We are used to thinking that tears are a reflection of negative feelings, be it sadness, bad memories, pain or resentment. Obviously, crying can be caused by negative events: the loss of a close relative, the end of a romantic relationship, the loss of a job, or a serious illness. For women who experience monthly hormonal surges, tears can become a defensive response to yelling or unfair treatment. Crying is a normal reaction of the body in response to stress, sad events or the inability to obtain the desired result.
When a joyful event hides a negative reaction
On the other hand, we all know cases when people are ready to cry with happiness or tenderness. When emotions have been building up in your heart for a while, they need an outlet. The paradox is that behind joyful events there are sometimes negative feelings, and we cannot always recognize them. Here is one illustrative example.
Imagine that young parents decide to go on vacation and leave their two-year-old daughter in the care of neighbors for a week. When our heroes returned to pick up the baby, she was happily playing with a neighbor boy, but as soon as she saw them, she immediately burst into tears. For the next hour, she pouted and did not want to talk to either mom or dad. The girl remembered how she felt abandoned, which is why she burst into tears in front of her parents. Thus, she showed not joy, but anger.
Wedding congratulations from mom in your own words
Mom is the most valuable person for the bride or groom. Therefore, the mother plays a very important role on the wedding day, no less important than the role of the newlyweds at the wedding. Each mother is given the floor at the wedding, during which the mother pronounces parting words. In our selection, we have collected congratulations in prose from a mother for the newlyweds, which she can read or write out in a wedding card for her beloved children.
*** Dear children, I want to wish you that there will always be peace in your family. Peace of mind, peace and harmony between you. So that your family is friendly and that you solve all problems together. People say: “If the whole family is together, the soul is in the same place.”
*** We wish you happiness and goodness, After all, the years have no power over the happy, So let it always be like this from now on: The more years, the more happiness. Our dear children! We raise a glass to your family union, to your happiness, to your friends who shared your joy with you on this solemn day. Bitterly!
*** We wish for the young: If there is more land, If there is a rich garden, If there is a good hut, If there is a good cow, If there is a beautiful daughter, If there is a strong son, If there is small grief, If happiness is eternal!
*** Today we wish you happiness, May the Lord protect you from storms and bad weather, from human language, from pain and depression, from difficult years, from a vicious circle. And may the Lord give you a lot of passion, enthusiasm, ardor and love! And a lot of happiness!
*** Congratulating you on this bright day, We wish you a long and happy life, Passionate and beautiful love to you, So that the shadows do not cover the misfortunes. We wish you only success in your worries, So that the house rings with songs, joyful laughter, So that a child’s smile warms your heart, So that nothing gets sick of you And so that adversity does not touch you, It seems like minutes for many years!
*** Let love enter your home, not just in words and sounds; let it live among you, like salt, like your daily bread. Let neither storms nor bad weather cool your feelings, and let health, peace and happiness reign upon entering the family. Let children be a mutual sign of Love for you. Let your marriage be of the highest class! Even though it's called marriage.
*** Dear (name) and (name)! With all my heart I would like to wish you a happy married life! Make your family nest cozy and warm. Let storks visit this nest more often, let your family grow by leaps and bounds! Live like two swans: swan love, swan fidelity, swan song to you in a hundred thousand years.
*** Our dear children, allow us on a happy day, at a happy hour, to say a parental parting word. Live so that there is joy in your home, so that laughter and songs, happy children's voices sound in it. Build your best, kindest, most magical world. Let your family become a model of family happiness and prosperity.
*** My dear, glorious and sweet children, I congratulate you on your wedding day. Mom wants to wish you happy days and good news, peaceful skies and bright blessings, tender love and sincere feelings, wonderful ideas and joyful events in your life.
*** My dear children, your mother congratulates you on your wedding day. I want to wish that you sincerely love each other and keep the warmth of your hearts, that you live in peace and harmony, prosperity and health. May God send you wonderful children, bright happiness and good luck.
What is hidden behind tears of happiness?
Here are a few more examples that can cause “tears of happiness”:
- A soldier's return from the army is when a mother or girlfriend begins to cry, remembering how they saw off a loved one a year ago.
- When receiving a coveted award, actors, musicians or scientists often shed a tear while giving their acceptance speech. At this moment, they remember the work for which they never received recognition.
- This is also why people cry at the end of a melodrama, when the hero who is struggling with something wins.
- The girl secretly sheds a tear after receiving a letter from her childhood friend, whom she had been looking for for many years to no avail. At this time, she remembers the colossal efforts that could not succeed for so long.
And, of course, many people cry at weddings, and there is also a logical explanation for this.
What to do if... (15 difficult cases at a wedding)
What to do if... (15 difficult cases at a wedding)
Sometimes there are times at a wedding when something doesn't go as you planned. What to do at this moment and what can be done to correct the situation?
1. They didn’t bring a loaf to the wedding. The performer’s phone does not answer or the performer does not arrive at the appointed time. There is no need to find out why this happened at this moment; you can find out another day. And now it is urgent to eliminate this problem. Remember that meeting a loaf is just a tribute to tradition and a loaf is any kind of bread. Urgently send one of your relatives to the nearest store or bread stand. Round bread should definitely be sold there. As a last resort, you can use any baked goods. You can also replace the meeting with a loaf of bread with another meeting: with a baguette with caviar, with strawberries and cream, with honey and butter. 2. The wedding cake was not delivered. It’s very bad, but there’s nowhere to go. Think of it like bringing out the wedding cake is simply inviting guests to the dessert table. Ask your family or friends to buy some regular cakes from your local store. The chefs will help you decorate them beautifully, and the host will present them in a beautiful and original way. If everything is done correctly, guests will not notice anything (maybe this is your design decision). If there are no shops nearby, ask the host and chefs to come up with something with any sweets available. 3. The limousine did not arrive. Remember that a limousine is just a vehicle that takes you and your friends to the registry office or restaurant. In this case, you should always have several telephone numbers of taxis or transport companies in stock. If you don’t have time to wait, just catch the car, negotiate with the driver, if possible, try to decorate the car with ribbons and balls (all this can be quickly bought at the “Print” kiosk or a flower tent). Your task is to arrive on time for the painting or banquet. And such a “special vehicle” can be imagined as your bold creative solution. It is better to spoil your nerves in communication with the culprit of the embarrassment another day. 4. The host did not come to the wedding. Terrible! But not fatal. To protect yourself, check in advance whether there is anyone among your guests who can take on the duties of a host in an emergency (have several phone numbers of the hosts in reserve - even if a person arrives in an hour and a half, he can save the evening). Develop an alternative scenario. Ask your friends to prepare some competitions. As a last resort, use the following scheme: 30-40 minutes at the table (toasts, light games), 20-30 minutes of dance program. Cold appetizers - hot appetizers - hot dishes - sweet table. 5. The electricity in the restaurant went out. Call electricians immediately. The troubleshooting time is maximum 1-2 hours. While the electricians are solving the problem, the presenter must keep the situation under control. How organic it will be depends on the talent of the presenter. Ask the restaurant staff to light candles, the more the better. A certain romantic atmosphere will be created. Without music and light, singing drinking songs and heartfelt toasts, as well as other games at the table, which the host probably knows about, go well. 6. The florists didn’t have time to make the bouquet. If you can't wait any longer, go to the flower shop, buy fresh flowers, tie them with a ribbon - and you're done! Even if you don’t get the dream bouquet, the wedding will be saved. Find out in advance where the nearest flower shops are. 7. Your limousine rental time has expired and you are dropped off in the middle of the road. Oddly enough, this is not uncommon. This happens because the end time of the lease was not clearly stated or you made a mistake with the calculations. After the rental hours expire, the limousine can be immediately ordered by another person, so the driver has no choice but to go to him. Plan your time clearly. If in doubt, better plan on an extra hour. You never know, you will find yourself at rush hour and there will be traffic jams or an accident on the road. If such a situation occurs, call a regular taxi and take it to the restaurant. 8. The photographer didn’t arrive. You are unlikely to be able to play it safe and have another photographer available that day. The easiest way out of the situation is to agree with a local photographer right at the registry office so that he can photograph the exchange of paintings, the walk and the banquet. If your ceremony is outdoors, you can ask someone you know who has a professional camera to take the camera with them. If you still don’t want to settle for average photos, just organize a love-story photo shoot in wedding dresses after the wedding. 9. At the last moment it turned out that the rings had been forgotten. If time is of the essence, send one of the guests to get the rings. As a last resort, you can buy the most inexpensive rings at your nearest store, which you will symbolically wear during the ceremony. You can also borrow rings from your parents or ask the registrar to skip this moment. Yes, yes, don’t be surprised – this happens too! 10. The registrar at the registry office incorrectly pronounced the names of the young people. It's unpleasant, but nothing can be done. Calmly correct him. 11. The bride’s dress is dirty or torn. This is a difficult test of the bride's emotional state. Therefore, we must act quickly so that her smile does not fade. The dress can be washed carefully (an instant stain remover will come in handy), or you can hide the stain using improvised means - a brooch, a pin, a flower. Just in case, have a thread and a needle with you so that you can quickly hem the dress if it tears. If the zipper is stuck, lubricate it a little with paraffin from a candle. It is better to refrain from oil so as not to inadvertently leave a stain. 12. DJ plays “wrong” songs and music If it is important for you that “your music” be at the wedding, then this point should be discussed with the host, focusing his attention on the fact that this is of great importance to you. You can take a duplicate of a flash drive or disk with you to the banquet with your chosen wedding compositions. 13. Some guests behave indecently and violently because they have drunk too much. Initially, among the invited guests, mentally select a person who is usually calm and practically does not drink; it is advisable that he enjoys authority among the guests and is physically strong. Usually, this is either a witness, or the father of the bride/groom, or someone's uncle/godfather, or another close relative. As soon as this situation arises, ask this person to put the troublemaker in a taxi and send him home with someone. 14. The cake tilted to one side and crawled. Try decorating the damaged side with improvised means. Bring the cake out to your guests with the unspoiled side. If the cake is ruined beyond recognition and it is no longer possible to save it, see point 2 of this list. 15. You have an allergy, a bruise appears, something gets in your eye, etc. In such a situation, it is best not to be nervous. When you choose a makeup artist, make sure that he or she has experience in applying makeup, this may come in handy. A good hairstyle and a voluminous veil can also solve many problems. Before the wedding, pack a first aid kit with everything you might need, and don't forget to give it to your bridesmaid so you always have your medications on hand. And don't take everything too seriously. In a couple of years, looking at wedding photos, you will laugh that you managed to hit yourself and get a black eye right before the wedding. During the preparation for the wedding, try to personally control the situation, or entrust this to a trusted person. Be sure to enter into agreements with everyone who provides you with services. Make sure that the contract spells out all the conditions and sanctions in case of non-provision of the service or provision of the service of inadequate quality or incomplete volume. Specify the exact time and address for the service and be sure to take the phone numbers of the person in charge and the performer. Personally approve all sketches, scripts, menus. Don't leave anything to chance. You must be sure that everything will be as you agreed with the contractor. On the wedding day, your trusted representative (for example, witnesses or one of your relatives) must monitor the process of providing the service, periodically calling the performer and checking whether everything is in order and where the performer is. This applies to the arrival of a limousine and other transport, the delivery of a loaf, a wedding cake, the work of designers and florists, the arrival of a host and musicians.
Have a beautiful wedding and a great mood! Try to take everything with humor!
Mother of the bride is not shy about shedding a tear
Most often, it is the mother of the bride who gives vent to her emotions. And the father is unlikely to glow with happiness throughout the ceremony - sadness is clearly visible in his eyes. The toastmaster will certainly hasten to console the bride's parents, saying that these people are not losing a daughter, but gaining a son. But the truth is that on this day a new family was formed, which is an independent unit. These people are losing their daughter, that's why they cry.
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“It would hardly be more difficult to find...”
This is what Nekrasov wrote about women’s difficult fate. And these words perfectly reflect the unenviable position that the daughter-in-law usually occupied in the house of her husband’s parents. The word “daughter-in-law” itself, according to many philologists, is derived from the phrase “who knows who” - that is, a newcomer, a stranger, not one’s own.
Many responsibilities fell on fragile women’s shoulders: caring for livestock, cooking, keeping the house clean and comfortable, caring for children, husband and his relatives... Keep in mind that all those joys of life that we take for granted (household appliances, plumbing, There were no traces of detergents then.
And how can one not burst into tears, knowing that carefree youth has come to an end, and as soon as the wedding feast dies down, gray workdays will drag on in a dull succession?
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Newlyweds spend less time with their parents
When lovers get married, they devote the lion's share of time to each other, while forgetting about their parents. They call each other less, see each other less often, do not listen to advice, and become emotionally distant. This can easily be explained by the desire for independence and the desire to define clear boundaries. But the fact remains that parents now have much less influence over their children. The mother-in-law starts an open confrontation with her daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law does not like her son-in-law. Representatives of the older generation react angrily to this loss, and it all begins with tears at the wedding ceremony. The parents of the bride and groom foresee further developments, because they themselves were once in this situation.
Best friends hold grudges
The same can be said about the bride's friends, who cry at the ceremony not from happiness. They do not feel jealous of the woman's new status, but they understand that the fun time they spent with each other will now remain in the past. The newlyweds will live an autonomous life, in which there is no longer room for riotous parties, drinking, nightclubs and unbridled fun until the morning. Girlfriends and friends react angrily to this loss, because just a couple of months ago they did not count on the reduction of their bachelor company. This is why some people (especially friends and siblings) act provocatively at weddings.
Situations that mar wedding celebrations
As it turns out, many people are sensitive to the wedding of friends or relatives. Every fifth of the groom's brothers decides not to attend the wedding ceremony because the date was not agreed upon with him. Some married couples ignore such an important event in the lives of friends, since they were among the last to receive an invitation. Some of the bride's close relatives do not attend the celebration due to the established dress code. The man was warned that he needed to come to the ceremony in a suit, but planned to wear his favorite ripped jeans and a leather jacket.
The groom's cousin, who lives in another city, refuses to go to the wedding because his young children are not on the guest list. Some young women will ignore this event out of anger that she was not given the opportunity to become a bridesmaid. "Traditional" fights can be caused by a disproportionate division between the guests on the groom's side and the guests on the bride's side. Well, the mother-in-law will always be dissatisfied with the amount of money spent or the choice of banquet hall.
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