Every girl dreams of hearing the cherished words from her beloved: “Marry me.” But sometimes it happens that you need to push a man to take such a serious and responsible step.
Women often find themselves in relationships in which they feel insecure. The desire to find stability is quite understandable - it is security and confidence in mutual feelings. How can a woman avoid such a fate - to gently push a man to make a vital decision and force him to marry? A few good tips will help you cope with the task.
Important points
Before coming up with a proposal script, you need to take into account several important nuances, without which nothing will work.
Important! First of all, you need to find out the exact size of your beloved’s ring and you need to do this carefully so that she doesn’t guess anything.
There are several options:
- Ask someone who might know the size , such as your mother, sister or friend. If none of them knows the exact size, then you can safely involve them in “reconnaissance.” A friend's questions about her ring size will arouse less suspicion in a girl if her beloved man asks her about it.
- Take the ring that the girl is wearing and go to the jewelry store with it. There, using a special device, the master will determine the exact size. If you can’t take the ring out of the house unnoticed, you can attach it to paper and trace it around the inner circle with a pencil. As a last resort, you can use a ruler.
- Try the ring on yourself. It sounds strange, but the method is correct. If the ring fits on the little finger, then this is just great, but if not, then you need to mark with a pen or marker the place where it stops and with this mark go try on the rings. The main thing is that the dot is not erased before coming to the salon.
- Measure in a dream with a thread. The most proven way, as a last resort, is to measure the size using a regular thread while the girl is sleeping. This must be done very carefully so that your beloved does not wake up, otherwise the surprise may fail.
Reference! If the girl wears the ring that was taken not on her ring finger, but on her index or ring finger, you can safely reduce the ring size by one.
If you couldn’t find out the size, then don’t despair.
The store will tell you the most popular sizes and, based on the girl’s equipment, you can choose the most suitable ring.
It is advisable to immediately agree with the salon to exchange the size if it does not fit. If the employees do not agree to such a proposal, then you can always increase or decrease the size at the jewelry maker.
Reference! The ring is not the main element of the proposal and the girl will not be offended if you make a slight mistake with the size. The emotions and effect will not get worse, the main thing is to make the proposal unforgettable.
The second important aspect is finding help. Of course, the need for outsiders to organize a proposal does not always arise, but most often it is very difficult to manage on your own.
Reference! You can involve friends and relatives for this, agree with them in advance, and distribute functions. The main thing is that none of them tell anything to the future bride, so it is important to choose reliable people.
If you plan to arrange a grandiose proposal, then you can use the services of special people: decorators, musicians, magicians, photographers, etc.
How to make an offer correctly so as not to be refused is explained in the video:
How to call someone down the aisle in an original way?
An original marriage proposal is not only emotions, but also pleasant memories for both the bride and the groom. There are a huge number of options to surprise the bride; you just need to choose the most suitable one.
Quest to memorable places
This option requires careful preliminary preparation, but will not leave any girl indifferent.
The point is that, with the help of hints, the future bride first goes through all the places in the city that she remembers, and at the end of the journey she finds her lover with a ring at the end point.
A note with the initial task can be sent by courier along with a bouquet of flowers.
Movie shown in cinema
The method is quite complicated, but it will bring a lot of emotions. In addition, the video proposal will remain as a keepsake.
How to do it:
- If finances allow, then you can hire a professional videographer and shoot a high-quality video with a marriage proposal.
- If there is no money for this, then you can ask someone with a good camera to help create the video. The idea of the video depends on your imagination; it can be a romantic or funny video, short or long.
After the video is ready, you need to agree with the cinema administration about showing it before the film. In most cases, there are no problems with this; employees cooperate in such a touching matter.
After the video is ready and the cinema employees have agreed, all that remains is to buy tickets for the film and invite your beloved to the cinema.
Cake with inscription
To use this method, you just need to order it from a good pastry chef with the inscription “Will you marry me” and send it to the girl’s home or work.
10 minutes after the dessert is delivered, you need to arrive at your beloved with a bouquet and ring. This is an ideal proposal for a sweet tooth.
In the age of technological development, new ways to ask for a lady’s hand in marriage are emerging.
In the case of a website, you need to ask the programmer to make a simple website with the phrase “Will you become my wife?” and two buttons, both of which give an affirmative answer, such as “Yes!” and of course!".
Reference! If you have programming skills, you can make a website yourself.
It can be decorated with joint photographs.
Unusual package
This way of making an offer is very budget-friendly, but not inferior to the most expensive ones.
All you need is a little:
- a large box, for example, from a refrigerator;
- help from friends;
- flowers and balloons (optional).
On the most important day, you need to call your beloved and warn her that at a certain time the courier will bring her the package and all explanations will be in the evening.
At the designated time, friends must bring the girl a box in which her future husband will be. The box can be filled with helium balloons, which will fly out when opened.
Important! Since the box will be heavy, you need to involve at least 2-3 friends in “delivering” it.
A note from the past
For this option you will need an aged bottle and a sheet of paper. These attributes can be purchased at the store, or you can make them yourself.
You need to write a text on paper with an offer to become your wife, place it in a bottle and bury it lightly on the beach.
After this, you need to invite the girl for a walk, accidentally bring her to the beach and supposedly accidentally find a bottle with a message.
The most original ways to propose are shown in the video:
Be feminine
Take care of yourself, be desirable, well-groomed. And most importantly, be wise. All of the above tips should be done subtly, otherwise, seeing your pressure, a man may be seriously scared. You should gently push your partner to take active action, but the initiative to get married should come only from him.
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Beautiful methods, time-tested
Not all girls will be happy with an extraordinary proposal; some prefer the time-tested classics. For such persons, you need to choose time-tested methods that will never become outdated.
At the restaurant
The easiest and most proven way is to propose during dinner in a good restaurant.
The main thing is that the reason for going to the restaurant does not arouse suspicion among your beloved. You can time it to coincide with your birthday, March 8 or another holiday.
While walking
In most surprises, the main aspect is the surprise.
You just have to kneel in front of a girl with a ring during a regular walk and she will be enchanted for life. It is important to invite her to where meetings usually take place so as not to arouse unnecessary suspicion.
In the family
This option is ideal for those who are not yet familiar with their beloved’s relatives, but are very keen to get to know them. And if you are familiar, then even better.
Important! You need to persuade your beloved’s parents to arrange a family dinner and propose right during it. This way you can find out how the girl’s parents feel about their future son-in-law.
The inscription under the window
Someone will say that the inscription under the window is childish humor, but at heart we are all children and therefore such a proposal will evoke only positive emotions in a girl.
There is no point in talking about how to make an inscription on the asphalt... It is best to use washable paint, otherwise you may end up with problems with your neighbors.
Ring in Kinder Surprise
It would seem that Kinder Surprise is almost impossible to hide and put back together neatly, but in fact this is easier than ever.
You will need a hot knife and... that's it. Nothing more is needed.
The video describes unusual ways to propose marriage:
A proposal leaves an imprint on the spirit of every girl, which is why it is important to make it beautiful, romantic and bright.
After all, it is precisely such memories that shape our entire life and destiny.
Respite
Sometimes it's worth taking a break. Take a break from each other. Go on vacation with a friend, you can go to see your mother for the weekend, let your man go fishing with friends or just go to football. Time apart is a great opportunity to get bored and appreciate how dear you are to each other. In addition, a short separation is a wonderful test for feelings.
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How to propose to a girl: 33 ways
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"I agree!" or “Oh, this is so unexpected! I should think…". Women don't need much imagination to respond to their lover's marriage proposal. But men have to rack their brains before hearing the flirtatious “I’ll think about it...”.
A round oak table covered with a snow-white tablecloth, white mimosas in a jug. Her parents glance at you, waiting for you to ask for the hand of their beloved girl. Dinner or lunch in the company of her mom and dad (method No. 1) is the best option for a young man who values traditions.
If you only want to tell the girl about your desire to make her your wife, dinner is also suitable for achieving this goal.
Method number 2 . A table hidden from the eyes of visitors in the twilight of the restaurant, illuminated only by the flames of candles, you and your chosen one. The waiter brings dessert, which is crowned with an elegant ring instead of a cherry. You don’t have to make any changes to the composition of the treat and place the ring in a case next to the dish. If you want to surprise a woman, you can even stuff a monkey under the lid of the tray that the waiter will bring you! When the lid rises over the dish, let the animal hand your lady a piece of jewelry... The main thing is that the effect of such a proposal is positive.
Continuing the theme of lunches and dinners, why not think about breakfast?
Method number 3 . Wake up the girl you are going to make your wife with the aroma of coffee you prepared while she was sleeping. Place the ring next to the goodies and flowers on the tray. This morning will be the morning of a new life for both of you.
Method number 4 . A good morning wish and a marriage proposal can be combined in the following way: get up before your beloved and go somewhere, for example, to the shower, leaving a ring and a letter on the pillow next to her, in which you offer her your hand and heart.
Without deviating from the gastronomic focus of the previous ways to propose, we offer one more. No. 5 - “Confectionery”. Confectionery factories will make a cake with any inscriptions and drawings. The culinary masterpiece has the inscription “Marry me!” will say everything for you.
"Be my wife!" - you can say it in the cabin of a limousine, holding a glass of sparkling wine in one hand and a ring in the other. This is option number 6.
№ 7. Going shopping can help you make an offer. Place the ring with the purchase that your lady wants to unpack faster than others. This is how she will discover the gift.
Even wallpaper will help you make an offer. Yes, yes, wallpaper! Only phosphorus. From them you need to cut out the letters that will make up your confession. The letters should be placed on the ceiling so that the girl can see them in the evening when she turns off the lights. In our guide for young people, this method is number 8 .
So, No. 9. Balloons inflated with helium will also help you propose. On each ball you need to depict a letter or syllable of the phrase “Marry me!” In the correct order, tie the balls to the railing of the stairs that your girl will climb.
You don’t have to paint the balls. Just decorate a girl's room with them. Place the big bear cub on the floor and place a box with a ring in its paws. Or you can meet the girl yourself in her decorated room and present her with a ring. This was the 10th method .
The option that always works is number 11. Get down on one knee when you propose to your future spouse. Wherever this happens, such a gesture will add romance to the situation.
If you are not afraid to make confessions in public, and your girlfriend watches melodramas with emotion, where the main character asks his beloved to become his wife in the presence of a large crowd and amid thunderous applause, then the next method, No. 12, will suit you perfectly.
In the subway, on the square, in the shopping center, wherever there is a large crowd of people, confess your feelings to the girl and ask for her hand in marriage.
If acting skills are your thing, confess to your future wife from the theater stage. Agree with the theater administrator and after the performance, going out on stage, publicly make an offer. This method is number 13.
And here is No. 14. It may turn out that the theater stage will not be enough for you. Buy tickets to a concert of her favorite band. No, you are unlikely to sing together, but if you manage to talk to the musicians and ask the vocalist to announce from the stage your desire to marry (name of your chosen one), then consider it a done deal. In such cases, people are happy to help.
Don't want to put on a show? Or does a lot of spectators scare you? Make sure that only your voice is known to the public.
Method No. 15. In almost all radio programs you can send greetings and order music. When your lover is at the radio, let her hear your proposal and a song that you both like.
№ 16. There is another way to publicly announce your intentions. Confess your love to a girl while standing with flowers in front of her window. Smiling neighbors will appear in the windows when you talk to the whole yard about your love.
№ 17. A rainy day is perfect for a marriage proposal. While walking through puddles together, you may accidentally drop something into the water under your feet. This something will be a case with a ring. The girl herself will pick up the fallen thing. What a surprise this find will be for her!
Offering your hand and heart when water is pouring on you is one thing. And when there are not just drops of water above your head, but a column of water, a marriage proposal will be unforgettable. Scuba diving - method No. 18 - is what you need for this. The box with the ring can be given right on the seabed. The main thing is that the ring does not float away. Is the seabed too extreme? Place the ring in the bottom of a glass of red wine.
From the depths of the sea we will rise into the sky to propose marriage. The 19th option on how to propose is a hot air balloon ride, sunset, clouds. It's time to say important words.
Parachute jumping - method No. 20 - is also suitable for this. Jump out of a plane with a girl and propose to her. Finally, add that you won't pull the ring until she says "Yes." If this method does not suit you, you can still continue the aviation focus using method No. 21. You will need an airplane. With a pilot, of course. And a poster with a marriage proposal written on it. The plane with the poster should fly close to you and your future wife. The main thing is that she has time to make out the letters. And if you really want to impress a girl with your aviation skills, even if not your own, find a pilot who can write your confession in the sky. This most difficult trick is number 22 on our list.
Let's leave the air and move back to the water. To the beach.
Method number 23. Let the girl there find a message in a bottle that washed ashore. The message, of course, will include your proposal. Uncorking the bottle and unwrapping the tattered letter, the girl will feel like a treasure hunter.
It's not just bottles with messages that can awaken the detective spirit in your girlfriend.
No. 24. Play scrapbook. Each of them contains a hint indicating the location of the other. So, after reading all the notes, your beloved will get to the ring. You can intrigue her in another way, No. 25. Promise her a special gift for her birthday, or some other holiday, and don’t reveal the secret. On the day of the holiday, present a huge box. Let there be 15 more boxes in it, one inside the other. While the girl is impatiently tearing apart the wrapping paper, you might even get to the box with the ring.
Your girlfriend loves to look at family photographs - give her an album in which all the memorable dates will be recorded. Photos and things that remind her of important events in her life. On the last page of the album, write “Our wedding date” and put a big question mark next to it. Let her answer. This was method number 26.
№ 27. Take advantage of technological advances to recognize your loved one. Create a website that says “Will you marry me?” on the main page. Joint photos and videos will fill the site.
Are all methods not suitable? Go to Paris. To the Eiffel Tower. There you can implement the 28th option from our list. There it was said more than once: “Be my wife!” And just as many times the answer was heard: “I agree!”
Paris is far away. And the night with the starry sky is everywhere. Moonlight, the crackling of grasshoppers - the best atmosphere for recognition. This is a simple but effective method number 29.
№ 30. You can also send words of love by mail. Under no circumstances – not electronic. Pigeon mail works best.
No. 31. Wait until your beloved returns from work, prepare her a bath with rose petals. Let the aromas of fruits and flowers spread throughout the house. When the girl is basking in the foam, put a ring .
Don't dare to present a ring in the bathroom? Try tip 32 of this miracle list of ideas. Give your lady a foot massage. And put a ring on her toe.
Are all the methods too complicated for you? Or every time you fail to say the cherished words? The last one on our list is method number 33. Make an offer unexpectedly. In the middle of a normal day, while talking about everyday matters, just say: “Will you marry me?” Pause. Astonishment. “Yes!”...And you can start preparing for the wedding celebration .
Have you decided to propose marriage to your beloved girl? Find out how to do this in an original and touching way for a girl!
Many representatives of the fair half of humanity dream not only of a luxurious wedding, they dream of a romantic, unforgettable marriage proposal.
It is difficult to surprise modern girls with a proposal made according to a standard scenario: an invitation to a restaurant, presentation of a bouquet and engagement ring in a beautiful velvet box. They prefer to hear the long-awaited words “Be my wife!” in a special, unusual environment.
How to propose marriage to a girl in an original way so that she says yes? There are many options! We will try to describe the most extraordinary, but quite realistic ones.
Why do you need this?
The hero of the old Soviet film “Crew,” performed by the brilliant Filatov, complained about a woman’s eternal desire to get married: she provides for herself, does not depend on a man... Why?! Unclear…
And really, why? Can you explain to the harsh heart of a man how important this small and, in fact, does not change anything stamp in the passport is for a woman? And yet there is a whole list of reasons why ladies strive to get him.
- A formalized relationship seems more reliable to a woman, and the future more certain.
- Marriage makes you feel no worse than others. In a girl’s subconscious there is a strong mindset: since all her friends managed to run to the registry office, it means it’s time for me too. Preferably with a veil, a white limousine and a crowd of 500 guests.
- If a woman is morally mature for children, naturally she wants them to be born in a legal marriage.
- It also happens that there is simply an internal desire, not supported by any logic, to feel like the wife of a loved one.
- Finally, the material side plays an important role. Let the young lady earn good money herself and be able to pay for her purchases - reliable financial support in the form of her husband’s salary, which now goes to the family budget, gives her a sense of stability.
Think about why you so want to feel the ring on your finger? Lack of confidence in your partner? Do you want to be like everyone else? Or do you really understand that it is with this person that you want to go through life side by side until the very end, “for richer and for poorer”? The last reason is the only truly compelling reason to act.
Think through all the details
When there is no doubt that there are no serious disagreements about the future together, you can begin preparing for a significant event.
In order for a marriage proposal to be accepted favorably, it is necessary to take into account the slightest nuances. An important point is the choice of engagement ring. It is advisable to inquire in advance about the girl’s jewelry preferences and find out the size; it is appropriate to ask for help in choosing a ring from women close to her - her best friend, mother, sister.
Think in advance about what words you will use to address your future wife. Avoid banal or too pretentious phrases; it is better to sincerely and simply tell her how much you love her and how you dream of always being together.
To make the proposal a pleasant surprise, choose a moment when the girl is not expecting it at all. Take care of the atmosphere, create a special, romantic atmosphere, stock up on champagne, chocolate, flowers and fruits, and choose beautiful music.
Do not forget about your own appearance, it must match the situation.
Important points that should not be forgotten
When choosing a way to propose to a girl, remember that it must correspond to the preferences, interests and character of your beloved. If your future spouse does not like publicity, choose a secluded place to propose your hand where you can be alone.
If a girl loves to be the center of attention, she will certainly appreciate a proposal made at work in front of her colleagues, at the stadium during halftime of a football match with an announcement over the speakerphone or live on a radio station.
And the last piece of advice - don’t be upset if, instead of the desired “yes,” your beloved answers: “I’ll think about it.” You shouldn’t make a universal tragedy out of this, just give it time. You are proposing to live together for the rest of your life, and this is an extremely serious decision!
