According to ancient tradition, the future husband and wife should spend the night before the wedding separately. There are many different scenarios for the classic rite of ransoming the bride by the groom, in which the future spouse must perform various tasks, and the witness must offer money for the bride. Modern newlyweds are increasingly refusing this kind of event, considering the ransom to be outdated and meaningless. What's the best way to meet a groom without a ransom? There are a large number of ways to organize a beautiful, original meeting of newlyweds.
If you decide to do without a bride price
At the request of the bride and groom, the time of the ransom, which both decided to refuse, can be spent on sleep, getting ready for the wedding, a beauty salon or a photo shoot. This is probably why young people are increasingly refusing home-grown entrance tests for their beloved - anyway, everything has already been decided, this couple will get married, and there is no point in organizing a free show for neighbors in the unsightly entrance of an old Khrushchev-era building.
The simplest, most worthy and very short-term alternative to ransoming the bride is that the groom, at the head of the wedding cortege, drives up to the bride’s house (at this moment you can honk all the cars), goes up to her apartment and asks the beloved’s parents for permission/blessing to marry their daughter. It is clear that the moment is symbolic , because it has already been discussed for a long time, but it is still beautiful - you can present the future father-in-law with expensive cognac, and the future mother-in-law with a chic bouquet of flowers and a box of elite chocolate. After this, the groom goes into the bride’s room, kneels down and gives her a wedding bouquet, the happy lovers go down to the cars - a farewell victory car horn blows, and the entire cortege heads to the registry office.
Photo of the wedding procession at the bride's house
How to hold a professional wedding without paying a price?
Typically, such ideas come to the minds of people with extreme professions - firefighters, rescuers, rock climbers, industrial climbers . Physically fit and courageous men, for obvious reasons, want to exclude the bride's entrance from their wedding itinerary. Therefore, driving a lift or a fire truck with a ladder to the bride’s house and climbing it to the nth floor or descending from the roof using climbing equipment costs such desperate individuals nothing. Original? - Yes! Very unsafe? - Yes too. Having made such, frankly speaking, a rather risky decision, a man must be confident in his skills and the bride’s nerves of steel.
Photo of an extreme groom at the bride's house
Those who do not have experience in rock climbing and passing an obstacle course through fire, water and copper pipes should not despair. If the groom is rich in musical abilities, knows how to play a musical instrument or sings great (and even if not great, it’s still possible) a romantic mini-concert in the bride’s apartment or a flash mob dance will definitely delight the entire female half of those present. You can give a beautiful, hand-painted portrait of the bride (but here professionalism is required: an ugly image on canvas will definitely not delight anyone). With imagination and good intentions, witnesses and the groom will always come up with something to replace the bride price at a wedding.
Photo of the groom and his friends dancing at the bride's house
Meeting at home
Residents of big cities and small villages are increasingly refusing the long, sometimes tedious procedure of communicating with neighbors, who demand their ransom, often in the form of alcohol.
To avoid such communication, it is better to meet the groom directly at the bride’s house. The first competition or riddle that will be prepared for the newlywed bridesmaid, he will have to complete as soon as he crosses the threshold of the apartment.
Its further progress continues as new tasks are completed. The bridesmaids and parents of the bride can hide the girl not in her room, but in her parents’ bedroom. This is necessary in order to confuse the young man and make him worry.
A wedding without a price will not be a dreary event, because the meeting of the newlyweds can be prepared according to a pre-drafted scenario with the participation of guests and relatives.
It is important not to prolong the entertainment program and not to overdo it with competitions and tasks for the groom.
The future husband will hand a bottle of champagne to the bridesmaids, knock on the door of the room where the young beauty is waiting for him, enter, and they will be left alone. In these few minutes, friends and guests can drink champagne, say a few words about the groom and his bride, and wish the parents all the best.
If there is no desire to meet the groom in the apartment, then the meeting is moved to the courtyard. The groom and his friends will come here and perform a serenade or modern dance under his beloved’s window. Accompanied by her friends, the girl in a wedding dress will go out into the street, where she will fall into the arms of her future husband.
To the clink of glasses filled with champagne, they will say their vows to each other and head to the car leading the wedding procession.
An alternative scenario for the meeting of the bride and groom without ransom
We have looked at the options for taking the bride away from home - such ideas are more traditional and often just habitual. In addition, they can be easily reduced in time if the couple is late for the registry office. But there are also romantic, very beautiful scenarios that will leave unforgettable memories and stunning photo and video footage.
For example, witnesses can organize a meeting of lovers at the place where they first saw each other or had their first date (first kiss, declaration of love, etc.). Such a place can be a park, a theater, a beach or an embankment, a university square - lovers meet each other halfway, their touching meeting takes place, memories come flooding back, and maybe even tears. What ransom at the entrance can compare with this? And, of course, such moments must be captured as a memory.
Photo of the first meeting of the bride and groom in the park instead of ransom
Instead of a ransom, you can have a buffet - outdoors, if the weather permits (for example, in the same park or on the embankment), or at the bride’s home. The newlyweds met, hugged and kissed, those present rejoiced for them, everyone drank a symbolic drink, ate light sandwiches and headed to the registry office. Such a light snack will actually turn out to be very timely - it will both defuse the situation and an opportunity to relieve some nervousness, and a nutritious boost of energy for this long and joyful special day.
For those who do not want to bother at all with a meeting before official registration - time, for example, does not allow - you can simply come to the registry office in different cars and meet at the official ceremony. Remember Catholic wedding rites: the groom patiently waits for his beloved at the altar, and she slowly walks towards him, accompanied by her father or another relative, catching the admiring glances of those present. Of course, there is no altar in the registry office, but such a beginning of the official ceremony can be thought through.
Photo of the bride and groom in the registry office
It is worth understanding that bride price “according to the rules” can be really very interesting and positive only for relaxed and sociable men, prone to acting and active communication. Believe me, a modest and romantic groom who does not know how to improvise can be driven to a faint state by passing competitions, ribbons, coupons, sayings and jokes. For such individuals, it is better either something natural - like “come and pick up”, or intellectual, without dancing in a basin, soap bubbles and other ransom tinsel. For such grooms, a wedding quest is optimal.
Where to meet the groom before registering a marriage – 3 ideas
Among the many scenarios, the most popular are those under which the groom sees the bride in a wedding dress for the first time:
- among flowering trees and bushes in the alleys of the city park;
- in one of the hotel rooms or in its lobby;
- immediately before the ceremonial registration at the registry office.
This moment is the most touching and important.
The groom's reaction is sometimes so unusual and unexpected that it can confuse everyone around him.
Near the registry office
You can organize a meeting of the groom near the registry office according to a pre-prepared scenario:
- The bride, accompanied by her girlfriends and close relatives, arrives at the Wedding Palace a few minutes before the groom and his friends.
- After the car with the future spouse appears, the bride is hidden in a crowd of bridesmaids. The girls pretend that they do not know that the groom has arrived alone. They answer all questions that they themselves are waiting and no one told them where the bride is at the moment.
- Of course, the guests are ready to help the groom find his chosen one, but they make him a little nervous and worried.
- At that moment, when the tension reaches its extreme point, a young beauty suddenly appears behind the groom.
The young man sees his beloved in a wedding dress for the first time; he cannot hide his admiration and gives her the first gift - a wedding bouquet.
Now they can say the words of the oath to their friend and, holding hands, proceed to the hall where the solemn registration of the marriage will take place.
A wedding without a price will not become boring and will not lose its originality. You can meet the groom at the entrance to the rented premises intended for on-site registration.
Where to find a bride? In one of the restaurant halls or even in the utility room. After the night before the wedding, which the newlyweds spent apart, they will see each other for the first time in wedding dresses.
The moment of meeting is one of the most touching. Now the boy and girl must be alone for a while, but this exciting moment is preceded by the completion of tasks invented for the groom by the bridesmaids.
Finding his beloved among the many corridors of the hotel is not easy, but the groom is ready to go through any tests in order to meet his chosen one.
The young man is offered several keys and told that he has to find the door behind which the bride is located.
Going on a search, the young man must go through several floors and corridors, where clues await him.
It could be a barely noticeable arrow painted on the wall, a bouquet of flowers with a bright ribbon near one of the rooms, which does not fit into the overall interior of the hotel. The reward for patience and determination will be a long-awaited meeting with your beloved.
Quest for the groom instead of ransom
Let meeting your bride turn into an extraordinary adventure ! The essence of the quest consists of various tasks that the groom must solve with the help of tips and his faithful friends. The tasks, of course, are compiled taking into account the wedding theme - these are questions about the bride and her parents, about the moments of acquaintance and the candy-bouquet period, etc. Having solved one riddle, the groom receives the key to the next one, goes through key points of the route - at each such point, one of the bridesmaids will give out a new clue. Step by step, solving riddles, puzzles, charades, the groom moves towards his cherished goal .
Photo of a quest for the groom instead of ransom
Of course, bridesmaids need to prepare for such a quest in advance: create a clear script, beautifully arrange the tips, and provide for unexpected turns of events. You shouldn’t think of something very complicated - it will disrupt the pace, overload the groom, and the pauses that arise are not very conducive to a positive mood and romantic mood. So that the candies, fruits and small change prepared by the groom and his groomsmen do not go to waste, you can charge a certain fee for each clue to the riddle: if you don’t guess the first time, we will give you another hint for the candy.
If the bride lives in a private house, the wedding is held outside the city or just in the open air, you can link the scenario to a map of the area - such a picture, supplemented with newspaper clippings and pieces of photographs, looks stylish and makes the adventure more understandable and original.
Any alternative to the traditional ransom must be interesting and safe, it is designed to emphasize the solemnity and romance of the moment of the first meeting
