Daily fulfillment of marital duty will help avoid some dangerous diseases

What was it like right away?

Well, really, as usually happens in the first months of marriage, when the memories of a recently celebrated wedding have not yet had time to fade? In these carefree and happy days, it’s time to raise the issue of immoderate fulfillment of marital duty: young people want each other all the time and everywhere.

Alexandra, social teacher, 31 years old, Kemerovo:

— I remember with pleasure the first two years of my marriage. It was one continuous stream of positive emotions. My husband literally carried me in his arms, always made surprises and gave me pleasant gifts. Could I think that 5 years later I would literally be persuading him to have sex with me? Of course not. Moreover, I still did not understand the reason for his cooling towards intimacy, because in words he loves me as before, but in reality - in his eyes I do not see even a shadow of former passion and uncontrollable desire.

But, in principle, there is nothing to understand here: it is enough just to accept the fact that our feelings dull over time. Because of routine, which masterfully kills even the most vivid emotions. Because of the inevitable omissions and quarrels that accompany any interpersonal interaction. Due to the lack of new elements in life, without which even what once caused wild delight is not pleasing.

It is important to understand that dulling of feelings does not at all imply their slow but sure withering. And if the husband does not want his wife, then this is not at all a disaster and a reason for a scandal.

And most importantly: this is a completely reversible process - everything depends entirely on you.

Is there a norm?

The persistent desire to classify any aspect of human relations and, on the basis of this, to develop certain norms is the lot of experts, but not ordinary people.

For married men and women, everything is quite simple: if you want, love. Or don't love if you don't want to.

This happens quite often, and then wives begin to wonder how many times a week a husband should have sex with them. They look for answers from their friends, tirelessly attack women's forums, where the vast majority of registered users are the same know-nothing and confused ladies with a question mark on their faces.

Valentin Ivanovich Vysotsky, sexologist, professor at the First Moscow State Medical University. I.M. Sechenov:

— Regular sex helps keep a woman’s vitality in a consistently high position. In addition, sexual activity is also directly related to the normal functioning of metabolism in the body and helps prevent the occurrence of skin diseases. There is no need to talk about mood: a woman who has no problems with intimacy and often gets natural and strong orgasms is distinguished by a good mood, friendliness, and a healthy complexion. Of course, it would be wrong to force spouses into a narrow framework of norms, but in general, full-fledged sex once a week is the necessary minimum that medicine relies on. If sex happens much more often, then it’s good for your health: as long as you have enough strength. But less often - this is already an alarm bell. Did you hear him? Take action! For a man, it is generally recommended to have sex, the more often the better. 4 times a week from 25 to 40 – optimal!

Headache

Thanks to the same release of the hormone oxytocin, the level of endorphins in the body increases. This promotes relaxation and relief from headaches.

A woman took ice cream sticks and cut her food costs in half (life hack)

First cleaning, then disinfection: what other subtleties are there in treating premises?

British scientists claim to have discovered a new mineral

What determines the regularity of fulfilling marital duties?

Expert advice is, of course, always professional and useful. But they are often of a general nature and do not at all take into account the numerous nuances that fill the life of spouses together. Let's list the most common ones:

age - it is logical to assume that the older a man is, the less often he can rely on a full erection and fulfill his marital duty;
busy - there are often cases when husbands go on business trips or are busy at work until late;
physical condition - when a person suffers a serious illness, it is logical that he has no time to fulfill his marital duty;
the nature of the relationship - if you nag your spouse with or without reason, then it is not surprising that he will fulfill his marital duty rarely and with great reluctance;
fidelity - a sharp cooling towards intimacy, coupled with some suspicious factors, may signal your husband’s infidelity, already actual or just assumed, when the passion has already formed, but has not yet found practical expression;
disappointment - the same position, the same underwear, the same time and place can finally turn anyone away from sex for a long time.

Among the listed signs, did you find any that are relevant to you? If your husband does not fulfill his marital duty as often as you want, but for obvious reasons - for example, hard work, regular trips - then we recommend that you either understand your spouse or persuade him to change jobs. There is no third. But in other cases, you should thoroughly delve into yourself, because the fact that your husband is losing interest in this process is your direct fault:

failed to regularly update your sexy image;
stopped pleasing your spouse with new forms of sexual contact;
turned sex into a routine rather than an adventure.

The most temperamental readers probably flared up after these words: what about him, shouldn’t he?

This is the main mistake of a woman as a keeper of the family hearth: the habit of avoiding responsibility.

Even if both are to blame, the situation will still not begin to be resolved until at least one of them takes responsibility and makes every effort to improve it for the better. After all, you are interested in how many times a week your husband should have intimate contact with you, right? This means that your personal interest is the best motivator for a constructive approach to solving a problem. Try to surprise your husband in bed - there are plenty of ways to do it!

What do other wives say?

Polina Vlasova, housewife, 34 years old:

- How many times a week should a husband, hmm, be a man? What a stupid question. My husband usually does this on weekends. Saturday and Sunday. It turns out that 2 times a week. Not enchanting, of course, but his work schedule leaves no other time for intimacy. In principle, everything suits me. It's not about quantity, but about quality. Too frequent sex threatens premature saturation, but here it seems like a balance or some semblance of it.

Alla Mikheeva, head of marketing service of an IT company:

— In order to raise the issue head-on, you need to stipulate this in advance in the marriage contract. And since there is no agreement, then, as they say, there is no demand either. But seriously, I am not for quantity, but for quality. Sometimes even once a couple of weeks is enough for me to flutter like a butterfly. And I would advise all those women who demand from their husbands a certain regularity in the fulfillment of their marital duty to read more books - everything is written there. At the same time, new interests will appear.

Anna Konstantinovna Petrenko, pensioner, 59 years old:

— My husband is already 64 years old. You understand that at this age you no longer have to talk about any kind of regular sex. However, contact occurs at least 2-3 times a month. Usually it all depends on desire. This was the case with us in our younger years.

It turns out that the question posed in the title of this article simply does not make sense, and the main determining factor is a successful combination of three factors:

your sexual desire;
husband's sexual appetite;
availability of free time.

Do you manage to have sex all day long? We hasten to congratulate you! Do you manage to have sex only once a week? Well, if you are happy this time, then why sound the alarm and look up to your friends who tirelessly brag about the sexual activity of their husbands? Well, or try to make your husband fall in love with you again - then everything will definitely be like in the first days of your acquaintance.

MARITAL DEBT

The sunny bunny jumped playfully and clung to his face, awakening and caressing. She closed her eyes with pleasure. I stretched, looked at the time - I could still pamper myself. How nice! There is peace and tranquility in the soul. But something stubbornly prevented bliss. I started to remember. What day is today? It seems like Friday. Weekend. There are two days off ahead – I’ll finally get some sleep. Well, what could be bad, where does it come from? He looks around - the husband is quietly snoring next to him. I remembered! It's Friday after all! It completely slipped my mind. P I T N I C A - the day of fulfillment of marital duties! The mood immediately skyrocketed! God! Well, why Friday and not Saturday, like others? Apparently, Friday is a special day for my husband. Either on this day he has a peak of biological activity, or he needs two days to rest from “marital work,” or something else? Maybe it will pass?.. They have breakfast together. Children rush to school and throw plates with leftover food into the washbasin. She washes the dishes, reprimands them with displeasure, and she looks at her husband with anxious anticipation. He is in no hurry, thoughtfully and eats a lot - clearly more than necessary. He jokes that he not only retained his figure, but also doubled it. He puts the dishes in the washbasin and pulls them across his backside. At least he was ashamed of children! He endures with all his strength so as not to hit him with a dirty plate! He grins carnivorously. She herself understands that she won’t carry it through, which is why her soul becomes completely sick. This is what I spent the day with... I returned home loaded with food. For the spouse - a traditional liter of beer. Today, however, I took two liters of strong wine. It’s a disservice, of course, he’s already eaten away at his belly, but he can’t help but leave himself a ray of hope. Dinner, as always, is at seven. The children quickly ate and went to their room. The husband eats for a long time, with appetite and a sense of duty, and he clearly looks at it - he’s looking forward to it! In his immense belly, more is lost than the rest of the family eats, plus two liters of strong beer. He goes to the bedroom, where they are waiting for him: a newspaper, a TV and... the upcoming “night of love.” Oh my God! She would like to lie down, watch TV, relax after the work week, but not rush to see her husband. She drags herself to the nursery and sorts out her son and daughter with their school problems and homework. Children openly yawn. He wishes them good night, quietly closes the doors so as not to frighten off Morpheus, who is hovering around the apartment... It’s almost eleven. The detective series that the husband is watching is ending. Heads to the bathroom. Stands for a long time under a cool shower, fighting sleep. She leaves the water on so that there is no doubt that she is washing, but she herself stands in front of the mirror - she is self-critical and strict. But there’s almost nothing to complain about. A young, still quite attractive, wrinkle-free face with big green eyes - and this is without makeup! Curly hair covers a long, unmarked neck. Full, elastic, only slightly drooping breasts, thin waist. There was a slight ripple in the hips, but men seem to like it, which can be seen in their looks, in the way they are in no hurry to let you through on the subway. You have to squeeze through, rubbing yourself in, leaving yourself with annoyance and them with joy. And here's another thing. She doesn’t even admit this to herself. Lately she has been eager to go to work, something she had never observed before. She carefully selects clothes that will make her slim, fit her body tightly, emphasizing her shape. A young programmer appeared at their company. This morning she walks along the corridor, feeling his following gaze on her back, and her body - this naughty flesh! Don't pacify! Out of control, he starts a hip-swaying gait. He looks around sharply, he does not have time to look away, he blushes, is embarrassed, unable to extinguish the fire in his eyes. And something is happening to her - her face is burning, her heart is jumping out of her chest! She is brilliant and damn attractive! He realizes that he is younger, but he can’t help himself. After lunch, she asked for help - something supposedly went wrong with her computer. He sat down next to her and touched her casually. It was as if an electric shock had struck her, he asked something, but she didn’t hear, didn’t understand—she was in a complete stupor! Something similar is happening to him. And if it weren’t for the presence of employees, God knows where it would have led them...

He looks at his watch - it’s almost twelve, the husband must have fallen asleep. She herself wants to sleep - she dies. She tiptoed up to the marital bed, sat down on the edge, listened - her breathing was even, and she seemed to be sleeping. She leaned back. Fatigue pressed me to the bed, spreading warmth throughout my body, my eyelids closed. A breath of wind - the desired Morpheus! I surrendered myself to his sweet embrace...

But what's going on? Something was stubbornly ruining my sleep! Woke up - deep night! The husband's hand squeezes the breasts. He's still half asleep. She froze, maybe it will pass?.. It didn’t! He crushed her breast with one hand and pulled her hand toward him with the other. Tears of despair boil in my eyes. It looks like there’s no way around it, it won’t let you sleep anyway! Doomedly he runs his palm over his mighty belly - the descent is over. Poking around in search of... No? Lord, what happiness! Alas. He doesn’t want to at all! Well, you'll have to work hard...

I can’t even believe that I managed it, not completely, really, but there’s no more urine! Despite his obesity, he jumped up quickly! Crushed, ridiculous body movements. She prepared him, but she herself only experiences painful sensations... Just don’t go in for a kiss! She no longer moans, she wheezes. He thinks: out of pleasure, he tries even harder, he sweats. How can? Oh, yes, of course, it completely slipped my mind - I learned it on my own! Well, she has no shortage of acting skills, and not for the first time: she trembled, groaned, and turned on her internal muscles for greater persuasiveness. He is happy to be deceived. Come on!.. Everything seems to be exhausted. What else? The beginning of snoring confirms her fears. I didn’t even bother to get out of it - absolute unity, but I couldn’t breathe in, I couldn’t exhale! Through incredible efforts we manage to get out. He rushes to the bathroom to wash his tadpoles - two offspring are enough for her. Standing in the shower, unable to hold back the tears - you can let yourself go! Devastated, she returns to the bedroom. The faithful give out roulades, a sleepless night lies ahead...

He reminisces about their life together, their lost love. A long, slender young man. In those happy times, all he had to do was touch him. Instantly flared up, glowed, seethed, exhausted! Every vein, every nerve felt it. Lips, hands. Burning caresses! And then a joint flight into the stratosphere of fury, accompanied by sounds unknown to the world, extracted from their throats! Where is the time? What changed? Where did that enthusiastic young man go? Where is that love? Yes, I've gained weight. But he’s not evil! Cheerful, witty, gets along with children, doesn't make trouble, doesn't raise his voice. What else does? Everything would not be so bad, and it would be quite possible to live, if... if not for MARITAL DEBT...