It is considered the happiest time in the lives of young people, when they can fully enjoy each other’s company, without hiding or caring about people’s rumors. For modern newlyweds, a honeymoon is an excellent opportunity and a reason to go somewhere to see the world, change the environment and just relax.
Why is a honeymoon called a honeymoon?
It just so happened that honey was an inseparable companion of newlyweds during this wonderful period. A barrel of honey took pride of place among wedding gifts in Rus'. Not a single wedding would be complete without this obligatory attribute. According to tradition, all the delicacy should be eaten by the young people during the first month of their life together . That’s how the name came about: honeymoon.
According to another version, the honeymoon is named after mead - a special low-alcohol drink that was brewed from honey and spices especially for the celebration. Both the guests and the bride and groom enjoyed this drink. The fun ended, friends and relatives dispersed, and the newlyweds continued to feast on sweet mead for a month after the wedding, since honey improves the general condition of the reproductive system and has a healing effect on the body as a whole.
The history of the name “Honeymoon”
Probably every person knows what a honeymoon is. But where this name came from and why the month is called “honey” is a question. Of course, one can assume that they called it the “honeymoon” because the time after the wedding, when the newlyweds are in complete solitude and enjoying their own love, is as sweet as honey. And this will be absolutely true, but, nevertheless, the roots of the concept are a little deeper. It is interesting that almost every nation ascribes to itself the authorship of the name, and at the same time it is not so far from the truth. But if we take as a basis the Russian concept of a honeymoon, then it owes its origin to the custom of giving the newlyweds a mandatory barrel of honey, about ten kilograms, for their wedding. The newlyweds were supposed to eat this honey over the next month. Thus, the parents of the young cared about the health and strength of their future grandchildren, because in Rus' honey has always been considered a real storehouse of vitamins and minerals beneficial to health. During childbirth, a woman was given honey, which gave her strength and eased contractions. A man ate a spoonful of honey before going to bed when he went to bed with his wife. That is why in Rus' they called the first month after the wedding “honey”, as you can see, not in a figurative sense. Some European peoples still have the custom of drinking honey wine within a month after the wedding, not for the newlyweds, but for their close relatives. So in the villages, new relatives tried to get as close as possible, while at the same time lulling the attention of the other side until they changed their minds. Typically, such goals are pursued in cases where the size of the dowry does not correspond to the requests of the other party. Almost every nationality tried to leave the newlyweds alone on their honeymoon. In villages, a separate hut was allocated for this, and the wealthiest parents tried to send their children to travel during this time. Today the tradition of traveling continues. Often, for such a trip, original tourist routes are chosen in those cities that are characterized by romantic symbolism. Such cities, of course, can be called Paris and London, Amsterdam and Venice, Rome and the castles of the Czech Republic or Hungary. If the newlyweds prefer to retire to a shady corner of semi-wild nature, then they can go to Bali or Cuba, the Seychelles or Hawaii for a whole month. Whatever direction you choose for your honeymoon, the main thing is that on your honeymoon you devote as much time as possible to each other, get to know each other better, perhaps from unexpected sides. Our ancestors believed that a child conceived during the honeymoon period would grow up healthy and happy. Most likely, this is true, which is why the honeymoon is important in terms of sexual relationships. Of course, not all newlyweds have the opportunity not only to go somewhere for a honeymoon, but even to spend this time alone, devoting themselves to each other. Yes, it's not that important. In any case, this month is filled with special tenderness and subtlety of feelings, so every bride, even after many years, remembers her honeymoon with a special, poignant feeling of happiness.
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The reasons for the emergence of “honey” traditions
Explanations for the reasons why this was done vary. One version is that in the past marriages were not made for love. The decision about the wedding was made by the parents. And such “sweet” traditions helped the newlyweds, who knew little about each other at that time, to get closer and get used to the new relationship.
It is quite possible that the explanation for the increased attention to the use of mead during such a significant period was the desire to appease higher powers in this way. It used to be believed that honey wine was drunk in honor of the gods. Thus, the purpose of the honey tradition was to obtain blessings for the new family.
And, of course, don’t forget about the miraculous properties of this drink! Honey helps increase sexual desire in both women and men, improves metabolism, restores strength, and is a general tonic. No wonder it was recognized as an excellent aphrodisiac. In addition, the effect of honey on sperm quality is known. All this creates favorable conditions for the appearance of offspring. In Rus' it was believed that a child conceived on a honeymoon would have good health.
"Love fades away over time"
Many representatives of the fair half of humanity like to talk about this during girls' get-togethers.
If these thoughts come to you, I will give you some simple ways to breathe new life into your relationship.
When you put them into practice and see in his eyes that sparkle that made you so happy at the beginning of the relationship, the questions will disappear by themselves.
A break from everyday life, a change from the usual picture
Joint outings in public are a very important part of a harmonious relationship. Now I don’t mean mandatory visits to public places. You can rent a hotel room and lock yourself in it for a day. Or go out of town on a one-day hike.
It doesn't matter what you do. But in order to get out of the crisis (of course, it’s better to just not bring the relationship to it), you need to spend quality time together.
Even if you have children, this is absolutely no reason to deny each other attention. Focusing entirely on raising the younger generation is one of the surest ways to kill tender feelings between spouses.
| Invite a nanny, leave the kids with relatives and finally give yourself the opportunity to remember why you are together, why you chose and fell in love with each other once. |
Agree on what day you will devote time to developing relationships. Once a week is the ideal routine. Does not work? Okay, but even once a month is much better than never.
Abstract yourself from external stimuli
Increasingly, you can see in cafes and restaurants how people sit silently at the same table. And no, they don't just enjoy each other's company in silence. Everyone is busy with something very important.
For example, he checks bank accounts, resolves issues at work, or is keen on surfing news sites. Smartphone, tablet or laptop – every average person has some kind of portable gadget.
Does the sketch remind you of anything? I'm truly happy for you if not.
| Stop creating the illusion of presence, otherwise you will lose emotional contact with your loved ones. Even the most advanced electronics will not be able to support, hug, or encourage. |
Make it a rule to be present in the current moment, to be here and now. Especially when you spend time with important people, and especially with your significant other.
Make an agreement with your husband that all devices are turned off when you spend time together. Explain and justify your position.
Focus on what unites you
“We have absolutely nothing to talk about!” - many ladies sadly complain - “he is no longer interested in anything except fishing and cars, and in addition he has begun collecting caps from rare beer bottles. This is a catastrophe!".
But, my dears, it doesn’t happen that way. If you once chose this person, it means you were interested in spending time together.
Of course, if the choice was conscious, but all my readers are smart girls, they couldn’t just jump out to get married for the sake of a stamp in their passport. It is so?
| Remember what common interests you had. |
Maybe you went fishing together for a few days with a tent, because you loved to sunbathe in nature while he fished, and then you walked through the evening forest? Try this again.
He loves cars and driving fast, and aren’t you a timid person either? Perhaps you are lacking adrenaline? Jump with a tandem parachute. Ride a motorcycle.
How long does the honeymoon last?
Calendar-wise , the honeymoon lasts 28-31 days . Although, its duration can rather be measured not by time frames, but by sensations. This is a period when spouses show increased attention, romance and tenderness.
According to sociological research, it turned out that the average married couple begins to take the existing relationship for granted already 2 years 6 months and 25 days after the wedding.
If you are lucky and have found your soul mate, then your honeymoon will last your entire life together.
Why go on a honeymoon
Therefore, among the most important conditions of the honeymoon is “freedom of the spouses in solitude.” Solitude is not a severance of ties, it is a space of safety, security, a space within boundaries. Such space is necessary for maximum openness of souls, maximum possible sincerity and attention.
And for two people to be able to afford this, they need to be sure that they are truly alone, that no one will uninvitedly disturb their peace. Then spouses can calmly learn to be sincere and sensual with each other, talk, feel, hear each other, give each other love.
If they do not have the opportunity to be alone at home, they need to go on a honeymoon - it allows them to be together and be just the two of them.
The security of marriage is the most important condition for a favorable start to family life. This includes maintaining boundaries, freeing oneself from family concerns, and taking time off from work, in short, a vacation—a honeymoon.
Honeymoon and omens
According to ancient traditions, they tried not to overload the newlyweds with work and protected them in the first month of their life together. This was done so that the young people could get to know each other more. This special post-wedding time was not spared by folk signs and beliefs.
1. It is believed that lovers will live in peace and understanding for many years if the young couple uses the same cutlery on the seventh, ninth and fortieth day that they used on their wedding day.
2. You cannot wear any rings other than your wedding ring during your entire honeymoon.
3. Losing your engagement ring on your honeymoon can mean separation or separation.
4. It was believed that if you conceive a child on your honeymoon, the birth would be easy, and the baby would be born healthy and smart.
Nowadays, many traditions are no longer observed, and signs are forgotten. The most important thing is that the newlyweds’ feelings are sincere and strong, then nothing and no one can separate them. And may your honeymoon be filled with love, and may every minute spent together be as sweet as a spoonful of golden aromatic honey.
Where to spend an inexpensive honeymoon: budget options
Inexpensive doesn't mean bad. Budget holidays are not always bad and unromantic. You can find a replacement for rich Paris and luxury hotels that will not ruin you and will be remembered for a long time by its romantic atmosphere.
- Geely Air. This is a small island in Indonesia, characterized by privacy, purity of nature and very reasonable prices. Here you can relax from the hustle and bustle and enjoy the beaches. A distinctive feature is the almost complete absence of cars. This will be unusual for city residents. The local population travels mainly by bicycles or in horse-drawn carts.
- Hoi An. This is a small coastal city in Vietnam. It is very cozy, nice, you can enjoy the sea and also see historical monuments. The restaurants serve delicious food, and the nature here is no worse than on tropical islands. Moreover, such a vacation will not cost you much.
- Ko Lanta. One of the places where you can spend your honeymoon is Koh Lanta in Thailand. You won't find noisy bars or shops with chic clothes here, but there is incredibly beautiful nature and many secluded corners where you can be alone, and the hotels here are very inexpensive.
- Yasawa. This is a series of volcanic islands, practically untouched by civilization. Here you can have a beautiful wedding ritual and be accommodated in an inexpensive hotel on the shore. Everything is very beautiful and inexpensive, a great place for a memorable holiday.
- Ubud This is a city on the island of Bali. Not only is there a lot of untouched nature and quiet places, but you can also find an interesting museum and souvenir market.
Magic 21, oxytocin and imprinting
The need to carefreely enjoy each other after the wedding, ideally while traveling, ideally for a whole month, was intuitively felt by the ancestors. And today the benefits of this action are confirmed by research and experiments. Here's the honey:
- Hormones . As you know, “love” is such a mess of endorphins, adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, vasopressin and oxytocin. And traveling together is a way to “intoxicate” your other half with these hormones. This “love potion” enhances love, affection, mutual understanding, care and even fidelity. The production of “amorous stimulants” is provoked by tenderness, sex, exotic food, sunbathing, sharing new sensations, and achieving goals. Be sure to intersperse heavenly relaxation and hellish extreme into your vacation. The more exciting events experienced together, the stronger the feelings and the more calmly everyday troubles are tolerated!
- Imprinting. This is when, in moments of emotional vulnerability, some image and/or behavioral program is “imprinted” in the brain, which remains deep in memory for life. An example of how this can manifest itself in newlyweds. Both the wedding and the trip are a great shock and excitement. If you and your significant other experience them in a positive way, then an imprint of a “positive image of a husband/wife” and a “program that a husband/wife is positive” may arise.
- Habits . Based on research, the “21 day rule” was derived - the magic period during which a habit is formed. More precisely, this is the minimum period when every day should be filled with what you want to bring into your life (be it morning exercises or the ability to live together positively). Therefore, it is recommended not to shorten your honeymoon to a honey week, but to spend it at least 21 days full of tenderness, care, compliments, surprises, joy and fun... Get used to each other correctly!
- Personality expansion. American psychologist Arthur Aron, who studies the psychological phenomenon of love, states: relationships are in good shape as long as partners give each other food for personality expansion. This is expressed in the exchange of knowledge, skills, experience, emotions, and such an exchange requires time, space and favorable conditions, which are easier to find during a joint vacation. The same role is played by joint leisure, during which lovers learn something together and get thrills. Therefore, a honeymoon trip is not just a whim of romantics or a hackneyed “see the world, show yourself”, it is the best way to nourish the feeling of life, give the brain more sensations.
"Elizabeth Harvest": pros
Let's talk about the advantages:
- Beautiful interiors, a beautiful house, beautiful women who will not be shy to show you their charms.
- The plot is not incredibly interesting, but it has its own twists and unexpected turns.
- I also liked the main villain, who had a motivation for villainy, albeit crazy, but humanly understandable. Usually scientists are driven crazy by the thirst for knowledge, sometimes by the desire to take over the world, but here the cause of all the troubles was love. Romance! Reminded me of the scientist from Killer Beauty, who dreamed of resurrecting his wife and resurrected him, however, at the cost of a zombie apocalypse and the destruction of humanity.
One of the advantages of “Elizabeth Harvest” is that it made an attempt, albeit clumsy and crumpled, to consider cloning as a scientific process, because usually these moments are avoided in films.
Let's discuss the scientific aspects of cloning, dear.
"Elizabeth Harvest": plot
Elizabeth marries a wonderful, rich and intelligent man, a doctor. He brings her to his luxurious house and says that Elizabeth is free to enjoy all the benefits and walk in all rooms except one! Of course, Elizabeth breaks the ban by looking into the mysterious room, and her husband kills her. But this is far from the end, but only the beginning of their mutual suffering... because in four weeks Elizabeth will return to the same house, and everything will repeat all over again...
Elizabeth and her wonderful husband
SPA salon at home
All types of relaxing massages, bubble baths, candles, aromatic salts and oils, and lounge music will help turn your bath into a full-service spa for beauty and relaxation. Take turns being massage therapists for each other and fulfill all the whims of your significant other. Make a face mask together. If men are shy about such procedures in public places, then at home they can afford everything. Try meditating. Open up to new shared experiences, this will make your relationship even closer and more trusting.
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