Three years of marriage, what kind of wedding is it, how to celebrate?

Three wedding years: what it means and how it is celebrated

Over the three years they have lived together, the couple have already become so close that they began to feel each other’s “skin.” They have already learned to adapt and take into account mutual interests.

According to tradition, before a leather wedding, a couple must forgive all people who have offended them, pay off all debts and put their house in order, throwing out the old, cracked, torn and no longer needed.

Why is a wedding called a leather wedding?

The anniversary received this name because of the properties of the skin, which are compared to the relationship of a married couple.
Leather is both pliable and resilient material. However, if you handle it carelessly, it can easily break. So, a married couple, who in three years managed to face difficulties, passed all sorts of tests on the ability to correctly react and survive the challenges thrown by fate to strengthen family ties.

From a psychological point of view, three years is a rather difficult period of life together, when a couple is immersed in real family life with all its serious problems. And this is another reason to celebrate such a significant day so well that all difficulties become a thing of the past and do not interfere with living in the future.

What to give each other

Well, now we know what kind of wedding is celebrated at 3 years old, it’s time to figure out what to give for such a date. Let's start with the gifts that the couple gives each other.

The most pleasant element of the holiday will be ceremonial gifts. They should be discreet, symbolic, but at the same time memorable.

It is desirable that they contain the symbol of the anniversary - leather. Gift options:

• a diary or notebook with a leather cover;
• an elegant notebook - useful in every home for recording recipes, important numbers or addresses;
• slippers;
• a watch with a leather strap will especially please your spouse;
• a woman will like a gift in the form of an elegant bag;
• tablet, camera or phone, dressed in a leather case.

Since the wedding is leather, you can please your body by going together for a massage, sauna or spa treatments. If the family has a car, then leather seat covers are suitable as a gift to the owner of the car. The third anniversary is an excellent reason to change furniture. If possible, you can buy a leather set.

You can make a present with your own hands. You can get ideas for it from the video:

Since a wedding is also called a glass wedding, spouses can exchange figurines or rings made of crystal or Murano glass. Or you can give each other straw hats - a useful accessory that will save you from the scorching rays of the sun on vacation.

Remember that the gift must be beautifully packaged, and the congratulations must be pleasant and unexpected.

How to celebrate this anniversary

It is customary to celebrate the third year of a wedding in a narrow circle of the closest people. Among the prepared dishes there must be meat. As for alcohol, red wine is best.

If your wedding anniversary falls during the warm season, then organizing a picnic in nature would be an excellent alternative to home gatherings.

What to wear for the holiday

Ideally, spouses should be dressed in leather.

But in extreme cases, they can wear leather accessories: a belt, bracelet, pendant, handbag, leather jewelry.

Origin of the name Leather Anniversary

The three-year anniversary is called a leather anniversary. There are two versions of the origin of this name.

1. The skin itself is flexible and warm, thus, having been married for three years, the spouses treat each other as warmly as they did on their wedding day, and this is the key to the further prosperity of the family.
2. Three years is enough time to, as they say, feel each other, begin to understand each other perfectly. The relationship becomes as strong as skin, but remains warm, soft. It should be remembered that sudden efforts can also tear the skin, so spouses need to protect this warmth.

These three years that have passed after the wedding, of course, become the most difficult in the life of a couple, this is how characters become accustomed - people who love each other learn to live together, to put up with the habits of the other. In addition, children may appear during this time, which introduces additional difficulties into the relationship between the spouses.

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Russian traditions

Shortly before the celebration, the wife bakes cookies from figurines of pets. According to legends, they will bring wealth to the house.

On this day, spouses break dishes - the noise will drive away all evil spirits nearby from the house.

At the beginning of the feast, a rye loaf is placed on the table and the first dish on the holiday menu is bread soup.

And at the end of the celebration, the young spouses are showered with rye grains.

"Father of the Bride"

For caring father George Banks, there is nothing more important in life than his daughter Annie. But one day Annie returns to her parents' house not alone, but with her fiancé. This becomes a real shock for the father, because he is completely unprepared for such a turn of events. While everyone around is preparing for the wedding, the main character tests the groom, gets into ridiculous situations during the preparations, and tries to cope with his relatives. The roles of the bride's parents are played by the incomparable Diane Keaton and Steve Martin, with whom any comedy in itself is a must-watch. Just look at Steve Martin's jokes about the wedding budget and his facial expressions during the film. We are sure that after watching you will definitely want to turn on the second part.

Scenario for celebrating a leather wedding - 3 years of marriage!

Room decoration

The room for the celebration of the leather anniversary is decorated with objects made of leather or wheat, since the 3rd wedding anniversary is also called “wheat”. Tablecloths of brown or sand color should be laid on tables. For decoration, it is recommended to use candles of the same colors or similar shades. Forks or spoons can be tied with thin leather ribbons. At the head of the table, where the “young woman” will sit, instead of flowers, it is better to place a bouquet of decorative wheat ears. Also on this day, it is customary to drink and eat red foods, so red apples and red wine must be present on the tables. Behind the backs of the spouses, you can place a small plywood panel with gloves, belts and other leather products attached to it. You can hang a couple of leather jackets on the chairs of the heroes of the occasion.

Props for rituals with spouses and games with guests

Since all games and competitions with guests will take place right at the table, to conduct them you need to prepare simple props :

1. Leather cords in 3 colors: brown, black and red (can be purchased in craft stores or ordered from an online store.

2. Cowboy hat (made of leather, felt or straw).

3. Straw hat.

4. Leaflets with words:

• wave wife;
• married fan;
• walking dog.
• strong-abundant;
• red - beautiful;
• happiness-bad weather;
• let-sadness;
• baby stools;
• night-daughter;
• son call.

It is better to take sheets of paper in A5 format so that there is more space for writing.

5. Ballpoint pens - 10 pcs.

6. Cardboard cards with tongue twisters - 3 pcs. All cards on one side, where the text is written, are white. The reverse side of all cards is of a different color: one is gray, another is black, and the third is red.

7. Puzzles from photographs of a married couple. You need to print two different joint photographs of the spouses in A4 format and cut them into an equal number of parts, for example, 30 each.

8. For a small scene with guests you will need:

• bandana and leather jacket for a biker;
• a homemade nurse's cap made of paper with a red cross in the middle;
• shawl and glasses for the teacher;
• homemade paper chef's hat and ladle;
• pieces of paper with texts for each participant in the skit - 4 pieces in total.

9. To conduct rituals with spouses:

• big red apple;
• a beautiful apple plate;
• black leather cord;
• a piece of paper measuring 3x3 cm with the names of the spouses, rolled into a tube;
• a beating plate wrapped in transparent cloth;
• hammer.

Before the ceremony itself, a large apple must be cut in half, the core removed, and a piece of paper with names placed in the empty space. Then you need to connect the apple and tie it with a leather cord.

Musical accompaniment

To conduct rituals, as well as for congratulations and competitions, you need to prepare musical accompaniment:

• minus soundtrack for rap;
• the song “Apples Ate” by the group “Propaganda”;
• song “Collect Me” by Elena Temnikova.
• song “Saucer” by Yulia Chicherina.

Leather wedding celebration scenario

When all the guests are assembled and seated, the host begins the festive program.

Host : Hello, dear guests, hello, our happiest spouses. On this wonderful day, we all gathered for one very wonderful reason. Today the family (names of spouses) turned 3 years old. You all, of course, know that the 3rd marital anniversary is called a “leather wedding,” because you were told about it when you were invited to today’s holiday. But do you know where this name comes from? Any guesses?

(Listens to the versions and continues the script).

Host : Our very observant ancestors noticed that during the first 3 years of family life, a husband and wife go through a grinding-in stage. They study each other from new sides, establish a common life, learn to distribute the family budget. And during this time they become so close that they seem to grow into one skin between the two of them. Their relationship with each other becomes strong, like leather, and cannot be broken so easily. So let’s raise our glasses, friends, to the leather wedding of our dear ones (the names of the spouses).

(After the first toast, the host brings out a prepared red apple on a plate and approaches the spouses).

Host: According to a long-standing tradition, on this day the spouses should eat a red apple together. It symbolizes love and a happy marriage. This fruit is also a symbol of fertility and is said to help with the birth of babies. You see that the apple consists of two halves connected with a ribbon. It represents you, united in marriage. Taste the treasured fruit. Whatever it tastes like, let your future life be like that.

(At this time, the song of the group “Propaganda” is turned on, to which the “young” eat their apple. They must take turns biting the apple until the ribbon connecting the two halves falls. When they find a note with their names inside, the host will continue the course of the holiday) .

Host : So you’ve reached the secret that this fruit contains. Now you know that the whole power of life lies in the unity of two people and in their great, boundless love. And your strong union only confirms this. Keep this note for many years to come so you never forget that you are one. And, of course, according to a long-standing tradition, in this place you should raise your cups and shout loudly to everyone: “For great love!” Well, let’s all shout this together.

(After this toast, the host brings out a cowboy hat and a straw hat. They contain leather laces of different colors.)

Host: Since today we are celebrating a leather wedding, each of you should have at least one symbol of this holiday. You need to take a cord out of your hat and tie it on your wrist. It cannot be removed until the end of today.

(Guests pull out the laces without looking at the hat. Next, the host explains the rule for making toasts).

Host: Anyone who wants to make a toast must wear a cowboy hat if he is a man, or a hat if he is a girl. But before you give your speech, you will need to publicly check your diction. Suddenly, your speech is not all right today, and you need to practice before your congratulations. You see that you have strings of different colors on your hands; the cards with the text of the tongue twister correspond to this color. Who wants to start today's congratulations and show everyone an example of how to do it?

(Those who have a brown cord on their hand say: “The wife got married and became married to her husband, and the husband married his married wife and became married.” The owner of a black cord: “The hatter slopped his hat, and Already hisses at the hatter: “ Yes indeed." Guest with a red cord: "Zyamka chewed the suede, chewed Zyamka the suede in the castle." This rule applies throughout the entire holiday. When the spouses want to say a word of gratitude back to the guests, they will also need to put on hats and say one at a time, any to choose from, tongue twister. After the first toast from the guests, the host brings out the props for the skit. Next, he selects 4 participants: 2 girls and 2 guys. Guests put on costumes and receive pieces of paper with the text. All participants will have to read a short quatrain in rap style to the music. The presenter is the first to start his part, the rest continue in turn).

Host: We are here to congratulate you now. We want to read out many wishes. So that nothing prevents you from listening to us, prepare your big ears.

Cook: I wish you the most delicious borscht together, I know the recipe for a long-term marriage. Make less spicy things, and more sweets, so that your love does not become subtler.

Nurse: And I wish you to get sick less often, so that you don’t have to sit at home for a long time. Be outdoors together more often, Sit in one place in retirement.

Teacher: And I want to wish smart children, you bring them to me as soon as possible. The more of them there are, the better for everyone, because there is no cooler sound than children's laughter.

Biker: I congratulate you on your leather wedding and wish you the main road through life. Fair wind, straight route. Love each other and everything will be cool!

(After a short pause, the presenter organizes games at the table).

1. All guests, in turn, must say a 3-word wish to the heroes of the occasion (according to the number of years of marriage). For example, the first person wishes: “Love, happiness, good luck!” Next: “Warmth, comfort, harmony!” And so on until all the guests have spoken. One important condition is that words in wishes should not be repeated. Those who do it last will have the hardest time.

2. Guests randomly receive one piece of paper with a task: they need to come up with poetic lines for a couple of rhyming words. The presenter gives an example in the words “love and carrots”: “Our love was like a tough nut, Tasty and sweet, like a juicy carrot.” All participants must write their options in five minutes and then voice them one after another. The result will be a short poem that can be copied onto a postcard and given to the spouses as a souvenir.

3. The presenter takes out puzzles from photographs and places them at different ends of the table. Two teams are formed according to the principle of proximity to one of the puzzles.

Host: Our couple is in front of you, but in separate parts. Someone's beautiful nose, Eye, shoulder, ear and mouth. Our wife's skin is silky and beautiful. And the groom is handsome with his arm, leg and head. We need to connect them, so that the portrait can be stored later.

After this, at the command “Let's go!” everyone begins to put the elements of the photographs together. The whole process takes place to the song “Collect Me” by Elena Temnikova. The heroes of the occasion can also join one of the groups. The first team to collect all the pieces wins.

(Between competitions, congratulations from the guests should be heard, always in accordance with the rules for toasts. After all the games, to perform the last rites, the host brings out a plate wrapped in cloth and a hammer. And invites the spouses to the center of the room).

Host: On the 3rd wedding anniversary, our ancestors observed another good tradition. On this day, husband and wife had to get rid of old, cracked and broken dishes. It was believed that in this way the family would expel all failures and misfortunes from the house. You need to take the hammer at the same time and hit the plate 3 times, one hit for each year of marriage. At the same time, you must mentally wish that all the bad things will go away and not return to you. And then we will count how many pieces the plate broke into, how many happy years you will live together.

The breaking of the plate takes place to the song “Saucers” by Yulia Chicherina. After performing the ritual and counting the fragments, the presenter ends his speech.

Leading:

It is impossible to calculate how long you will live together. There may be forty-five fragments, or perhaps two hundred. You still have a long way to go on the straight road, Live together at least until your golden wedding!

Soviet comedies about a wedding

Wedding (1944)

A film adaptation of the vaudeville show of the same name by the outstanding author Anton Pavlovich Chekhov. The action moves to the house of the Zhigalov family. Parents are doing everything possible to successfully marry off their daughter Dasha.

Their main candidate for the role of groom was the official Aplombov. The man is handsome, rich and gallant. It’s hard to imagine a more suitable husband for the naive Dasha.

For several months, Aplombov visits the Zhigalovs' house, receiving all kinds of attention from Dasha's parents. Imagine the surprise of the ancestors when they learned that Aplombov had no intention of marrying his daughter.

Wedding in Malinovka (1967)

The action takes place during the Civil War. The people are on the verge of big changes. Very soon, a new powerful state will arise from the ruins of the empire.

But for now, people are faced with regular changes in power. The situation in one of the Ukrainian villages is tense: the villagers are constantly being terrorized by robbers.

To get rid of the criminals, local residents decide to arrange the wedding of the local beauty Yarinka with the chieftain. The event turns into many funny situations.

Balzaminov's Marriage (1964)

A film adaptation of several classic plays by Ostrovsky. The main character is a petty official named Balzaminov. A man dreams of organizing his personal life. To do this, the official needs to find the bride.

But Balzaminov decided to marry exclusively a rich woman. Finding a suitable candidate for the role of a spouse is not easy.

An exciting journey awaits Balzaminov, during which he will try to win the heart of another Russian beauty. Will Balzaminov be able to bring the matter to the wedding?

Chasing Two Hares (1961)

Golokhvasty is a carefree native of Kyiv. He was used to leading the easy and relaxed life of a barber.

But recently, things have not been going well for Golokhvasty. The barber shop is on the verge of bankruptcy. Among other things, the main character loses all his savings in gambling.

To get out of an unpleasant situation, Golokhvasty decides to get married successfully. But finding a wealthy spouse is not so easy. How will this hilarious story end?

7 Brides of Corporal Sbruev (1971)

Kostya is an ordinary corporal from Ukraine. The young man’s life could hardly be called bright, until one of the corporal’s photographs ended up on the cover of a magazine popular in the USSR.

From this moment on, Kostya becomes the most eligible bachelor in Ukraine. He is bombarded with letters from beauties from all corners of his vast homeland. After waiting for demobilization, Kostya sets off on an incredible journey across the Ukrainian steppes.

During his Odyssey, the young man will try to find the love of his life. Which bride will be able to win Kostya's heart?