Have you accepted a marriage proposal and are now preparing for your wedding? Oh, these are such pleasant chores! You buy special issues of fashion magazines, carefully study the cut of wedding dresses of Kate Middleton and Charlene Wittstock, leaf through jewelry store catalogs, and in your computer bookmarks you now have links to sites with articles about the latest wedding trends. Which wedding rings to choose, which restaurant to celebrate in, who to invite to the wedding, what hairstyle to do, where to spend your honeymoon - so many questions just make your head spin. And you, too, are spinning in the very center of this whirlwind, because you really want your wedding day to become truly special and unforgettable!
What's next? Have you forgotten that the wedding is followed by the wedding night? Don't you want to make it special too? It doesn’t matter at all whether or not you and your loved one had an intimate relationship before the wedding. In any case, this is your first night as husband and wife, and it can greatly affect your relationship. And therefore it plays no less significant role than the marriage ceremony itself and the subsequent banquet.
It’s better to prepare for your first night in advance so that it goes, as they say, without a hitch. Try to explain this to your future husband, even if he is already tired of having to choose from a dozen completely identical suits the one in which he will stand next to you in the wedding palace. And we, in turn, will give you some tips on what you can do on the first night after the wedding, and you can use them if necessary.
How to behave and what to do
It's only natural that you dream of spending your wedding night in some fabulous location, such as an ancient European castle on the shore of a lake or a luxurious honeymoon suite in a luxury hotel. It will be wonderful if your dream comes true. But if after the wedding banquet you return to your apartment, where everything is familiar to you down to the smallest detail, there is no need to be upset or feel sorry for yourself: a bad mood is not the best companion for the most romantic night. Even an ordinary city apartment can turn into a wonderful love nest (just remember that the nest where your wedding night takes place is designed for only two people: there should be no strangers in the apartment).
Many newlyweds spend much of their wedding night examining wedding gifts and counting money. We don’t argue, we really can’t wait to find out what your relatives and friends have given you. But think about what memories you want to keep from your wedding night? Therefore, you should not hastily tear open the bright packaging or take out banknotes from glossy envelopes. On a night like this, it's better to show a different kind of impatience.
Rose petals, scented candles, silk bed linen are pleasant, but still optional attributes of this night. Of course, if you want, you can place a heart of flower petals on the bed or use candles to plunge the room into a mysterious twilight. But, by and large, you can easily do without such surroundings. But what a girl really needs to do is prepare beautiful and sexy underwear. The set can be complemented with a transparent peignoir and stockings with a lace belt.
Take care of your appearance too. Even the most durable makeup can “float” after a wedding banquet. Therefore, do not be lazy and update it, and your husband will definitely appreciate your efforts. Ask your loved one to help you undress. This will spur his sexual desire. Quiet music can play in the background, preferably without words, so that nothing distracts you from the most important thing. And the rose petals scattered on the bed can be replaced with a bouquet of your favorite flowers in an elegant vase.
You may want to appear before your husband in a completely new image: for example, turn into a femme fatale or a gentle angel. However, a radical change of image can be risky; after all, the wedding night is not the right time for such experiments. If you are nervous, save them for later, and that night stay in your usual “role”: this way you will behave naturally.
Offer your husband light snacks, preferably fruit or seafood. Why seafood? The fact is that seafood is considered an aphrodisiac, i.e. to products that enhance sexual desire. Chilled champagne or light white wine will be the perfect accompaniment to appetizers. You can ask your husband to feed you, or, conversely, feed him yourself. Let this innocent game help you relieve stress and relax after an eventful and exciting day.
Taking a bath together will also help you get rid of nervous tension before your wedding night. Add a little foam with a subtle pleasant smell to the water and invite your husband to soak in the jacuzzi together. By the way, you can take wine and snacks with you. Give your husband a massage. Run your fingers over his body from neck to ankles. Massage your shoulders and back. Stroke your inner thighs. Touch your lips to its most sensitive places. This massage is easy to do and can be both relaxing and very sensual. Be sure to tell your husband how much you love him and how happy you are to have him around.
In addition, we recommend that you give your husband a small gift. Which one? It's up to you and only you to decide. Of course, not everyone can afford to give an expensive sports car or Swiss watch as a surprise gift. But the best gifts are those that are made with love and from the heart. This is what makes them something special. And your first night is a great opportunity to express your feelings once again.
Do you and your loved one have nothing against erotic role-playing games? Then arrange a “theater of two actors” this night. If you choose your favorite game, we advise you to come up with some unexpected plot twist secretly from your husband. A small change in the script will add extra spice to the game, and your loved one will be pleasantly surprised. And, of course, you can invite him to try something new - on the wedding night it is not forbidden to behave the way you want.
What is estrus in a cat?
Estrus, estrus, heat are the names of the state when the female’s body is ready for mating, bearing, and giving birth to offspring. The body undergoes natural endocrine changes caused by the maturation of follicles in the ovaries. The external manifestations, duration, and frequency of this condition are difficult to predict; they depend on various factors. But understanding your pet’s condition will bring undoubted benefits.
Signs and symptoms
Although the symptoms of this process manifest themselves differently in each Murka, you must definitely learn to identify them. The onset is determined by the following characteristic features:
- enlargement of the genitals;
- the appearance of special bloodless discharge;
- increased frequency of urination;
- an increase in the number of licks;
- decreased appetite;
- more affectionate or aggressive behavior;
- frequent attempts to go for a walk;
- characteristic unpleasant sounds.
Whether all symptoms appear simultaneously or only some depends on the individual characteristics of the animal. The pet can roll on the floor, wriggle, throw its tail to the side, howl deep in its throat, make screams, i.e. do everything possible to attract a male and begin reproducing offspring.
For her, this is completely natural behavior, which seems strange and illogical to the owner. There are other manifestations: screaming, constantly meowing, marking territory, walking past the toilet, ignoring the litter tray, eating poorly, not eating anything, sleeping a lot, losing weight, peeing on the bed.
How does the furry beauty feel?
Changes in the endocrine background cause changes in emotions. The condition of the reproductive organs changes. The brain receives signals that significantly change the pet’s behavior. The situation becomes unusual and stressful. The cat begins to worry and feels the need for affection. An increase in stress levels provokes instinctively aggressive behavior, furious meowing. When Murka's puberty proceeds normally, the baby is not in pain, but her anxiety increases noticeably, and she may lose weight due to nervousness.
How often does estrus occur?
Breeders note that the frequency of cycles depends on the breed, more often in temperamental ones, less often in calm ones. The first include the Siamese and Persians, the second - the British and Scots. There are other factors: time of year, childbirth, age, hormonal changes, health status. It is necessary to take into account the individual characteristics of each individual. In cats of the same breed and age, periods of arousal differ markedly.
How long does it last
The duration of estrus is individual for each individual. Usually it lasts only a few days, sometimes it lasts two weeks, twenty days. Felinologists recommend carefully monitoring the process, recording the duration of each rut, and marking the dates on the calendar. Sudden changes in timing indicate trouble. Prolonged sexual activity is a characteristic symptom of problems with the ovaries: cysts, tumors, inflammation. A reduction in the timing of the rut occurs with hormonal problems, expressed in thyroid pathologies, abnormal development of the ovaries.
Seasonality of the reproductive cycle
The time of year affects the frequency of heat in cats. In spring, summer, and autumn, the desire to mate increases, in winter it decreases. It is necessary to take into account the conditions of detention; permanent residence in a warm house blurs the lines between seasons; the female is ready to mate regardless of the season. This is an individual moment. One Murka expresses a desire to mate at the very beginning of spring, the other - closer to the beginning of summer. With age, the seasonality of the reproductive cycle changes. If Murka is healthy, there is no need to worry.
Frequency of estrus
How many times and exactly when the process starts depends on:
- childbirth and feeding, after which half a year or less may pass until the next active phase;
- death of kittens or early weaning after birth, which reduces the break until the next active phase;
- age, the desire to mate becomes less as the female ages.
One heat cycle every three months, i.e. four per year is considered the average norm. There are cats that are ready to mate every month or more often; for some, one date with a male every six months is enough.
If there has been mating, the desired pregnancy has occurred, estrus will stop for the duration of gestation, i.e. for two months or a little more. The next active phase occurs 3-5 months after birth or earlier if the offspring was stillborn.
Sex on your wedding night
Empress Catherine II played tin soldiers with her husband on her wedding night. True, not of her own free will: her husband, Peter III, turned out to be so infantile that he did not feel the slightest attraction to his wife and preferred childish fun to love games. We sincerely hope that you and your husband are in complete harmony on this issue, and if you do play, it’s not at all with dolls or soldiers.
Nowadays, it no longer shocks anyone that most couples enter into intimate relationships even before the wedding, and some even manage to have a child by the time the marriage is officially registered. For such couples, the concept of “wedding night” is quite arbitrary, and when they are left alone after the wedding, questions about what to do and how to behave do not arise.
However, even if you have already had sex before marriage, this is not a reason to take your wedding night lightly. On the contrary, you have a wonderful opportunity to return again to the moment when you and your loved one were just discovering the joys of sex with each other. What we wrote about above - erotic lingerie, a shared bath, sensual massage - will help you with this.
Cat's first heat
This is a special time. The pet's body changes, sensations appear that she has not experienced before, Murka needs care and attention. It is difficult to accurately calculate the beginning of a special time. When your pet turns six months old, it is necessary to carefully “try on” changes in behavior for signs of maturation in order to identify the onset of natural maturation processes and recognize early symptoms of possible diseases.
When does the first heat start?
The time of onset of the first estrus in a cat varies widely: from six to sixteen months. There are “early” babies who mature by four months, although such early estrus indicates the presence of a developmental pathology, the onset of the disease. If a one-and-a-half-year-old beauty does not experience estrus, a veterinarian’s consultation is necessary. A long process of puberty is a sign of developing problems that cannot be ignored.
Features of the first rut
The optimal age for the first rut is approximately 10 months; mating at this time will allow the mustachioed beauty to have offspring by a year or a little later. The body is already mature enough to withstand the stress associated with childbirth. It is important to have a general idea: when the cat’s first sexual estrus began and how it proceeded. During early rutting, probable pathologies are identified and treatment is begun. The decision to sterilize is also made at this stage.
How to prepare for defloration
If you are still a virgin and are thinking about your wedding night with excitement or even fear, our recommendations will also help you cope with your emotions. The pain during defloration that you fear can be minimal if you psychologically prepare for this moment correctly. Therefore, do not listen to the scary stories that more experienced friends will so willingly try to share with you. On your wedding night, ask your husband to be especially gentle and help you relax. When it comes down to it, to avoid any discomfort during your first sexual intercourse, take one of the following positions and let your husband lead your love duet:
- Lie on your back, place a small pillow under your buttocks, bend your knees and pull your legs towards your chest. This position is recommended as the best for losing virginity on the first wedding night, since in this position the hymen is stretched and its rupture causes only short-term pain.
- Lie across the bed with your feet on the floor. The husband should stand between your thighs and, leaning on his outstretched arms, insert his penis into the vagina. In this position, the hymen also ruptures quickly and without much pain.
There is usually some bleeding after defloration. It should pass quickly, but it is better to refrain from repeated sexual acts so that the wound heals. You can express your feelings through caresses and kisses. And after a few days you can “repeat what has been done”, no longer experiencing any fear. Don't be upset if you don't manage to experience an orgasm on your first night, because to achieve it you need to relax as much as possible and be well aware of how your body reacts to certain caresses. Such knowledge will come in a few months. But it is quite possible to get pregnant on your wedding night. So, if you do not plan to have a child immediately after marriage, take care of contraception.
We hope that our tips and recommendations will help you. Although, frankly speaking, there is no ready-made script or recipe for what exactly a girl should do on the first night after the wedding. And this is for the best, because it is your own ideas and fantasies that will help turn it into something unforgettable. Most importantly, remember that the first wedding night is preceded by a day full of troubles and events. Therefore, it is important not to overwork, not to get carried away with strong drinks, and to take care of yourself and your husband in order to be able to bring your ideas to life. Let your first wedding night be unforgettable and unique!
Sexual desire in a sterilized cat
The surgical procedure used to prevent pregnancy is commonly called sterilization. In practice, the animal undergoes one of three operations:
- tubal occlusion: tubal ligation;
- oophorectomy - removal of the ovaries;
- Ovariohysterectomy - simultaneous removal of the uterus and ovaries.
Tubal ligation does not stop the maturation of the follicles, creating an obstacle to the fertilized egg entering the uterus. The hormonal background does not undergo changes, the occurrence of heat in a pet that has been sterilized by tubal ligation is the norm. The cessation of sexual activity occurs as a result of oophorectomy or ovariohysterectomy. These two procedures protect the pet well from inflammation of the uterus, ovarian cancer, polycystic disease, and similar diseases.
Is it possible to sterilize a cat at this time?
Sterilization during the rutting period is strictly prohibited. A gross change in the development of hormonal processes will negatively affect the health of any animal. The procedure is recommended two weeks before or two weeks after the active phase.
Kittens predisposed to the development of mammary gland cancer are sterilized before the first heat, the permissible age is six months or a little more, weight is more than three kilograms. The rest are sterilized after the first heat. The signs are not always obvious; there is a danger of missing the deadline and performing the operation when the pet is in a state of activity, which is strictly contraindicated.
How long should first sexual intercourse last?
Just as with age, there is simply no clear figure for how long sexual intercourse should last for the first time. This process happens completely differently for everyone. However, basically the duration of the first sex depends entirely on the man. If the man is experienced, and the girl has sex for the first time, then most likely the process will be average in size.
Experienced men know how to avoid premature ejaculation, prolong sexual intercourse and please their partner.
True, in the case when a woman has sexual intercourse for the first time, it is not recommended to take too long a process .
A woman is unlikely to experience pleasure during her first sex, regardless of its duration. As a rule, long first sex, on the contrary, becomes a real test for a girl, since she experiences pain from the rupture of the hymen. In addition, prolonged first sex can irritate the girl’s vaginal mucosa. An experienced man should understand these circumstances and not torment a girl for her first time. You should also not try to surprise a girl and demonstrate to her all your skills in bed. She will have enough emotions and impressions for a long time.
If a man himself is inexperienced in sex, and for him sexual intercourse is also the first in his life, it is likely that it will not last long. The fact is that men also experience stress before their first sexual intercourse, sometimes even more stress than women. After all, it is extremely important for every representative of the stronger half to demonstrate their skills in bed.
At the same time, men should not worry about the first time, since failures during the first sexual experience are absolutely normal. Most often, the first sex in men ends with premature ejaculation due to severe tension and stress, and sometimes due to strong arousal.
How can a guy take a girl's virginity?
Changes after first sex
After their first sexual intercourse, both women and men begin to feel differently. This manifests itself both physically and psychologically.
Among women
When a woman has sex for the first time, her body begins to rebuild. He understands that conception is now possible and prepares to perform his reproductive function.
The psychological aspect of deflowering is of great importance. It is important that the girl does not regret what she has done and does not feel “dirty” or “sinful”. To do this, parents and her partner need to create a comfortable environment around her and explain in time that sex is a natural and pleasant process in which there is nothing immoral.
Physiological
After the first sex, a girl’s hymen changes (if it was there initially): it can tear or simply stretch. Many women, once they become sexually active, find it more comfortable to use tampons during menstruation.
How to have sex for the first time: tips for guys
Guys worry no less than girls before having sex for the first time. Therefore, you need to pull yourself together and be confident in your sexual power. To begin with, you should relax. A glass of champagne or wine will help with this. Just don’t overdo it with drinking, otherwise your first night together will turn into a complete nightmare. Next, invite the lady of your heart to a slow dance and start kissing her, gently stroking her neck, and then slowly begin to undress her.
Read: Female erogenous zones. How to excite your beloved
Once you find yourself in bed, don’t forget about caresses. After all, they are the ones who will help a woman tune in to intimacy, as well as feel tenderness and trust in her partner. Caress her neck, chest, stomach, and then go lower to the genitals and start massaging them. This will help arouse the girl: her vagina becomes wet, which will help the penis penetrate inside faster and easier.
Once you have warmed up your partner sufficiently, place her on her back and carefully place the condom on your penis. During sex, you need to move slowly and as carefully as possible so as not to hurt your partner. Most likely, your first sex will not go as you expected. But this is only the first experience. Next will be even more interesting and better.
Possible problems during first sex
Various problems and fears associated with first sex often worry both young men and girls. In order to relax and not think about them, you need to study the characteristics of your body in advance and be sure to discuss your fears with your partner.
Fast ejaculation
Having sexual intercourse too short is a common fear for many men. In fact, there is nothing unnatural about this, especially for those who are having sex for the first time. If a young man is very excited, then he can finish before the girl, and this should not be embarrassed. The main thing is to show attention to your partner and try to bring her to orgasm with additional caresses.
Lack of erection
Sometimes young men are let down by their penis during their first sex. This happens if a guy is too worried, so to get an erection back you need to try to relax. To solve the problem, you can distract yourself with some romantic gesture (for example, watch a movie with your girl or give her a massage) and increase the time of foreplay, and the excitement will come on its own.
No fun
Not all girls orgasm their first time, and that's completely normal. The partner may finish earlier and even try to please with additional caresses, but if orgasm does not happen, then this should not be embarrassed. A girl just needs to pay more attention to studying her own body and understand what brings her more pleasant sensations.
Ridicule from a partner
For the first sex, you need to trust your partner, which means you shouldn’t expect ridicule or accusations of your inexperience from him. If there is no complete mutual understanding in the couple, then the time for intimacy has not yet come.
If someone in a couple is no longer a virgin, then he should know that his partner has no experience in sex. In such cases, support and attention from the beloved is very important, so that there is complete trust during the first intimate relationship.
Painful sensations
Many girls are afraid of pain during first sex. To reduce discomfort, you need to ensure a sufficient level of arousal (namely, do not skip foreplay), and also use a lubricant (additional lubricant, you can buy it at the pharmacy).
The girl should tell her partner about her fear so that he can be careful and not make sudden movements.
Psychological problems
In order for sex to be enjoyable, a person must be in harmony with his body. If you have any problems with accepting yourself, you need to consult a psychologist and eliminate them before your first sex. If this is not done, then after sex a person may feel sad, depressed and unwilling to repeat this experience in the near future.
Opinion of sexologists and psychologists
All sexologists and psychologists agree that it is worth losing your virginity when a person is internally ready for it. If you are unsure of your desires or your partner, then there is no need to rush, you can wait for a more favorable time.
You shouldn't have sex because others are doing it or because "it's time." Everything should happen on time, and not under the pressure of public opinion. Don’t be afraid to express your desires (or lack thereof), because each person is individual and can reach maturity for first sex at different ages.
When do the first critical days occur?
A few decades ago, girls began menstruating at almost 18 years of age. Nowadays puberty comes earlier. The occurrence of the first menstruation at 11–16 years of age is considered normal. For some girls, their periods come earlier, and for some, later.
This depends on several factors:
- diseases that were suffered in childhood;
- heredity;
- nutrition;
- living conditions;
- physical development.
In addition, if the grandmother and mother started their periods early, then the child will most likely do the same. If a girl is ahead of her peers in physical development, then her period will come earlier. Conversely, if the baby grows up weak and often gets sick, then she will probably lag behind in puberty. Menstruation will occur later due to poor nutrition, deficiency of vitamins and nutrients necessary for the growth and development of a young body.
There are cases where girls' first periods begin at 8–9 years old. Early sexual development can be caused by hormonal imbalance and heavy physical exertion. If menstruation has not begun by the age of 17, then this is a reason to visit a gynecologist. The reason for delayed sexual development may be insufficient functioning of the ovaries, emotional stress, nervous overload, problems with hormonal metabolism, disorders arising from the pituitary gland, grueling sports training, unfavorable environmental conditions, and dieting.
Signs preceding the first menstruation
Any mother who monitors the condition and health of her daughter can notice the signs that precede the onset of the first menstruation. It is from this moment that we need to begin preparing the child for a new period of life. About a couple of years before the onset of menstruation, a girl’s figure changes (breasts enlarge, hips become wider). Hair begins to grow under the arms and on the pubic area. In addition, girls' periods are preceded by acne on the face and back.
A few months before the first critical days, girls notice traces of atypical discharge on their underwear. They may be transparent, yellowish or whitish without an unpleasant odor. All this is normal and does not indicate any disease. If you experience symptoms such as itching in an intimate place, a strange smell inherent in the discharge, then you should visit a specialist.
A few days before the start of menstruation, a girl may show signs of premenstrual syndrome (PMS), which occurs in adult women:
- frequent mood swings, tearfulness;
- apathetic or aggressive state;
- headaches that occur for no reason;
- nagging pain localized in the lower abdomen.
Preparing for chemotherapy
A prerequisite for starting any chemotherapy in any patient is morphological verification of the malignant process, that is, a piece of the tumor obtained during a biopsy or during surgery is studied under a microscope, the disease is classified and it is proven that it is definitely a malignant process. In doubtful cases, when there is no 100% certainty that it is cancer, sarcoma, melanoma, leukemia, etc., chemotherapy cannot be performed.
The patient approaches the first course of chemotherapy fully examined, if preoperative or neoadjuvant chemotherapy is planned, or having already received radical treatment in the form of surgery at the first stage, supplemented, if necessary, with prophylactic or adjuvant chemotherapy.
A patient will be considered examined when:
- all zones of localization of the tumor process and the sizes of nodes were determined;
- the state of the cardiovascular and respiratory systems, the central nervous system and the gastrointestinal tract has been clarified - there is an understanding of the objective state of the body, the scope of functions and limitations of other organs allows for therapy of a certain combination and duration;
- in biochemical and clinical blood tests, urine analysis, all indicators are normal, that is, there is no evidence of insufficient functionality and hidden pathological conditions;
- For some malignant processes, information about the concentration of tumor markers is necessary, which will subsequently make it possible to evaluate the effectiveness of therapy.
Since many cytostatics negatively affect hematopoiesis, a blood test for leukocytes and platelets should be “first fresh” - no later than a week.
Number of chemotherapy courses and side effects
The courses are carried out until we can hope to reduce the malignant tumor. Like tumor reduction, stabilization of the cancer process also indicates the benefit of treatment and indicates the destruction of the population of cells sensitive to cytostatics. Progression of the process during treatment is evidence of the ineffectiveness of chemotherapy and the need to change the combination of drugs.
The standard combination proposed for first use is the most effective for a given cancer structure and not the most aggressive. The second recommends a less effective treatment regimen, the third recommends an even less useful one. For most malignant processes, three lines of treatment have been developed, that is, with one benefit or another, three courses of chemotherapy from several cycles can be carried out; further therapy is unpromising and definitely promises side effects, but not a positive result.
When in the first cycles of several lines of chemotherapy the tumor shrank and then resumed growth, the cells can be considered sensitive and there is reason to use the fourth or fifth lines.
Side effects and depletion of the body's resources to repair chemotherapy damage can limit the continuous change of lines. So, with each cycle of chemotherapy, it takes longer for hematopoiesis to be restored, the damage to the kidneys and peripheral nerves becomes more pronounced, and it becomes more and more difficult for the liver to fight intoxication.
Only nausea and vomiting, which frightens everyone today, is a completely preventable side effect, which the specialists of our clinic successfully cope with, because they use not only strong antiemetics, but also a whole program of preparation and support for chemotherapy.
Regimen and time of taking medications
Each drug has its own pharmacological action profile and requires a specific method of administration into the patient’s blood and an optimal dose for administration.
A single dosage is calculated per kilogram of the patient’s weight or per skin surface. To achieve a sufficient cyclic dose, some medications must be taken every day for several weeks, some may need to be administered once a week, and some may need to be administered once for as long as three weeks.
The duration of chemotherapy administration is determined by immediate toxic reactions or the best result of the effect on malignant cells. For example, a three-hour dropper with a platinum derivative “mitigates” kidney damage, and an hour-long administration of gemcitabine showed maximum effectiveness compared to a syringe injection.
