Wedding
- Is it possible to get married in church after a divorce?
- Is it necessary to get divorced after a divorce?
- Is it possible to get married without the consent of the husband or wife?
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man put asunder,” says the Gospel (Mark 10:9). However, reality is far from God's plan. Divorce, alas, has become commonplace, although in reality it is a huge tragedy.
If you think about the biblical text, the answer to the question “how to debunk a church marriage” is obvious - no way. However, in some Christian churches, divorce, although not encouraged, is allowed. We will tell you in the article what to do after a divorce if the spouses were married.
Is it possible to get married in church after a divorce and is it necessary, possible reasons
If irreconcilable differences nevertheless arose between the spouses and it was decided to divorce, then it is necessary to contact the registry office, where the formal procedure for divorce will be completed.
A church marriage is not concluded on paper, but before God; it is before him that the spouses are responsible for their family life.
For the church, as an institution, the concept of “debunking” does not exist, since it denies the very concept of divorce, putting the family first.
To be debunked means to enter into a new marriage in heaven, to get married again.
Here is a good video about civil marriage and debunking.
True, if you come to church and say that you want to get married or remarry out of boredom, you may be refused. The Church considers some specific reasons for divorce to be quite significant:
- Cheating on one of the spouses,
- An abortion performed by a wife without the consent of her husband, without medical necessity,
- Change of faith by one of the spouses,
- Incapacity for married life, and as a consequence for procreation, loss of legal capacity of a husband or wife,
- Diseases that threaten the health of unborn children (AIDS, syphilis and others),
- Entry of a husband or wife into another marriage,
- Alcoholism and drug addiction of one of the spouses,
- The risk of damage to the health of one of the spouses to the other,
- Pimping,
- Long-term absence of one of the partners,
- Inconsistency with Christian canons: marriage between relatives, marriage before reaching adulthood.
Thus, you yourself can answer the question of whether the first marriage needs to be debunked. It is possible only through a second church marriage. Whether this can be done depends on the reasons given above.
List of reasons
To dissolve a marriage, there are a number of actions condemned by the church:
- Cheating on one of the spouses. It is the main reason for divorce not only in the registry office, but also in the church.
- Official divorce also becomes a reason for debunking. Therefore, it is difficult to divorce your ex-wife after a divorce, but it is possible.
- Sexually transmitted diseases, addictions (gambling addiction, drug addiction, alcoholism). Psychical deviations.
- Acceptance of another faith by one of the spouses.
- Creation of new marriages.
- Criminal liability lies with one of the spouses.
- Domestic violence.
- Abortion.
- Attempted suicide.
- Sexual perversions: incest, polygamy.
- Infertility.
- Forced marriage.
Detailed instructions on how to get divorced after a divorce will be described below.
The procedure for debunking a church marriage
As mentioned above, there is no specific procedure for divorce in the church; the church can only bless a person for remarriage, hereinafter we will call this debunking.
The Orthodox Church allows the re-wedding of people who have already been married, and for this it will be necessary to contact the Diocesan Administration. So, how to properly debunk?
- You must submit a petition to the bishop, attach the necessary documents and wait for a response.
- You will have to undergo an interview with a priest who will want to know the reasons that prompted you to divorce. Remember that if the reason is not valid for the church, you may be denied a second wedding.
- If you receive a blessing, you can get married again in any temple of your choice.
In what cases is a re-wedding impossible?
A registered civil relationship with one person makes getting married to another partner impossible. Church laws deny polygamy and respect a union formalized according to all the rules in the registry office. The wedding ceremony is scheduled after documentary confirmation of official registration. A monk or nun cannot enter into a church marriage if they have taken a vow of monasticism. Clergy who have been ordained do not have the right to get married. A priest, before entering the priesthood, can enter into a union once and have one wife.
Getting married is not allowed if the spouse is unbaptized or an atheist. The Orthodox Church refuses to perform the ceremony if the spouses profess different religions.
A person who has cheated on his wife (husband) and destroyed his first official relationship cannot enter into a church marriage again. This prohibition does not apply to the injured party. A spouse can legitimize a new relationship by performing a wedding ceremony. The Church controls family relationships. Weddings are denied to persons in the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th degree of relationship.
The procedure is denied to persons who have been legally married three times. This category includes widowers and widows who have lost their spouse 3 times. This is how a marriage concluded according to church canons differs from a civil one. The latter has no such restrictions. Civil registry office employees accept for consideration all applications from citizens submitted for registration.
How to get divorced after divorce
After a divorce in the registry office or in court, it is impossible to go through the divorce process in the church; no one will give you a document confirming that you are no longer connected before God with your ex-spouse.
For a divorce by worldly standards, only a certificate from the civil registry office is sufficient, but dissolution of a church union is possible only through a second wedding.
Worldly reasons are not always considered good enough grounds for divorce, that is, if you do not have common interests with your spouse, the problems are related to finances, then be prepared for the church to condemn your divorce. A second marriage is permitted to the spouse who is innocent of the dissolution of the first marriage. Remarriage for those guilty of adultery is permitted only after fulfilling the penance imposed on him by the church.
Is it possible to get married without the consent of the husband or wife?
Since such a procedure as debunking does not actually exist, but there is only a blessing for a second wedding, there is no need to come with your ex-husband or ex-wife.
For a second church marriage, only the presence of you and your new chosen one is required; the former spouse is not required to be present at the second wedding.
What you need: what documents, where to apply, how much to pay and wait
If you decide to dissolve your previous union and remarry and go through the wedding procedure a second time, then you will need the following list of documents to correctly submit your petition:
- Passport,
- Certificate of divorce from first marriage,
- Church marriage certificate,
- If the divorce occurs due to the fact that the spouse has lost his legal capacity or is sick with an incurable disease, then medical documents confirming this must be provided, as well as a death certificate if the first spouse has died.
Along with these documents, you must submit a request to the Diocese for permission to perform a second wedding ceremony. Sometimes a petition for debunking is filed instead. Oddly enough, despite the absence of such a concept and procedure, a ritual, there is a statement about debunking (about removing crowns, removing blessings).
A sample of this application is available. ⇐
However, it is better to check which application form to use with the church in which you are going to have the wedding ceremony again. In the church they will tell you how and what kind of petition to write, or they will show you a sample, and tell you which diocese and in whose name to write.
The letter is submitted to the ruling bishop. The waiting period varies depending on how busy the Diocese is; when your application is reviewed, you will be called to a conversation with a clergyman, where it will be decided whether your marriage can be dissolved. Only the husband or only the wife can come to submit a petition; the presence of both is not necessary. This is the procedure for debunking in the church.
There is no fee for the wedding, only a voluntary donation, the amount of which will be told to you by the priest in the church where you decided to marry your spouse.
Is it possible to get divorced while getting divorced?
Minsk news. 50 percent of modern couples go to church for a wedding for the sake of a spectacular wedding video. Is it possible to treat one of the seven sacraments so frivolously and how much does it cost to take back your word once given at the altar?
Minsk resident Arina Ivanova met her future husband at the age of 17. The novel developed rapidly. Then the girl was sure: their love would last until the end of their days. Therefore, as soon as the young people reached adulthood, they got married.
Arina Ivanova: After we got married, we even decided to get married. This is quite a beautiful ceremony. We decided why not?
Wedding, along with baptism and burial, belongs to the seven sacraments of the Church, in which the bride and groom make a free promise of mutual marital fidelity.
The tradition of getting married in Rus' existed even in the pre-Christian period. The bride and groom were led around a tree or spreading bush with the words: “He is getting engaged, he is getting married around a broom bush.” With the advent of Christianity, folk weddings were replaced by church weddings, and the ceremony itself has remained almost unchanged since then. Peter the Great and Catherine the Great, Pushkin and Natalya Goncharova were crowned, as today, by placing crowns on their heads. They symbolize the crown of thorns of Christ and seem to warn that marriage is not only joy, but often martyrdom. True, not everyone approaches marriage with such responsibility.
Arina Ivanova: Now my husband has started to irritate me terribly. He is not a man at all. He dropped out of university. He doesn’t want to work, computer games... He plays all day long, and I can’t put up with it and I can’t live with it at all.
The couple are planning to divorce. But Arina doesn’t want to have any problems with the heavenly office.
Arina Ivanova: Is it even possible to get debunked?
Let's find out what Minsk residents think about this.
Minsk residents: If there is no relationship, there is nothing, then what is the point in detaining him? There must be very good reasons for this, not just because they got old, got tired and ran away. What if someone changed it? And the other cannot forgive... If people are not interested in being together, what is the point of living, probably.
Indeed, it is possible to dissolve a church marriage without any particular difficulties. But only if the spouses are Jews or Muslims.
Imam Zarif: According to Islam, marriage is concluded orally, under certain conditions, and the man is given the right to dissolve this marriage. Just as a marriage is concluded orally, it is also dissolved orally and the man says: “You are free, you are divorced.”
By the way, a Muslim woman cannot initiate a church divorce. The same cannot be said about devout Christians. The proof of this is in plain sight for everyone to see. Married Alla Pugacheva and Philip Kirkorov, Valeria and Alexander Shulgin divorced. And not so long ago, our compatriot Anzhelika Agurbash distinguished herself by getting married to her husband Nikolai. Is it really that easy to break the bonds held together by God?
Kirill Bardonov: In the Catalan cascel, such practices as divorce, after divorce, the act of love, which would have been concluded in the cascel, are not true. Love, hell, once concluded, no way can be touched.
The Christian Church considers the divorce of married spouses a terrible sin for which one will have to answer. After all, the sacrament makes two people one, and separation will inevitably lead to illness, nervous breakdowns and problems in building new relationships.
Sergius Lepin, archpriest: It is important to understand that there is no ritual in the Orthodox Church that would perform the opposite function of a wedding. There is no so-called debunking.
Belarus ranks second in Europe in the number of divorces. Unlike the Catholic Church, the Orthodox Church practices the dissolution of a married marriage. But they interpret this as condescension towards human weakness, because you cannot force anyone into heaven.
Sergius Lepin, archpriest: Debunking is something that the spouses themselves do, only the spouses destroy their own marriage and can then one day testify to society that everything, they have reached the end of their rope, they destroyed it.
We must remember that the famous formulation “they don’t get along” is not a reason for church divorce. The family problems of our heroine Arina Ivanova can also be temporary and completely solvable.
Sergius Lepin, archpriest: Holy Scripture says that the grounds for divorce are adultery and the death of one of the spouses. By death we can understand not only physical death, but also spiritual death. The list of sins, which indicates that the marriage has broken up, that the marriage no longer actually exists, may include other sins.
These include: alcoholism, drug addiction, threat to the life and health of the spouse and children, abortion without the consent of one of the spouses, AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases.
There is no concept of "debunking". There is only permission for a new church marriage. To receive it, you need to submit a petition to the diocese and attach to it a copy of the divorce certificate from the registry office. The bishop is considering the case. The party that was innocent of the breakup of a previous marriage is most often allowed to get married again.
Sergius Lepin, archpriest: Second and third marriages are not the norm, they are an exception, an indulgence...
We often forget that family is hard work every day. We wish our heroine Arina Ivanova that her difficult relationship with her husband will improve. The crisis will pass, because God himself helps their marriage. In general, the dominant person in the family should be the one who one day will be able to defuse everything, they said in the “Welcome to Complain!” program. on STV.
Attitude to divorce in the Orthodox Church
The Orthodox Church has an extremely negative attitude towards divorce. It is believed that a person is obliged to marry maturely and make a conscious decision that he will not want to change in a few months or years. Therefore, you should not be united in unbreakable ties if you are not sure of your chosen one and that living with him all your life is a blessing.
The problems that began after marriage are a test from God that must be passed with honor and dignity. It is unacceptable to stop any attempts to improve everything immediately after the first difficulties. Compromise, humility, readiness to understand and accept - this is what is put at the forefront as the main values of the Orthodox family. “They don’t get along” or “earns little” are not a valid reason to leave the person you have chosen as your spouse in the face of God.
Even more serious sins, such as alcoholism, drug addiction, and domestic violence, the church first tries to solve within the framework of marriage, to reach the guilty party, and approves divorce only if all else fails.
The innocent side of a broken family is also obliged to attend confession and repent , because in any conflicts between a couple, according to Orthodoxy, two are always to blame.
How many times is it possible?
The Church assures that the sin of bigamy is not as serious as those sins that a person can commit if he remains in an intolerable marriage or alone. Therefore, the possibility of creating a second family is provided for by church legislation. The third – with great difficulties. But the fourth and subsequent ones are not.
Despite the fact that any violation of the oath about the integrity of the family union is a sin in the eyes of the church, a chance for remarriage is given. But permission for this can only be obtained from a high priestly rank - the diocesan bishop.
A simple priest can only talk to you, help ease your soul or try to find another solution to the problem. Interesting! The easiest way is if one of the spouses was not married, and the other was widowed or divorced through no fault or initiative. Then the wedding is carried out according to the first order, as if there was no previous family.
