Wedding dress: to show or not to the groom before the wedding?

Wedding clothes

I have the most reverent attitude towards this dress
Is it possible to choose a wedding dress with the groom?
White, red, black: what do the signs “recommend”?
Observation or superstition?

The time before the wedding can hardly be compared with any other time. Everything is mixed up here: smiles, tears, hugs, arguments. Everything is so full of emotions that it is not easy for future newlyweds to maintain peace of mind. Not only are they about to take the most important step in their lives, they are also faced with the hassle of organizing a celebration, arranging a future home, choosing wedding dresses, inviting guests and much more. At the same time, you need to continue to go to work, take care of loved ones, and do something around the house. Your head is spinning from daily tasks and tasks, and your nerves are on edge.

Bride and groom at a wedding

Is this not the reason for the strange signs and prejudices associated with preparations for marriage and everything that has to do with it?

Yes, happiness is indeed very fragile, and it’s so scary to lose it. So warnings, prohibitions and other “horror stories” appear, which, after time, most people remember with a smile. Was it worth it to worry so much?

I have the most reverent attitude towards this dress

Probably, more often than others, friends tell each other signs associated with a wedding dress. No surprise! This outfit means so much to the girls! He clearly demonstrates that she loves and is loved, that from now on there are two of them, and they will share all the joys and sorrows in half.

The groom saw the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding

There are so many expectations associated with him and they are all happy. And when, finally, this wonderful dress takes its place on the hanger, waiting for the cherished moment, you absolutely don’t want anyone else to touch it, much less try it on.

It is also quite understandable why the groom should not see the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding. She wants to appear before him in all her splendor. And he will have to admire her beauty and charm so much that he will remember it for many, many years.

All preliminary fittings and shows will deprive the newlywed of the opportunity to see the reflection of these feelings on the face of her chosen one, and the reference to some kind of trouble was invented “to divert attention”

The question of whether to show a dress to her friends before the wedding or not to do so is up to each girl to decide for herself. Who knows her friends better than she, and what can you expect from them? This moment received a negative connotation, probably due to the fear of “jinxing” one’s happiness, of suffering from the envy of others.

Unmarried girl in a wedding dress

Envy is indeed a very strong feeling that can ruin the mood and further relationships between people. there are many examples of sincere friendship in the world , when it was thanks to reliable friends that everything worked out in the best possible way. So know how to choose them, and you won’t have to worry about unkind looks.

There are many cautions associated with the process of purchasing a wedding dress. There is especially a lot of disagreement over whether it is possible to buy a wedding dress in advance, that is, before the official engagement takes place. This is an extraordinary act and a bold step. Not every girl will dare to do it. But there are situations when people at first glance understand that they have found their soulmate, that their feelings are mutual and their “publication” is only a matter of time. Then why not?

A girl tries on a dress before the wedding

It’s a different matter if you don’t even have a groom in mind, but just want to get married. Then there is no need to rush. By the time such decoration is needed, fashion, the figure of the future bride, and her preferences may have changed. As for the assertion that a thoughtless purchase will harm future happiness , there is no objective evidence for this. No one has ever kept such statistics, so it is your own choice to believe or not to believe in it.

Much the same applies to doubts about whether an unmarried girl can wear a wedding dress. It depends on how the girl herself reacts to this. Sometimes your own fears can create such an internal blockage that it is not easy for positive change to break through. But there is also a belief that when trying on a wedding dress for an unmarried girl, it is a sign of a quick marriage. There is a tradition of catching a wedding bouquet thrown at random by the bride at the end of the evening. The one who catches him will find personal happiness within a year.

The bride throws the wedding bouquet

By the way, it is in this case that one can remember the exact opposite sign. According to one of the superstitions, the newlywed should not let go of the bouquet during the entire wedding day, and then put it in her bedroom, then everything will be wonderful for her. Even better is to dry a few flowers as a keepsake and keep them until the end of your days. Such a souvenir, they say, will become a talisman for the family. But mutual love and the ability to value a partner will protect her much more reliably from troubles, and there will be no need to “preserve” or “dry” them.

Wedding bouquet in the hands of the bride

Signs before the wedding

The experience of generations is relevant not only during wedding celebrations, but also before them:

You can’t work hard and hard. It’s better to ask for time off from work in advance, even take a vacation at your own expense. After all, a wedding is a lot of problems and troubles; you shouldn’t meet the most important day in your life, falling off your feet from fatigue;
If one of the spouses wears glasses and wants to replace them with lenses, but does not have experience, they should be purchased and tested in advance. Not everyone has lens installation without consequences - possible irritation, swelling, physical discomfort;
Don't try to squeeze yourself into a dress or suit by starving yourself. Nothing good will come from restricting yourself in food - a spoiled mood, dark circles under the eyes and gray skin are guaranteed;
You cannot agree to radical experiments with hairstyle, tanning, and makeup. It is unknown what will come of this;
at least a week before the significant date, use only proven cosmetics, eat familiar foods to eliminate the possibility of allergies and stomach disorders;
if a professional makeup artist will work with hair and makeup, you need to schedule a trial session to know exactly what will happen as a result of his efforts;
Many newlyweds have bachelor and bachelorette parties before the wedding. Don’t get too carried away in the process, so as not to spend your wedding day with a headache or sad anticipation of the end of the ceremony;
Not only the bride should look perfect at the wedding. The groom should also take care of his appearance - do his hair, tidy up his facial skin, hands and nails;
It is better for those involved in preparing and holding the event to arrive in advance. Wedding celebrations very rarely take place without problems, and in this case the presence of a competent team helps to quickly resolve the problems that have arisen;
Despite the inevitable excitement, newlyweds need a hearty breakfast on their big day. You need to choose high-calorie, but not heavy meals that will maintain energy and strength during a difficult, long day;
All items and things that you plan to take with you to the wedding and subsequent feast must be collected in advance. The help of experienced parents or relatives will not be superfluous, because in the turmoil it is not surprising to forget something.

These simple tips will help you celebrate your wedding with maximum pleasure and avoid minor inconveniences and major troubles.

Is it possible to choose a wedding dress with the groom?

Ingod the question arises: who should buy a wedding dress: the groom or the bride? There can be no definite answer here. If the future spouse is an accomplished and wealthy person, he will gladly take on all the expenses. The girl will go shopping for the dress, as well as the rings, with her groom. And you shouldn’t expect anything negative if the groom saw a dress, shoes or gloves before the wedding.

If only he looked at the bride with love! On that very cherished day, she will still look different, and he will fully feel it

If a young couple still mainly relies on their parents, they solve this problem and determine what the bride’s attire should be and how each party should participate in expenses.

The groom sees the bride in a wedding dress for the first time

Of course, there may be different traditions on this matter. So in the USA, for example, payment of all wedding expenses without discussion is assigned to the father of the bride. In France, the festive dinner at which the engagement is announced is paid for by the bride's parents, and the wedding celebration is paid for by both related families. In the UK, at the request of the heroes of the occasion, a wedding rehearsal is held with the seating of the guests and even toasts. As for purchasing wedding dresses , everything is decided by the personal relationships of the future spouses.

Some superstitious people suggest there is danger in seeing yourself in a mirror in a wedding dress. But how then can you determine what really suits you, how can you find out if everything is done with the proper quality? Is it better to see your reflection in the mirrors of the Wedding Palace and be upset because everything was different in your dreams?

The bride looks at herself in the mirror before the wedding

Signs for a wedding

Signs for a wedding day have been collected by our ancestors for centuries. Observant guests and relatives paid their attention to the course of the celebrations, assessed various little things, saw the subsequent life of the newlyweds, and drew conclusions, gradually building a coherent system of traditions and customs. What did our ancestors notice?

The bride's green dress promises troubles in future family life, numerous quarrels, and problems.
A fallen wedding ring promises inevitable scandals between spouses.
If the bride's dress is torn during the wedding ceremony, then life with her mother-in-law will not work out.
On the eve and day of the wedding, it is better for the bride not to pick up needles. If she injects herself, then frequent scandals in the family cannot be avoided.
The bride should not serve alcoholic drinks to guests herself. Violation of this rule leads to binge drinking by the husband.
If someone else tries the bread and salt served to the newlyweds, expect big troubles.
If the heel of the bride's shoe breaks, this is a sure sign of the husband's future infidelity.
A mirror broken on a wedding day prophesies seven years of disaster.

It is forbidden to give young people piercing and cutting objects - knives, forks, needles. Bedding donated by guests, jewelry, mirrors of any kind, and images of various frightening moments, cataclysms, and misfortunes do not bring happiness.

White, red, black: what do the signs “recommend”?

Not so long ago, it was an unshakable and inviolable rule to dress the bride in snow-white attire. Everything else, at best, looked suspicious and caused gossip. But modern girls have masterfully dealt with this prejudice. They walk down the aisle not only in pink, blue and cream dresses, but also in red, steel, dark blue, brown and even black.

The example of the American film star Sarah Jessica Parker, who came to her wedding in a black wedding dress, became a textbook example and found many followers

History is silent about what the color of the bride's dress must be according to signs if she is getting married a second time. But traditionally he could be more modest and reserved. And the veil was not put on a second time. She symbolized the special purity and innocence of the young newlywed, which was not expected in remarriage.

Lush black wedding dress

Photo of a bride in a red wedding dress

Today it is a beautiful and delicate attribute of a wedding dress, which can only be worn for this ceremony. And although stylists now offer many ways to decorate a girl’s head: flowers in her hair, a veil-headband or hat with a veil, a cape with a hood, a spectacular scarf, many brides remain committed to the classic veil.

This elegant floor-length dress can be worn more than once for special occasions or to the theater, but a veil cannot.

Flowers in the bride's hair

Headband on the bride's head

Observation or superstition?

It is clear that everything in the world does not happen by chance, and any statements grow from observations and generalizations. But today’s reality is such that even time-tested weather signs do not always “work”, the world around us has changed so much.

Once upon a time, festive clothes were of considerable value, especially among the people, and a spoiled outfit foreshadowed serious “showdowns” with older family members. But promising problems with her mother-in-law to a modern girl whose wedding dress was supposedly torn during the celebration is at least strange.

The wedding dress was torn at the wedding

It is also considered unfavorable to sell a wedding dress. This, they say, can provoke a divorce. But if someone seriously set out to find out the fate of all the marriages whose wedding dresses were sold through Internet sites or consignment stores, he would be surprised to find that the percentage of broken marriages does not exceed the national average. And certainly no one has heard anyone mention the sale of wedding decorations as the reason for the separation.

What can we say about the ban on being photographed in a wedding dress! Millions of newlyweds capture their happy day in dozens of photographs, and then look at them with pleasure many years later.

Wedding photography

Wise people say: thought is material . Good thoughts are realized through good deeds and events, while negative thoughts attract anxiety and sadness. If you look for signs related to the wedding, then only good ones.

General wedding signs

One of the lucky weather signs is if on your wedding day it rains in the morning and then the sun comes out. If a rainbow appears, family life will be magnificent.
Carrying his wife across the bridge in his arms, the young husband invites prosperity and mutual love into the family.
In order for the family to be strong and mutual understanding to be complete, during the wedding feast the spouses should sit on the same bench, and not on separate chairs.
Other people should not be allowed to come between the newlyweds on their wedding day.
The first wedding night should take place on a new bed and bedding.
It is advisable to invite an odd number of guests and avoid conflicts at the wedding between the invitees.
The first glasses of champagne must be drunk to the bottom - then family happiness will be unclouded.

Signs for a wedding allow the newlyweds to feel more confident, because everything is provided for. And we can hope that the union of two loving hearts will be based on mutual understanding, respect and love, making the marriage strong and durable.