A bright, catchy color, a symbol of passion and sexuality, is suitable for young and determined women, but, alas! – not to mothers at the wedding. In addition, burgundy ages and can introduce notes of vulgarity. However, the opinion about the appropriateness of the red dress is controversial .
- Other undesirable colors are cream, ivory, champagne, pale pink, silver, but they can be used if the bride is wearing a bright color dress. Of course, if these colors suit you, then you can discard all the “don’ts.”
The most successful colors are turquoise, emerald, pastel green, yellow, dark pink, dusty rose, blue, purple, coffee, beige, delicate peach . Shades of lavender will suit any mother. Together with an elegant cut, they will make your look sophisticated.
Important! The color of both mothers' dresses should be several shades darker than the bride's light dress.
Materials and antimaterials
There are no problems with choosing fabric for those with a slim and proportionate figure. Fat mothers should pay attention to thick chiffon, crepe de chine, soft linen, crepe satin, cambric, guipure, knitwear, cashmere. Thanks to their softness, folds flow, and extra pounds are “hidden” in a loose cut. A universal fabric is silk ; you can sew clothes from it regardless of the season. Advantages should be given to natural materials due to their hygroscopicity.
Use stiff fabrics with caution . Thick linen, moiré, taffeta, brocade do not drape well and make the silhouette angular. Only fitted dresses can be sewn from them.
Shiny fabrics and those with sequins are also at risk for curvy figures, but matte ones are suitable for everyone . As for satin with iridescent satin, it can be used in full satin, provided that it is a noble, not bright color, and the dress fits the figure perfectly.
Airy chiffon, nylon, voile, chic organza, crepe georgette and other transparent fabrics are good only for young and slender girls. But dresses made from lace fabrics, including stretchy ones, look elegant and noble, they can be recommended regardless of season, age and body size. ¾-length lace sleeves look good, including on full arms . A guipure bolero will add sophistication to your look.
Fabrics and textures
The fabric is of great importance in choosing an outfit for the mother, because it depends on how the model will look. The main thing here is to trust your own intuition.
Chiffon
The most common fabric for such outfits. It doesn't stretch and is perfect for overweight women. This dress will not be hot, and this is important if the wedding is in the summer.
Silk
An excellent choice for a wedding, mom will look great. The material is soft and fits perfectly. The only negative is the high price, but for such a celebration it’s quite possible to be generous.
Velvet
Exquisite and noble material for the holidays. Perfect for a wedding in the cold season. Case-type and wrap-around models are usually made from it.
Knitwear
The most popular fabric due to its comfort and low price. The outfit will look fashionable and beautiful. For overweight women, it is better to choose thicker fabric.
Brocade
Rare but very beautiful fabric. It is quite expensive, but the outfit made from it looks elegant. Mom will be unforgettable and unique in such a dress.
Taffeta
Soft and comfortable fabric. Suitable for slender women, perfectly fits the figure. The outfit from it looks advantageous.
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Lace
Delicate and refined fabric, mom will look festive and feminine. The only negative is that you need to stock up on a petticoat, because the lace is see-through.
Dress models for plus size mothers
For overweight women, fitted styles are recommended, with a minimum of decoration on the stomach and hips. Those with thick legs should avoid short and tight outfits. Appliqués, large floral prints, and an abundance of sparkles and other decorations are not welcome.
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Plus size moms will look good in the following outfits:
A-line or a-line dress, floor-length . The top is form-fitting, with a V-shaped shallow neckline to highlight your full bust. A high waistline and a loose skirt will hide the imperfections of the lower torso. It is better to choose fabric of medium density.
Straight, fitted maxi dress , with slits on the sides or legs, or with a wide flounce (mermaid dress).
Floor-length Greek style outfit made of light silk fabrics. The neckline is deep or asymmetrical. A loose sleeve will hide the fullness of your shoulders well. If the top is open, it is advisable to provide a light cape. Or you can do this:
Knee-length pencil cocktail with lace sleeves and upper bodice.
dress , possibly with a belt and ¾ sleeves . Boat neckline. As an addition, you can take a lace or matching bolero. The dress-suit also looks great.
Maxi dress with an open back or deep lace neckline.
Simplicity and laconicism of cut, decor, and decorations are the main rule for large women.
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Choosing an outfit by age
Of course, an evening dress is the most natural option for a festive dress .
This outfit will suit any lady, you just need to place the accents correctly. If the newlywed's mother is young enough and has a beautiful bust, then the evening dress can be low-necked. However, one should not lose a sense of proportion : to prevent the dress from looking too provocative, it makes sense to choose models with sleeves (guipure sleeves are possible).
The neckline covered with tulle (mesh), gauze, guipure, or velvet on a chiffon base looks very impressive. This detail will emphasize the beauty of the silhouette and hide minor age-related imperfections.
If the mother of the bride is not used to floor-length length and is afraid of getting tangled in the skirt (and the main beauty of any outfit is its naturalness), you can choose an evening dress model with an asymmetrical hem that is long in the back and short in the front.
Such a hem will not interfere with walking and will allow you to demonstrate the slenderness of your legs and the beauty of your shoes. Those who are opposed to long skirts, as well as mature ladies, are recommended to wear dresses or suits to the knee or mid-calf .
As for color, naturally, you should avoid an all-white or all-black outfit (interesting combinations of these colors are quite acceptable).
It is better to approach overly bright colors with caution : they are usually chosen for bridesmaid dresses, and the mother of the newlywed should not “get lost” in the crowd.
It is better to choose either pastel colors (beige, sand), or, preferably, rich colors, that is, prefer raspberry or burgundy to red, bottle green to green, dark sapphire, plum or purple to blue.
When choosing shoes, you need to find a reasonable compromise between effectiveness, beauty and comfort .
At her daughter’s wedding, a woman will probably have to not only dance a lot, but also “busy around the house” and participate in competitions (read about the most original ones for bride price here). Of course, if a lady is young and feels that she can withstand a whole day in nine-centimeter stilettos, great. For everyone else, low-heeled pumps, school heels or glass heels are recommended .
Tips for slim moms
It is much easier for slender women to choose a style, because there is no problem of how to hide figure flaws. Stylists offer the following attractive models of elegant dresses:
- Knee-length or higher tulip dress . The bodice is straight, tight-fitting, decorated with lace and tulle or tulle.
- Sheath dress with peplum at the waist . Short or ¾ sleeves.
- model with bat sleeves , seam at the waist. The skirt is flared, with flowing gathers. Wide long belt.
- A long dress with several rows of flounces and an asymmetrical hem, with an open back.
Despite the variety of styles for slim mothers, you still need to maintain a sense of proportion in order to look not flashy, but stylish and elegant.
What dresses would be appropriate?
The style of the outfit depends on the location of the celebration and its scale. In a restaurant, an evening dress would be more appropriate, while at home, in a family circle, it will look too pompous.
By the way! According to experts, clothes for mothers should be laconic, elegant, in calm, subdued colors.
When choosing an outfit, preference should be given to long models that reach the middle of the knee (or slightly higher or lower). A short dress will look immodest, and a midi length will draw unnecessary attention to the calves.
The toilet should also correspond to the season, body type and age of the lady.
In summer
In the summer, preference is given to outfits made of light flowing fabrics and styles with drapery, ruffles and flounces, deep necklines, and sleeveless . A good addition would be a chiffon shawl or cape, or a guipure bolero.
in winter
Open-cut dresses made of chiffon and crepe de Chine look ridiculous when there is snow and frost outside. The choice is made in favor of fine wool. A fur cape or boa will come in handy . For those who don’t believe in omens, you can choose a suit: a pencil skirt and a jacket with a peplum, which you can take off and stay in the blouse if it’s hot. The look will be completed with a hat and gloves.
In the off-season
When there is slush, dirt, and melting snow outside, knee-length outfits made from medium-density fabrics .
Depending on the figure
It is a rare woman after forty who can boast of a slender figure and the absence of places that it is desirable to hide. To do this, there are special cutting techniques for different figures :
"Apple" . The goal of the correction is to visually lengthen the silhouette and balance the proportions. For this, corsets, dark belts, and deep V-shaped necklines are used. Successful styles: straight, flared, bias cut, balloon dress, decor at the bottom.
"Pear" . Straight cut, not tapered at the bottom. To balance disproportionate hips and shoulders, you should make the bodice full with the help of lace, rhinestones, embroidery, and flounces.
"Inverted pear (triangle)" . To correct the discrepancy between the volumes of the shoulders and hips, the rule in choosing a style is: narrow top and fluffy bottom.
"Rectangle" . To emphasize a slightly defined waist, wide belts and belts are used. You can make the top and bottom of the dress different in color, thereby emphasizing the waistline. Successful options are an emphasis on the neckline or draping in the hips.
hourglass body type has balanced proportions, so no correction is required. Any cut is suitable. The advantages of the figure will be emphasized by the emphasis on the waist.
More recommended styles
According to the age
As women age, the skin under their arms sags, so a dress with sleeves is recommended for special occasions . The second problem is swelling of the ankles. A maxi dress will allow you to hide an area you don't want to see .
The mothers of the bride and groom should look respectable and modest, but at the same time elegant and feminine . You cannot wear an outfit made in such styles as avant-garde, barbie, babydoll, so as not to turn into a young lady.
Pantsuit for a wedding
The question often arises: is a pantsuit acceptable for a mother at a wedding? The fact is that after 40 years, varicose veins become a common problem, and women want to hide this cosmetic defect with the help of trousers. In addition, in the bustle of a wedding, trousers are much more comfortable than a long dress . The negative attitude towards such clothing is apparently associated with weddings in churches, where women in trousers are not allowed. If a church wedding ritual is not planned, then a trouser suit does not raise objections. Made from soft flowing fabrics, with beautiful drapery, complemented with elegant shoes and stylish jewelry, a trouser suit will look elegant and extraordinary.
Photo of an evening pantsuit for mom
Another reason why an evening trouser suit for a wedding for the mother of the bride is questionable is the separate top and bottom, which contradicts the requirement for the integrity of the clothing, in order to avoid splits and discord in the young family. This problem can be easily resolved by wearing a tunic dress or a smart cardigan over the trousers. And the tradition will be respected and the problems will be solved.
You can consider another trouser option - evening overalls . It is one-piece, like the dress, so it corresponds to beliefs. This outfit is suitable for both slender and plump women. The mother of the bride or groom will look stylish in a fashionable evening jumpsuit.
Evening jumpsuit for the mother of the bride or groom
Tips for completing your look
Accessories will help to successfully complete an ensemble, but they can easily ruin it if they do not match the style and harmonize with each other. Patent leather shoes and a women's suede bag, gold jewelry and costume jewelry, a hat and ballet shoes look ridiculous together.
A wedding is not the place to display jewelry; the selection should be minimal . It’s bad taste to wear several rings; it’s best to get by with just one wedding ring. For overweight mothers, jewelry should not be either fragile or massive.
Read about choosing jewelry for a dress in this article.
All the work to create an image will go down the drain without hair and makeup. Cosmetics should be pastel colors, invisible on the face and consistent with a seasoned image . The same applies to hair styling. Blondes will suit delicate pink shades of lipstick, brown-haired women will suit shades with reddish tints, and brunettes will suit pastel berry shades.
At a wedding celebration, the greatest load falls on the feet, so it is better to approach the choice of shoes from the point of view of functionality and comfort . The best choice would be pumps with a small, stable heel. The absence of straps and pointed socks will distract attention from ankle problems. Stiletto heels are a taboo for overweight women.
Mom's parting words for her beloved daughter
The closer the wedding date gets, the more the mothers of beautiful brides begin to worry. You need to come up with an original and at the same time warm congratulations from a mother for her sweet child. Where can I find suitable words for this case? You can prepare your speech in different ways:
- Turn to the Internet for help: there are many options on congratulation sites on how to congratulate your daughter on her wedding day. After scrolling through several different Internet sources, choosing the right parting words is not so difficult.
- Look for congratulations in books: there are a lot of books containing congratulations for all occasions. They will definitely contain the right speech!
- Try to make a solemn wish yourself. Words coming from a loving heart are incommensurable with any rewritten texts!
During her parting speech, the mother can use tips (cheat sheets), but it is better if it is not a memorized speech, but a wish from the heart, such as, for example, prose. Of course, sometimes it is difficult to say everything that you really want to say to your girl, due to the surging emotions. Don't be shy about it! The congratulation, read to the point of tears in her eyes, fills the mother with a feeling of joy and pride for her matured child.
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For better originality, you can compose a congratulatory speech in verse. If mom is good at rhyming, then such parting words will not leave anyone indifferent. Still would! After all, the congratulation will be unique and written personally for the bride!
Having decided in what style the wish will be created, you can present it in such a way that it will be remembered by everyone present, and especially the newlyweds. After all, there is nothing more touching than a mother’s blessing!
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It’s not difficult to choose the right dress model and create a solemn, elegant look. The mother of the bride should be beautiful, fashionable, festive, but modest , so that everyone can see who her daughter’s beauty is like and what she will be like in a couple of decades.
