The 13th anniversary is called a lace wedding. By this time, family life had experienced joy and sorrow, the destinies of two people were closely intertwined in a cleverly woven pattern. The mystical date is intended to remind spouses that relationships require effort, just as lace cannot be woven without effort. Skillful work always attracts attention and many positive reviews. Over the course of 13 years, the family has learned to live together, learning useful lessons from past experiences and weaving a harmonious family composition.
Lace wedding: traditions and beliefs
Lace is a delightful material that attracts with its delicate and elegant appearance. However, the durability of the product is not encouraging; the family will have to cope with a turning point in the relationship. It is not for nothing that the anniversary has another name - lily of the valley, because if a couple manages to adequately solve their problems, their union will bloom with fragrant May flowers.
The magic of numbers played an important role in the lives of people in the old days. Society believed that even-numbered anniversaries should be celebrated loudly, and odd-numbered ones should be celebrated quietly and modestly.
Traditional moments accompanying the anniversary:
- The couple took out their favorite woolen items and took threads from them. The elements were attached to the wrists and fingers, encouraging positive thoughts.
- At a lace wedding, the brownie is presented with a lace scarf. The product is placed under the stove or in another cozy place.
- The husband and wife planted a birch tree, which served as a talisman for the family hearth. The young tree was decorated with thin lace, which symbolized strong bonds. What wedding would be complete without the younger generation? In addition, during this period the couple already has children who take part in the event with pleasure.
- Every ritual for a lace wedding is associated with weaving. One of the customs is to weave wreaths. Herbs and plants with hidden powers, such as aspen and nettle, were woven into the product. A protective amulet was hung on the threshold of the house, driving away evil spirits from the cozy nest. The female half of the family wove the wreaths, the male half built a broom, which was used to sweep away all grievances from the hut.
- Spouses and relatives wore lace items for the holiday. Ancestors considered the neck and head to be the most vulnerable parts of the body, and lace accessories were tied to these places. The woman wore an elegant shawl, the man complemented the outfit with a neat flower, and the children wore bows and collars. What wedding is complete without a festive table? A lace tablecloth was considered a mandatory attribute; the picture was complemented with openwork napkins.
- When choosing decorations for the anniversary, preference was given to products with painted birds, which personified the family nest, with flowers, calling peace and harmony into the house, with the sun, giving the house warmth and light. To create coziness, the house was decorated with elements made of oak and aspen.
Next decade
Further anniversaries up to the twentieth, Porcelain wedding, do not need to be celebrated on a grand scale. They are celebrated modestly, but if desired, spouses can pamper themselves with symbolic gifts.
- 11 years: flawless and durable Steel wedding.
- 12 and 12.5: two Nickel weddings. For the first, the husband gives a nickel product to his other half, and for the second, the wife gives it to her husband.
- 13: Lace wedding.
- 14: Agate Anniversary.
- 15: Glass wedding. It symbolizes purity and transparency, as well as the fragility of love between people who have been married for 15 years. Sometimes called crystal.
- 16: Topaz Day.
- 17: Flower wedding.
- 18: Turquoise Anniversary.
- 19: Pomegranate day.
How to celebrate and decorate an event
13 years together is an impressive period of time, which is celebrated in a narrow circle. A lace wedding is considered the quietest anniversary, to which loved ones and the younger generation are invited.
The room is decorated with garlands, lace fabrics, ribbons and bows. The design looks elegant in pastel colors, with the addition of delicate shades of pink or lilac.
A new snow-white tablecloth is laid on the festive table, and dishes with patterns reminiscent of lace weaves are placed. Crystal glasses captivate not only with their elegant appearance, but also with their hidden power. According to ancient beliefs, the sound of rock crystal drives away evil spirits. The flower symbol of a lace wedding is the lily of the valley. Neat bouquets of lilies of the valley will perfectly complement the composition. The May flower symbolizes love and fidelity to the feelings that the couple managed to carry through the years.
The main character on the table should be the cake. They make it themselves or entrust the task to professionals. Thematic decoration of dessert allows you to preserve the character of the event not only in memory, but also in the photo.
A modest celebration does not imply a loud celebration, but so that the guests do not get bored, you can think of several competitions.
Interesting ideas:
- "Answer without words." Spouses take part in the competition. The presenter asks questions, the answer to which should be a number. For example, how many years have you known each other, how many children do you have, etc. The couple must answer the question with kisses, the number of touches corresponding to the answer.
- "Let's go back to the past." For the game you will need old photographs of the spouses. The photographs are given to the guests; the task of the husband and wife is to recreate the photographed poses, facial expressions, and choose the most suitable clothes. Guests help the couple; at the end of the competition, you can take a photo as a souvenir.
- "A funny story". The couple who knows the heroes of the occasion best is invited to participate. For the game, you are given a bag with various items. The participants’ task: to create an amazing story about the spouses, mentioning the prepared elements.
When is the wedding?
The green wedding is the date of marriage itself. It is associated with the myrtle leaves that decorate the wedding crown.
A calico wedding is the name given to the first year of marriage. This name has special symbolism and ambiguity. So, according to some sources, during the first 12 months of marriage, the relationship between lovers is similar to the thinnest fabric - chintz.
The newly-made husband and wife have just managed to get to know each other better; the connection between them is still very fragile, like a “calico”. And among the common people, the name “calico wedding” was explained a little differently: during the first year of living together, the newlyweds show increased activity in bed, which is why the calico (and previously this was the material used to make bed linen) quickly wears out.
On the day of a chintz wedding, it is customary to present each other with chintz handkerchiefs as gifts. The name of the 1st anniversary is also found - cotton, because their life has already managed to be filled with a daily routine.
You also need to open a bottle of champagne prepared in advance on this date. And call witnesses, best friends and parents of the couple for the celebration.
Paper - they call it a two-year anniversary. Traditional gifts include albums, notebooks and books on art.
A leather wedding is the third anniversary of marriage.
Linen wedding , how many years? 4 years of marriage.
Wooden - called five years of cohabitation in marriage. The husband and wife should give each other gifts in the form of wooden objects.
Cast iron wedding , how old? 6 years in marriage.
And the zinc date is celebrated 6 years and 6 months after marriage. The following symbolism can be seen here: a marriage union is like a galvanized vessel, which must be periodically rubbed until it shines.
The copper anniversary date is seven years. It is supposed to exchange copper coins, which symbolize happy events in the future.
Tin wedding , how many years? Eight years of married life. On this date, a gift is made in the form of household items with a glossy shine, for example, muffin tins. In more rare cases, a joint eighth anniversary is called a Bed Wedding . Then a new bed is purchased, symbolizing the renovation of the home.
Under the name faience - nine years of marriage are known. You should purchase earthenware and crystal items.
Tin (or pink) anniversary - 10 years of marriage. His celebration should be stormy - with guests, former witnesses. Tin is a ductile, soft material, but at the same time exhibits high hardness.
Pewter items are suitable as gifts for the 10th anniversary. The husband also presents his wife with 11 roses: 10 of them are red - symbolize the love in the couple, and 1 white - represents the hope for the next happy 10 years together.
Steel - eleven years of marriage are called. Steel products and electrical tools are suitable gifts.
The Nickel Wedding was the name given to twelve and a half years of marriage. 0
The lily of the valley (lace) date is thirteen years.
An agate wedding means fourteen years of marriage. The spouses delight each other with agate products.
Glass (aka crystal) anniversary is celebrated after 15 years of marriage. According to tradition, glass items need to be presented so that the relationship in the couple becomes as clean as a piece of glass.
Turquoise - celebrates the eighteenth anniversary of marriage.
Porcelain - the joint twentieth anniversary of married life is called. They set the festive table, and be sure to buy a new porcelain set - a symbol that outdated sets are no longer needed.
The opal wedding was the name given to twenty-one years together.
The bronze anniversary is twenty-two years.
Berylova is twenty-three years old.
Satin wedding is understood as the 24th year of marriage.
Silver wedding is considered to be twenty-five years in a legal union. This is the very first wedding anniversary that needs to be celebrated properly. Spouses delight each other with gifts in the form of silver rings.
Pearl wedding – how many years is it? Thirty years of marriage. This anniversary is similar to a pearl necklace, in which each of the years lived is strung on each other.
Coral wedding , how old? 35 years together. Her symbol is a fiery red ruby.
The aluminum date was called 37.5 years. This is already a very long and lasting love union.
The 38th anniversary is called the mercury wedding
Rubinova is 40 years old.
Sapphire wedding , how old? 45 years since the couple got married. On the 45th anniversary, according to tradition, you need to give each other jewelry (rings) with sapphire inserts.
Golden wedding, how many years of marriage? Half a century or fifty years. Gold symbolizes what has been achieved through hard work. If people managed to live together for half a century, it means they were able to prove that they love, respect and value each other.
And to once again confirm such warm feelings, on the anniversary of a golden marriage they give jewelry made from a similar material. And the old ones are given to grandchildren as family heirlooms.
Many guests are invited to the golden jubilee - mainly their relatives. And they must present the spouses with gold items or things with gilding.
Emerald - fifty-five years of marriage.
A diamond anniversary is called a sixty-year anniversary. It is believed that no one will be able to dissolve such a union except by death.
Iron wedding - implies sixty-five years together.
Stone - they call it sixty-five and a half years spent in a marriage.
And a blessed wedding is seventy years from the date of marriage.
Crown - they call the anniversary of 75 years together.
An oak wedding is found as 80 years of marriage.
Granite - usually called 90 years spent in marriage.
Platinum (otherwise red) is the name given to the most honorable anniversary of a joint marriage – the centenary. Unfortunately, not everyone manages to live to such an honorable age. Although, of course, there are exceptions to the rules.
For example, the record holders for long-term marital relationships are the Agayevs, who spent their entire lives in a village located high in the mountains, in the Lerik region (Azerbaijan).
The platinum wedding overtook them when husband Niftul Agayev celebrated his 126th birthday, and his wife, Balbeim Agayeva, celebrated her 116th birthday.
What to give for a lace wedding
What wedding is complete without gifts and congratulations? On the 13th anniversary, it is customary to present lace products, amulets and symbols of happiness and prosperity.
The most popular solutions:
- wooden elements, symbolically give aspen objects: figurines, furniture, paintings, etc.;
- lace bed linen, tablecloth, napkins;
- bouquet of lilies of the valley;
- patterned curtains;
- vases
If guests often give useful gifts, then spouses can please each other with beautiful and soul-pleasing products. The husband can give his missus a beautiful dress or lace lingerie, precious jewelry in an elegant box decorated with lace. A good option would be a perfume with the scent of lily of the valley or an elegant scarf.
A wife can please a man with a piece of clothing, a photograph in a beautiful frame, an original souvenir or a figurine. Handmade products are considered especially valuable gifts. Soul and love are put into the item; such a gift will become a beautiful amulet for a loved one. A craft made of wood, lace accessories, a painted picture or a written song - you can show your talent in different directions.
Congratulations on your 13th wedding anniversary
You can come up with many different options for congratulations on your 13th wedding anniversary yourself. If you can’t compose a congratulation on your lace wedding anniversary yourself, then you can use ready-made congratulations on your 13th wedding anniversary. Such a congratulation, if it is in verse, can be issued in the form of a hand-made postcard, and if in prose (the words form lace), then you can order embroidery with the original text.
Introduction
They say that the number 13 is unlucky. But, if we are talking about an anniversary, then this is a wonderful date. I don’t care about prejudices, because this means that you have been together for a very long time and your marriage is more than successful. Congratulations on thirteen years of marriage and our next congratulation in verse is for you.
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Poetry
13 years - and the lace is woven, Gracefully, delicately, tenderly and beautifully. You saved love from storms and thunderstorms, built a nest and created a child. Let everything continue like this, in peace, happiness, peace and fun, let only the best await you further, let your love be limitless.
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Lace suits the bride, After all, you have been together for thirteen years! There was happiness, there were quarrels, Unpleasant contentions!
You went through everything wisely, And you loved, and were friends, And were a little jealous, But you always waited for each other!
And they loved in a simple, real, earthly way! Many years of happiness to you, please accept our greetings!
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It’s not for nothing that this day is called the Lace Wedding - Only masters weave such lace.
You two once wove the lace of love, And you have already been married for thirteen full years.
You are nowhere without each other - you are everywhere together. And today again you are the Bride and Groom.
Well, let's congratulate the young people. Stay strong. Many golden years to you! Let's say together: “Bitter!”
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Lace spreads under your feet, And the ocean of love surrounds you. After all, it’s the anniversary, 13 years. Together you honor the family vow.
May goodness come to your home, May it be cozy, light and warm. Joy, tenderness and beauty, And so that flowers bloom in the soul.
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Together you have been weaving lace for 13 years of Love, The wife is the neck, the husband in the family, Undoubtedly the head.
Today we congratulate you on your lace wedding, and we wish you to weave new patterns.
And let the thread not break, the laces intertwine, let love and happiness never end in life.
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On the lace anniversary, we want to wish you happiness, take care of each other from adversity, troubles and bad weather, you have experienced a lot in thirteen long years, enjoy every moment, because there are no obstacles for you!
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You have been married for thirteen years, happily, legally. And today, as once upon a time, you are newlyweds.
Glory to the young spouses! "Bitterly!" again and again. Lace wedding! Bravo! Peace and love to you.
May every day and hour be full of fun. And let nothing in the world separate you!
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We have a lace wedding today, The fire of hearts and mutual feelings has not gone out, We are happy that we have preserved it, created a hearth and given birth to children!
Let the family grow stronger, let it give joy and give goodness, Let the husband offer a strong shoulder in the days of sun and frosty blizzards!
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With a lace wedding, with purity and beauty, with real kindness, we congratulate you with all our hearts!
May happy children's laughter be a joy for everyone, May good luck bring you more luck!
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Congratulations on the anniversary of the lace One family golden union! We will raise our glasses to you, Let us glorify your sincere marriage! You are jealous, but you love each other, and you always miss each other when parting. You are a husband, a wife, a comrade and a friend, You have a common joy, a common misfortune! Of course, we wish you happiness, correct decisions and good luck in everything! Low bow to you!
13 years of marriage is a reason to realize how dear the person with whom you have lived for many years is. Remember all the best things that happened and understand that mutual support and love gives strength to move forward, build your future and the future of your children. The holiday, symbolizing tenderness and harmony in relationships, promises only bright days in the future, mutual understanding and love.
Anniversary ceremony
The anniversary is celebrated according to the scenario of an ordinary wedding: welcoming guests, congratulations, gifts, wishes, celebration at a rich table, entertainment and dancing. The anniversaries are surrounded by a noisy company, where relatives, children, grandchildren, friends and colleagues are present. Preparing for a golden wedding is different from celebrating other anniversaries. They prepare thoroughly for the date.
In most cases, the organizers are children and grandchildren. The festive table and the decor of the hall are no different from the wedding day: there are chair covers, white tablecloths, an arch for the hero of the day, champagne and glasses with flowers, balloons and vases with bouquets. The only difference is that it must be gold in color. Perhaps these will be yellow fabric napkins for guests, balls, bows and ribbons on the arch, flowers on wine glasses and glasses.
Rich families can afford to celebrate their anniversary in a hall where there is gilded furniture, dishes, decorative items and chandeliers.
Where to spend
Since there are many guests, you need to think about where to place them and how to make the holiday interesting. A golden wedding is not the case when you can organize a tete-a-tete evening, invite guests for a picnic or go on a trip. There must be a feast, so there are only 2 options: at home or in a restaurant.
In the first case, there is a minimum of cash costs and the atmosphere will be more comfortable; in the second, there will be less hassle and more impressions.
Holiday at home
The option disappears if the celebrants live in an apartment or in a house where there is no room to spread out. This is for those couples who have a spacious house, a country mansion. You will have to think through everything down to the smallest detail, from table setting to the decoration of the room. Of course, a lot depends on financial capabilities, desires and social status.
What should be:
- A spacious room where you can put a large table and accommodate guests.
- Festive tablecloth, chair covers, fabric and paper napkins.
- Dishes individually for each guest and shared dishes. Glasses, wine glasses, shot glasses depending on the drinks.
- It is advisable to place a bottle of champagne and glasses with decor on the table of the celebrants. You can make jewelry yourself or buy it in a wedding salon.
- Arch or photo zone. A budget option is an arch made of helium balloons. Installed at the entrance to the hall, house, terrace or behind the table of the celebrants. A themed photo zone will also not be superfluous. Install it indoors or outdoors. By the way, pictures taken outdoors are of better quality.
- Bouquets create a festive atmosphere. Flower vases should be prepared. In addition, flowers made of foamiran, paper and fabric are used to decorate the hall.
- Good musical equipment. Music should not only be loud, but also of high quality. It is necessary to prepare a repertoire of songs in advance, select compositions from the youth of the heroes of the day. Songs that were played on the wedding day or in the first years of family life should be played.
- The menu takes into account all the subtleties. You will have to come up with not only an assortment of dishes, but also calculate portions, purchase drinks, and order a wedding cake. There will be grandchildren and, possibly, great-grandchildren at the anniversary, so a children's menu is prepared separately.
You should consider where the guests will rest when they leave the table. To do this, you need to place benches and chairs in sufficient quantities on the terrace, in the yard or other room.
Celebration in a restaurant
This option is convenient because it causes less hassle.
You need to choose a restaurant, decorate the room, create a menu. Then you can start preparing gifts, think about outfits and entertainment. READ 8 years of marriage: wedding name, celebration options and gift ideas
If we calculate the overall costs of organizing a celebration at home and in a restaurant, the amount will be equal or even less. Initially, you need to weigh the pros and cons, and then choose the best option.
What to wear
At a golden wedding they shout “Bitter!” and congratulate the heroes of the day, so the outfits must be appropriate. A man wears a business suit regardless of the location of the celebration, a woman wears a festive dress. The color scheme does not matter. Nowadays, even young brides do not always get married in a white dress. The wife should look feminine, elegant, elegant. Don't forget about your hair and light makeup. To complete the look, wear gold jewelry: earrings, bracelets, rings, pendants, chains, necklaces.
Other nuances
Specialists are hired to entertain guests. An obligatory participant in the fun is the toastmaster. Now this is very simple, so in every city there are several worthy candidates. Toastmasters are hired to host celebrations at home and in restaurants. He has a ready-made program, so it won’t be boring.
Golden wedding 50 years of family life
They celebrate the anniversary sparing no effort and resources. What kind of wedding is this? Unlike the Cedar wedding, it was lush and elegant. The budget for the event is compiled according to expense items and remains hidden from the heroes of the day.
It is generally accepted that the costs of preparing the holiday are borne by the couple’s immediate relatives, children or siblings. It is customary to invite guests to this event officially, using bright postcards that are sent by mail or given by the children of the spouses.
Preparation for the anniversary begins with finding a professional toastmaster and drawing up a festive program. The toastmaster, together with the children of the celebrants, will outline the main nuances by which it will be possible to determine what kind of wedding this wedding will be, in terms of the style of celebration, cheerful and playful or solemn and official.
Participation in the program by relatives and friends of the couple is especially welcome. Grandchildren can recite touching poems dedicated to their grandparents.
The children of the spouses can talk about how their parents met, showing a theatrical performance that will return the celebrants to the days of their youth. The scene can be supplemented with a slide show by projecting an image onto a wall canvas, which will show photographs of memorable dates and main events of family life dear to the hearts of the spouses.
Golden Anniversary
Every year, as the next wedding date approaches, spouses wonder which wedding is celebrated in which year. Every year of family life is called something. But all spouses know that fifty years of marriage is a golden wedding. The anniversary is celebrated on a grand scale. It is customary to invite relatives and friends to the anniversary, and in most cases children and grandchildren prepare the celebration.
Historical reference
In the UK, you can receive a personal congratulation from the monarch on your anniversary, after which greeting cards arrive every 5 years. The tradition dates back to 1917. The congratulation signed by the monarch is sent by mail in a celebratory envelope. In order for the couple to receive the attention of the royal family, relatives or friends write an application to Buckingham Palace in advance. In this way, the royal family encourages strong marriages, which are the nucleus of a prosperous society.
In the United States, the Anniversary List has been in effect since 1950. It is not based on the name of the anniversary, but on the preferred gifts that should be given to spouses on the anniversary of family life. In America, spouses and children know exactly what to give, so they prepare for the holiday in advance.
In Russia, round anniversaries have been celebrated since the end of the 19th century. In the eighties of the last century, the tradition became widespread. During the times of the Soviet Union, anniversaries on their 25th, 50th and 65th anniversaries were congratulated in the registry office departments. Currently, you can organize a ceremony at the Wedding Palace by writing an application in advance. Now the holiday is celebrated in a large company, where children, grandchildren, relatives and friends are present.
Traditions
The symbol of a fifty-year marriage is gold.
Precious metal represents the result of hard, painstaking work. A married couple who have lived together for so many years has proven mutual love, devotion, trust and respect. As a sign of gratitude and sincere feelings, the couple exchanges gold wedding rings. It is customary to give the previous set to grandchildren as a family heirloom. Jewelry is passed down from generation to generation, without going beyond blood relationships. Rings can be used as wedding rings, as they carry positive energy and are guardians of the family hearth.
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Children and guests give gold jewelry or items with gilding. If the budget does not allow, they buy golden-colored items or wrap gifts in gold wrapping. There are no strict requirements for flowers, but in most cases roses and lilies are given. Although gold is considered the symbolic color of the anniversary, bouquets are made from red and white buds. Red is a symbol of passion, love and confidence, white is a symbol of tenderness, purity and trust.
