Each wedding anniversary that spouses celebrate has its own characteristics and differences. All of them are associated with traditions and customs, according to which the anniversary is named. After a husband and wife have been married for 30 years, not only the spouses themselves know which wedding is celebrated as an anniversary. Having specified the name, family and friends prepare gifts and congratulations.
According to tradition, after three decades of living together after marriage registration, the spouses celebrate a pearl wedding. This anniversary is named after pearls, which take 30 years to fully mature. At this time, the pearl becomes strong, acquires an ideal shape and maximum size. The ancestors believed that spouses who lived together for 30 years would remain close to each other until the end of their days. It is almost impossible to break such an alliance.
How to mark - script
The 30th wedding anniversary is a special holiday. All the relatives and closest friends of the couple gather for the celebration. In the old days, it was not customary to invite strangers or even just neighbors to this anniversary.
On this day, parents performed a ceremony of passing on a happy marriage to their children, and only relatives could be present. Pearls were passed down from generation to generation (if there were none in the family, then silver or gold coins were passed on).
Wise from life experience, the parents, knowing the complexities of family life, lit candles, placed a plate with pearls on the table, and tied the legs of the children who were the first to marry (a daughter with a husband or a son with a wife) so as to firmly tie them to each other. After this, the newlyweds had to go to the table, where they would be given the pearls of marriage.
Years later, they, in turn, will perform such a ceremony and give the pearls to their children. According to legend, along with pearls, parents passed on their experience, wisdom, patience, and ability to find a compromise to the young.
Now the young couple’s marriage will be happy and strong. And the union of parents who have lived together for 30 years and remained faithful and devoted to each other is no longer in danger. It is as strong as the pearls passed on. Today, few people keep family pearls, and not everyone knows about the ritual.
However, the tradition of celebrating a pearl wedding in a close circle of family and friends still lives on. In order for the holiday to be a success, you need to draw up a script in advance that will take into account all the nuances:
- congratulations;
- giving gifts;
- holding competitions;
- toast;
- entertainment and dance programs.
The organizers must ensure that guests not only do not get bored, but remember this evening forever. First you need to prepare invitations for your closest people.
It is advisable that on the day when the heroes of the occasion celebrate 30 years of marriage, those who were present at their wedding should be with the spouses.
As invitations, postcards are sent to guests, indicating the exact date and location of the banquet, if the main characters of the celebration decided to celebrate the event associated with the 30th anniversary of family life not at home, but in a cafe or restaurant.
On the appointed day, guests gather at the place indicated in the invitation, where they are met by the eldest son of the “young couple,” a close relative or an old friend of the family, who has been entrusted with the role of toastmaster. If the date falls on a summer day, then you can arrange a site on the territory of a country house or organize a trip to nature. For winter anniversaries, it is better to rent a restaurant hall or celebrate at home with your family.
According to tradition (if possible), thirty people gather at the banquet venue to congratulate the main characters of the holiday on their anniversary, give them memorable gifts, say wishes and, of course, beautiful toasts.
The celebration takes place under the leadership of the toastmaster, who greets the guests and invites them to take their places at the table:
- Their children and their families sit closest to the heroes of the occasion. They will be the first to have the floor for congratulations. Of course, if the parents of the “young” are alive and present at the banquet, then places of honor are allocated to them.
- After the guests take their seats, the toastmaster makes a speech, talking about the date and the number of years the celebrants have lived in marriage. He wishes the spouses long years, endless happiness and invites them to raise a glass to their health.
- According to tradition, the happy heroes of the occasion must throw pearls into the water so that their marriage will last at least 50 years, and they will happily live until their golden wedding.
- The time comes when the guests, standing up, make short but meaningful toasts and wishes. As soon as the most important, kind words are said, the “young people” are given gifts.
- The manager says that during their long life together the spouses had to experience many joyful events, but the first and happiest were those moments when they became a mother and father. They raised and raised wonderful children, who have now become fathers and mothers themselves. There are congratulations and wishes for health and happiness to the parents from their children and grandchildren.
Now is the time for a short musical break, and you can start it with the dance of the “young people”. A little later, everyone present will join them.
The entertainment program consists of dances, songs and various competitions. When choosing games for guests, you need to take into account the age of the participants and select topics that are interesting to them.
Some of the most interesting competitions, games and quizzes include:
- Guess the date. The toastmaster names the number of years that have passed since the marriage was registered, and the guests must name the year and what wedding the heroes of the occasion celebrated at that time.
- The second competition is called “I know you”. Two small cardboard boxes are placed in front of the “young people”, inside of which are pieces of paper with written questions. The spouses take turns taking out pieces of paper, reading the question out loud and answering it, trying not to make a mistake. If the answer is not accurate, the children will have to fill it in.
- Comic relay race. The wife kisses the person sitting next to her, he passes the kiss to his neighbor or neighbor, and so on until the kiss reaches the last guest sitting at the table. The husband, in turn, kisses the one sitting next to him. The one whose side finishes the relay faster will win. The winner is awarded a comic prize by the toastmaster. This could be a medal for the best kisser or hygienic lipstick.
Cool competitions, games and funny quizzes don't last long. Guests are invited to raise their glasses and taste the treat. On such a day there will be not only meat and vegetable dishes or desserts on the table.
The main surprise is the cake. This, like many years ago, is the main dish of the holiday. The couple cut it together and sell the pieces.
Venue of the holiday
It depends on the scenario that the young couple chooses and on the number of guests. When holding a holiday in a narrow circle, the script is much easier, but for a large number of guests you need to try. If the weather permits, a banquet somewhere outdoors or in the country would be an excellent solution. However, a restaurant or cafe is also great. Since the wedding is a chintz wedding, the main material for interior decoration will be chintz.
Based on the example scenario, it is worth adding some traditional things and accessories to it:
- Arch made from pieces of chintz fabric;
- Two chintz scarves and a box;
- A bottle of wine and skate (or whiskey). Preferably with a suitable label, for example, with a photo of the newlyweds and the wedding date. Plus the inscription, “Open in honor of the birth of the first child,” and if you already have a child, then in honor of the second anniversary. The second bottle says "open for fifth anniversary";
- Box with a medal “in honor of the first anniversary”;
- Bright colored ribbon;
- Printed clothing and/or accessories;
- Souvenirs for competitions;
- Accessories for a photo shoot.
It is important to prepare a press wall with the names of the newlyweds and their photographs from the wedding and the first year of their life together. It is advisable to decorate the wall in such a way that you can take pictures against its background. You can add suitable inscriptions, such as “Our chintz world”, “Our chintz everyday life”.
A presenter in such an event is mandatory, as is a DJ with a photographer and cameraman, if the scale of the event allows. The presenter acts according to his own script or according to a script drawn up by the spouses. This is a holiday, which means it should be comic, cool, light and memorable.
The spouses independently meet and seat all guests. And then the host starts the celebration. At the very beginning, it will be interesting to watch a short film about a newlyweds’ wedding, perhaps a cut of individual frames from a wedding film or a clip in the “lovestory” format. After this, you can start the banquet and raise your glasses in honor of the 1st anniversary. After a short amount of time, you can begin the holiday program.
Gift ideas for husband and wife
What can spouses give each other on such a special day?
Of course, the most valuable gift is love and attention, but congratulations in verse will leave an indelible mark on the soul of the person to whom it is intended, and guests will remember it for a long time.
The husband, who has always been a support for his beloved wife, and an example for the children in everything, will show concern on this day. He can present his wife with a valuable gift in the form of a ring or pendant with a pearl, or give her earrings, hiding the treasured case among his wife’s favorite flowers collected in a bouquet.
It’s easier to give a gift to your wife, because you can bring joy to your beloved by giving beautiful jewelry. It will be much more difficult for your spouse to solve the problem.
A gift for my beloved husband, with whom I have lived for 30 years, will be:
- a tie clip decorated with a small pearl;
- money clip;
- cufflinks with pearls;
- cigarette case.
You should choose taking into account the hobbies of your loved one. Perhaps he likes to play chess or backgammon?
Figures with pearls will make a lasting impression on him.
What kind of wedding - 30 years?
Thirty years of marriage is called a pearl wedding
. According to ancient Slavic mythology, pearls are petrified drops of water. Not ordinary water, but the kind that flows from the corollas of aquatic flowers. Drops flow from the leaves, fall into reservoirs, and then slip into the valves of pearl shells. If a drop of water falls from the corolla of a water lily at sunset, it produces a golden-colored pearl. The midday drops turn into the silvery appearance of pearls. The droplets rolling down from the lotus corollas at dawn turn into pearls of a soft pink hue. Over the course of many years, this small drop becomes overgrown with mother-of-pearl, strengthening and becoming a wonderful decoration. So the family, like pearls, was overgrown with love and warmth, forming a beautiful necklace from a series of happily lived years. Over time, such a marriage only becomes stronger, and feelings do not fade in difficult moments.
The anniversary emphasizes the strength and sincerity of time-tested relationships. He proves that no adversity or misunderstanding can extinguish feelings, but only make them stronger
How to congratulate spouses for friends, children and relatives - tips
If it is not possible to give an expensive memorable gift to relatives and friends, you should think about how to surprise the heroes of the day with gifts that were made with your own hands.
Of course, a collage of their photographs, which show the couple 30 years ago and today, is always a delight. Here you can add photos of children and grandchildren, indicate certain dates with which the warmest memories or joyful events are associated.
Even though quite a few years have passed since the solemn registration of the marriage, this day will remain in the memory forever, and the memories will be fresh, as if everything happened yesterday.
Not only photographs will remind you of those events; congratulations in verse, the composition of which was entrusted to those who were witnesses at the wedding, will sound sincere and solemn.
It must be formatted accordingly:
- written on specially ordered paper and placed under glass in a frame;
- engraved on a decorative figurine;
- carved on the inside of the chessboard.
30 years since your wedding is a big holiday. The anniversary is celebrated by a large friendly family, and the gift can be a poem or prose written by the closest people.
Traditions
People who have been married for 30 years and are now celebrating the anniversary of their marriage belong to a generation that sacredly honors the traditions and customs of their ancestors. In accordance with these traditions, you need to choose an anniversary gift. A bridal bouquet designed specifically for a pearl wedding can be a memorable gift. Small handmade souvenirs can also highlight the specialness of the date.
You shouldn’t think about how much such a gift will cost: it won’t be expensive, but the heroes of the day will keep it as a reminder of the holiday, which is celebrated 30 years after the birth of their family.
Congratulations in prose and poetry
To congratulate the “young people” in your own words is to express all your feelings. Sincerely, truthfully, without pompous phrases. To do this, you do not need to learn the text, select words spoken by sages or great writers. It's enough to just say:
We congratulate you from the bottom of our hearts! We are proud of you, we learn from you patience and understanding, the ability to find a way out of the most difficult situation, and to support each other in difficult times. We really want you to always be as happy as you are today, so that a smile shines on your faces. We will try to do everything in our power so that you can be proud of your children and grandchildren. We love you with all our hearts!
Congratulations in verse sound solemn and touching, especially if children and grandchildren read these verses.
Congratulations on your pearl wedding: cards and pictures
An original gift would be a hall decorated for the pearl anniversary with pictures and posters corresponding to the celebration.
Prepare beautiful 30th wedding anniversary cards or make a large collage of photos with family and friends.
Interesting competitions for guests
A pearl wedding is compared to a necklace. Each bead strung on a thread symbolizes the time spent together. Over the course of 30 years, many mutual friends are formed. When inviting them to your anniversary, think over a competition program to make the holiday fun and relaxed. Children of the celebrants prepare entertainment for the guests. The choice of competitions depends on the location of the celebration. There are ready-made entertainment programs. They are “tailored” to specific people. Here are some competitions.
"Welcome"
A funny competition for guests with a hidden meaning. Two or three drivers are selected to play the game. Usually the most active guests go first so that other friends and relatives feel relaxed and free. A piece of paper with the name of the place or institution is attached to the driver’s back. Guests should be able to read the title, but contestants should not. “Institutions” choose original, memorable ones. For example: a women's or men's bathhouse, a sobering station, a strip club, an investigator's office, a toilet.
The drivers are asked questions; not knowing where they are going, they answer them cheerfully. After receiving the intended number of answers, guests are informed of their destination. Examples of questions for the competition:
- Do you enjoy visiting this place?
- How often do you go there?
- What do you wear there?
- Who do you take with you when visiting this establishment?
- Do I need to take photos there?
- Is there a fee to visit this place or not?
- Does the spouse know about this institution?
"The Seventh Sense"
This competition is simple but requires patience to listen to the rules. The participant in the game is blindfolded with a scarf. After this, the host of the competition shows the rest of the guests some actions. The participant must answer “yes” or “no” to each of them. Actions are chosen to be original, fun, and memorable. For example, scratching behind the ear, kissing someone on the cheek. The action with which the participant in the game agrees should be remembered.
The next stage of the competition will be to determine the number of times a particular action has been performed. To do this, the presenter shows numbers on his fingers. At what value the competition participant stops it, the number is remembered. Next, the guest who will perform the task is determined. It is also determined with your eyes closed. For example, the "performer" kisses the participant's cheek a predetermined number of times. If the driver guesses the guest, then they change places.
“Come up with a verse”
It is customary to give poems for a pearl wedding. To make this gift memorable, a competition is held among male guests. To play the game you will need a piece of paper and a pencil. A certain mandatory number of words is specified that must be used when writing. They are chosen to be fun. For example: pearls, belly, tail, pirates, wife.
On a note
Handkerchiefs for the ceremony can be made to order or with your own hands; embroidery with names or wedding date can serve as decoration.
A “questions” competition in which spouses participate, and everyone helps. You need to prepare in advance a list of questions on the topic “How well the newlyweds got to know each other in a year.” The questions can be completely different, what is the spouse’s favorite morning habit, how much time does the wife spend on manicure, how many spoons of sugar does the husband put in his tea, how many sweets has the wife eaten this year. Questions can be both serious and humorous.
Usually at a wedding, the newlyweds have two bottles of champagne decorated with ribbons on the table. They are supposed to be kept until the first anniversary. In this regard, you can perform another ceremony according to the script at a chintz wedding. They bring in two bottles, only not of champagne, but of wine and cognac (or other) prepared in advance. The presenter says, “The relationship between spouses becomes stronger over the years and therefore the drinks become stronger, using them you can perform a ritual of making wishes for future years together.”
The couple takes the ribbon and wraps it around the bottles. When tying the first knot, they make their first wish. After this, seven knots are tied one by one, while making a wish. The number 7 is considered a symbol of good luck and happiness. The ritual is accompanied by romantic music. The host reminds you when you can open the drinks and offers to print out the wedding champagne and drink it.
