More and more couples are abandoning the registry office, choosing an outdoor ceremony that they will make the way they want. Along with organization and decor, the task arises of coming up with what the newlyweds will say to each other, what words they will utter at the time of starting a family. These words are usually the hardest to find because they need to sound sincere and reflect your feelings. We decided to help by telling you how to write a wedding vow for the bride and groom, as well as sharing a good selection of examples.
How to write the text of the bride and groom's vow
We advise you not to take ready-made texts from the Internet, but to spend time and create something of your own, something that will resonate in the soul of your loved one and wedding guests. Say what you think is important, there are no rules here. At the same time, it will be easier to compose the text if you can follow simple recommendations:
- Start early! Believe me, you will redo what you wrote many times, give yourself at least 3-4 weeks.
- In order to understand what to write about, think about how your loved one makes you feel. How do you feel next to him? Who do you become in these relationships? How did you meet and realize that you couldn’t live without each other? What have you already done together and what haven’t you done yet? How do you see your life in tens of years? What do you want to promise your soulmate? The answer to any of these questions will form the basis of your wedding vows.
- The text of each oath should be short, maximum 3-4 minutes, otherwise the effect will be blurred.
- Let the vows of the bride and groom be in the same style - it is strange to listen to touching words from the bride, in response to which the groom sprinkles witticisms.
- Don't say anything too intimate and don't mention your partner's shortcomings, which cause a lot of distress for the person. Other people will listen to you, don't forget about it. Even if the wedding is intimate and those closest to you are invited, think about what you say.
- It is advisable to format your words beautifully; look for inspiration for this in the next section.
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How can vows differ?
If you look hard enough, you can always find a ready-made sample of the newlyweds’ vows. For example, you can do this using our article. However, most often the text for the oath is arbitrary and is created on an individual basis. Therefore, the difference between a wedding vow lies in its text.
In addition, when comparing oath promises, it is important to take into account the age component. For example, at the age of 18-20, a comic form of oath is more suitable for lovers. This interpretation will lift the spirits of both the newlyweds and the guests.
This interpretation will lift the spirits of both the newlyweds and the guests.
If two future spouses decide to sign at a later age (within 25-45 years), then the standard text composition scheme is ideal for them. Much less often, elderly people find themselves at the altar, for whom a short promise with a small number of standard questions will do. What is it, this vow of the newlyweds “When I am 85 years old”? We will answer this question below.
How to make vows
In order not to forget the texts from excitement, it is better to write them down. Of course, you shouldn’t use a stub of a piece of paper for this; it’s better to ask a calligrapher in advance to write them on beautiful designer paper or in special books. After the wedding, some couples carefully draw up the texts of their vows and decorate the interior with them.
Elisa Watkins
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Tips for newlyweds on making vows
A special feature of the oath text is the sincere feelings of the newlyweds. The main components should be:
- personal relationships;
- independent selection of phrases;
- secret wishes.
An idea for writing a wedding vow can be gleaned from:
- remember the first emotions and impressions when you met;
- significant events related to your relationship;
- the best character traits of your spouse;
- what goals or dreams unite you;
- your wishes in a relationship.
The wedding oath does not have to be long; it is enough to make a few sentences and put all your thoughts and wishes into them. Your pledge will be concise, write it on a piece of paper:
- state everything you want to say;
- choose the main thing for you;
- add a lot of gentle and affectionate phrases to your sentences;
- periodically re-read what you have written and correct it;
- try to memorize the finished text;
- choose your best emotions;
- try to take an oath without worry, investing your love.
If you decide to write the vow separately, then at the celebration itself your emotions (regarding the girls) may be unpredictable. Think in advance if you need a surprise.
Brides are the most emotional and romantic; the text can be very long. Try to choose the most necessary and important things. Grooms can be unromantic, so their text is stingy with beautiful expressions.
Examples of wedding vows in movies
TV series "Friends" (Monica and Chandler)
Bride's Vow: I always wondered if I would one day be able to find my prince, my bosom friend. Three years ago, at another wedding, I asked a friend for support, but by chance I found what I had been looking for all my life. And here we are, our future is before us, and I want to spend it only with you, my prince, my soul mate, my friend. If only you want it. Your turn!
Groom's vow: I thought this would be the hardest thing I would ever have to do. But when I saw you walking to the altar, I realized that nothing could be simpler. I love you. You are the person with whom I am destined to spend my whole life.
Still from the series "Friends"
The Big Bang Theory (Penny and Leonard)
Groom's Vow: Penny, we are made of particles that have existed since the beginning of the universe. I like to think that these atoms traveled 14 billion years through time and space to create us and so that we could be together.
Bride's vow: Leonard, you are not only the love of my life. You are my best friend. Just like I am for you. Do you have any problems. Me too. There's nothing I wouldn't do for you because I'm your friend.
Still from the TV series “The Big Bang Theory”
Film "Wedding Crashers" (Craig and Christina)
Groom's vow: I, Craig, take you, my best friend and my main life partner, to be my wife. In sickness and in health, with clear skies and heavy winds.
Bride's vow: I, Christina, marry you, my best friend and captain, to be your anchor and sail, your fast yacht and safe haven.
Film "American Pie" Wedding" (Jim and Michelle)
Groom's vow: You are the only woman I want to be with and the woman I can't be without. I love you.
Bridal vow: It was hard for me to say how I feel about you. And then I realized that love is not just a feeling. Love is what you make it. This is a dress, a joint hike. Special haircut. Jim, you gave me everything I wanted and I solemnly swear to give it all to you.
Movie quotes that can be used for wedding vows:
- You have bewitched me, my body and soul, I love, love, love you. From this day on, I don’t want to be apart from you (“Pride and Prejudice”) .
- I like that you freeze when it's plus 22 degrees outside. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love how there's a wrinkle above your nose when you look at me like I'm crazy. I love that my clothes smell like your perfume after a day together. And I love that you're the last person I want to talk to before I go to bed. And it's not because I'm lonely or it's New Year's Eve. I came here today because once you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want that rest of your life to begin as soon as possible (When Harry Met Sally) .
- True love awakens the soul, makes us want to achieve more, ignites the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. This is the kind of love I hope to give you (“The Notebook”) .
- Poets often describe love as an emotion that we cannot control and that overrides logic and common sense. For me it is. I didn't plan to fall in love with you and I doubt you planned to fall in love with me. But as soon as we met, it was clear that we could not control what was happening to us. We fell in love despite our differences. As soon as this happened, something rare and beautiful appeared. Such love happened in my life only once, so every minute we spent together left a mark in my memory. I will never forget a single moment of this love ("Memory Note") .
- They say that when you meet the love of your life, time stops. And it's true ("Big Fish") .
- Maybe I'm not a very smart person, but I know what love is (Forrest Gump) .
- I will always see only you. In my eyes, in my words and in everything I do (West Side Story) .
Nicole Ashley
Examples of touching vows of the bride and groom
Romantic vow
Groom: I will carry you through my whole life like a tender rose. I won’t let the petals fall, I won’t let the beauty fade, the leaves turn yellow. I will plant it in fertile soil, I will nurture and cherish it, protect it from wind and cold, keep it warm and good. Water abundantly with happiness and joy, fertilize with love and care. You will bloom stronger and become more beautiful.
Bride: I will make your life better, surround you with tenderness, hug you with soft petals, caress you and warm you. Our house will become a luxurious garden. Beautiful flowers will grow in the flowerbed, delighting us. Our family’s garden will be well-groomed, friendly and hospitable, it will be warm and cozy.
Oath with an appeal to parents
Groom: I want to say thank you to your parents for raising you, a real miracle. I promise to justify the trust by making their daughter happy. I am grateful to you that you reciprocated my feelings, believed in my sincerity and agreed to become my wife. I will be a strong support for you, a support for your parents, and I will preserve our feelings forever.
Bride: I'm happy to become your soulmate. I promise to share our joys and sorrows, be proud of our successes and support us in difficult times. I will surround you with care, and our home will be filled with comfort and kindness. Parents will be happy looking at us, and children will be proud of us.
Touching oath
Groom: I met the woman of my dreams. I admire your virtues and are touched by your flaws. I promise to love your weaknesses, indulge your whims, understand your mistakes and accept your mistakes. You are the embodiment of beauty, goodness and wisdom. I will make your life happy and cloudless, I will become your hope and support.
Bride: I met the man of my dreams. You are strong, smart, fair. I promise to multiply your strengths and not notice your shortcomings. We will complement each other, becoming better around each other. We will confidently go through life, holding hands, overcome difficulties and make our dreams come true.
A vow about the importance of meeting each other
Groom: I admire you. I want to match you, to be attentive, gentle and affectionate. A chance meeting with you changed my life, I’m scared to think that we wouldn’t have met if I hadn’t gotten off at the wrong stop that day. But this did not happen, thanks to Providence for this. I promise to all the accidents in the world to make you happy!
Bride: I'm happy that our chance meeting grew into love. I promise to preserve these feelings, to build a family on respect, understanding and support. I want to live next to you all my life, create our little empire, raise children, take care of my parents. I promise to all the accidents in the world to make you happy!
Ty French
Oaths from books and letters of great people
To create a beautiful and special wedding vow, you can draw inspiration not only from cinema, but also from your favorite books and even love letters from great people. The times when declarations of love were poured out on paper remain the most romantic to this day.
Quote from the book “The Romantic Egoist” (Frederick Beigbeder)
You are the most significant event since man no longer set foot on the moon. You just didn't let me not love you. I couldn't do anything differently. You didn't let me pass by. Love is when you feel that missing someone means missing your life. I miss you without even fully knowing you.
Quote from Mark Twain from a letter to his beloved woman
Every day we live adds to the confidence that we will not be able to part with each other and will not regret for a moment that we linked our destinies. Every year I love you, my baby, stronger and stronger. Today you are dearer to me than yesterday, and a year ago you were dearer than two years ago. I don’t doubt for a second that such a wonderful movement will continue forever. Let's look forward together - to our future and future old age without despondency and fear. Let's trust each other, confidently knowing that the love that each of us has in our hearts is enough to fill us with happiness all the years allotted to us.
Just imagine how your touching wedding vows will sound at the altar during an outdoor ceremony or in the Wedding Palace. The wedding portal www.svadbagolik.ru wishes you to be sincere, to love and to be loved!
