Touching ceremony with a candle
Candle
A ritual with a candle is traditional at Ukrainian weddings. It is held at the end of the banquet. The groom's parents hand over a symbolic candle to the young married couple. In this way, a symbolic amulet is transmitted for the home of a new family, prosperity, peace and happiness. This is carried out by the father of the groom. He is the head of the family and transfers his powers to his son. Now he too will be the head of the newly formed family.
Blessings of the Orthodox
The main condition for blessing is to speak sincerely, from the bottom of your heart. It is advisable to express your thoughts concisely, without going into lengthy discussions.
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We must remember that words of blessing are words of support and approval. You can share your experience in a very short form without dragging out the story. The essence of any such text is a wish for goodness, love and happiness in the family.
Believers know the power of words. This means that the right words can bring happiness to a future young family. You should approach this responsibly, without accidentally offending your loved one.
Speech for son
Parting words to protect your son’s family from adversity:
- Son! We guide you towards a happy family life. We sincerely wish you health and mutual understanding with your future wife. Live and be happy! Let your marriage be a strong and indestructible monolith!
- Our dear son! So you grew up and met your love. We are very happy for you and from the bottom of our hearts we wish you and (name) more children and sunny days. Let problems pass you by! Happiness!
- Son! We are proud of you! You have found a beautiful girl, take care of her. May she give birth to many children like you both. Let there be joy and prosperity in life! Blessings!
The words may be different, but conciseness, wisdom and sincerity are important.
Words for my daughter
It is better to write a parting speech in advance on a piece of paper so that at a crucial moment the words do not get confused due to emotional stress. A parent's parting words for a daughter usually contain words of approval of the daughter's choice and the hope that her husband will take care and love her and the children. Examples:
- Daughter! The moment has come for you to leave your parents' home. Building a happy family is not an easy task. The female role in this matter is very important. Be wise, strong, loving. We tried to cultivate such qualities in you, so we are sure that you will succeed!
- Our beloved girl! So your childhood dream has come true - you are a beautiful princess in a white dress, your betrothed has come for you. A ball is held in your honor with guests and gifts. Everything happens as if in a beautiful fairy tale. So let this state last throughout your life together! We bless you!
- Daughter! Today you find your happiness. Take care of him carefully. Maintain the fire of the family hearth, not allowing it to go out even for a minute. We wish this house to be a full cup. Support your spouse, take care of him. Be his faithful wife, and he will become the breadwinner and protector of your nest. Be happy!
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If a daughter is blessed, the mother usually takes the first word. The ceremony uses the icon of the Kazan Mother of God.
Text for newlyweds
According to the canons of the church, young people are blessed 2 times: separately in their father’s house and together. Parting words:
- Our children! You are starting a family and it's wonderful. We wish your happiness to last long, your love to withstand all obstacles and become stronger and stronger over the years. Be each other's support. May you live happily ever after!
- Dear (names of spouses)! Here's our blessing for you. Love each other, live in peace. Reject envy, jealousy, doubts. Trust your partner, support and accept yourself and your significant other with all the shortcomings and advantages, but at the same time try to be better. God's gifts should be received gratefully.
- Our children are already adults! Listen to your parents, be tolerant and understanding spouses to each other. Family happiness is very fragile and you need both of you to strengthen it.
With their blessing, parents give a program to their children, which they begin to implement at the subconscious level, so it is important to choose the right words.
Mother of the groom's clothes
Stylish mom
The future mother-in-law's outfit should be elegant, but also comfortable. Because you will need to organize a lot at the banquet, including a dance with your son. It should be noted that the outfits of the mothers of the newlyweds should be in harmony with each other. White is excluded because it is the color of the bride. Bright and too flashy outfits should also be put aside.
Some useful tips
At a wedding, the attention of guests is drawn not only to the bride, but also to the groom, so he must take care of his appearance.
In order for your facial skin to look better, you need to use foam cleanser every day. The body's water balance is no less important. It is advisable to drink 1.5-2 liters of water daily. This will leave your skin clean, smooth and hydrated.
The condition of the skin depends on the time of year. In summer it is exposed to sunlight, and in winter it is exposed to frost and dry indoor air, so care should be taken to protect the skin from weather conditions.
Before the wedding, facial hair should be tidied up; special attention should be paid to the presence of hairs in the nose and ears.
It is also advisable to visit the dentist before the celebration and start using whitening paste.
Hands, feet and nails should look neat and well-groomed on your wedding day, so it is advisable to sign up for a men's manicure.
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Preparing for a wedding is stressful for the body. Rest and visiting a massage parlor will help relieve it.
The groom also needs to take care of his perfume. An everyday scent or something special purchased specifically for a wedding will do. The main condition is that the bride must like the perfume.
The consequences of a stormy bachelor party will help eliminate the cold compress applied to the area around the eyes. Cucumbers are ideal for these purposes; you can also use other products from the refrigerator. A moisturizer will help cope with dry skin.
Every man wants to look and feel great at his wedding. By following these tips, the groom will be able not to lose sight of even the little things, as well as prevent the occurrence of minor troubles. Thanks to this, the wedding will take place as planned, and will leave only pleasant memories for the bride and groom, as well as their guests, both in memory and in the photo.
Wedding organization
The wedding is mainly organized by the bride's parents. But the groom's family only has to worry about renting the premises and the wedding procession.
Also, the mother of the groom can, at her own request, search for a wedding manager and information about the best way to conduct the wedding.
At the banquet, the groom's mother also takes care of the accommodation for family guests. She determines their places at the table. And also monitors the overnight accommodation of out-of-town guests.
Expenses of the groom in preparing the wedding
If the bride and groom have not shared the costs of the wedding, then in addition to purchasing rings and a festive suit, the groom's parents and himself will have to pay for the wedding cortege.
Since men and technology are one, the groom also chooses the music, but it is advisable for him to coordinate his preferences with the bride.
In addition, the groom finds out the conditions for submitting an application to the registry office and pays the fee.
Organizing video and photography of the wedding is also part of his responsibilities.
At the celebration, the groom speaks the first and last words, so he needs to prepare a speech in advance for his wife, his and her parents, and those invited.
Do-it-yourself preparation
Preparing for a wedding on your own - without the help of parents, friends and specialists - is difficult, but real. If one of the couple is not busy at work, you can make everything with your own hands - from invitation cards to wedding dishes, if the celebration is celebrated at home. For those who still prefer the main celebration outside the apartment, but want to save money, a video will help, where a girl tells from her experience how to prepare for a wedding cheaper and what accessories are easy to make yourself:
Accessories, hair and makeup
To complement your chosen outfit, you should choose equally beautiful and comfortable shoes. You should not wear shoes with high heels, no matter how beautiful it looks. It is better to give preference to a neat heel that will not cause heaviness and pain in your feet.
You shouldn’t overdo it with decorations either, even if there are a minimum of them, but they will emphasize the taste and sophistication of their owner. An elegant chain or a formal necklace looks great on the neck. The earrings should also be in harmony with the chosen image; it is better if they are made of the same materials as the chain (necklace).
You should think about your hairstyle in advance. If you choose a strict style of clothing, then your hair should be styled accordingly: a high-lifted evening hairstyle will come in handy. If mom decided to wear a dress, then neatly styled curls would be appropriate.
In makeup you need to give preference to natural colors. Discreet shadows in brown or pastel colors, black eyeliner and a couple of strokes of mascara on the eyelashes will make your look expressive, and lipstick and blush in warm shades will give your face freshness and radiance.
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Setting a Budget
It is impossible to prepare for a wedding without setting a budget. It’s good if future spouses are not limited in funds, but not many people experience this state of affairs. Also, not all couples can independently pay for the upcoming event without serious savings; the parents of the betrothed often help. In order to correctly calculate the budget, you need to call close relatives a couple of months in advance to find out if they can provide feasible financial support to the newlyweds.
Express love for your daughter
It is love that should become the center of speech, but where to start? The main thing is to take care of everything in advance. If you start writing a speech a few months before the celebration, then by the wedding itself you will probably have a touching or at least pleasant congratulation.
Remember that you are the only person who can tell many funny stories from childhood or reveal the most terrible teenage secrets. Therefore, if you are having difficulty composing a speech, then simply open an album with family photos. What did your daughter love as a child? What made her laugh? Who was her first teenage crush?
Instead of saying common clichés like “she's a wonderful and caring girl” at the wedding, think of funny anecdotes that will accurately convey her character. Think about what makes her unique and different from everyone else, and then talk about those qualities in your speech.
Most importantly: live your life
Take your son's marriage to a girl as the beginning of an independent life. Both for him and for you. You have fully coped with your parental responsibilities. We raised and raised a son. They gave him a good education. Work. And the opportunity to find your chosen one. This is where your direct responsibilities as a parent end.
Now you can live your life. Rest. You can't control what happens to your son. Isn't he hungry? Doesn't he abuse alcoholic beverages? And so on.
Now your son will be controlled by his wife. If you do not interfere in the life of the newlyweds, you will give your son the opportunity to feel independent. And you can relax yourself.
