What does the presenter say?
The presenter's speech consists of three main blocks :
- explanation of the essence of the ceremony . A short story with an emphasis on solemnity or romance. A short parable or verse would be appropriate;
- inviting participants, guiding their actions and commenting . To soften the excitement of the newlyweds and their parents, to smooth out possible awkwardness or unpleasant surprises (a candle that went out at the wrong time or was dropped), it is worth introducing humorous notes;
- conclusion . Summing up the completed ceremony, the leader emphasizes the unity of the new family and the strengthening of ties between spouses and their relatives.
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Neutral speech
Let's look at a few examples of neutral texts , which, unlike touching options, may not contain emotional intensity. But such restrained speeches also have a place to be heard at a celebration (this is discussed individually with the young people in the process of drawing up the script).
“Dear mothers, through time and years you have carried the flame of the hearth to this important moment for your children. Now, by combining the flames of the candles, you will light the fire of a new, young family.” (The host invites the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom to simultaneously light the candle held by the newlyweds.) “Dear guests, before your eyes the family hearth of our newlyweds was born. Let's congratulate them on this important event. Young people can hug and thank their parents from the bottom of their hearts for the care, affection, kindness and love that their parents have given them all these years. As for the young family, I want to remind you that the candle you hold in your hands should be lit every year on your wedding day. And the flame of this candle will warm your hearts and remind you of the day you created your family, of your parents, of the words of love that you spoke to each other today.”
“Now, mothers will light a candle for the young from their candles. The flame of a new candle is the flame of a newly formed family. The flame is still very young, not yet strong. Dear newlyweds, it is only in your power to preserve this fire, to ignite it stronger, so that no wind or adversity can extinguish it. The flame of your hearth will be supported by strong love, mutual respect, and your family traditions. Take care and maintain this sacred warmth. Carry it through the years and give it to your children. We congratulate you with all our hearts and wish you unlimited happiness. Dear guests, let’s give smiles, applause and hugs to our young people!”
Another example of text, but in poetic form:
Touching text
It is extremely important, when delivering such speeches, to create a special atmosphere. Try to maintain a calm and measured pace of speech , choose a calm background music and tune the audience to perceive information.
Advice! If you, as a presenter, want to add touching notes, notes of nostalgia to the speech and make the speech more personalized for a specific couple, try to find out more about the childhood and adolescence of the young people, about their relationship with their parents: favorite dishes from childhood, where they loved to relax with their parents, as mothers affectionately called them in childhood, favorite toys, habits, interesting incidents and stories. Details like these mentioned in the text make it more touching and personalized.
“Dear mothers, look at this beautiful couple! Look at your children. You probably can’t even believe that they have become so mature and independent. But you remember very well the moment when you first found out that you were going to become a mother. YOU remember very well the moment when you first saw your children, very tiny, small and carefree. But even then, looking at you, your children knew that everything would be fine. Because my mother was nearby. Because there are mother’s gentle hands and her eyes, which will always look at them with love and kindness. It was with your help that they took their first steps. The first word they uttered was probably “Mom.” The years flew by, your children grew up - kindergarten, school, then college. And now, they are building their family and will soon raise their children. The candles in your hands are a symbol of your family hearth, your tenderness, kindness, care and love that you have saved up for many years to pass on to your children today, on this day. Dear mothers, please come to your children and pass on the fire of the family hearth to them. And you are young, always remember what your parents did for you. These are the people who will always love you. Therefore, try to show them attention and care every day. Call and visit them often. Repeat often how grateful you are to them and how much you love them. Dear guests, let’s give the young mothers our applause!”
You can use verses as a guide
How should a touching speech sound during a ceremony :
With humor
The mood of the guests and the style of the wedding as a whole are important here. If the whole event is held in a romantic vein, then a speech with humor will sound inappropriate . Discuss all these details with the newlyweds in advance.
Below is an example of a speech with a bit of humor:
By the way! Another option for conducting the ceremony is with declarations of love alternately from the bride and groom . An appeal from the presenter will help lead to this.
In parable format
Also, there are several parables about family, love, happiness and home , which can be used as a preface before the ceremony:
Version of the parable “about the family hearth” in poetic format . Author: Elena Turbaleva (source)
Words of gratitude to the wedding guests from the newlyweds
Thank you, dear guests, for sharing our holiday with us! We are glad that you all were able to witness the creation of our family! We sincerely hope that you had a great time and were filled with positive emotions! Thank you for your pleasant wishes, wonderful gifts, fiery dances and active participation in competitions! You are the best and dearest! Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!
Our dear guests! We want to say a huge thank you for spending this significant day with us. You witnessed the creation of our family, you became the most desirable and dear people today. Thanks to your sincerity, participation, support and positivity, our wedding became what we dreamed of. Like you, we too will not forget this amazing, eventful, magical, sensual day. The day when we vowed to each other to grow old together and sealed our vow with rings. Thank you for your warm, sincere wishes, for your emotions and for your attention. We hope that we will continue to gather with you, even if not on such solemn occasions, but in the same cheerful, close circle. Thank you again to each and every one of you for contributing to our most special day!
Thank you, dear guests, beloved friends, our close and important people! Thank you for your good wishes and bright congratulations, thank you for your warm smiles and happy looks, thank you for your bright hopes and loyal support on this day. We are family now, we love each other, we love all of you. Thank you for this wonderful holiday, for a fun, loud wedding. We wish everyone joy, good luck, health and love!
Dear guests! A heartfelt thank you for being a part of the most important day of our lives! This is the most incredible and joyful day for us, and your presence made it even more special and beautiful. We hope that you will not forget it, just as we will not forget your participation. Thank you for laughing, dancing and having fun with us. It was your presence that helped us realize our dream. Thanks for joining us!
Our dear guests, now on behalf of our family we say thank you all for your attention and your presence, thank you for the sincerity of your hearts and kind support, thank you for your warm congratulations and bright wishes, thank you for your excellent mood and active participation in the celebration of the creation of our families. Be happy, our dears, successful in your affairs and always cheerful.
Our dear guests, thank you for your warm congratulations and wishes. We, now as husband and wife, sincerely thank everyone for the rainbow and bright holiday, for the good fun, pleasant gifts and your love. May you all be happy and healthy.
Thank you, dear guests, for a bright holiday, for a fun wedding, for your attention and warmth, for your kind instructions and wishes. Thank you to each and every one of you for the smiles and joy, thank you for your support on this wonderful day and for your wonderful gifts. We wish you goodness, prosperity, home comfort and great happiness in life!
We would like to thank you, Guests, for coming. What smiles gave us, Spent the whole day with us. Our happiness was shared when creating a family. They turned the holiday into a fairy tale, exactly as we wanted. For the gifts, wishes, thank you all from the bottom of my heart. We will keep this day in our memories forever.
Thank you for coming today, And sharing happiness with us, And finding many sincere and kind words, And being the best guests today. We are waiting for you in a year for our anniversary, We invite you to our wedding anniversary, To see all our relatives and all our friends again, We cannot imagine this day without you!
Our dear guests, thank you all for this wonderful day, thank you for sharing sweet moments with us and decorating the holiday of our union with your kind smiles. We are immensely grateful to everyone for the magnificent toasts in our honor, for your attention, for the flurry of positive emotions and, of course, for your gifts.
What do parents say?
Instructions or congratulations from parents in the ceremony of handing over the family hearth are not required ; sometimes the lighting of candles occurs accompanied by the words of only the leader or simply accompanied by music. If the parents (mothers) of the bride and groom wish to contribute to the ceremony, time is allocated in advance for parting words or congratulations.
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When parents (mothers) address the newlyweds, they must include words about mutual care, about maintaining the warmth of the family fire, about transferring the responsibility to keep its light from the older generation to the younger . The musical theme for the parting words of the parents of the bride and groom is selected individually.
Convenient ceremony design option:
- The mother of the bride lights the candle first , gives parting words to her daughter, giving her to another family;
- the groom's mother lights her candle next and greets her daughter-in-law, accepting her into her family;
- The presenter adds a few phrases about uniting the fires of two families and the mother simultaneously lights the newlyweds’ candle .
Return congratulations to the bride and groom at the wedding
1. Thank you for coming, Forgetting your affairs, worries, That your different roads converged here this evening!
You unanimously said to us all evening: “Bitter!!!” - they shouted, We treated them to sweet wine in return. Everyone joked together, danced laughing, and now it’s evening, and we’re all tired!
We say to you: “Thank you for everything!!! For coming and warming us with warmth! You gave us a piece of yourself! We kept it in our souls!!!”
And we will drink this glass to you, so that life continues in a series of beautiful things, so that everything always works out for you!!! And your happiness never ended!!!
The wind of change burst into our lives - We fell in love, you supported us. We want to protect you in return from anxiety, from worries, from sorrows.
In gratitude, we will give you five boys or five girls as a grandchild. Let them bawle and scream, crawling out of their diapers.
We can no longer express our gratitude for love in words, We and your life and your blood, We will forever remain with you.
Dear parents, thank you for everything you have done for us!!!
To mom
1. You are the best friend in the world You will not offend or give any harm When I need advice In making a smart decision, you are always ready to help me willingly And so that I would be healthy For this you will give everything at once.
2. You are reliability and tenderness I am in your worries In endless worries In the heart, in dear dreams You are patient, calm I am able to understand everything Because you are a Saint Because you are a MOTHER
Words of gratitude to parents for bread and salt
1. Our dear mom and dad, thank you for the bread and salt that you prepared for us. We will cherish our happiness just as you carefully brought us this bread. And value each other the way these grains of salt are valued. We thank you for supporting us in our happiness and look forward to your support in the future.
2. Our dear parents, we sincerely thank you for the bread and salt you presented. We, entering a new life, must eat well. The bread and salt that you bring to us is the best food we have ever had in our entire lives. Thank you for this loaf and its warmth. We commit to maintaining the same temperature in our relationships throughout our lives.
3. Thank you for the bread, for the salt, for the happiness you gave us. For the fact that you have composed the role of our life so beautifully.
4.Thank you for the warmth, for the love that was given to us. We were just very lucky, and we thanked you.
5. The wind of change burst into our lives, We fell in love, you supported us, We want to protect you in return From anxiety, from worries, from sadness.
6. In gratitude, we will give you grandchildren, Five boys or five girls, Let them bawle and scream, crawling out of their diapers.
7. We can no longer express our gratitude for love in words. We are both your life and your blood, We will forever remain with you.
For gifts
1. Our dear and beloved mom and dad, we are sincerely grateful to you for your gifts, for your attention, for the warmth that you give us along with these things. Thank you for your tenderness that you gave us when we were little, for the love that warmed us in difficult moments of our lives. We thank you for the gift of happiness to be with you, to feel your warmth and support in the most difficult days.
Our heartfelt gratitude to you, our loved ones, our dear ones, our irreplaceable mom and dad. You always supported us at the most difficult moment. But right now, when we are at the peak of happiness, we want to thank you for everything that you have done for us. Thank you for the gifts that we will definitely use in our future lives, for the help you provided us in preparing this celebration.
2. Mommy and daddy, thank you for the gifts, thank you for the diapers and baby vests. For teapots, for spoons, for beads and earrings, For brooms with dustpans, for scarves with handkerchiefs, For a full dowry, for skirts with sundresses, For bows and ribbons for the future girl, For home appliances, for real joy, For affection and friendliness , for tenderness and responsibility, for your understanding and for your charm, for everything that you have done to us and how else you will help us. Well, now we're done, you can land.
3. Mom and Dad, our parents, We are grateful to you for your actions. For the help that you have given us now, For the joy that you have given us. With a word in return, your gifts, We will accept, mom, we will accept, dad. We are in our new, homely environment. We will find a use for these new things. We are grateful to you from the heart and above, We will give birth to two heaps of children for you. You will warm their appearance with warmth, Give gifts for their birthday. We also ask your forgiveness for causing you so much trouble. We kiss your knees tenderly, What gratitude - we just love you!
For help in preparing the wedding 1. Our dear, beloved parents! We are sincerely grateful to you for the help you provided us in preparing for the wedding celebration. We sincerely appreciate all your efforts, all your help. Without you, we would never have managed such a difficult task. Your knowledge and experience, which we are still very much lacking, came in very handy. You have taken on all the most difficult work, leaving us only to enjoy the approaching celebration. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for everything you have done for us.
2. We thank you for all your efforts, Thank you for all the experiences, For the warm, homely atmosphere, For the long preparation, yesterday. For the table that was set in detail, For not succumbing to circumstances. Thank you for your warmth, attention and parental understanding.
Words of gratitude to the guests 1. Our dear guests! We are very grateful for your generosity. We are very glad for your presence at our holiday. We are very glad that you gave us exactly what we dreamed of. Undoubtedly, all the warmth of your hands, from which we received your gifts, will remain in the things that you presented to us. We sincerely wish you a great mood, fun and joy. May you all be honored guests at our celebration!
2. Dear guests, invited. We are glad to see you at our table. Let the warmth of the prepared dishes on this day warm your hearts and stomachs. We also warmly welcome your intention to please us with your gifts. Thank you for all the gifts you have given us with all your heart. We promise that in our home they will find warmth and care and will serve as a memory of this significant event that you are present at.
3. We enter this life boldly, thanks only to you. We are not just children now, We are a new family. We will cherish everything that you have given us. The two of us can't break so many cups. And carpets and bedspreads will decorate our house. We won't let even warm blankets stick to our sides. We will arrange all the gifts in their places in our house, We will celebrate the housewarming noisily, There will be dancing, noise and din. And we also promise to preserve our happiness. We will never stop thanking you for everything.
Words of gratitude to the toastmaster 1. Our dear toastmaster (name), you led our wedding with a cheerful smile on your face. You conveyed a charge of cheerfulness and fun to every guest, to each of us. Even the wine in our glasses sparkled brighter from your words. Thanks to your efforts, we were given a whole bunch of gifts that we will cherish and treasure. All the games you played gave us indescribable pleasure. Thank you for the booth that you organized in our honor, for the songs, for the dances, for the games and fairy tales. Raise with us this glass of wine that we want to drink in your honor. Let it be sweet, like your speeches, let it be full, like our happiness, so drink this glass with us.
2. Dear toastmaster! We are grateful to you from the bottom of our hearts for your participation in our celebration. Without you there would be no fun, no chaos, no toasts, no songs. You turned on the guests with your mere presence. Songs, games, dances, competitions - all this was invented by you especially for us. Thanks to you, not a single guest was bored. You made our wedding great. So raise this glass of wine with us to your health, to our success. May you always be surrounded by only good friends.
3. Thank you, toastmaster, for all your jokes and songs. For the fact that you, as always, gathered us together at the table. Thank you for your warm speech, For every glass you raise, We will cherish in our memory That day that you walked with us. Thank you for your toasts About your mother and father. Thank you for the speeches of love that warmed our hearts. Thank you for keeping your guests to your word. Thank you for being at our wedding in general.
Words of gratitude to the witness
From the groom 1. Thank you, my friend, for not abandoning me at such a moment in my life, for supporting my choice. I also thank you for not being stingy with the bride price. That you gave everything you had for this beauty, and didn’t regret a penny. Thank you also for the gifts you gave us. For being there during the entire wedding. For your autograph, which you signed with an unwavering hand on an official document. I ask you: remain the same faithful friend in your future life.
2. Thank you for providing me such an invaluable service. You became not just a friend at the wedding, you simply saved me at the most difficult moment. We are very grateful to you, because without you there would have been neither the ransom nor the wedding itself. You managed to buy the bride for the highest price. And at the same time he left it for us as a gift. Thank you for the words spoken in our honor, for the glasses you raised. We hope not to lose such a friend in later life.
From the bride 1. Thank you, my friend, for keeping my betrothed such a good man. I couldn't find anyone better than him. After all, thanks to you, he became such a person, thanks to your friendship, he retained all his qualities. Thank you for joining our hands together. I will never tire of thanking you for the diamond that I now own.
Words of gratitude to the witness
From the bride 1. My dear friend! Thank you for everything you have done for me. For your efforts in dressing my person in a wedding dress. For hiding me well from all eyes, for the time being. For the words that you told us and the gifts that you gave us. I especially thank you for your autograph, which appears on the honorary form at the registry office. After all, you didn’t just put your signature, you secured my friendship for many years.
From the groom 1. Dear girlfriend! I am grateful to you for the safety of this person in the form in which she appeared before me this morning. Thank you for being her best friend all this time. For the efforts you put into shaping her as a young wife. Thank you for giving me the best of all the diamonds in the world.
Words of gratitude to drivers 1. Dear drivers, we sincerely thank you for driving us so carefully. The comfort with which we drove simply amazed us. Only thanks to you we were not late anywhere, we were on time everywhere. You took us on the road, from home to the registry office, from the registry office to memorable places, from memorable places home. The path we traveled with you seemed like a smooth gray ribbon. The comfort of the cabin, the warm breeze coming towards us - everything was just great. We sincerely thank you for being with us all this time.
2. Thank you, drivers, for the smooth road, for the warm interior, and for the drop-offs and pick-ups. For the green lanterns that we met along the way. If it weren't for you, drivers, we wouldn't have gotten married then.
Words of gratitude to the DJ 1. Our cheerful and sweet disc jockey! We sincerely thank you for your efforts. The music played at our wedding was simply magnificent. We never got tired of all the songs that sounded thanks to you. Fast and slow compositions alternated perfectly, creating the necessary range of feelings. Silver music of lyrics, golden collection of pop music, white dance, for all this we are very grateful to you.
2. Thank you for the music, for the one that turned us on. For your carefree songs that you played for us. For the humor in your address, For the chosen tones. After all, your communication brings spring to everyone’s hearts.
Words of gratitude to the children 1. Dear, cheerful guys, we thank you for coming to our wedding. For your help to the groom at a time when he was so confused. For helping the bride, who needed to be hidden away from everyone. For your smiles during the entire wedding ceremony. Thank you for playing all the games that were offered to you. For helping adults who could not handle so much chocolate and soda on their own. Thank you for being present at our holiday, because no celebration should take place without children.
2. Dear kids, thank you for your efforts. We are all glad from the bottom of our hearts for your joyful celebrations. Laughter, smiles, bustle, you presented everything to us. Sometimes we proudly asked you to read poetry. You gave us the warmth of your joyful confessions. We're very lucky. You walked with us.
3. Oh, you are our kids. Delicate sweets. Cute and nice, cheerful, funny. You played cheerfully, boldly, with jokes, you entertained us with joyful jokes. You have given us much, much joy. For this you will receive gingerbread and sweets.
How to choose music?
There are several important criteria when choosing a musical background for a ceremony:
- the music should be without words, otherwise they may confuse the leader of the ceremony (even if the song sounds quiet);
- there should be no differences in volume, the track should sound evenly;
- the music should sound in the background, complement the speech, but not interrupt it in volume.
The best option would be compositions that feature solo violin, piano, and flute .
Also, it is worth preparing the audience 5-10 minutes before the lighting of the “family hearth”: from fast compositions (if there were dances before) you should delicately switch to more moderate ones, and immediately before the ceremony, turn on a slow song.
Thus, the transition to the substrate for the ceremony itself will be smooth. After completing the ritual, it is also worth maintaining a slow tempo in the music for some time.
