Traditions for celebrating the 42nd wedding anniversary
A mother-of-pearl wedding is an anniversary that has its own preserved traditions. According to one tradition, the event should be attended by guests or some of them who were witnesses at the wedding 42 years ago. The couple exchange gifts in the morning - symbols of the wedding. It can be anything: buttons, jewelry or a solid piece of furniture.
Another interesting tradition requires swimming in a natural pond before sunrise. A married couple should swim together. The Rising Sun, in this tradition, represents a new beginning. And water heals and washes away all illnesses, both physical and mental. Modern options involve taking a shower together in the early morning. The tradition can also be modified for those couples who got married in the winter season or for those who do not have natural bodies of water nearby. By the way, another restriction on the observance of this ritual may be the testimony of doctors. The water is colder in the morning, so the presence of certain diseases can become a serious obstacle to swimming in this format, even in order to comply with traditions.
From friends
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On this special day, I give you, my friend, poems: Let your spouse always repeat “I love you”, Let the relationship be easy! You have already come a long way, 42 is the number of the day! Let Mother of Pearl’s wedding today give you passion and fire!
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Let's remember, dear ones, What happened on this day when you weren't gray? You are “forty-two”! The years are flying by! I was your witness - Oh, the wedding was noisy: Some were singing, others were dancing! I had as much fun as I could! So let Mother of Pearl’s wedding be fun today! We'll finish celebrating in the morning, so that I can leave happy!
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Congratulations, sister! For a love fire, Do not spare firewood with your husband - Kisses, tender words! The year is 42, what are you called wife! Let it be like this for at least a hundred years, After all, there are no limits to happiness!
Scenario for celebrating the 42nd wedding anniversary
It’s worth saying right away that not all modern couples pay enough attention to the intermediate dates between anniversaries. Despite the fact that the 42nd wedding anniversary is not a big date, it is still worth celebrating, even if not so magnificently. It is advisable to invite to the celebration those relatives and friends who were at the wedding on an important day 42 years ago. Such a reunion often helps the couple renew their vows and feelings, as well as become an inspiring example for the younger generation.
Even though mother of pearl is less valued than pearls, many people love the stone for its beauty and durability. Likewise, a couple who has passed such a big milestone in their relationship can celebrate a personal unofficial anniversary in the family circle.
Toys and other decor in pastel colors are welcome in the interior design. To maintain the theme of the holiday, it is recommended to keep part of the room in a restrained color with a mother-of-pearl tint. An ideal addition would be iridescent dishes, napkins or balls decorated with pearls, which shimmer in the sun and may seem like a big mother-of-pearl. Pastel shades are the most preferred; there are no general recommendations for choosing wedding colors.
The organizational part of the event is usually the children. The only condition is the need to discuss the list of invitees. Because the event should be fun, and the relationships with some of the people on the list may be different for those responsible for the event than they were 42 years ago.
Congratulations to the couple
Close relatives and loyal friends will be present at the celebration, so the speech should be prepared carefully. Every word will be remembered, so you need to speak from the heart. A self-composed or prepared text must be learned by heart, and only elderly guests are allowed to read from a postcard.
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Touching words from children
A speech addressed to parents should begin with an appeal. Attention can be focused on an interesting incident from childhood that will touch everyone present.
Example: Relatives! I remember how you took me to first grade. I didn’t want to go to school, so tears came to my eyes. Seeing my sadness mixed with fear, you both leaned over and hugged me tightly from both sides. After that it became so warm that all sorrows left. I realized what a real family is. Thank you for teaching me this back in my childhood and continuing to set an example to this day, many decades later.
You can also try to look into the future in your congratulatory speech.
Example: Dear parents! Today we all gathered around the table to celebrate another anniversary. Looking at your eyes glowing with happiness and the smiles on your lips, it’s hard to believe that so many years have already passed. Every year you can remember with sadness about the past or with joy and gratitude that this happened to you. But we also shouldn’t forget that there are still dozens of years ahead, which will be filled with events, good news, and pleasant bustle. Don't forget this. And let today’s date be another beginning of a new life.
What can you give your spouse?
An ancient tradition recommends that the wife sew her own shirt for her husband, sewing on mother-of-pearl buttons. Later it served as a powerful personal amulet for a man. In a modern version, you can buy a shirt in a store and sew on mother-of-pearl buttons. When choosing a gift, it is important to focus not only on symbolism, but also on the couple’s feelings for each other. You can choose one of the following gift options for your spouse:
- a business spouse will love an exclusive pen designed in mother-of-pearl style. You can even give a personalized copy;
- A watch with mother-of-pearl trim will also fit perfectly into the image of a business man;
- A universal and symbolic gift will be mother-of-pearl cufflinks, which will originally complement the gray hair of an already respectable gentleman. Men who prefer a business image, as a rule, have subtle taste and an exquisite sense of beauty.
After so many years of living together, the wife has probably already studied the tastes and interests of her husband. Therefore, choosing a worthy gift for her will not be difficult. In addition to purchased options, a handmade gift can be symbolic and heartwarming. For example, the ideal option would be to design your own gift wrapping.
DIY gifts
Recently, the concept of hand-made has come into fashion. This term refers to all the things that a person does with his own hands. An example of a gift for the 42nd wedding date could be:
- box made of natural wood;
- mother-of-pearl business card holder;
- family tree decorated in mother-of-pearl style.
You can also give a family collage consisting of bright and memorable moments. The frame can be inlaid with mother of pearl. This option will be a reason to dive into the past and remember all the significant moments of the relationship.
Cool
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You are already mother-in-law and father-in-law, And forty-two years ago, the veil suited the bride, And the groom was a little thin! Now the dress is gathering dust in the closet, The suit is not in hubby’s fashion! A hand reaches out to congratulate you on your Mother-of-Pearl wedding, To fill you to the brim for health, For longevity, for love! Years have flown by since the wedding day, But it’s “bitter” to drink again today!
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42 to you - fire and fire! Is this a lot or a little? This is exactly right! You showed everyone your class! A husband and wife - a needle and thread, a pot with an electric stove, like foot wraps with boots, mother of pearl with pearls! We wish you to celebrate your wedding, so as not to notice the wrinkles! You spouses are ideal, good, phenomenal!
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Eh, let's get drunk today. We are for family health! Oh, if only we could sober up in the morning!.. Today is Mother of Pearl’s wedding! Oh, how beautiful the “young” ones are, although they are a little gray! Wow, let it be hot today. Wife received a gift from her husband!
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Let the button accordion break to hell, Let the vodka flow like a river, Let the guests not be bored! You spouses are inseparable! Congratulations on your 42nd wedding! You should know that your symbol is Mother of Pearl! Don't praise, yes - I am wise! I am your guest of honor, so pour it now! I drink to the bottom, that's how much! I drink, and I feel so “Bitter, Bitter”!
Gifts for wife
In ancient times, there was a very interesting custom in Rus'. The husband had to present his wife with a necklace early in the morning, which consisted of 42 mother-of-pearl beads. It is interesting that the husband prepared the gift in advance, every year on a memorable day, secretly from his wife, putting mother-of-pearl on a thread. In the modern world, it is possible to purchase custom-made symbolic jewelry, since due to the pace of life, not every man is ready to follow tradition to the smallest detail. The main nuance lies in the atmosphere of care and sincere feelings that will reign in the couple at the moment of handing over the gift to its owner.
An appropriate and romantic addition would be a bouquet of flowers in a delicate shade, best suited to the main gift.
Women usually like to think outside the box. Therefore, you can break away from tradition and prepare an original gift for your wife. For example, a box may well become part of the bedroom interior and a practical gift.
An original and symbolic option would be a paired set for tea drinking. It is advisable to choose a set that is inlaid with real mother of pearl. It will be useful in everyday life and will help create an unforgettable atmosphere for family tea in the evenings.
Ideal as a non-standard gift are figurines to suit the spouse’s hobby, made like mother-of-pearl or visually reminiscent of the symbol of the 42nd summer wedding.
Gifts from guests for wedding anniversary
The choice of gifts from guests is unlimited. These can be both memorable symbolic gifts and those that are useful in everyday life. If guests are in doubt about the choice or someone has no imagination, you can choose one of the following options:
- candlesticks or glasses decorated with real mother of pearl;
- flowerpot or vase for gardeners;
- A mother-of-pearl sink will become the highlight of the bathroom. Such a gift should be previously agreed upon with the heroes of the holiday;
- various household appliances. It is also best to discuss such a gift with partners in advance to avoid awkward moments;
- iridescent bed linen;
- photo album with memorable photos and blank sheets for new moments. It is desirable that the gift cover be either inlaid with mother-of-pearl or shimmer in the light.
A gift from children and grandchildren will be special for the heroes of the holiday. A memorable gift will be a video or photo presentation of important family moments. A full-length portrait of a couple, made in oil painting or in an unusual technique, will be original. A handmade postcard will be a wonderful gift from your grandchildren.
Toasts
From husband to wife
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In a glass of champagne, bubbles strive to rise up!.. I asked, blushing, for your hand, Father told me: “Get married!” Since then I haven’t regretted one iota for becoming my wife! I could sing if only I could sing an ode to you, to my beloved one! And so, I rhyme a toast for you! Wedding day – we are “forty-two”! I want to live my life like this, lovingly, whispering words in my ear!..
From wife to husband
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Mother-of-pearl wedding – a new chapter in life! In this toast for you, husband, I select words to express the feelings that I carry in my soul! In forty-two years there have been so many different, bright days: Mondays and Fridays, weekdays, holidays - you can’t count them!.. In our memory, of course, there are scenes of disagreements... But life in a family is a swing! Either we soar from happiness to the skies, or we make each other nervous and stressed!.. And even if not everything is as smooth as in novels about love!.. Yes, dear, you and I have our own advantages: We understand at a glance, we fight in unison of the heart, When we hold hands, and there are two rings on our fingers!
