If we think about having a fun, original and creative approach to the wedding party, then creating an original script is a must. Guests watch thematic events with special pleasure and excitement.
They can be either in the style of the wild west or gypsy fun. If we talk about the latter, then many people associate them with the most fun celebration of events. A gypsy at a wedding will not leave anyone indifferent, as will any celebration held in a similar style.
Specifics of the wedding event
The ceremonial event at the gypsy camp differs from the one held by the Russian people. Rituals and customs for some lead to interest. The rest fall into shock and misunderstanding. But any event in the camp is always distinguished by its scale, dances and songs.
Matchmaking process
Preparatory activities before the wedding ceremony begin with matchmaking. Most often, the father and mother of a girl or boy themselves look for a soul mate for their children. Their choice is based on the reputation and financial capabilities of the family.
It also happens when the parents of future spouses agree in advance to reunite families even before their children reach adulthood. Already at this stage, the relatives determined the date of the holiday and the amount of ransom for the girl’s father.
The customs of a gypsy wedding involve the use of two important details:
- birch branch or bottle of wine drink. Banknotes, coins or gold are hung on such paraphernalia;
- holiday cake. The loaf is made according to a special recipe. It is prepared by the relatives of the future wife.
The matchmakers, led by the groom's father, show their treats to future relatives. If the elder of the girl's family agrees to place them on the table, this is a good sign for the wedding.
Women should not be present during the matchmaking process. The marriage contract is concluded only between men.
Red flags are considered the main decoration of the celebration. This shade will lead to happiness, joy and passion among the gypsy people. Red jewelry and clothes are worn for weddings. Another mandatory attribute is red flags. They are hung on the bride and groom's home. Reddish ribbons decorate the suits of men who are invited to the celebration.
Weddings in gypsy families
A gypsy wedding can be held at any time of the year. But the summer months are a priority. The weather during this period is considered the best for holding a celebration. The tables are located at a low level. And guests sit down on carpets that are laid on the ground.
Recently, gypsies have begun to celebrate weddings in restaurants and cafes.
The event lasts at least 3 days. If rich relatives gather, the celebration extends for at least 7 days.
On the first day there is a bachelorette party. A ritual of bargaining takes place. Then relatives and friends sit down at the laid tables. Women and men are at different tables. After some time, the matchmakers shake hands and at the end kiss.
The bride is escorted to the first dance by her father. Then friends of the newlyweds are invited to the circle. The dance ends the first day.
The next day of the wedding celebration arrives. At this time, the marriage process takes place. In the morning, the bridesmaids begin to help the bride get ready. Music plays in the house, songs are sung and festive tables are set.
Once the bride is ready, she puts on her wedding dress. Gypsies never rent clothes. She inherits it from her older sisters. If a girl is the first in the family to get married, then she gets a new dress.
Then the future wife, dressed up, appears before the guests and begins to dance. After the ceremony is completed, she is carried to her husband’s home.
The feast most often takes place in the groom's house or restaurant. Before sitting down at the table, the young couple is blessed with an icon and a loaf, presented with treats and liquid with sweets is poured under their feet. Such traditions help a married couple live long, happily and richly.
During the feast, the newlyweds are escorted to a separate room. This is necessary to fulfill marital duty.
On the third day, lamb soup is prepared. After toasts and congratulations, the parents bring out the girl’s dowry in the form of bed linen, pillows, and blankets. This is how it was in ancient times. Modern gypsies prefer money, gold and jewelry. Every detail must be demonstrated to everyone present. Thus, the family of the future wife shows that she did not enter into marriage empty-handed, and in case of discord, she will leave with her money, jewelry and gold.
Bride ransom from the gypsies
Bride price is usually understood as compensation to a woman’s family for the loss of their mistress. A few years ago, the ransom went to the girl’s parents. But nowadays, father and mother give part of the money and jewelry to the young family.
According to tradition, the groom's family pays for the celebration. To make everything colorful and luxurious, the father and mother begin to prepare financially for the event after the birth of the boy. Often, a lavish event ruins parents. But they are responsible for holding a luxurious wedding, as this speaks of the honor and dignity of the family.
Recently, it has become possible to share expenses for celebrations.
Holding a banquet
Gypsies always have a rich table. There are many alcoholic drinks available. Food is available in large quantities for every taste. But, despite this, not a single gypsy allows himself to abuse alcohol. For them, being drunk means shame.
The tables of the male and female half of the population are significantly different. A table is placed in the center for the newlyweds and witnesses.
The men who are invited to the wedding are dressed in formal suits. Married women come in traditional dress, and their heads are always covered. If the girls are unmarried, then they are allowed to come to the event in a pantsuit or long dress.
Fraternization process
No gypsy wedding can be complete without fraternization. The procedure allows you to bond the newlyweds for life. To carry it out, future spouses need to make incisions on their fingers. After a little blood runs out, the fingers are crossed together.
Several distinctive features of the celebration
Gypsies never formalize their marriage. But if they adhere to the Orthodox religion, then they must definitely get married.
On the wedding day, the bride should not say anything. This will show her respect for her father and husband.
A woman must live with her chosen one. There she becomes a full-fledged mistress.
Wedding script “We’ll tell you everything according to the stars, fortune telling!”
Astronomer: Today the stars told me that we will celebrate the wedding, that in this bright starry hall we will congratulate the Young!
Gypsy: Yesterday fate whispered to me, That we will celebrate all day, I didn’t fall asleep last night, I wrote words - I’m not lazy!
Astronomer: We congratulate our couple, We wish only love - only, With the gypsy we will shout together: “Our dears, it’s bitter!”
(The newlyweds kiss, the guests drink to their happiness!)
Gypsy: I can tell you frankly, That the two of you will be warm, That your parents will help you, without a doubt, rebuild your house!
Astronomer: But you promise to love them, Here is an order from the bright stars, Read it now And your path will be easy - simple!
Promise of the groom: I will honor my mother-in-law - She will help us! I’ll run to her for pancakes - She’ll give us a loan then! I will treat her more simply - Then as a mother will be a mother-in-law!
And if there is a mother-in-law in the house, then there must be a father-in-law too! I will talk to my father-in-law - Then I can drink beer with him! I will watch football with him - And my father-in-law will be my best friend!
(The father-in-law and mother-in-law are invited to the center of the hall and given the floor to congratulate the newlyweds!)
Promise of the bride: I will give love to my mother-in-law - Then my mother will be my mother-in-law! I will call her often - my mother-in-law will begin to love me too! I will invite her to visit - Then she will not offend me!
I will bake a pie for my father-in-law - Then he won’t be strict with me! I will knit sweaters for him - Then he won’t scold me! I will sincerely love my father-in-law - Then we will live in peace with our husband!
(The father-in-law and mother-in-law are invited to the center of the hall and give them the floor to congratulate the newlyweds!)
Astronomer: And now we show respect to our guests - Let them also say congratulations!
(Everyone who wants to congratulate the newlyweds comes out to their table one by one and makes toasts and presents gifts!)
Gypsy: Your union will be strong if a toddler is born! I’ll tell you fortunes now - I’ll find out who will be born.
(The gypsy woman puts three identical boxes in front of the young people. In one of them there is a baby doll with a blue ribbon, in the other - with a pink ribbon, and in the third - two identical baby dolls. The young people choose a box, the gypsy informs who will be born to the young people first.)
Gypsy: There will be a nice little one, If he grows up in wealth, They will send a box to guests for good luck! Chip in, ladies, gentlemen, For the health of the child, Young people will then call you to wash diapers!
(The gypsy woman throws a box across the tables, guests chip in for the first diapers for the unborn baby!)
Astronomer: There will be many children - many, the Stars say so! Who will strictly babysit these little guys? Who will pamper them, Who will sing songs, Who will be the best? Let’s find out now, we are here!
(We suggest that the mother-in-law and mother-in-law, as well as the newlyweds, go to the center of the hall. The bride sits on the mother-in-law’s lap, and the groom sits on the mother-in-law’s lap. We are announcing a competition for the best lullaby song!)
Gypsy: Grandmothers will love to carry their grandchildren in their arms, They will only pamper them, In the meantime, we shout: “Bitter!”
(The newlyweds kiss, the guests drink to their happiness!)
Gypsy: Well, today you united, You became one - you got married, As if you had purchased a purchase, We will read your passports!
Groom's passport
Groom.
Name - man, groom, universal. Country of origin: Russia. Authors: Ivanova A. I and N. A. (full name of the groom’s parents).
Technical characteristics: weight - 80 kg, height - 2 m, wear rate - 0%, load capacity - no more than 4 bottles of beer.
Intended for: watching TV shows, mainly sports, for eating, for relaxing and lying on the couch.
Equipment: apartment - 1 piece, car - 1 piece, garage - 1 piece.
Care and care for safe and long-term use: feeding - at least 3 times a day, affection and care in bed - at least 1 time a day, affection and care out of bed - throughout the day.
Note: The groom cannot be exchanged or returned.
Bride's passport
Bride.
Name - woman, beauty, smart, charming. Country of origin: Russia. Authors: Smirnova A.R. and N.D. (full name of the bride’s parents).
Technical characteristics: ability to wash, iron, cook.
Intended for: watching TV series, for wasting husband's wages, for telephone conversations, for raising children, for visiting beauty salons.
Contents: wedding dress - 1 piece.
Care and concern for safe and long-term use: affection, attention, understanding - daily, increased nutrition - allocations for pocket expenses from the husband's salary.
Note: To treasure and love for many years to come.
The newlyweds exchange passports, kiss, and the evening continues with a stormy feast, dancing, and active competitions.
Gypsy traditions
One of the main moments is the first wedding night. The newlyweds fulfill their marital duty during the celebration.
A room or tent is prepared in advance for the newlyweds. In ancient times, mothers or grandmothers were in the same room with their spouses. But nowadays women wait for newlyweds near the door.
After privacy, guests are presented with a shirt or sheet with traces of blood. They are sure to be sprinkled with scarlet rose petals. The bride appears before the guests in a red dress with an apron. The girl’s head must now always be covered, because she has become an official wife.
If the bride is not a virgin, then the marriage is immediately dissolved, and a stain of shame is placed on the family. Then the family has to move. And the girl is doomed to loneliness for the rest of her life.
A gypsy wedding is characterized by fun. But despite this, the family always sees off their daughter with tears in their eyes.
This happens for several reasons.
- A married woman from a gypsy family is prohibited from wearing pants. Now her clothes are dresses and skirts below the knee, and her head is always covered with a scarf.
- You can't meet your friends.
- Housekeeping is entrusted to the young wife. Now she cleans after every member of the family.
- If the spouses begin to live separately, then the wife’s responsibility becomes to support the family.
- The wife has no right to contradict her husband.
- It is strictly forbidden for a woman to cheat.
A gypsy wedding is based on the performance of various rituals that are aimed at creating a happy life. In any case, husband and wife must respect each other.
Matchmaking of young gypsies
During matchmaking, a ceremonial table is always set in the bride’s house. Treats on the table symbolize joy for the guests. The groom's parents come to the bride's house with two main items. The first is a bottle of wine hung with coins or a branch decorated with scarves with money. The second attribute is a wedding round cake. It is baked by women in the groom's house. Next, the daughter-in-law undergoes a strict examination and the bride price is agreed upon by the parents of both parties. If during the matchmaking ceremony an agreement is reached between the two families, then preparations for the wedding begin.
The end of the gypsy wedding celebration
The wedding of the gypsy people is full of mysterious customs and traditions. Even in ancient times, in settlements in the evening, young people went to the bedroom, accompanied by 2-3 women, who were treated with respect by relatives. This is necessary in order to make sure that the girl’s groom is the first and last chosen one. After this, one of the women brings out a sheet with blood stains on a tray. This ritual is usually called the Carrying Out of Honor. Then the spouses come out. The bride accepts congratulations from family and friends.
If a girl did not maintain her honor before the wedding and the sheet turned out to be clean, then she will face shame, humiliation and loneliness for the rest of her life. In this case, the marriage is considered invalid, and the bride’s parents must reimburse the entire amount spent on the event.
Even modern gypsies strictly adhere to ancient traditions. But if the holiday is held in a restaurant, then the ceremony of taking out honor is postponed to the night. And during the solemn ceremony, the newlyweds disappear only formally. At this time, the bride puts on a red dress and takes off her veil. This ritual indicates the woman’s consent to accept the new status.
Features of a wedding in gypsy style
If we talk about a gypsy-style marriage ceremony, then it’s worth thinking about what it means.
Firstly, it is impossible to hold events without careful planning. Gypsies will require music, costumes and an appropriate script, which will have to be taken care of in advance.
Secondly, put your guests in the appropriate mood. It would be nice if those present come not in evening dresses, but in colored skirts and bright blouses.
A wedding stylized as a gypsy has a number of features that should definitely be observed.
- Carefully consider the location of the party. Avoid overly pompous and classic places. It doesn't have to be a fine dining restaurant. Rather, a local cafe or a nearby pub will suit you. The interior should be as simple as possible so that you fit harmoniously into the whole atmosphere.
- Consider the menu too. It should not be too boring and economical. Everything should be on the table: fish, meat, fruits.
- Many people associate Gypsies with music. And this is not surprising, because at their evenings there are always loud songs with a guitar. It’s good if you manage to find live music where performers can play you legendary compositions. Otherwise, write down on a flash card those songs performed by gypsy ensembles. By the way, if you have enough money, you can always order a dance group. They will definitely help create the flavor of a given nationality.
Gypsies pay great attention not only to the wedding itself, but also to matchmaking. It is customary that the groom and his in-laws come to the bride’s house the evening before the wedding. There he hands his father a bottle of champagne covered with a handkerchief with coins.
If the father not only accepts the bottle, but also opens it, then the matchmaking was successful and the bride will get married tomorrow.
In this case, the bride and groom should also think about costumes. Of course, classic dresses and suits are not suitable. However, costumes can be made in several variations. The simplest, which is only a stylization, is a boho outfit that has distant roots with gypsy.
If you want a completely themed party, and not just a stylized one, then Aza’s gypsy outfit will do. This is a wide black skirt and a voluminous white blouse. It is worth adding bright makeup to it. For a man, classic black trousers and a red satin shirt, fitting slightly loosely and voluminously, are suitable.
Blessing of marriage among gypsies
After the woman’s honor has been proven and the marriage has been approved by relatives, the newlyweds are blessed with an icon and bread. Only members of the upper strata can hold the icon in their hands. The bread is prepared for women who have already built a family and are famous for their wealth and happiness. It is believed that this ritual helps to imbue the bread with positive energy. Prayers are read before the bride and groom. After this, they must kiss the icon and take a bite of bread.
Some gypsies perform a fraternization ceremony. Young people need to make cuts on their fingers and lean them against each other when the blood begins to flow. It is from this moment that the wife and husband can be considered blood relatives who are forever connected.
A gypsy wedding is rich in its traditions. Each of them honors and respects the rules that were invented by their ancestors. But it is worth noting that among the Roma people there is no such thing as divorce. This is explained by the fact that they are not registered in the registry offices. It’s just that if one spouse is not happy with something, then it’s enough to say so and go back to their native land. But this happens extremely rarely.
Costume competitions and skits with gypsies
Many people like the image of gypsies. They love him for the mood they give. There is always special fun, songs, dances and high spirits.
If the celebration takes place in a classical style, then you can always include one or two scenes that will consist entirely of gypsy images. This will amuse the guests. In addition, there are hardly anyone who would not want to experience that very brave gypsy spirit.
Be sure to use the necessary details to prepare the scene. They should be scarves, skirts and blouses. All this will fit perfectly into the general idea of a gypsy party. For greater ambiance, one of the men can be given a guitar, an indispensable gypsy attribute.
Bride kidnapping
At many weddings, a special ceremony of abducting the bride is performed. He is an integral part of many nationalities. Gypsies are no exception.
In order to perform a similar act at a wedding celebration, you need to select 8-10 people from among the guests present who will play the role of gypsies. Be sure to give each of them the appropriate outfit and advise them on what they have to do.
To exit, you can turn on a fiery dance and send your guests dancing. The gypsies call the bride and groom to an impromptu stage, dancing with them. In the swirl of the dance, several guests lead the bride away, doing this in an unnoticed manner. When the groom comes to his senses, he realizes that his wife is not there.
The guests demand a bride price. Several options are possible here. For example, ask the groom to become their baron. To do this, the gypsies perform a funny ritual or force a young man to perform the baron's dance.
It always looks quite funny. If a young man is shy and reserved, then you can ask his friends to come to his aid.
Fortune telling
One of the most popular scenes is fortune telling. Many associate gypsies with the fact that they are the best at predicting the future.
In this case, fortune telling acts as an entertaining part. Nothing is required from guests at this moment. It is determined in advance with those who will play the role of psychics. They are sent to change clothes and given a text. To the accompaniment of characteristic music, the gypsies come out and visit all the guests. They ask to gild the pen so they can tell fortunes for the future.
- Give me your little hand, I’ll tell you fortune for a happy life. A long road and misfortune await you if you don’t drink this glass soon.
- Groom, I want to tell your fortune too, I see that you have only a happy life ahead. A beautiful bride and a smart daughter, a reliable son and many more little children, both girls and boys.
Alternatively, you can ask one of the guests present to choose a card. If it turns out to be a diamond, then you need to give candy. If worms fall out, you will have to sing. And if it’s spades, then have a glass. Cross means to kiss the person sitting next to you.
Congratulations from the gypsy
A gypsy can act as an original guest at the celebration. By the way, you can choose her from among the guests present, or you can call her from the ensemble. As for the latter option, it will be more spectacular and unforgettable.
Ask a gypsy dance or music group to perform at your own wedding. Before you know it, all the guests will start dancing in a matter of seconds, having fun with all their hearts.
If you chose one of the guests, deciding to dress her up in a gypsy costume, then you need to worry about her speech. She must definitely say the characteristic phrases “darling”, “gypsy girl”, “let me tell my fortune”, “a happy journey awaits you”.
The gypsy image is very colorful, so be careful when choosing an actress for this role. She must be relaxed, energetic and talented. It will be nice if the girl performs a dance or sings one of the gypsy songs.
If the actress fails to win the attention of the public, the act will be a failure.
Competition “Crossword “Loyalty””
Various letters hang in front of the groom, from which he must form one word. Nearby hangs a poster “Gypsy Generous Prices”, which shows the price for each letter. For example, to open the first letter you need to pay $5, for the second letter – $4, and so on.
Witness: Ay, my brilliant one, the ruby of my eyes, you passed almost all the tests. Have you changed your mind about getting married yet? Maybe someone else you liked? Well, if you haven't changed your mind, then here's your last task. From the letters that you see in front of you, form just one word. If you want a bride as your wife, you must have it. But if suddenly you don’t know the answer, any letter, so be it, I agree to sell.
Thus, the groom must form the word “fidelity” and then it will reach the bride.
Being a witness is a very important and responsible role, so you need to think through all the subtleties and nuances in advance. Do not forget to warn the groom in advance so that he buys sweets and wine, since he will use them to pay for the competition with ribbons if he answers the gypsy’s questions incorrectly.
The main thing is that the witness is not nervous and behaves naturally, is cheerful and has learned her words well. Then the bride price will be fun and easy, and all those gathered will tune in to a positive continuation of the banquet. After all, it is with the ransom that the mood begins.
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Wedding predictions for guests: funny and cheerful ideas.
Trying to diversify the festive evening, the organizers come up with comic wedding predictions for the guests. To do this, they dress up one of the presenters or invite an actress to play the role of a fortune teller, write predictions on pieces of paper, which are sealed in cookies or nuts. The easiest way is to tie leaves with a fortune to candies of the same color, put them in a vase and invite guests to choose and find out their fate in the near future.
Fortune nuts
Competition "Heart Lottery"
Five hearts are drawn on whatman paper or cardboard. Inside each of them they write the reason why the groom decided to get married: “the devil got me wrong,” “mom made me do it,” “I’m tired of washing my socks myself,” “for love,” “out of curiosity.” Then each inscription is painted over with chapstick and allowed to dry a little. After this, each heart must be painted over with acrylic paint and left until completely dry. Thus, the place that is painted over with hygienic lipstick can be easily erased with a coin and the word under the paint can be seen.
Witness: Well, you know the bride well, but now answer me, clear falcon, why did you decide to get married? Five hearts are in front of you, choose any one. Make sure you don't make a mistake!
If the groom chooses a reason that does not suit the gypsy, he pays the ransom and chooses the heart again, but before that the witness says:
Witness: But the reason is bad, not suitable for the groom. I'll have to pay off if I haven't changed my mind about getting married.
The groom passes on if he chooses a heart “out of love.”
Congratulation sketch for the anniversary “Gypsy Fortune Telling”.
A woman, better, who knows how to speak and loves to talk, dresses up as a gypsy.
One of the guests says that some gypsy is asking to see the hero of the day, that it’s a matter of life and death. He asks to accept it quickly. A gypsy woman enters the hall and approaches the hero of the day: Well, my diamond, I’ll tell you fortunes for free, almost for nothing, just for a glass of vodka. He sits down next to the hero of the day, takes out cards and begins to lay them out, commenting on each card along the way. Cards love lies and flattery, cards will tell it like it is. Now I’ll spread the cards and find out a lot about you. The cards tell me what to call you... and your name in the great Mayan language means...
You love being right in everything, you always try to help everyone, everywhere. You always want to be useful. Your zodiac sign is... and you were born today exactly... years ago. You love (then you need to list what the hero of the day loves, for example football, fishing or hunting). Every person was born under the protection of some tree, so your tree is... This means that you are a necessary person in any company and the soul of the company. It's always interesting and fun to be with you, and you always like to joke. You are always surrounded by friends and you have a lot of them. You love your family and are proud of your children. Women love you and you are always surrounded by lovely ladies. Come on, accept the gift of a bouquet of flowers from the ladies dear to your heart.
And the gypsy gives the hero of the day a bouquet of flowers.
